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Pregnancy Announcement Thread

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in January 2023 Moms
This is a place to share how you told those around you that you are expecting or what your plans are! 
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  • thankfullyamamathankfullyamama member
    I’ll go first! 

    I had my toddler greet my husband at the door with the positive pregnancy stick when he got off work! (Which he had NO idea because I was literally taking birth control to start another round of fertility treatment!) 

    I was planning on telling my parents and in-laws after my ultrasound tomorrow BUT my parents are leaving for a holiday for a week Wednesday now so I MAY just tell them tonight and my in laws tomorrow! I’m a little hesitant because I really wanted to wait until after my ultrasound but I also don’t want to wait another whole week lol! I bought my son a shirt that says “I’m going to be a big brother” and I was just going to send him running to them haha (everyone also thinks we had a failed fertility cycle and are amping up for another one so I think it’ll be a really nice surprise! Especially for my mom who has been taking me to all my fertility appts and what not!) 

    For social media we take family photos every September and I’ll probably get a few cute ones to post from that but I’m sure everyone will by then for the most part from word of mouth!

    Photo in spoiler of my husband getting the test from my toddler and the shirt I bought my toddler! 


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  • footdrbrittfootdrbritt member
    My parents know and our close family because IVF
    I’m honestly not sure I even want to say anything time around publicly and let people think I just got really fat 😂 but I did cute announcements for both boys and so I feel like I need to do something. 
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  • charleesangel9charleesangel9 member
    I’ve put a lot of thought into this to help ease my impatience during this waiting period! 😬 Here’s our plan:

    My parents and sister - having them over for dinner and at the end of saying grace for the meal, give thanks for everyone at the table AND our baby due January 2023. We have shirts for my parents and a “cool aunt” hat for my sister. 

    In-laws - having husband’s dad, brothers, and their SOs for lunch. Taking a group photo where my husband will say, “Say cheese, now everyone say Raissa’s pregnant!” And capturing their reactions on camera. We have a #1 Grandpa mug for my FIL and beer bottles with customized labels for the rest of the family. 

    My girlfriends - I’m getting together with them separately (unfortunately) and I have a card to give each of them that says “Only the best of friends get promoted to auntie!”

    Extended family and friends - we are hoping to text them a picture of us with our dog and the US as an announcement. Haven’t decided about social media yet. Part of me doesn’t want to announce but we’ll see!


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  • jennifer_louisejennifer_louise member
    I have not told a single soul and do not plan to until after my next US (July 7th). We also don't do social media so I don't have to worry about that kind of announcement. 

    The first person I will tell is my sister. Then we'll have to tell DD (technically DS too, but he's 21 months and has no clue what's happening). I was thinking we would get some cake? That's my big idea, and basically as far as I've thought this out lol. After that we'll probably put DD and DS into "big sis/big bro" shirts and take a pic and send it out to our various families. 
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  • anniez85anniez85 member
    Has anyone else struggled with when to tell parents and which set gets told first. Unfortunately our parents live far away from each other I just don’t want my mom or his mom to feel like they are second best. Am I just over thinking this? 

    Hoping to give wifi photo frames to both sets of parents and my husbands grandmother (overseas) to make sure everyone stays connected once the baby is born and having it pre loaded with our ultrasound picture. 
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  • truman1091truman1091 member
    I love every single one of those ideas! They are all super cute! 
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  • jesofthenorthjesofthenorth member
    edited June 2022
    I could use some advice on this; I’m estranged from my parents and barely talk to my brother (although my SIL texts every once in a while). None of them attended our wedding, and they haven’t invited my husband and me to any family gathering in nearly three years. Still, a part of me feels like I should tell them directly at some point rather than have the news trickle down through word of mouth. I want to continue to be the bigger person and take the high road under these difficult circumstances.

    So what does that mean in this case? Do I keep the walls up or do I respectfully inform them of the news? It’s been bothering me so much since we found out I’m pregnant. What would YOU do?

