Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: Weekly Check In 9/26
Rave- I'm so dang excited that we officially confirmed it's a boy!! I truly love being a boy mom and had a feeling it was this entire pregnancy!! Not looking forward to all the negative comments but I'm stoked nonetheless!
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@disneybaby23 I'm getting some round ligament pain. I have an appointment booked with my chiropractor to help with it.
@heytallmama H and I are watching it. We finished E4 the other day. Possibly watch 5 tonight. I keep seeing spoilers boo lol
EDD / Weeks + Days: March 19 15w1d
@disneybaby23 I haven’t hit full broken pelvis mode yet but it’s coming. If I don’t stand up a certain way my left hip snaps on me. But yes to lots of stretching pains!
Rants/Raves: Rant - I've missed 2 of my prenatal fitness classes because of covid fatigue and it mostly bugs me because I paid for them. Rave - we chose our doula today!! We did a zoom call interview and I love her already. She got our sense of humour and seems caring in a way I really appreciate. So I feel super relieved about that!
@disneybaby23 so much round ligament pain this week. I blame how much I've been lying down since I was sick, but I've been noticing it a lot.
EDD / Weeks + Days: 16+6
Raves: I can have my cake and eat it too! Also, unrelated, I got a trustworthy babysitter that lives nearby, is CPR trained, knows my kid, etc! I trust very few people to watch him so this is a huge step.
July 4th
Rant- I’m pretty sure my cold from a few weeks ago is turning into a sinus infection. I’m not really surprised since I have a deviated septum, and are prone to them.🥲
Also, summer is trying to come back this week, with 85 degree weather for a few days. I’m ready for cold/comfy weather!
Rave: we told my daughter over the weekend and she was sooooo sweet and excited. Really disappointed that it's going to be a boy but I think she will come around. She keept feeding me things saying that she was feeding the baby and laughing lol
@miss_lynn9 thank you! So far everyone has been quite positive thankfully! Only one comment that my hubs should hang out near a nuclear power plant to fry some of swimmers so we can get that girl. 😏😅
@firecracker_mama yes! As you get further along in your pregnancy, hormones and placenta function increase which means the chances for GD developing later, even though you tested negative early, are increased. This is why most are screened around 28wks unless you have a history of GD or other higher risk factors.
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rave- feeling movements more regularly. It makes all of the crappy stuff so much worth it.
Raves: Celebrated my Grammy’s 95 birthday with her earlier this month. That was really special! We’re doing an early baby shower in December ahead of holidays/everyone getting sick so I’ve been immersed in working on the registry! 🥰
@nopegoat congrats on the boy! I think it's so weird how people can have an opinion on the sex of your babies, as if you had a choice? I have 2 girls and I would LOVE to have another. I love being a girl mom. But everyone always asks if I'm hoping to "finally" have a boy.
@heytallmama Me! I watched 3 whole episodes before getting DH into it and now he has to watch it with me and since he's in bed on Sunday at 8PM I now get to be a week behind every week. I'm still enjoying the memes after each episode, though. Team Green or Team Black?
EDD / Weeks + Days: 3/14, 16 weeks
Rant: if my kids bring home one more illness from school, I will lose my mind. It's been a straight month of having one illness or another and they always spread it to me. First it was Covid then as soon as we recovered from that, DD#1 spread another cold to both me and her sister. I'm so over being sick.
Rave: on the subject of movement, I felt the baby move for certain for the first time about a week ago and since then I've been been feeling baby move for a few minutes each day. I had an anterior placenta with DD#2 and didn't start to feel her until after 20 weeks so I'm really happy to feel this baby. It's been wonderful for my PGAL anxiety.
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
July 4th
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023