Weekly randoms 1/23

justyouraveragemama · January 2023

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ki1244 · January 2023

Our weekend was exhausting, but fun! Probably the highlight of the whole thing was the basketball game Saturday night. It was the big rivalry game between the two high schools in town, and even though it was an "away" game for my husband's team, we had more fans/students there. And we won by 30! But the most special part was when one of our cheerleaders was up talking to her parents at halftime right behind us. My daughter is ALL ABOUT the "dancing girls" (much to my husband's distress) and was just transfixed watching this girl a few rows up from us. She saw her staring and said hi, and started a conversation with us, and then said "hang on, I'll be right back" and went down to talk to her coach for a minute. She came back up and brought my daughter (and her little pompoms that go to EVERY game with us) to the floor to cheer with the team for the next quarter. The whole team was taking selfies with her, a yearbook photographer came down to get a picture, and they taught her some cheers and kicks and stuff. It was the absolute most precious thing, and my daughter has been talking about it (and her new friend Lexie) ever since. I was more on the academics track back in my day (newspaper editor, student council, speech team, etc) and my husband was that one weirdly athletic nerd every school has, so neither of us had the highest opinion of cheerleaders (which was kind of cemented by one of my good friends when I worked at the university, who was the spirit squad coach and the cheerleaders drove her nuts)...but I'm writing a letter to this girl's coach thanking her for her kindness because that was an incredibly special thing to my kid.

emeraldcity603 · January 2023

I went to old navy today to make an exchange and the employee who greeted me mentioned that their is a maternity section in the back. I turned to her with a shocked look on my face and asked if I look pregnant. She apologized and said, oh no! Are you not pregnant? I told her I am but am not far enough long to be announcing to everyone and that I was shocked that she could already tell. I’m so bloated I apparently look 5 months pregnant. This is my 9th pregnancy 8th to get this far enough but geeze! I was shocked she felt confident enough to even mention me being pregnant.

lmn823 · January 2023

@emeraldcity603 I don’t know, I’ve known people to look pregnant that weren’t pregnant at all! I still would never assume someone was (at least not vocally)

I did hear that if this isn’t your first pregnancy, your bump protrudes more than a FTM? Not sure if that’s true in all cases

hope you got some maternity clothes on sale at least!

ki1244 · January 2023

I look a stupid amount pregnant already. I know some is bloat and some is the party size bag of Doritos I had for lunch last week, but my weekly pictures this time look about 10 weeks ahead of where they did with my daughter, which does not bode well for me because I looked like a caricature at the end. A friend from church in my old town asked if our news was out so she could share with my old Bible study and I about laughed her off the phone -- she clearly hasn't seen me in a while because it's fairly obvious by this point.

On that note, might hit up Old Navy tomorrow while my daughter is at preschool...

emeraldcity603 · January 2023

@lmn823 You do protrude more easily as a STM but it’s still bloat until the uterus is protruding up and out of the pelvis. Your stomach muscles aren’t able to hold it all in as easily. I did tell her that when I’m PP I look pregnant and I’m not and had she said that to me then I may have burst into tears. No one should be mentioning anyone’s pregnancy unless the pregnant person tells you they are pregnant or they are about to give birth and it’s super obvious.

tumbleweed-1 · January 2023

We told DS he’s going to be a big brother last night and it didn’t go over super well. He was also tired so that didn’t help. But word of my pregnancy is spreading through the grapevine at work and DS attends the preschool that I work at. I’ve already had a couple coworkers ask me if he knows yet because they almost asked him about it. Thankfully they checked in with me first! But in case someone doesn’t, he needed to know. Once he finally caught on he said “is that why your belly is so big?” 😐 yes, yes it is. Lol

gingermama29 · January 2023

@tumbleweed-1 we told DD a few weeks ago and she is over the moon! She’s been begging for a brother or sister for a few years now which has been super hard with IF. Hopefully your son will get more excited soon

emeraldcity603 · January 2023

@tumbleweed-1 my kids went to my first ultrasound so they knew pretty early. My struggle has been my youngest daughter keeping her hands off my belly and saying how much she loves this baby already. She does it all the time and in front of people and I’m constantly reminding her we aren’t sharing our news yet. My close friends know but that’s it.

Very random but I had a rough morning yesterday. I was so emotional and was crying so hard after my ultrasound (for no reason at all everything looked good) that I had to sit in the parking lot and just wait for it to stop so I could drive. I was texting my friends on our group chat and they were very supportive. Later when I was doing school with the kids someone knocked on the door. One of my friends sent me flowers. How sweet is that? Such a wonderful surprise. Of course, the tears just started flowing again.

