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MIL coming for 17 days. HELP.

nooniesgalnooniesgal member
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MIL and FIL arrive from England in countdown 10 days.  Background: we get along perfectly for about 4 days and then it turns crazy.  Last time she ended up switching out my kitchen drawers (which she then switched back before she left) for "comfort reasons".  She also thinks that bfing a 6 month old child is crazy and obseen in public (I wear a cover too).  This is also the woman who requested we wear pedometers to count our daily steps on her last trip and won't let me eat bread after 3 pm.

No point to this post really.  Just to say that I feel stuck and my heart is beating already.  Good thing she adores dd and will hopefully be entertained by her.   Just had to say it outloud (or whatever...)

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Re: MIL coming for 17 days. HELP.

  • franciscazfranciscaz member
    Cyanide?  Seriously, GL!
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  • Erin Mary AckermanErin Mary Ackerman member

    "NO" is a  complete sentence.  "NO" MIL, don't switch my drawers, I prefer them the way they are.  "NO" MIL, I will eat this bread when I chose. "NO" MIL the way I feed my daughter is not up for discussion.

     Brahim's empowering program...Say it with me.

     

    There is only one queen bee in the hive. 

    There is only one queen bee in the hive.

     

    YOU are the queen bee.

    This worked like a charm w/ my MIL and now we get along GREAT!

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  • HisWifeHerMomHisWifeHerMom
    I agree with Brahim. I had to do the same thing with MIL. I had to put my food down and explain that she may be the queen of her castle, but in my castle, I am the queen. Every once in a while she attempts to test the waters but I stand firm. It works.
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  • crzygirlcrzygirl member

    Are they staying in a hotel?

     There may be something to the "Houseguests are like fish, great day but they stink up the place by day 3"

    Good Luck!

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  • nooniesgalnooniesgal member
    imagecrzygirl:

    Are they staying in a hotel?

     There may be something to the "Houseguests are like fish, great day but they stink up the place by day 3"

    Good Luck!

     

    I wish...we have 2 guest bedrooms at the moment so there is no real excuse.  And she doesn't hear the word "no", atleast not the polite "no" that comes out of my mouth.  Trying to grow some balls at the moment. Ha.

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  • 7/04Bride7/04Bride member
    That does sound stressful.  I'm not sure what to suggest other than to plan some "appointments" and things that you have to go to during their stay to give yourself a break.
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  • JessibellJessibell
    Ugh... Stand up for yourself!
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    Good luck! Come here and destress!
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  • MrsL1022MrsL1022 member
    OMG I am sorry! I would DIE!! I hope it goes alright and that she doesn't leave your house in a body bag. I thought my MIL for a week at my house when ds was born was hard to take.
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  • eowynmneowynmn
    imageBrahimBride:

    "NO" is a  complete sentence.  "NO" MIL, don't switch my drawers, I prefer them the way they are.  "NO" MIL, I will eat this bread when I chose. "NO" MIL the way I feed my daughter is not up for discussion.

     Brahim's empowering program...Say it with me.

     

    There is only one queen bee in the hive. 

    There is only one queen bee in the hive.

     

    YOU are the queen bee.

    This worked like a charm w/ my MIL and now we get along GREAT!

     

    Honestly, I'm with brahim. I can't fathom people not sticking up for their own parenting choices...and personal choices. If my MIL ever tried to tell me what to eat, I'd tell her to go f* herself.

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