September 2023 Moms
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*tw* spotting/bleeding/threatening mc thread
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This thread is for support and questions around spotting/bleeding. 🖤
Conversations surrounding these issues can be discussed here freely. The TW in the title applies for the whole thread. Please beware of reading ahead if you think you might be triggered by conversations about spotting/bleeding.
Finally, remember that most of us are not medical professionals, and even if we were, it's always best to call/visit your doctor with questions or concerns. Feel free to ask questions and voice concerns, but please do not expect anyone here to be able to offer you anything but support. The most important thing to do is to call your doctor. They can offer answers; we can offer support. 🖤
Re: *tw* spotting/bleeding/threatening mc thread
@rarobertson92 I would keep an eye on overly painful symptoms like cramps or heavy bleeding. A bit of bleeding can be totally harmless.
If you are looking for similar experiences, it can go both ways. My friend went through her pregnancy bleeding regularly and everything was fine. In my case, I had a bit of spotting the night before I miscarried this summer, but it really quickly became heavy bleeding (in less than 24h).
@rarobertson92 The unknown of it so early is so hard, and that there’s not really anything to do but wait and see. Have you called your doctor just to let them know and see if they want to see you? The unknown and waiting it out really sucks.
Ive experiences both outcomes from spotting - I had pink and brown spotting most of the first trimester with my second pregnancy, and she is now an 8 year old, but pink spotting on and off is also how my MC started.
@noranorabobora i know there's not much to be done, but wait for the outcome, but maybe your obgyn would be able to do a checkup at least.
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Just wanted to share my experience with spotting so far and some stuff I learned today at the doc's office if it can give anyone any peace of mind. I've learned first trimester seems to just be full of anxiety, so if I can help anyone else out I'll try.
This past Saturday (7w5d) I woke up for the first time in my pregnancy with very light spotting. Only noticable when wiping...VERY light brown/pink. This was concerning to me so I called the OB on call for the group I had established with. He told me they couldn't do anything but if I wanted to go to the ER I could, and they could do an US at that time (which I had not had yet).
I went to the ER and they did urine, blood work, and an ultrasound. US showed baby measuring 8w2d with strong heartbeat. ER doc was very dismissive. He didn't really encourage me that things were fine, but rather just said that the US didn't matter and nothing could be predicted. He said even though baby was seen with heartbeat and expected size and weight that I could still be miscarrying. What's interesting is he never once asked about the kind of bleeding I was having or how much. I had the faintest drop when wiping that morning on waking, and this doctor was treating me the same as a woman who was passing large clots. He didn't really seem to care about the details. He had no encouraging word to give. He said "your going to ask me a lot of questions and I'm going to say I don't know to all of them because there's no way to know what's going to happen".
I ended up downloading MyChart and viewing my ultrasound result myself. The US showed a "6mm subchronial fluid collection to the left of the gestational sac". Of course, I started googling what that was and got myself even more scared and worked up. From everything I read, that finding was consistent with SCH. I was so frustrated because the ER doc never told me about that finding was on my ultrasound. He spent no time telling me anything.
I called the OB I was seeing the following Monday to let them know what was going on. The nurse wouldn't let me talk to the doctor and just said there was nothing to do and they wouldn't move my ultrasound any sooner (at that point it was over a week out). When I told her about the possible SCH, she too had nothing to offer and did not pass my message to the doctor. She said "It will either work itself out or it won't". I was amazed.
I'm not sure if she has kids or not....but many of you already know that just because my baby hasn't been born yet doesn't mean they aren't real. I already love my baby, as I'm sure many of you understand. Can you imagine telling someone with a baby outside the womb that "they will either make it or they won't, *shrug*"? No...you'd have more tact than that. It's unacceptable to talk to another that way. Even if nothing can be done to save the child, it's unbelievable the way some of these medical staff talk to expectant moms.
So, in my frustration I decided to find a new OB. I realized if I'm going to go through this process I needed someone willing to EXPLAIN this stuff to me in a way that I felt made sense. Not just dismiss me because "nothing can be done either way". I called around and found an OB locally who was accepting patients. He's won quite a few awards and teaches surgery at the local University. The staff were so kind on the phone and got me in within 2 days of me calling. The nurse was empathetic and kind. She encouraged me we would figure everything out.
I met my new OB today and his bedside manner was so wonderful. He pulled up the monitor so I could see my vaginal ultrasound. He explained that the tiny pocket of blood, little blood clot that I have, is common at the site of implantation. It can take up to the entire first trimester for it to go away. But, baby is growing and has a heartbeat, so they obviously aren't bothered too much by it. I only had faint spotting but he assured me that many of his patients will have clots or heavy bleeding which can be very scary but baby is nearly always fine. He warmly encouraged me not to worry and that nearly all of these things will resolve on their own and not cause a problem. The way he spoke and explained things really made all the difference in the world to me. He wasn't telling me he could predict the future, but it was important to him to express hope and encouragement, and share the POSITIVE statistics with me.
I just wanted to share my story to encourage any first trimester ladies to not get too freaked out with bleeding (though I realize it's almost impossible). That more often than not it really is going to be fine. And if you feel that you aren't getting any encouragement from your doctor, take the step to reestablish. Honestly, no matter what happens during this pregnancy now I feel so much better that I'll be talking with someone that seems to actually care. You and your baby are worth taking this journey with someone who hears you. Hope this is helpful to someone. <3
I'm fairly worried though - two nights ago a migraine started. I usually get one before a period but I expected to be at 7 weeks today. my bf and I did the deed and afterwards I began spotting. it was mucusy at first in the tissue paper and has shifted from light to 'normal' menstrual bleeding (for me, which is still pretty light). I have been having slight cramping along with back pain. the migraine keeps returning throughout the day and is sometimes debilitating.
this is my second pregnancy and I don't recall ever bleeding during my first. I recently had my IUD removed (early December) and am wondering if it's cause for this. or if I'm simply having my period and was never pregnant.
I took two tests the morning of 1/21 and 1/22 which were both negative. I assumed it was just too early to test but now I'm not so sure.
maybe the hormones from my IUD was or are still active.
I'm sorry to hear that you went through something similar. I haven't called yet but I'm contemplating doing that.
@starlight8323 thank you, I was also thinking that this current bleed could be implantation too? but it does seem more like a regular period the longer I have it, or something else.
@elsie_diane i'm really sorry for you.