How many children do you have currently? We’re blended. 2 of mine prior and 2 of his prior; none together yet.
How many more children do you think you might want? 1 more 🤞🏽
What is holding you back from taking the plunge? Nothing really. We are trying now. It took a while though for us to wrap our minds around it and actually want to try but we have really grown together these past years and now feels right for both of us.
Anything else you’d like to share? I would like to have this baby *not* in a hospital, which would also be a VBAC, if possible!
I have 1 boy right now would like to have another child.
What is holding me back is that it’s just me and my husband. No family to help with babysitting or giving us time to have dates. I loved all stages with my son. Sleep wasn’t a issue. I did it by myself with my husbands help but we also had many many talks about how we don’t get to be husband and wife only mom and dad. So it’s hard knowing if having a second one is the right option. We both had agreed to have another kid but then we think about how we have no one to help us. I use the gyms daycare for when I workout. But no babysitter, no family. Just really hard when I want one
I had my first child at 23. Then life happened and I never thought I would find myself in the position to have another child...until now.
I cannot reach out to blood relatives for more information as I am hard NC (no contact) with certain members and don't want to get others mixed up in it. Even if I could, everyone who has kids in my family had them in their 20's, or not at all. No one else has Fibromyalgia.
I've already started seeing a fertility doctor (only good news so far 🤞 but more results to come). Early 20's and late 30's are vastly different times to be pregnant and I have no idea what to expect, or what more I could or should do to give my baby (or babies) the best possible chance other than what I've already done: stopped all refined sugars, less junk food, more fruits, veges, nuts and protein, gentlier exercise, etc. I swapped my meds out for supplements and am taking an iron-free pregnancy supplement to prepare. I am also seeing a NSA Chiropractor who is helping me manage the worst of my pain symptoms. I am almost pain-free, just achy most days.
I'd love to connect with others, especially those with Fibromyalgia, those who are having babies in their late 30's or have children with a big age gap between babies. Advice is welcome.
How many children do you have currently? I have 2 girls. 17 and 10.
How many more children do you think you might want? 1 more.
What is holding you back from taking the plunge? nothing is holding me back. I have started an IVF cycle since I had a tubal ligation after my second child.
Anything else you’d like to share? Sometimes I get nervous since I know I am considered advanced maternal age, I just keep worrying about any complications that can happen. Trying to keep my mind off of that stuff is hard since I am a natural worrier. Knowing that since I am going to do IVF, I will automatically have to see a high risk MFM specialist. Also…. my pain tolerance I feel has gone down. I get so nervous for all the shots and LABOR!!!
line eyes? I’m 10dpo today. I feel like I see something but I do have line eyes lol. TTC my 3rd child. I have a 7 year old boy and a 3.5 year old girl.
How many children do you have currently? 1 How many more children do you think you might want? 2 What is holding you back from taking the plunge? I dont like being pregnant! I didnt even have a hard pregnancy but I just hate it. :( I wish I loved it.
Anything else you’d like to share?
I am in a blended family with a 6 year old from a previous marriage. I want more kids and so does my new husband. He is a FANTASTIC stepdad and my daughter absolutely adores him, I know he will be an incredible dad to more children and I have always wanted more kids. My 6 year old talks all of the time about how she would love to be a big sister.
We talked a few months ago about starting to try for more children at the beginning of this year. I have an appointment to remove my IUD at the end of the month but as the appointment gets closer I am having such mixed feelings.
On the one hand, I know that my husband will be an amazing father to more kids, my daughter is so excited, and when I picture my future I know that I want a bigger family. When I think about a bigger family I am so excited.
On the other hand- I just hate being pregnant. I am in the best shape of my life right now, I'm crushing it at work and love my job, and to be honest - I am LOVING the extra time I have now that my daughter started all day kindergarten. My daughter was also a colicky baby and my ex husband started getting abusive when I got pregnant with her so I think I carry some trauma from that.
My husband is literally counting down the days until we start trying, and the closer it gets the more anxious I am. I know that I want more kids but I just do not enjoy pregnancy or the newborn stage. I LOVE LOVE LOVE toddlerhood and now having an older kid - but I really really struggled during pregnancy and the first 18 months with my daughter. I had some pretty bad postpartum depression and struggled a lot with body image issues.
I feel bad because I want to be excited and i am just not - and my husband can tell. He has told me we can wait as long as we want, but we're also a little older and I'm worried it might take a while to get pregnant. I don't think my anxiety will get better with time.
Envisioning my life with my husband, daughter, and two more possible kids 10 years down the road fills me with joy- I really, really want that life for myself. But when I think about being pregnant or being up all night with a newborn I want to cry. I know that there are people who would give anything to be pregnant, I'm sure I'll be singing a different tune if we end up dealing with infertility - so I really do understand that if we are able to get pregnant it will be a miracle and I will be so thankful. I burst into tears when I think about the next year of my life being pregnant and having a newborn.
Has anyone else had simliar feelings? My husband can barely contain his excitement anytime pregnancy comes up and I am TRYING to be excited but he can tell that I'm not and I dont want to dim his light about it... maybe I just need a little help changing my perspective. I think maybe it is a lot of trauma because my ex was horrible to me when I was pregnant and when my daughter was a newborn... maybe that's why I just can't get excited.
