Baby registry for second?

mama_libby22 · May 2024

Is it tacky to have a baby registry for a second pregnancy? I do want to have a small shower when I get closer to DD to celebrate with family, but I don’t think I want to do a full blown registry like I did with my first. What are other’s thoughts on this? Yes, no, or maybe a mini registry? If no registry, what are some recommendations to ask for instead of gifts?

etnyah · May 2024

I’m a big fan of doing what you want and asking for what you need. If others find it tacky, boo to them. You probably won’t need a lot of the big ticket items with a second baby so you naturally won’t have a registry as comprehensive, but if you want to have one, go for it.

I have an Amazon registry going already for baby 3, I had one for baby 2 as well, but it’s mostly so I can get the discount code and buy from it myself. I didn’t have a shower with baby 2 and I don’t think I’ll have one this time either though, but that’s just because I don’t personally feel the need. If you want to, go ahead!

cornichonmam · May 2024

You're more than entitled to have a party to celebrate the baby. There were definitely a few things I wanted to upgrade that didn't work with my first and if you've got people who want to get something for the baby they would usually rather get something they need. I got a new changing bag.

You could do books or nappies if your having a shower then if people feel obliged at least it's pretty low cost.

hippiemama-2 · May 2024

This is my third baby - my first turns 11 this year and thus my original shower and baby items were purchased 11+ years ago. I recently remarried and until this year didn’t actually expect to have any more children so all baby items have long been eliminated. I was surprised to have a lot of people ask if I’m going to have one and my new SO’s mother has asked if she can throw one for me, which is very sweet. I feel a little uncomfortable because I’ve already had one in my lifetime and am comfortably able (thankfully) to make all needed purchases for this new addition myself, but I also don’t want to “rob” my new husband’s family of the opportunity to celebrate his first child. I made a private registry because I planned to use the completion discount myself as I purchased needed items a few per month so I suppose I could share that if it comes to that. All of this to say, do what feels comfortable for you. As moms we tend to overanalyze how we may be perceived and I’m for sure guilty of that too. Wishing you all luck as you decide and navigate the second plus baby celebration plans.

MrsCaliRN · May 2024

Sharing an unpopular opinion: I think baby showers are to welcome you to motherhood, so having more than one is tacky. Also, asking for gifts (like sharing a registry) after a first baby seems desperate, like you need help/money. Nothing wrong with that per se but not a great look if you’re having ANOTHER baby. Instead, if someone wants to give you something, just invite them to give whatever they want and that’s that.

I do believe in baby sprinkles and sip ‘n’ sees for subsequent babies. Fits the situation better IMO.

In conclusion: do whatever you want and don’t make any apologies!

cornichonmam · May 2024

@hippiemama-2 I think it's lovely that your partner's mother wants to host a shower for you. It obviously means a lot to her.

A bit different but when I got married my Mam really wanted to invite all her and my Dad's cousins and relatives. Which meant inviting a lot more people. But they had such a good time and were really grateful for the opportunity to be all together for the first time in a long time. Sometimes it's about giving other people the opportunity to get together and celebrate.

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