@pickle-chips You made me feel like a mean girl so I went and made a nicer comment explaining how the board works. I’ll blame it on the pregnancy hormones. 😆
@emeraldcity603 eh...I mean yes, this site is a monster to navigate, but it also says READ THIS in all caps. But good on you for owning up. ❤️
@pickle-chips I swore my daughter's favorite book takes place in Nova Scotia and was really excited to actually be talking to someone from there, but just went back and read the afterword and nope, it's Newfoundland. Whoops. (It's a cute little book about a house by the sea, and now she ONLY wants to live in a blue house on the coast.) Guess I have a new appreciation here for the people who are like "Nebraska, which one is that again?" (Although when you actually live in the States it's annoying. I visited NYC in my single days and was asked more than a few times, in all seriousness, if I drove a tractor to school or just rode a horse.)
@emeraldcity603 yeah your DH sounds like a stellar birthing partner. Mine is…. not quite as helpful lol. I honestly feel so relieved already with having hired the doula and knowing that I’ll have the support I need during labor. For my first pregnancy DH didn’t understand why I needed him to read all the things and learn all about labor (I’m in the medical field so he expected me to guide him while I was laboring 🙄). I’m just excited about the prospect of laboring at home this time and not being induced again.
Just going to hang onto this randoms until next Monday 😂 Tomorrow is a holiday for me and today has lasted approximately 7.5 years.
My other random thought is I love seeing other BMBs being added. I realize it is impossible to have a November due date right now, but still. Moving on up!
@pickle-chips it blows my mind seeing new BMB’s because I’m my head I just got a positive test because time has felt like it’s been at a standstill for the last like 9weeks. Once morning sickness started it was like time stopped😅
Next chapter in my daughter's school drama -- apparently on Tuesday, after they shook up the seating arrangement for circle time, my daughter decided that all boys are terrible and refused to do anything near a boy the whole morning. Her teacher mentioned it to me at drop off this morning -- she said they accommodated it on Tuesday, but were going to be working with her on understanding that the whole class can be friends, not just the girls (while still keeping some intentional space between her and the boy who was always touching/hitting her).
Of course I want to reinforce that at home...but I literally don't know any moms of boys who aren't aggressive psychos that we can actually play with. My nephew is 6 and a whirling dervish with my husband and BIL but is SO GENTLE with my daughter -- and that's it. My neighbor across the street has a son who is also 3, and he and my daughter played sometimes before, but we had a weird falling out in the fall (we were in a Bible study together and I as the only non-Catholic in the group accidentally shoved my whole foot in my mouth by mentioning James as the brother of Jesus, and basically got kicked out for not being sold on the doctrine of Mary's perpetual virginity) and now she barely speaks to me and only when I initiate a conversation. The other gals in that group have sons but they're monsters and would basically reinforce every thought my daughter has about boys (I know it's normal but *I* don't even like being around them). Her friends are all girls. My friends pretty much only have girls. So...how to get her to believe me that not all boys are going to yell and throw shit and scare the everliving eff out of her...
@ki1244 I wouldn’t worry about finding boys for her to hang out with. She will get that at school. She just needs the idea to be reiterated to her that not all boys hit and are mean. Also, I’m not Catholic so I’m not sure what all they believe but I had no idea they believe in the perpetual virginity of Mary. I would have been kicked out of that group too. I put my foot in my mouth with a Mormon friend once. I was asked about a particular homeschool curriculum and I said I didn’t use it because it was created by a Mormon and I wasn’t comfortable with possible “nuggets” being dropped in the curriculum that contradict our beliefs. She then revealed she was a Mormon. I was mortified. I had no idea.
@ki1244 I would just talk to her about how there are boys that can be gentle and kind, maybe even remind her of how your nephew is gentle with her.
also I was born and raised catholic and had no idea that they believe in Mary’s perpetual virginity so could’ve been anyone’s mistake especially when it says “James the brother of Jesus” in the Bible at some point. I once put my foot in my mouth over the transfiguration of the eucharist. I always believed the eucharist was the symbolic body of Christ and then I found out that SO believes it’s the actual body of Christ and nearly started a huge argument.
