Didn't think I'd be back here...anyone else?

JessiBride · October 2019

My husband and I have two kids turning 8 and 12 in the next two months. Friday we had a very surprising BFP. I'm 38 (39 in December), he's 43.

I feel somewhat lost. I absolutely loved the baby/toddler years but we stopped at 2 because that's what made sense time- and money-wise for our family and I had finally come to terms with that. I was looking forward to the next decade of increased freedom, traveling internationally with the kids, etc. Now, I feel like I'm starting over while still in the middle of a marathon.

Anyone else in a similar boat?

FyreFlyeRush · October 2019

Ha, me! My SO and I are both 42. This is my third child, and his first. I have a 23yo daughter and a 7yo son. I actually argued with him when he told me I was pregnant, because I just *KNEW* I was ovulating. He was right...I was wrong...I'm now 27w3d.

Trigger Warning

I've been here twice now, in the last 12 mos. We had a loss in January, and I ***REALLY*** never expected to be here again. We're happy. A little anxious due to age, but we're happy.

JessiBride · October 2019

Congrats to you!!

My husband had to talk me into testing. He told me I was pregnant, I told him it was perimenopause, lol.

Today I am feeling more positive. The thought of a baby is very exciting...our future just looks very different now. But, my 7 year old is very maternal and I have a feeling I'll have tons of offers of help.

amandanh2 · November 2019

I’m 40 and pregnant with my surprise 4th. We have a 7 year old and 3 year old twins. We felt our family was complete after the whirlwind of twins. Lol. So this is very unexpected. I’ve gotten rid of all my baby stuff and thought I was done with diapers. I guess not.

bellebaby221 · November 2019

I absolutely thought we were done. We have 10 year old twins and a 6 year old, all boys. Total shock BFP last May. We'd long since gotten rid of everything but thankfully I had family members that have had kids since I did so we got a lot of stuff. I also turned 39 when I was pregnant.
Our little girl is now 9 months old and an absolute joy. The boys are 100% wrapped around her little finger.
It was definitely a shock at first. We were just getting ready to send the youngest to kindergarten and finish paying child care and now we're starting all over! But she fits so perfectly into the family. She's been to more baseball games than I can count and traveled with us and she does so well. I can't imagine what we ever did without her!

princessjenney · July 2020

This is my second marriage and we've been trying since we got married in Dec 2017. My DD from my previous marriage is 10. We literally had decided to stop trying the day before I found out that I'm pregnant. Covid delayed all of our medical interventions and we were feeling fatigued by the whole process. It still feels surreal that it actually happened without needing the iui. I really thought it just wasn't gonna happen and that we should just accept it and move on with our lives. So yeah, shocked and overwhelmed but happy lol

chele129 · October 2020

Hi, i just found out tonight and I'm freaking out! this just doesn't feel real. I'm 38, DH is 43 and we have 3 boys ages 4,6,8. i have a history of infertility, took me 4 years to get pregnant with my first after a loss through IVF. my second son is an FET baby. i keep telling my DH i'm too old and too fat to be pregnant!!! (i'm like 20lbs over my pregnancy weight with the last 2 and was finally starting to lose weight again) i'm trying not to get excited just yet, and of course we've gotten rid of just about all the baby stuff.

knottiebbe897e91f1b2803 · October 2020

I'm here again 40yr old with one girl(21) and a boy(9). We thought we were done but God has other plans. I'm due May 28th 2021. I am currently 9 weeks pregnant.

tiramisu19 · October 2020

Congrats! I also thought I was done, but here we are (I’m 37, he’s 40). I have a teenager and a 4 y/o. This should be interesting!

aisukurimsarang · November 2020

I'm here for the THIRD time since 2018!! I'm 43, 5th pregnancy, 4TM. SO just turned 43, this is his 2nd. Our you gest is 10mos, and I'm currently 18w.

starla-dear · January 2021

I just found out I am pregnant again earlier today—I have 9 year old son and 11 year old daughter. Definitely thought we were done! I just turned 36. I am pretty shocked.

rschenck14 · January 2021

I found out I was pregnant in November, wasn't expecting this, but here we are. I will turn 42 on January 16th, husband is 45. We have 2 daughters, one is 8 and the other will turn 5 in April. We are due July 25th, but will have a scheduled C-section as the other 2 children were C-sections. I had my 2nd daughter at 37, so have been thru this before at AMA. It seems like I might have had to go in more at the end for checkups but that was it. I had the 12 weeks scan with NIPT testing (they did not offer that with the 1st). With the 1st DD, we did have a CVS only because at the 12 week scan, she had some abnormalities and they indicated that we may have issues, but she turned out just fine. Definitely nervous about being pregnant over 40 and worrying about what may happen. We are keeping the pregnancy pretty quiet until we get further along.

aisukurimsarang · January 2021

@rschenck14, congrats!! I had my last baby at 42. He'll be a year on Inauguration Day. Starting at 28w, I was seen weekly by an MFM for growth scans and NSTs. It was actually pretty awesome to see him so much.

