Stay at Home Moms

A new SAHM & already anxious

Hi everyone,
I am 33 weeks pregnant today, so I am feeling absolutely everything on a physical and emotional level. But here's some background info on me: I moved to my husband's country in August and fell pregnant in September. The plan was to find a job first and settle in, and then try super seriously for a baby. The universe had a different plan and here we are... anyway, my first trimester was awful and I couldn't continue my hunt for a job. I then also realized that the maternity leave here is 4 months (1 month prior to birth + 3 months after), so even if i were to land a job I would work for 2 months then take my leave. I knew no employer would be thrilled about that. So my husband and I decided to take a pause and resume my job search after the baby. 
On some days, I can totally accept this, but on other days I feel like a useless lump of being. What am I doing with my life? I have been working my entire life at a job I absolutely loved in an industry I adore. I miss my old self and I cant wait to jump back into it... but at the same time I know that I am totally underestimating motherhood. I just want to feel useful again, like I am contributing to my household and to the world. I can't seem to shake this feeling off. On some days I am excited, but on other days all i can think of is that I'm just going to be a SAHM. When I look at other SAHM I think Wow! That's a tough job! My mother was a SAHM when we were growing up and I admire her for it, but when I think of myself as one i think MEHHHH.
Can someone snap me out of this?

Re: A new SAHM & already anxious

  • hi - your feelings are natural.  You are used to basing your worth on your job and now you are not going to work.  You will have plenty of work soon, but you will need to remind yourself that you are valuable because of who made you and who loves you.  It will be easier when the baby comes, but still with late nights and all the emotions of having a new baby, you need support.  I hope your husband is supportive and can remind how important you are.  Remember that this is temporary and will pass quickly though it may not feel like it right now.  I use the phrase "this too will pass"  when things are rough  
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