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June 2023 Moms
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March Randoms
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Our due date month is 3 months away. 😳
Re: March Randoms
We had two companies come out this week to quote our bathroom remodel and I was sad to hear it's a bigger project than we anticipated but we really want it done before baby comes, so we will likely just eat the cost and suck it up. On the bright side, we will be almost done with the interior of our house by time baby comes. It's a really really good feeling.
Here's to finishing projects before we get too pregnant.
We ordered beds and thrifted some really great furniture this week. I'm so excited to revamp a few items and get the rooms all set. Once that is done I have about 500 to spend on baby stuff and we are set for the 1st year of life. I looked up buying everything new for the rooms and it was going to be about $5,000. We will have it all done for $1,700 and some elbow grease. And a spa day or 2 thrown in.
@thoseboysmama yay!! How exciting! Thats got to be a great feeling. I've been forcing myself not to buy things until after the baby shower and it's so hard to do.
@sunny_native14 honestly good for you though! It is an important job! I don't sign up to do those kinds of things but if someone needs food made for it, I'll happily volunteer myself 😂😂😂😂
TTC July 2015-November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
@ReadyForaB I'm sorry!! Wishing you the best
@thescarletmom I swear I knew your placenta must have moved because all of a sudden I was thinking about it constantly, so many congratulations and I'm relieved for you! I'm biased but I love fundal placentas so much!
@ReadyForaB my last birth center had a super low threshold for failing the 1 hour, it was like 115 and I was so annoyed and stressed out because of it, I really hope you passed at 130 and you don't have to take the 3 hour 🤞🏻
@hitcj4687 that sounds exhausting! I can see myself doing the exact same thing and panic whipping something together at the last minute lol. I'm sure everything was so good though, everyone talking about making food on this thread is making me hungry.
And also I'm so glad your remodeling projects are going to be over by the time the baby is here, that's got to be a good feeling!
Tbh I'm not really handling it well. I guess I didn't expect the in laws to care for them very well, and I guess I didn't expect them all to make it in perfect condition but I didn't expect to lose everything either.. most of them I have had for years and the most precious ones were plants people rallied around and gave me after my daughter died so moving out of the state and having everything die has been really really tough. I'm trying to rehabilitate the roots of some of them and hoping I can get them to regrow but I don't know, they were all terribly frostbitten.
There have been only a few things the in laws have done that weren't great but aside from killing my plants it hasn't been as terrible as some of the other visits we've had.
Unpacking and moving things into a different layout with less storage as our old place has been really challenging but I'm looking forward to having it finished and behind me so I can focus on nesting 🥰 trying to focus on lots of positives but I'm definitely feeling really depressed, I also know it could have gone worse but the trip was rough and moving in was rough and losing plants was rough and the weather here is rough too, lots of ups and downs!
@kalesix3 good to see you!!! My midwife went over my report with me on Sunday afternoon (angel) and told me she's going to do an ultrasound herself at my next appointment because if my placenta truly is fundal, she's big mad at the original clinic for not noting that in their report. If my placenta is attached to the top of my uterus, there is a zero percent change it will still be too close to my cervix by labor 🙄 the context would have been really helpful and saved me weeks of intense anxiety. I'm fascinated by having a fundal placenta though! I'm interested to see if I notice any difference in labor with my placenta completely out of baby's way.
Also, I'm both happy and so sad for you about your move. I'm grateful it's not as bad as you feared, but I wish your plants hadn't been a casualty 🩶 moving always stirs up complex emotions and doing it pregnant is certainly a feat of endurance. Sending you my love that things settle soon.
@ReadyForaB fingers crossed your OB just ignores it, a single point would feel like the most useless reason ever to take the 3-hour. I'd rather take a glucose monitor home and rest myself if were really a big deal.
Also I hope your clinic didn't mess up that bad about your placenta location because yes, you spent so many weeks feeling AWFUL and that should have been avoided.
Yeah moving during pregnancy is the worst, especially big cross country moves, this is the last time I swear, I'm not cut out for the stress or the emotional upheaval, I spent all day yesterday crying, I know it's just pregnancy emotions times 50 but it's hard. Plus I'm not one of those people who can just roll with a lot of change and be okay, my anxiety has a field day with it 🥴
My partner is getting cold feet about the birth center 40 minutes away, he wants me to try to just go to the local hospital even though two separate people have said don't do it, it's awful. Sigh, that's one more stressful thing. He has such a simplistic view of a bad labor and delivery experience because in his mind it's only a bad short time and then you're fine which is hard because he knows I wasn't fine after my last bad experience and that wasn't even at a hospital. Idk I don't want a car baby with my complicated history either but I also don't want to go to a bad hospital out of fear and traumatize myself even more than I already am.
We got spoiled by the hospitals in Colorado because they were all so good, but I have years of hearing and seeing firsthand what some hospitals l&d floors are really like. Ugh. I don't know what to do.