justyouraveragemama · January 2023

@tumbleweed-1 when we told DS he was very unbothered, couldn’t care less which was shocking because he’s been asking for a sibling for years! He now switches between being excited and not excited. He’s 7 almost 8 so I think part of it is him realizing there will be change to the status quo. I’m hoping as we get closer to baby being here that he’ll be more excited. I know once baby is here and we settle into a routine things will be fine and I’m sure it’ll be the same in your home too

estadt · January 2023

My dd will be 8 when baby is born we haven’t told her yet as we wanted to make sure everything was good and in the clear before we tell her. My so wants to wait till the first trimester is done which is February 11. It’s really hard filtering what I say sometimes with her around. She has asked for years for a sibling so we will see how she reacts

pickle-chips · January 2023

I started tap dance classes and my first lesson was last night. I am feeling it in the tops of my feet. Here’s me googling foot stretches 😂

justyouraveragemama · January 2023

@pickle-chips stick your toes under your couch and then scoot your butt back until you feel the stretch in the top of your foot, also rolling your foot around a tennis ball to get the bottoms too

ki1244 · January 2023

Just had to go pick up my daughter from preschool. Apparently she was really weepy, couldn't calm herself down, and her temp was elevated. When I dropped her off she was annoyed about a hangnail but that was it, and otherwise totally normal and excited for school (it's pajama and stuffy day, so they could wear PJs and bring their favorite stuffy). So I got her, and she's 100% fine. They did a forehead scan, and she was hot from crying so much. The reason? She didn't want to sit next to a little boy in her class during their circle time. Apparently he accidentally "bonked" her during gross motor play on Tuesday, and has bonked her a few times before, and she doesn't like him. That made her cry, which made her need to blow her nose, which made her cry harder.

Soooo... Do I work with her on being brave and sitting by people who aren't our favorites, or talk about it with her teacher? I love this teacher (she's been a preschool teacher since the 70s so I can't imagine anything would really surprise her) but I also feel kinda crappy being like "my daughter just doesn't like this kid" because that sounds so spoiled and entitled.

emeraldcity603 · January 2023

@ki1244 I would probably do both. Have a talk with her but also bring it to the attention of the teacher. That way you’re helping her work through the situation and not necessarily “saving” her from it but also making the teacher aware so she can step in when it gets too hard for her. She is so little she needs some help navigating this.

gingermama29 · January 2023

Ooof. Husband and daughter are both down with the stomach bug. Hoping I don’t get it

emeraldcity603 · January 2023

@gingermama29 I hope it’s a short virus.

pickle-chips · January 2023

@gingermama29 oh no!! I hope they’re feeling better soon and you are spared.

benten24 · January 2023

@ki1244 I’d also do both. I’d speak with her and explain that we may not “like” everyone that we interact with, but we still have our responsibilities to keep. I’d encourage her to ask her teacher about switching seats if she’s nervous he’s going to bonk her again. And then tell the teacher how she’s feeling, that y’all are discussing it at home, but it’ll help her to know how to best help your DD. Good luck!

benten24 · January 2023

Anyone looking at doulas for this birth? I’ve been interviewing a few and hired one yesterday.

msjaay · January 2023

@benten24 I used one with my 1st birth but it ended up being virtual at the last minute due to Covid so it was an odd experience and she wasn’t very helpful.. I’m very open to the experience again and I’m talking to another one who seems to really align with what I prefer. I’m waiting to see if she has room for me in her schedule.

emeraldcity603 · January 2023

@benten24 I have never considered a doula but my husband is also an incredible birthing partner. When I have birthed in the hospital he sits and watches the monitors (he is a doctor) and helps me through my contractions, keeps the nursing staff away from me (I can be mean when I labor 😬), and makes sure I’m comfortable at all times. At the birthing center he was literally right in my face during every contraction helping me through them. It really felt like a team effort. I was even wiping my sweat on him because I was leaning into him the entire time. I will say, with the first two he was less stellar but by the 3rd he really stepped it up. For reference, he has been through 6 deliveries.

ki1244 · January 2023

So I did wind up talking for a while on the phone with my daughter's head teacher (when I got my daughter, she asked me to update her that afternoon if I could, because this was so unlike her that she was really worried). As it turns out, this has been sort of an ongoing issue with this kid all year. I guess he's a pretty rough-and-tumble type, but also gets into my daughter's personal space a LOT, whether it's just encroaching, staying near her, or even physically touching her (the teacher described it as sort of a "pat" like what you'd do with a puppy, nothing malicious but more like curiosity or affection). When it first started happening early in the school year, rather than just jump in and tell him directly to stop it, the teacher had been trying to give my daughter the vocabulary and empowerment to tell him herself to back off ("L, I see you're uncomfortable with J this close. You can tell him to back up and give you your space" or "L, if you don't want J to pat you, tell him 'Stop touching me and keep your hands to yourself'") and then would back her up ("J, L said she doesn't like that, so you need to take one step back" or "That's right L, so J, please put your hands on your lap now"). That had been improving things, and my daughter was learning to be a little more assertive, which is GREAT because she's normally such a people-pleaser. But since we came back from Christmas break they hadn't said anything to her or him, and apparently it was escalating again until my daughter had just had enough and lost it but didn't really have the nerve to say why on the spot, with him sitting right there. So they're going to shake up the seating arrangement for circle time (where this primarily happens because her spot on the mat is next to his) because even though yes, it's good to learn to deal with people you don't like, she said that no child should be made to feel like she's stuck there, and they'll keep a better eye on if he still focuses on her specifically or if it's just whomever he's near. The only thing I wish/hope is that they talk to his parents too -- it isn't my business, I know, and I also get that he's 3 too and these are pandemic kids learning to be around others so I'm cutting a whole lot of slack here. But if this has been a habitual thing where they've been addressing the same issue for months, I kind of hope they're letting his parents know so they can be working with him at home too. (And I sort of wish I'd been told about this sooner, but I guess if it had been improving I get why it wouldn't register to tell me.)

