Hi all,
It's been a while!!
So we are doing donor egg after a history much like any of you would imagine. I'm structurally sound down there and all and just missed my window of using my own eggs after several MCs.
Apparently it's "up to me" of whether or not to put in two embryos (according to doc). They have the same 60% pregnancy rate with 1 or 2, but with 2 a 30-50% chance of twins. We aren't there yet (mid-Sept) but I have really mixed feelings about putting two in...the idea of twins (if they both make it) is cute and all but there are so many not very good realities. The only positive thing I can think of is that I would just be done with babies after this--no trying to do FET at age 42 or something for baby #2. The rest is just anxiety about the health of the babies, my health, and then the normal twin worries. I see many people on here who have had twins. How did you decide? How did you do?
My anxiety is so high about all of this at this point. I've had too much time stewing (almost 3 years), have heard too many awful stories, read too much, etc. (had to get away from these forums even!)
Thanks!
*****Losses Mentioned*****BFP MENTIONED*****ALL WELCOME******ALL ABOARD!!
Me: 42, DH: 46, Married: 11/12
Losses: MMC#1 11/12 BO, MC#2 11/13 at 8w BO?, MMC#3 8/14 chromo healthy M
@12 weeks, stopped growing at 10.
Negligible AMH, FSH finally went high. Pursued DE.
DD born at 38w2d on 5-27-16. Finally!!
Pregnant again with OE. EDD 11/9/17 Girl!
Re: To twin or not to twin
Mommy to 5, 1st time Gestational Carrier
Transfers #1-4 2013/2014 all same DE, all CP
Transfer #5 11/16/14, new DE, transferred two fresh 5-day blasts
Beta 9dp5dt - 296 Beta 15dp5dt - 6,596! TWINS!! due 8/4/15
Admitted to hospital for preterm labor and 5cm dilated at 32 + 6
Delivered healthy baby girls vaginally at 36 + 4
Baby A 6lb10oz born at 11:58pm
Baby B 6lb11oz born at 12:04am
(different birthdays!)
kfras
Yeah, I'd rather just put one in and see how it plays out instead of having a higher chance of twins. That is interesting your doc said specifically only one. I know the tide is turning that way, but stats say that only 10% of transfers are single embryo. I'll take my chances. I like the idea of just having one child only anyway! I mean, I love being devoted to my one cat, so...
Good luck to you!! I'd be interested to hear what you decide! And yes, the egg can split anyway, so I understand
Me: 42, DH: 46, Married: 11/12
Losses: MMC#1 11/12 BO, MC#2 11/13 at 8w BO?, MMC#3 8/14 chromo healthy M @12 weeks, stopped growing at 10.
Negligible AMH, FSH finally went high. Pursued DE.
DD born at 38w2d on 5-27-16. Finally!!
Pregnant again with OE. EDD 11/9/17 Girl!
You know, you spend so much time in the trying to get and stay pregnant phase that the idea of actually being a parent gets shuffled aside. Unless my doc highly recommends transferring two, we'll be doing one. I'd prefer my first shot at motherhood, at age 41, to be as balanced and manageable as possible (is that possible, lol?)
That is interesting about the embryo adoption. We had to sign all these papers about what we would do with any leftover embryos if we died, if we didn't claim them by 51. We'll just see if we get there! I do think donating is being of great service to somebody/a couple!
Me: 42, DH: 46, Married: 11/12
Losses: MMC#1 11/12 BO, MC#2 11/13 at 8w BO?, MMC#3 8/14 chromo healthy M @12 weeks, stopped growing at 10.
Negligible AMH, FSH finally went high. Pursued DE.
DD born at 38w2d on 5-27-16. Finally!!
Pregnant again with OE. EDD 11/9/17 Girl!
Hi, hun! I’ve already written the post concerning the dilemma how many embies should be placed. So will also say here. I understand what makes you so anxious. The same thing was for us. As for the number of embryos I read quite often women discussing it. We passed IVF with donor eggs in Biotexcom some time ago. Now I'm an exhausted but happy mother of 1 mo boy. The point is that we could chose between putting back 1-3 embryos. But if only twins or triplets pregnancy was not prohibited to me due to my health issues. So with this matter everything was all right and we agreed to place 2 nice 5-day blasts. How deeply had I been dreaming about twins! If only it could happen to us!
Though there have been lots of contradictive thoughts on the point on forums. I remember one lady shared her experience with transferring 2 embryos. Her body turned out to be unable to carry both babies to the due date.. Sorry for sharing this episode but she advised only 1 embryo to be put in, in case ladies or their docs are not sure of the consequences.
Wish you all the best of luck with your decision X
We just had our 3rd embryo implantation in December. We only did a single egg in the first 2 transfers in early 2023 and lost all 3 of our grade A female embryos…2 didn’t take and 1 didn't survive the thawing process during the second transfer. In Dec we had 2 grade A male embryos transferred into our GC at the clinic’s recommendation because the first two single-embryo transfers were unsuccessful and it so happens that both male embryos were successful. Our GC is currently carrying our twin boys. We started out with 3 female and 7 male high-quality embryos and did PGS on all 10. We’re pretty sure the first 2 failed because that GC candidate had a C-section within 14 mos of the first transfer and we used her again for the second one. The clinic claimed the C-section had nothing to do with the failures, but I don’t believe it. I’m scared of the thought of twins and I’m going to have to quit the job I love, but this is our reality and we knew the chances when we signed up. The more I think about it, the more I get excited, but I’m also very concerned for my GC’s wellbeing because she’s an older mom.
It IS a tough call to make, but only you can make the decision, regardless of our advice because we all have different origin stories. I sincerely hope you find peace, whichever route you go.