How do you continue to live and move forward after such a hard loss?

knottie8be0ad7682fc536e · August 2023

I am a mom of 4 year old and a 7 month, I was expecting our first baby boy and lost him at 22 weeks almost 23. I didn’t think this would hit me so hard emotionally and mentally but I don’t know what to do 🥺 how do you recover from this. I was induced and he was born alive and passed as his umbilical cord was cut. Not only did I lose my child but I also lost my job at this time and trying to recover emotionally while being so stressed I don’t know how to handle it, I’m not sleeping I can barely eat I literally want to drive off a bridge at this point

pavingtheroad · August 2023

Have you looked into a grievance/loss counsellor? I had a loss at 13 weeks in July and it crushed my entire world so I can only imagine what you are feeling having gone through your loss. I’ve been actively seeing a counsellor and it’s helped. Depending on your area a local hospice may offer free loss counselling sessions and there may be pregnancy loss groups available to attend. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and and no timeline to it. And it’s 100% okay to not be okay after losing your son. I also read the book “it’s ok you’re not ok” by Megan Devine and it helped. It may also help to touch base with your health care professional regarding how you are feeling. It’s a hard road with no right way to navigate your feelings. Take it a moment at a time.

knottie1ff2cb5bc5696364 · July 2024

I lost my baby boy at 20 weeks. The most heartbreaking thing I’ve ever gone through. I just started seeing a therapist and it’s already helped. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help.

knottied4647312c02527f7 · July 2024

Hi Katie, praying is the key. I am so sorry you lost your baby boy

knottie917f0199ccf707ef · November 2024

I just lost my baby girl on Friday at 19 weeks. She is our first child. It’s very hard to want to live.

dpjennifer · November 2024

knottie917f0199ccf707ef said:

I just lost my baby girl on Friday at 19 weeks. She is our first child. It’s very hard to want to live.

I'm very sorry for your loss. It is extremely difficult sometimes to function after a loss. Please remember that the HCG hormone is still in your body, and that is exacerbating all of your emotions, which makes it seem even more overwhelming. Once that is out of your system, you'll be able to start mentally processing what happened. It still is awful, but that hormone makes everything worse. Also, find a good therapist and talk it out.

knottieff1aad96c11956a2 · November 2024

When I miscarried, I had post partum depression for about a month after until my hormones got back to normal. It still hurts my heart, but it seems easier to manage the pain now. I am so sorry for your loss. Please give yourself all the time you need to grieve.

_beckywhite_ · November 2024

@knottie8be0ad7682fc536e I’m truly sorry to hear about your loss and the overwhelming pain you’re experiencing. It’s completely understandable to feel lost and emotionally drained during such a difficult time. Please know that you are not alone in this, and it’s important to reach out for support.

Consider speaking with a mental health professional who can help you navigate these emotions and provide coping strategies tailored to your situation. Support groups for parents who have experienced similar losses can also be incredibly healing, allowing you to connect with others who understand what you're going through.

As for your daily struggles, try focusing on small steps—whether it’s reaching out to friends or family for support, prioritizing rest when possible, or even seeking resources that may assist you during this challenging time.

Your feelings are valid, and getting help is a strong step toward recovery. You deserve care and support as you navigate through this heartbreaking experience. Please take care of yourself and know that brighter days are possible ahead.

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