I'm struggling with so many feelings and a lot of guilt. I wish I could say I look back at the months of pregnancy and when my daughter was a newborn and cherish those memories, but it was so hard. I love my daughter more than anything but going through that again is almost more than I can deal with.
Re: Come in if you’re considering having a second, third, or fourth baby...
How many more children do you think you might want? 1 more 🤞🏽
What is holding you back from taking the plunge? Nothing really. We are trying now. It took a while though for us to wrap our minds around it and actually want to try but we have really grown together these past years and now feels right for both of us.
Anything else you’d like to share? I would like to have this baby *not* in a hospital, which would also be a VBAC, if possible!
would like to have another child.
We only have our dog at the moment.
How many more children do you think you might want?
I wish for 4 children but don't know if dreams will come true.
What is holding you back from taking the plunge?
I just took my IUD out, taking folic acid for couple months now and then it's a start.
I cannot reach out to blood relatives for more information as I am hard NC (no contact) with certain members and don't want to get others mixed up in it. Even if I could, everyone who has kids in my family had them in their 20's, or not at all. No one else has Fibromyalgia.
I've already started seeing a fertility doctor (only good news so far 🤞 but more results to come). Early 20's and late 30's are vastly different times to be pregnant and I have no idea what to expect, or what more I could or should do to give my baby (or babies) the best possible chance other than what I've already done: stopped all refined sugars, less junk food, more fruits, veges, nuts and protein, gentlier exercise, etc. I swapped my meds out for supplements and am taking an iron-free pregnancy supplement to prepare. I am also seeing a NSA Chiropractor who is helping me manage the worst of my pain symptoms. I am almost pain-free, just achy most days.
I'd love to connect with others, especially those with Fibromyalgia, those who are having babies in their late 30's or have children with a big age gap between babies. Advice is welcome.
I have 2 girls. 17 and 10.
How many more children do you think you might want? 1 more.
What is holding you back from taking the plunge? nothing is holding me back. I have started an IVF cycle since I had a tubal ligation after my second child.
Anything else you’d like to share? Sometimes I get nervous since I know I am considered advanced maternal age, I just keep worrying about any complications that can happen. Trying to keep my mind off of that stuff is hard since I am a natural worrier. Knowing that since I am going to do IVF, I will automatically have to see a high risk MFM specialist. Also…. my pain tolerance I feel has gone down. I get so nervous for all the shots and LABOR!!!
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How many more children do you think you might want?
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What is holding you back from taking the plunge?
I dont like being pregnant! I didnt even have a hard pregnancy but I just hate it. :( I wish I loved it.
Anything else you’d like to share?
I am in a blended family with a 6 year old from a previous marriage. I want more kids and so does my new husband. He is a FANTASTIC stepdad and my daughter absolutely adores him, I know he will be an incredible dad to more children and I have always wanted more kids. My 6 year old talks all of the time about how she would love to be a big sister.
We talked a few months ago about starting to try for more children at the beginning of this year. I have an appointment to remove my IUD at the end of the month but as the appointment gets closer I am having such mixed feelings.
On the one hand, I know that my husband will be an amazing father to more kids, my daughter is so excited, and when I picture my future I know that I want a bigger family. When I think about a bigger family I am so excited.
On the other hand- I just hate being pregnant. I am in the best shape of my life right now, I'm crushing it at work and love my job, and to be honest - I am LOVING the extra time I have now that my daughter started all day kindergarten. My daughter was also a colicky baby and my ex husband started getting abusive when I got pregnant with her so I think I carry some trauma from that.
My husband is literally counting down the days until we start trying, and the closer it gets the more anxious I am. I know that I want more kids but I just do not enjoy pregnancy or the newborn stage. I LOVE LOVE LOVE toddlerhood and now having an older kid - but I really really struggled during pregnancy and the first 18 months with my daughter. I had some pretty bad postpartum depression and struggled a lot with body image issues.
I feel bad because I want to be excited and i am just not - and my husband can tell. He has told me we can wait as long as we want, but we're also a little older and I'm worried it might take a while to get pregnant. I don't think my anxiety will get better with time.
Envisioning my life with my husband, daughter, and two more possible kids 10 years down the road fills me with joy- I really, really want that life for myself. But when I think about being pregnant or being up all night with a newborn I want to cry. I know that there are people who would give anything to be pregnant, I'm sure I'll be singing a different tune if we end up dealing with infertility - so I really do understand that if we are able to get pregnant it will be a miracle and I will be so thankful. I burst into tears when I think about the next year of my life being pregnant and having a newborn.
Has anyone else had simliar feelings? My husband can barely contain his excitement anytime pregnancy comes up and I am TRYING to be excited but he can tell that I'm not and I dont want to dim his light about it... maybe I just need a little help changing my perspective. I think maybe it is a lot of trauma because my ex was horrible to me when I was pregnant and when my daughter was a newborn... maybe that's why I just can't get excited.
I'm struggling with so many feelings and a lot of guilt. I wish I could say I look back at the months of pregnancy and when my daughter was a newborn and cherish those memories, but it was so hard. I love my daughter more than anything but going through that again is almost more than I can deal with.