This time, I expect the same. I'm 26w right now, so we shall see.

rschenck14 · January 2021

@aisukurimsarang - You have given me some hope! I am been pretty stressed due to my age and anxiously awaiting results of NIPT and will have my NT scan tomorrow. Because this was not exactly planned, I had not thought as much about the risks of a pregnancy over 40 and I have only seen good stories, but then started doing some reading and then had a conversation with genetic counselor this morning about the percentages and odds, it all kind of scared me a bit. Having a tough day and just would like to get some answers at this point.

I think its re-assuring to talk to others who have been down this road and to know what to expect.

knottie3ff4825aaded271b · January 2021

I love this thread and knowing there are others with the shock going on!

I am 39 and my husband is 48. He has a 28 year old son, whom we raised together. We had a surprise 1.5 years ago after 15 years of trying, our dear little girl. And now we are surprised with a son. I am 16 weeks along. My doctor was as shocked as we were that it happened not once but now twice!

kreid82 · February 2021

Lol your post took the words out if my mouth. I'm 38. Hubby turned 39 Thursday, the day after we found out. We have a 12 yr old & a 5 yr old.

DGH1126 · June 2021

We are in massive shock over here. I'm 38 and husband is 47. We already have a 9 yo girl and 5 yo boy. I am actually worried my husband is going to have a heart attack about this. Not something I saw coming! Really happy to have found this thread with people in the middle of the same crazy ride!!

knottied90fabcb80c4725e · September 2021

I’m back after 8 years 🙈 I have a 9 year old and a 7 year old. I’m 39 years old and I went to a specialist because my periods were very heavy after having Covid, I was told by a gynecologist/ fertility specialist that I had endometriosis and that my tubes were obstructed, that if I wanted to have a baby it had to be through IVF. So, I stopped using birth control since I couldn’t get pregnant anymore, and here I am almost 9 weeks pregnant.

jcdorsey74 · September 2021

I had my first son when I was 38. I had my second son when I was 41. I am currently 6 weeks and am 47. Will be 48 at EDD. Shocked is an understatement. I never expected to be here again. I realize the odds are high that I will miscarry, but the odds of me even being in this position are around 1%.

choard15 · October 2021

How is it going? That’s amazing!

puzzlemom7 · January 2022

Boy, do I feel you. I have a 10yo Autistic son from my 15yr first marriage. Have three full time bonus kiddos with my husband (15, 12, 9) and I found out at 5 weeks I was pregnant with this little bundle. I have health issues, including infertility due to severe endo and haven’t used protection since after my son was born 10yrs ago. Surprise! Lol

mnmomma84 · January 2022

This thread has helped me so much! I’m 37 and this will be my 3rd. We have 15 yo and 8 yo boys and I’m terrified to “start over” again. We have gotten so comfortable with the ages the boys are currently at, and even downsized on our home last summer. Now, we don’t have an extra bedroom for a baby since we downsized on square footage to live waterfront. I’m afraid of the age gap between my oldest and this baby. I’m afraid of the sleepless nights and constant needs. We really didn’t think we would be back here again. Hoping my husband’s excitement will pull me out of this funk, but if I’m being honest I’m just not excited.

knottie644e784316523e6d · January 2022

I completely understand all of you! I am 38 , 10 months PP and am now 8 weeks with my second…. Im just NOT excited and don’t know what to do.

cocoabuttermothers · January 2022

Sending love to all of you mamas so glad to find this thread. Had my daughter in 2020 after several losses. I just turned 38 and she just turned 2 6 days later and my husband has a 17 y/o who’s the best big sister. Dad will be 45 in March and I’m currently 10 weeks after I said one and done for me 😅 mentally I’m well but have HG so keeping up with the toddler has been intense to say the least.

