My husband and I have two kids turning 8 and 12 in the next two months. Friday we had a very surprising BFP. I'm 38 (39 in December), he's 43.
I feel somewhat lost. I absolutely loved the baby/toddler years but we stopped at 2 because that's what made sense time- and money-wise for our family and I had finally come to terms with that. I was looking forward to the next decade of increased freedom, traveling internationally with the kids, etc. Now, I feel like I'm starting over while still in the middle of a marathon.
Anyone else in a similar boat?
Re: Didn't think I'd be back here...anyone else?
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I've been here twice now, in the last 12 mos. We had a loss in January, and I ***REALLY*** never expected to be here again. We're happy. A little anxious due to age, but we're happy.
Our little girl is now 9 months old and an absolute joy. The boys are 100% wrapped around her little finger.
It was definitely a shock at first. We were just getting ready to send the youngest to kindergarten and finish paying child care and now we're starting all over! But she fits so perfectly into the family. She's been to more baseball games than I can count and traveled with us and she does so well. I can't imagine what we ever did without her!
This time, I expect the same. I'm 26w right now, so we shall see.
I think its re-assuring to talk to others who have been down this road and to know what to expect.
I am 39 and my husband is 48. He has a 28 year old son, whom we raised together. We had a surprise 1.5 years ago after 15 years of trying, our dear little girl. And now we are surprised with a son. I am 16 weeks along. My doctor was as shocked as we were that it happened not once but now twice!
Bottles, potty training, homeschooling at the beginning again....someone must've thought we were ready for another one.
Seems to be a family pattern. My older brother and younger sister are 10 years apart from me.
Having a newborn with tweens in sports and such will be a whole different ballgame!
Husband and I will be 38 when this one is born.