Hello everyone. I'm new here and I'm hoping to get some positive feedback. My husband and I miscarried our first pregnancy and we've struggled to concieve since (almost 2 years now). Needless to say, this experience has been nothing short of traumatic. Test after test, infertility drugs, failed IUI, trickle in some more bad news...I'm sure you get it.
Anyway, this post isn't about any test or procedure, it's about my mother. For the last several months I have found the space to provide her support as she struggles with tinnitus (multiple conversations a day.) During our conversations I usually kept her updated on where we stood with our infertility doctor or procedure...that's if I had any new information. So imagine my surprise when she cut me off from conversation because "my infertility talk was stressing her out and I just need to meditate and think positive thoughts." I feel rejected and invalidated. I'm feeling extremely resentful towards her and I hate that feeling. She's always been there for me, but not when I need her the most. Not to mention I'm a little peeved I allowed her to vent all those times, googled her condition, listened to testimonies to understand her struggle, only to end up here, without my moms support.
Needless to say, I just am frustrated that others truly don't understand what infertility is like. This is our lives. We eat certain ways, work out certain ways, live our life on standby,etc. Infertility isn't pretty so I'm not sure how I'm supposed to sugar coat my life just to make others feel better.
How are you all dealing with this?! Have you noticed people removing themselves from your life due to your struggles?