puzzlemom7 · February 2022

I didn’t think so either! I just turned 38 last month and I am 17+5 with MY baby number two. My first (first marriage) is 10 this month and my current husbands kiddos are 9,12,15 and we have them full time. Wi have severe endo and have major fertility issues so I shouldn’t have gotten pregnant, but surprise!! Haha!

knottie12128 · April 2022

I never thought I would be doing this again...mine are 13, 14, and 15...and my SO has 3 between 25 and 30 years old...im 35 and he is 49...im scared and excited and I just don't know how to feel...im all over the place...im just still in shock...

theycallmeskittles · April 2022

I'm 39 and was told I'd never be able to conceive because of my pcos and irregular periods. I have 3 sisters that have tried for years. I'm 6 weeks and never ever though I'd be here. I'm still in shock and I'm glad I'm not alone because seems a lot of women here have had pregnancies they never expected.

alphafamily22 · April 2022

I'm going on 36 yrs old last child born was 13 yrs and first born 16 yrs didn't think I could get pregnant again with me alone. My husband of 3 yrs has a condition that is rare and was told he can't have children not to mention was a child abuse victim. TTC for 2 and 1/2 yrs then all of a sudden this passed October I'm going to have my 3rd child his first. He didn't believe until the 2nd ultrasound and that we are having a little girl for him to believe that we are pregnant. 27 Weeks and 2 Days and I'm acting like it's my first pregnancy.

FutureMrsB12 · October 2022

This is me. And tbh I'm actually really sad, depressed and disappointed. I cry every single day. I was also on birth control. We have 4 kids already and one is turning 18 soon. And I was getting a tubal on Friday 😢. I feel like I'm mourning the loss of our freedom already because we had 11 years before our youngest turned 18 and I would only be 46. We could travel, enjoy our life, MOVE! Now I feel stuck 😪 And people are guilt tripping me by talking about all the women who can't get pregnant and I'm very sorry for that but unfortunately they have nothing to do with me and how I wanted my life to turn out. I'm glad u found somewhere to get this out.

knottiec538e36a9f58e5cd · December 2022

35 here, will be 36 when I deliver. My oldest daughter is 12! I’m literally starting all over! I have no idea what the heck I’m doing. My fiancé has twin 10 year old girls. All I keep thinking is my oldest will be a senior while my youngest goes to kindergarten 😂 what am I getting myself into!!!

I am so excited though! I’m 17 weeks and due May 23! Waiting for that belly to pop and to feel the kicks and movement

april_libraspirit · January 2023

It's so nice to see I'm not the only one. We have 1 and he's 12. We thought we were done and getting ready for bit more freedom. We are in earlier 40s!

Bottles, potty training, homeschooling at the beginning again....someone must've thought we were ready for another one.

Seems to be a family pattern. My older brother and younger sister are 10 years apart from me.

tnt7409 · February 2023

@april_libraspirit we are in the same boat. We have a 9 and 11 year old, homeschool, are building a house and really thought we were moving to the next stage of life.
Having a newborn with tweens in sports and such will be a whole different ballgame!
Husband and I will be 38 when this one is born.

annabanana1985 · July 2023

I know you wrote this awhile ago but I'm only just reading it.. I hope you are ok. Your words perfectly say what I am also feeling.. I'm sorry you are suffering so badly..

knottie4ac613abca1ed500 · December 2023

Hey! Checking back in! It's been a year or so since your post, are you happier now with your new bundle and having started all over again? I am 36. My husband is turning 44 next month. I have a 17 yr old girl from previous and we have a 7 yr old girl together. I thought we were done and got rid of everything. Pregnancy was so much harder on my body at age 28 than it was at 18 idk if I can handle it now!? My oldest is off to college in the Fall and I'm approaching 40 these could be reasons I can't stop considering wanting another. My 7 year old begs us for a sibling and has been practicing taking care of her babydolls to prove she can care for a new REAL baby. My husband is such a good dad and I obviously love him so much so of course I'd love to create another human together. This would add an addition 10 years of kids in the house. Part of me wonders if we did have one more it too would grow up sort of like an only child with the big age gap? Does that mean we should have 2 more so that they can grow up together? We haven't gotten to experience that! Children are so expensive are we being impulsive or have a case of YOLO? So much to consider! I'd have to make an appt to take my IUD out. I've made 2 appts but cancelled both. They say most are preggo within 3 months from removal. I also worry how having another would make my 17 yr old feel? She cried the first time around and they weren't happy tears it broke my heart.

criscodisco · February 21

Yep! 37 with a 14 and 16 yo and I’m 3 weeks 3 days!

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