do you agree with the way we are punishing our daughter ?

knottie78fa2c2824462ad4 · May 30

we have 3 daughters, one 16, one 18, and another 21, yesterday while i was at work my 16 year old daughter and the 18year old had a row, the younger daughter then decided to lock her in her room, the problem is she suffers from severe claustrophobia , my daughter thought it would be fun to film her on her phone kicking and screaming to be let out. while anyway my daughter then got distracted by a phone call and went out with friends, she completly forget that her sister was still locked in, i returned home from work and found her 6 hours later still locked in her room, she was in a very distressed state, she had to wee in a flower pot and missed her driving lesson, when i confronted my daughter she said she only meant to lock her in for a hour or so, she has said sorry and shown remorse, i explained to my daughter that what she down was cruel and TOTALLY unacceptable and requires a harsh punishment, told my daughter that she will get a taste of her own medicine and she will spend this coming weekend locked in her room, as a punishment , and so she can have some idea of what her sister had to suffer, she will lose her phone , tv , and pc for the duration of her punishment, as she has exams this year i have told her she will be spending most of her day at her desk doing schoolwork,
<span>on a safety note issue both my husband and i will be in the house at all times to supervise her punishment,my 21 year old daughter who is a teacher ( not at my daughters school ) will also be supervising as well as setting all schoolwork ,my daughter will also have a baby monitor so she can communicate with us whenever she needs the bathroom etc, so please dont worry about her safety, are we doing the right thing ADVICE PLEASE ?</span>

suzycupcake · May 30

I mean, not really. If something like this has never happened before and this daughter has not shown any kind of cruel or seriously questionable behavior, and is showing remorse, then maybe she feels super horrible about it. I don't see how being locked in a room with a baby monitor and a way to go to the bathroom like a human is gonna teach her anything. Have you thought about grounding her? Something appropriate like she went out with friends and left her sister locked in a room for 6 hours. Even if she's sorry, being grounded from going out to have any fun would be a natural consequence.

You know you're own daughter better than any of us though.

knottie2782914a872ad8e0 · June 4

Maybe put her in a Oubilette hahh. ;)

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