Telling your best friend earlier than first trimester...

thaira · January 2009

My husband and I just found out we are expecting and dont want to tell anyone until the first trimester for all the obvious reasons....but i work right next to my best friend everyday. I talk to her while shopping for prenatal vitamins and on my way to my doctors appointment and cant tell. Did anyone tell just one person other than your husband...and if so did you tell your husband that you told???

merjmm · January 2009

It has been driving me crazy not telling my sister and my bff but DH and I agreed that we would tell family after our first u/s and he said that it would be cool that I told my bff at that point too.

A M · January 2009

I told my old co-worker and no, DH doesn't know and won't!

HoffmannBaby · January 2009

DH and I told our parents and our BFFs a week after taking the HPT. We are waiting until after our first ultrasound next week to tell everyone else.

kimmie321 · January 2009

My bff actually caught me when I said something that I shouldn't have. You hsould tell your bff, she will be able to tell something is up anyway.

MStason · January 2009

Ok I am confused if you are pregnant and you just got pregnant you would be in your first trimester......SO do you mean you dont want to tell anyone until you are done with your first trimester and into your second?

j_hope · January 2009

I actually told my best friend the same day I told DH! I'm not telling many people this early on, but she is family (my cousin) and my best friend and I knew she would be as happy for me if not happier than DH...lol...well not really but you know what I mean

jkipp82 · January 2009

We told close family AND friends at 5-7 weeks...and I've told a few CLOSE co-workers (but not most of work...til atleast the end of 1st tri if at all possible..or even longer....due to some other job security issues). Life happens, bad things COULD happen....but why hide the joy and excitement now? Of course, everyone has the right to tell/not tell when they want to!

ForForever · January 2009

I told my BFF before I told my husband.

Of course I told him that I told her before I told him. He wasn't surprised. She lives 8 hours away and I had to wait several hours to tell him in person.

zeesbride · January 2009

I told my best friend before I told ANY of my blood family. For me it was like waitng to tell a sister. I made sure MH was okay with telling her.

evhamm · January 2009

if your best friend can keep it secret, I would tell her. you need to celebrate and also have support if something happens.

robbie3982 · January 2009

ExpectantSteelerFan is my bff and I think I actually texted/IMed her before I woke DH up, but I can't remember. It was within minutes of telling him if I told him first.

I wouldn't hide anything from DH about who you've told. Either make him see that it's important to you to tell and make sure he's ok with it beforehand, or realize that he's going to be pissed at you for going against his wishes.

Neudorfer · January 2009

i told my best friend immediatly- she doesn't count as everyone else- she knew before our families and i don't regret that one bit!

sare_bear · January 2009

I told my two best friends before telling anyone else

HeyyRed · January 2009

I told my BFF that I thought I was but I said perhaps I was crazy because at that point I was like 3 days past conception. ?I eventually told DH when the M/S became too much to hide but I still hadn't missed AF yet. When I finally took the test it was like 5am my time my BFF is in the west so 2 hrs behind and I took a picture of the positive test and emailed it from my iphone and that's what she woke up to see!

Our office manager came next because I was really rather ill and she's like family to us. Then we told family.?

thaira · January 2009

thanks so much for the advice...i will definately tell her.

Mrs.Kent · January 2009

We told our families and our closest friends right away. They would all be offended if we hadn't.

I always say why not tell the people you would want support from if something were to happen? Those people are different for everyone and for you it sounds like your BFF.

jklatka · January 2009

I told my best friends right away and my parents and sisters. .. ..they knew we were trying so they ask all the time. . .I told everyone that I would tell if I m/c. ..I can't imagine keeping the pregnancy a secret for three months and i couldn't imagine keeping a m/c a secret either. ..I would seek out the support and love from my family and friend. . .I'm not one to suffer silently. . ..

ShawMich · January 2009

We told family and close friends. God forbid something did happen to this pregnancy, you would probably have wonderful support from her.

alibabbbs · January 2009

I would just tell her. What's the big deal? If she's your bf, you'd want her to be there to support you in case you m/s (not that you will!!!). And of course I would tell your DH that you told her. Why not??

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