@ki1244 I agree with others on not forcing the issue with in-person interaction that feels…well, forced. Maybe check out some books from the library that feature “gentle” boys or just books in general that break any and all gender stereotypes. And it doesn’t have to explicitly be “This Book is About a Gentle Boy”, but a book like Hike by Pete Oswald, or Jabari Jumps, Lost and Found by Oliver Jeffers.
Thekidlitmama on Instagram has lots of great recommendation reels for picture books (healthy boundaries, friendships, busting gender norms, etc.) that might be of interest. And in case it’s unclear, I am by no means saying only read books with boys as the main character 😂! More that books can be a really helpful tool.
Did CPR last night on my ICU patient… got literally one round in and then was like…. Switch!!! Haha normally I’m good to go for a few rounds if I’m first on the scene, but I was not fairing well yesterday. And now this morning I’m incredibly stiff and sore from 2 minutes of activity. Pregnancy is ridiculous.
On the other hand all my coworkers found out I was pregnant because of that yesterday (I’m 12w today anyway) so that was kind of fun!
@gingermama29 I’m ok with picking up the pace with them. I think I remember discussion before about it being early and that’s why only one was done. Even if people aren’t buying gear yet, it’s probably a good time to start thinking about options.
@gingermama29 I'm good with that! I know second kids don't typically get a shower but I totally started a registry the other day so I can get a completion discount (and let the grandparents buy what we actually *want*).
@cherrystorming good on you getting in there with CPR at all! I've only ever had to do it in training classes, never real life (thank God), but we've always been required there to do like 4 rounds and it's a WORKOUT! I'm WIPED at the end of that and have never had to do it pregnant...don't know that I'd get through a single round now. 😳
So, I applied for a job at the beginning of December and then found out I was pregnant like two days later. I kind of pushed it to the back of my mind until they called in January for an interview. My friend gave me the legal advice not to discuss the pregnancy part until I had an offer in my hand. They officially gave me an offer this week, but I was obviously nervous about accepting. I accepted and then told the recruiter. I think she was a little flustered, but it was pretty much an opportunity that I couldn't turn down. I gave my resignation today. I'm excited, but overwhelmed at the thought of starting a new position and having a baby in the middle of all of it.
I know I'm not the first one to do it and that they wouldn't have workers if women didn't have babies, but it's hard not to feel like a burden instead of an asset at this point. I have good friends who have been hyping me up and telling me all of these very things, but it's going to take a little while for my brain to believe it
@msjaay I hope it all turns out great for you! Congratulations!
I was in a similar position when pregnant with my son. I went through the interview and felt uncomfortable about keeping it secret (was 15 weeks or so when I started working). I mentioned it as soon as I was offered as well. Come to find out, I was replacing someone who quit because she was pregnant so they were very nervous about how I was going to last 😂 everything turned out fine and I’m still here and pregnant with my 2cd now.
Wow @msjaay that’s awesome! Congrats!!! I’m not in the same exact position but somewhat similar. My old department was dissolved at my company and I pushed to create a role for myself on another team. The last few weeks I’ve been in the process of planning an entirely new path of my career and getting the support of higher ups. No one knows I’m expecting and so I have an internal timeline running, like I have until the end of July to prove that this job is valuable AND document enough of what I do so that it’ll be manageable when I’m gone. I’m definitely stressed about leave and feel like after 5ish weeks I’ll offer to start checking in. It’s all so hard, and people don’t tend to understand that some women have two jobs (mom and professional) and want to excel and achieve and progress in both of them, not at the expense of one over the other.
