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Babies on the Brain
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Age gap kids
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Hi all!
I recently found out I was unexpectedly expecting, but we lost baby at 8 weeks. My husband and I have decided to try for one now, and I have some reservations because I already have a 9 and 6 year old. I’m so nervous to throw off our family dynamics. My youngest was not happy about my pregnancy, and I have concerns to proceed.
I’m certain I want another baby, but my two have such a beautiful relationship, and this one would not have the bond those two have with it’s siblings. How do other age-gaps parents manage these concerns?
I recently found out I was unexpectedly expecting, but we lost baby at 8 weeks. My husband and I have decided to try for one now, and I have some reservations because I already have a 9 and 6 year old. I’m so nervous to throw off our family dynamics. My youngest was not happy about my pregnancy, and I have concerns to proceed.
I’m certain I want another baby, but my two have such a beautiful relationship, and this one would not have the bond those two have with it’s siblings. How do other age-gaps parents manage these concerns?
Re: Age gap kids
Hi, I understand why you might think the TRYING to get Pregnant board would be the right place to ask this, but many of us don't have any living children or are just desperately trying to get pregnant - and stay pregnant - and cannot speak to the consideration for planning out age gaps. I'm so sorry for your loss, but this might be a better question to ask a parenting board where there are families there who can better relate.
If you'd like to stick around while you TTC again please feel free to do an intro in the Newbies thread and familiarize yourself with the board rules.
TTC History:
Me: 36 MH: 39, TTC since Dec 2017
Aug '18: PCOS dx
Nov '18: MH SA - 19mil
Dec '18-Mar '19: Letrozole + TI - all BFN
Apr '19: Letrozole + TI, - BFN. Repeat SA (27mil) & DNA fragmentation test (17%)
Aug '19: Letrozole + HCG trigger + IUI + prog supp - BFN (MH: 16mil)
Sep '19: 2nd IUI, same protocol - BFN (MH: 16mil)
Dec '19: IVF #1 w/ICSI, PGT. 5 retrieved, 4 fertilized, 3 blasts, 3 PGT-A normal.
Mar '20: FET #1, perfect 5AA blast transferred. BFN.
Sept '20: FET #2, 5BB tsf. 9/18/20 BFP!! EDD: 5/27/21. MMC 11w
Feb ‘21: FET #3, last 6BB blast transferred. BFP, EDD 11/2/21. MC 5w3d.
May '21: IVF #2 w/ICSI, PGT. 8R, 7M, 6F, 6 blasts - 3AB, 3AB, 3BB, 4BB, 5BB, 6BA. Fresh tsf 5/13/21 - BFN.
June '21: PGT-A results = 3 abnormal, 1 low level mosaic. Referred to new REI, had consult with 2nd RE in between.
Sept '21: RPL, immune testing normal
Oct '21: IVF #3 w/IMSI, PGT. 33R, 26M, 23F, 9 blasts (7 day 6, 2 day 7). PGT-A = 5 normal, 1 mosaic
Dec '21: Positive for endometritis, RX Flagyl & Keflex
Jan '22: FET #5 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol incl. PRP, intralipids, prednisone, medrol, nivestym, fragmin - CP
Feb '22: FET #6 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol w/higher doses of pred & fragmin - BFN
Mar '22: Mock cycle for ERA - cancelled, repeat endometrial biopsy instead. Still positive for endometritis. RX ciprofloxacin & amoxicillin.
Apr '22: IVF #4 w/IMSI, PGT. 28R, 23M, 16F, 11 blasts. PGT-A = 6 normal.
June '22: FET #7 - Microdose lupron downreg w/kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol - double embryo transfer. BFN.
July '22: FET #8 - Mini stim w/Puregon + trigger, kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol. BFN.
Sep '22: Taking a break
Dec '22: Attempted abdominal myomectomy, fibroid too close to cervix and major blood vessels. Wasn't removed.
Feb '23: FET #9 - Modified natural w/baby asp, HCG trigger, PIO, PRP, Medrol, HCG wash, embryo glue - BFP!! EDD 11/11/23