    For the record, we’ve already told my husband’s immediate family and I’ve told my two best friends, just because I want support around me in case something goes awry.
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  • charleesangel9charleesangel9 member
    @jesele I’m sorry to hear things are tough between you and your family. If it’s been bothering you lately, then maybe that’s your sign that you want to tell them and be the bigger person. Stick to your values when making your decision - why is it important that you give them the news? And what would you be protecting if you kept the walls up? Most important, whatever you decide to do, be confident that it was the best decision for you at the time.  <3
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  • daffodil_shoedaffodil_shoe member
    @jesele this is completely me, but if I were estranged from my family and they didn’t attend my wedding, I wouldn’t make an effort to tell them. I also don’t know your whole situation though. So sorry that this is your situation 💞
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  • katj10katj10 member
    edited June 2022
    @jesele my husband is estranged from his mom and stepdad and they also did not attend our wedding (though they were invited). His estrangement might be even more "serious" than yours but hard to say of course since these situations are all unique and complicated. When we were pregnant with our first he had basically received no communication from his mom and stepdad despite attempts on his part to reach out (such as inviting them to our wedding) in nearly a decade. We have not told them about pregnancies (we have two kids) but we have sent them birth announcements in the mail. We basically still have them on our Christmas card/ mail announcements list so they will get things like that and know how to contact us if they do ever want to reach out, but at this point we don't put in effort beyond that. Sorry you're going through this. I hope there are silver linings and ways other people step up above and beyond to account for the hole the way people have in my husband's life.
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  • nuggetsmomma21nuggetsmomma21 member
    @jesele I’m in a somewhat similar situation. I have been estranged from my dad since 2013. I only see my mother and brother for a quick lunch or dinner meeting near holidays and birthdays. I decided to tell my mom and brother in person as I do have some contact with them even though it’s mostly one sided and just me reaching out. I still don’t speak to my dad so I didn’t tell him but I assume my mom did. It’s a tough situation to be in. I think for me my pregnancy will be a trial for whether they will be in my kid’s life. For example my mom has started to reach out to me since she found out and seems supportive so I will feel more comfortable with her being involved once the baby is here. My dad has been radio silence and I plan to keep it that way once baby is here. If you want your family involved once baby is here I would say you should reach out and tell them, but if you don’t want or need their involvement in babies life than I would say leave it alone! 
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  • preggo12323preggo12323 member
    I haven’t told anyone yet, but we have a plan.

    For my parents who live far away, I’m sending a card with “lotto” tickets that reveal we’re pregnant as they scratch them off.

    For my wife’s parents, we’re going to visit them this weekend. Her step dad loves puzzles, so got a custom puzzle revealing he’s going to be a grandpa. We always bring her grandma a bottle of wine when we visit, so got a custom label to put over the wine bottle that lets her know we’re pregnant.

    For our best friends, I’m going to send cards in the mail that has a scratch off secret reveal informing them they’re going to be aunts.

    For our closest friends, we’re having everyone over for a BBQ under the guise of a graduation party. I bought custom paper plates that say we’re pregnant on them. I’m going to plate their burgers and as they pick it up to eat, they’ll see the message! I’m curious to see who the first person will be to put it together..
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  • greenbean88greenbean88 member
    These were the cards in addition to specific homemade gifts for each person. (In order)
    - Brother/BIL got mugs that said Brother and was crossed out and replaced with Uncle (both are coffee fans)
    - SIL got a wine glass that said "Shit Just Got Real" and her favorite wine
    - My dad and step mom got books: "Pirates Don't Change Diapers" and "Read to Me Grandma".
    - My mom got a coffee mug that said the same as the card (though inside her card said "Due January 2023")
    - FIL got a box of Grandpa names that said "Choose Wisely" and MIL got a mug that said "Tiny Human Tamer"
    - Grandparents all have great grandkids already so they each got picture frames that say "One More to Adore"

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  • daffodil_shoedaffodil_shoe member
    @greenbean88 that card for your husband is hilarious!
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  • greenbean88greenbean88 member
    @daffodil_shoe he's been looking forward to that symptom the most 😂
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  • emilyelizabeth44emilyelizabeth44 member
    We told my in-laws on my husband’s 30th birthday by surprising them with a hidden message on his ice cream cake.

    The message read, “Happy Birthday Dad-to-be! Twins due January 2023!”

    We hid the message by taping a piece of paper with my name over the film cover and stuck the cake right in the freezer until everyone gathered around the table to sing.

    I began recording as soon I dropped the cake on the table and started off the birthday song. It was hilarious to see when each family member finally recognized the message and saw that we were having twins.

    If you can pull it off I highly recommend doing the same announcement!
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  • klamsb5klamsb5 member
    After SO, I told my oldest daughter (18) and she was excited. Then told my parents grandbaby #13 is on the way! Told my littles ones (11&8) when they got back from their dads with their favorite breakfast and a photo of the ultrasound on the table. It took them a minute to figure it out then they were thrilled! My SO told his family by sending ultrasound pic collage I made. His daughter (22) still isn't happy 😕 and his mom is sad bcuz she doesn't have much time left but very happy also. All the aunts, uncles, cousins are excited. Keeping it off social media for a few months still. We're both 40 and this wasn't planned but it's a great blessing! Everyone is excited now and looking forward to shopping, parties, and of course, baby. 

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  • thankfullyamamathankfullyamama member
    @L1C4gal okay now that is way too cute
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  • cc_clarkcc_clark member
    @klamsb5 From personal experience, I was 25 when my dads last child was born and also was initially pretty unhappy. But with time I got over myself and was happy for them when the baby arrived. It’s just a different relationship when there’s that much of a gap, more like a niece/nephew than a sister/brother, at least for me. Hope his daughter comes around sooner than later!
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