Getting pregnant cost me my job last time around. It turned out totally fine and for the best, but definitely didn't go as I had expected. I was the advertising director for a medium-sized roofing company, and had been there for three years by that point (and had done a bang up job). When I got pregnant, I started arranging my job to make a case for going part time -- basically being the point person for things we could contract out, and the rest would be roughly 10-12 hours a week, and overall they would save money as a company. The owner wouldn't talk about it before I left to have the baby and just kept saying "we'll see how it goes", so I had no idea going into delivery if I was going to have a job or not on the other side of it. Well, as it turned out, they opted to keep my job as full time, and said I could keep it or not. I chose not. They kept me on for a year, part time, just doing random BS work at home, before we finally all just said "this is dumb" and cut ties. It worked out well in the long run, and I'm still friends with the owner's family and hope for the best for them, but the uncertainty was super annoying. Like I was answering emails during labor (actually had the guy doing the epidural hang on a minute so I could finish typing one) because I had no idea if I was going to be in my job or not, but they had no backup plan yet so I had to keep things going as if I did. I'm glad for where I am now -- they're doing great, I'm doing great, and I can focus a lot more on the Disney travel stuff which is way more fun anyway. My husband has been promoted twice since then so financially we're better off now by a long shot than when my daughter was born and our income was basically cut in half, between me not working full time and him having to change careers because the coaching staff was let go. But had I needed to stay on, I don't know how things would have gone.
Thank you! And I’m so sorry to anyone who’s had to deal with the stress of job uncertainty while pregnant. I can’t support that women are supposed to just put their careers on hold until they’re out of childbearing years while men never have to think about it. It’s such unneeded stress during a time when there’s so much else going on
Re: Weekly randoms 1/23
ETA looking back again now I think the testing and changing was reference to their username! 😂 poor thing.
@pickle-chips I don't know if I mentioned I was in Ontario, I might've only said I was from Canada! I can't remember if you are too??
@emeraldcity603 I wouldn't sweat it, you were being firm about the rules and trying to damage control, plus you followed up with another message 😊
@pickle-chips I swore my daughter's favorite book takes place in Nova Scotia and was really excited to actually be talking to someone from there, but just went back and read the afterword and nope, it's Newfoundland. Whoops. (It's a cute little book about a house by the sea, and now she ONLY wants to live in a blue house on the coast.) Guess I have a new appreciation here for the people who are like "Nebraska, which one is that again?" (Although when you actually live in the States it's annoying. I visited NYC in my single days and was asked more than a few times, in all seriousness, if I drove a tractor to school or just rode a horse.)
Of course I want to reinforce that at home...but I literally don't know any moms of boys who aren't aggressive psychos that we can actually play with. My nephew is 6 and a whirling dervish with my husband and BIL but is SO GENTLE with my daughter -- and that's it. My neighbor across the street has a son who is also 3, and he and my daughter played sometimes before, but we had a weird falling out in the fall (we were in a Bible study together and I as the only non-Catholic in the group accidentally shoved my whole foot in my mouth by mentioning James as the brother of Jesus, and basically got kicked out for not being sold on the doctrine of Mary's perpetual virginity) and now she barely speaks to me and only when I initiate a conversation. The other gals in that group have sons but they're monsters and would basically reinforce every thought my daughter has about boys (I know it's normal but *I* don't even like being around them). Her friends are all girls. My friends pretty much only have girls. So...how to get her to believe me that not all boys are going to yell and throw shit and scare the everliving eff out of her...
also I was born and raised catholic and had no idea that they believe in Mary’s perpetual virginity so could’ve been anyone’s mistake especially when it says “James the brother of Jesus” in the Bible at some point. I once put my foot in my mouth over the transfiguration of the eucharist. I always believed the eucharist was the symbolic body of Christ and then I found out that SO believes it’s the actual body of Christ and nearly started a huge argument.
@cherrystorming good on you getting in there with CPR at all! I've only ever had to do it in training classes, never real life (thank God), but we've always been required there to do like 4 rounds and it's a WORKOUT! I'm WIPED at the end of that and have never had to do it pregnant...don't know that I'd get through a single round now. 😳
I know I'm not the first one to do it and that they wouldn't have workers if women didn't have babies, but it's hard not to feel like a burden instead of an asset at this point. I have good friends who have been hyping me up and telling me all of these very things, but it's going to take a little while for my brain to believe it
I was in a similar position when pregnant with my son. I went through the interview and felt uncomfortable about keeping it secret (was 15 weeks or so when I started working). I mentioned it as soon as I was offered as well. Come to find out, I was replacing someone who quit because she was pregnant so they were very nervous about how I was going to last 😂 everything turned out fine and I’m still here and pregnant with my 2cd now.