@gingermama29 you still hanging in there without the bug?

emeraldcity603 · January 2023

@ki1244 I’m glad you got it sorted. Sounds like she has been dealing with this boy for a really long time and it’s not really reasonable for a child that age to deal with this kind of irritation long term.

gingermama29 · January 2023

@ki1244 glad you were able to talk to the teacher and get things sorted. Yup, still bug free. Everyone seems to be feeling better this morning so that’s good!

emeraldcity603 · January 2023

We have had freezing rain which turned all our roads to ice. Flipped vehicles are everywhere. I have to drive into town on that. I’m kinda scared. I’m just glad I won’t have my kids with me. I’m also glad we aren’t going with our hiking group tomorrow. They are driving out to the valley and the roads are even worse out there. I’m ready for spring.

lmn823 · January 2023

Wow be careful out there!

In metro ny, I think we’re in record breaking weather with no snow this whole season. Not complaining of course 😅

wendy838 · January 2023

@lmn823 you can have some of our snow lol the snowbanks in between houses are taller than trucks/vans

I also happen to live in one of the snowiest places in Ontario Canada

emeraldcity603 · January 2023

Roads weren’t bad at all this morning. I hit one pocket of black ice coming into my neighborhood but nowhere else.

ki1244 · January 2023

Remind me -- do we have anyone here from a southern state? @emeraldcity603 glad the roads were ok!

Totally just bribed my kid with some extra tablet time so I could take a shower mid-afternoon. I had just been feeling kind of gross and knew a shower would feel good but she's my shadow during the afternoon and it's not the easiest to have a minute to myself (she watches me pee, even). But I didnt get a shower in during her nap so I gave her a new game on her tablet that we normally only use for travel and hopped in and MAN that felt good.

novelblessings · January 2023

@lmn823 would you like some snow? We have gotten plenty in Michigan this year. We are now entering the freeze your butt off part of winter this week with single digits as well. 🥶

ccmrc143 · January 2023

@ki1244 if you count Virginia as southern, that’s where I live! But originally from DC which doesn’t really feel southern to me at all.

emeraldcity603 · January 2023

We are going through our first fake spring. We will have at least 2 more of those, then mud season, followed by actual spring. 🤪 I hate the thawing and refreezing.

troystory17 · January 2023

We just moved to NC a few weeks ago... I'm actually missing the snow, but I just saw it was going to be -10° at home this weekend, and I'm not sad to be missing that lol

pickle-chips · January 2023

Our weather has been wild. It was 7°C yesterday. It’s snowing today, about 10cm—enough that I could pull the kids on the sled to school. And it’s supposed to be dropping to -17°C this weekend.

@wendy838 I don’t think I registered that you are in Ontario! Maybe I did, but I forgot 😂

emeraldcity603 · January 2023

We have had some mild temps this winter. Only 1 dip into the negatives. It got down to -20 degrees F. I thought I would prefer it to be in the upper 20’s all winter but when that happens it gets way too close to thawing and things end up melting and refreezing. I don’t like driving around on black ice.

So many vehicles have crashed this winter that my van can’t even get appraised until late in February. Then, the work won’t even start until mid July. Probably later now since it will be late February before it gets appraised and officially in queue for the repairs. So I’m driving around in a van where the top of the door near the window doesn’t shut all the way.

ccmrc143 · January 2023

My oldest friend just asked me to be her bridesmaid! Her wedding is at the end of October. So naturally I’m like well crap I have to fit into a dress by 2mo PP. but hopefully I can get something flowy or A-line. I’m excited to be a part of it as I haven’t done this in a very long time and I’m really honored she wanted to include me. And if there is a bachelorette trip I can be DD or the planner or whatever. And any sort of all girls event with no kids? I haven’t done that in like 4 years because of covid and then living across the country and then DS. So I am excited to have something to look forward to. I think it’ll be a fun distraction, wedding things.

emeraldcity603 · February 2023

What is happening on our board? I feel like all those threads were created because she got mad I told her to use the question thread. 🙄

pickle-chips · February 2023

😂 I have no clue. I assumed it was someone struggling with the app.

emeraldcity603 · February 2023

@pickle-chips Well, then I guess I was a little too harsh. 😆

pickle-chips · February 2023

Nah! 😂 The testing…part cracked me up though. What was being tested?? Sigh. I mean, the app does suck and is super glitchy, but also please read the stuff that says READ FIRST.

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