Also, as someone who now lives 90min away from the nearest hospital equipped for labor and delivery and a history of quick labours, 40min really doesn't sound too bad 😆 I do get where your partners coming from though. We were 5min from a hospital for our first two (planned homebirths though) so I'm not exactly excited about this situation but it is what it is. I'm glad the timing worked out so we shouldn't need to worry about road conditions at least but the unknowns of labor/delivery and even due dates make planning for these things SO complicated!
Yeah I mean that's the thing, I would be happiest, especially because there's already a good chance he won't be there with me unless we find good care in the next two months that I feel safe leaving my son with which I don't want to count on and not plan for the other way which is my husband doesn't go and my doula does labor with me instead. But doing a hospital birth without him sounds way more horrible than a birth center and especially since I'm much more at ease in a birth center 🥺
I remember now that you said it was an hour's drive to the hospital for you, I'm so sorry! I hope this labor gives you lots of warning so you make it in the early stages no problem!
@peyts228 I mean that's the thing though, I don't know 🥺 my first labor was a few days long, my last was 3 hours, I had my son an hour and a half (I think) after I got to the birth center, it may have been closer to an hour, I can't remember in this moment, but I know generally my last midwife practice said if you had a short spontaneous labor once, the chances that next time will be faster are pretty great and I think that's the mental block he's struggling with, in his mind if we had an hour and a half last time, this time we probably only have 30 minutes and he's scared we're going to have a stillbirth situation in the car on the highway, and I mean I get it because it's not like I'm not having a lot of anxiety either but I do think a contingency plan is probably the best way to approach it, if it's early labor or if I think it's a false alarm we go to the birth center and if it's imminent we just go to the hospital and hope we don't get terribly traumatized. The hospital in town is our only option that's closer than 35-40 minutes away but there is another hospital on the way to the birth center we can make an emergency stop at.
I don't know, it's hard not knowing what my body will do this time and what to plan on because I have both long and short labors to go off of.
@potato3000 gosh I am nervous for you with a 90 minute drive but hopefully you won't need to make it, hopefully everything goes well and smoothly, I really hate how much you have to consider birthing options wherever you move to and you're right it's so much more stressful trying to plan for something but factoring in literally all the unknowns hoping you're making the right choice.
It's hard to tell if my intuition is telling me 40 minutes isn't too long or if I'm just hyping myself up for that because I don't want to do the hospital in town. Sigh. I really don't know. I'm going to be keeping those of you all with longer drives than me in my thoughts and I hope all our labors are kind this time and give us ample time but not too much time 😂
I rode a train once when I was about 3 weeks from delivering. The attendant was soo happy I made it off. She said "lawd when I seen you, I prayed I wouldn't be meeting your baby on this train!" Haha atleast she was funny about it.
I thought I was going into labor on that ride. Every bump I thought, here we go, what a story this will be.
Anyway, I hope you know many of us get that comment. Your belly is perfect small, big, round, frumpy, whatever it may be... it's a vessel of life.
TTC July 2015-November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
So me and the boys will be having a very interesting time. I am hoping he comes right on his due date or before. Then atleast it's not me having a baby with kids intow. If it were at my usual birthing center I'd be happy because of the guest ensuite that has a divider, bathroom and sleeping area with a TV. I am hoping for a home birth so atleast I know they are corralled and safe inside.
I'm surprisingly not anxious about it, but I bet a week or 2 before I may be. My last 2 births were really smooth (luckily) and I was in complete control of my mind. So I'm hoping that will be the same with this one. If not... probably not the one to lose my head in. 😬
I would definitely do what you feel most comfortable with. Birthing centers cater so much to mom and baby they are the best choice if available IMO.
I only know one woman who's labors get shorter and shorter every time, she's had five babies and her last labor was 10 minutes from the time she realized she was in labor to having the baby but she even says herself she's in denial constantly so that definitely plays a part. Idk I was in mega denial last time but now that I know it's possible for my body to handle it in three hours I feel way more intentional. I'm pretty at peace right now with planning on the birth center but being fully willing to to go to the hospital if we're SURE we aren't going to make it. We'll see if I have weeks of prodromal labor this time, if I don't there's a fair chance it won't be a super fast labor again but truly nobody knows.
TTC July 2015-November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
Man, literally every single woman I know/have talked to about our precipitous labor experiences was in denial about being in labor! What gives! Feels like we should be the most confident ones since we don't have time to mess around 😂 my labors were ~6hrs and then 3hrs. I don't expect my time to halve again, but I also am prepared for that possibility. I had prodromal labor for a full week before DS1s birth. DS2, I remember having a lot of contractions the last week but I don't *think* they were on the level of prodromal labor...? It's stressful spending those last few weeks on high alert to every contraction because of the short length, so I don't blame you for feeling uncertain until you get there.