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Weekly randoms, week of 5/16

kboydbowmankboydbowman member
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Current pregnancy -
First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


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  • kboydbowmankboydbowman member
    @trapperkeeper87
    I need you to go respond on the group status 4 thread please
    Current pregnancy -
    First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

    Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


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  • millygolitelymillygolitely member
    Apparently my uterus is now the size of a soccer ball!! Wow. How does that fit in there. (24.5 weeks) Baby is a big eggplant floating around in a soccer ball. 
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  • pangolindromepangolindrome member
    edited May 2022
    I am a mighty huntress. I caught a live mouse today in our home, using a bowl and a plastic cutting board/sheet.
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  • laj0217laj0217 member
    We just ordered a king size bed and I am so freaking excited! I used to get annoyed when my step daughter would come snuggle in bed, mostly because she took my spot - totally fine when she takes her dads spot 😂 but now there should be enough space! And weeks when she’s not here, my pregnancy pillow will fit on the bed. I feel like such a grown up lol. 
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  • kboydbowmankboydbowman member
    You say that, but the king ends up not being that much bigger than the queen.  Two dogs and two adults and there's still not enough space lol
    Current pregnancy -
    First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

    Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


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  • whitta1015whitta1015 member
    @kboydbowman Exactly. We have a King and I'm like "How did we ever sleep in a Queen size bed at one point?"
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  • pangolindromepangolindrome member
    edited May 2022
    @laj0217 Lol yeah, that’s what I believed too. However, my husband usually has 1/4-1/3 of the bed on his side which rarely comes into usage because he snuggles over to where I am. As of doggo, she sometimes take that space.
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  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    Maybe it's because we go back in forth between the king and our queen, but our king is huge and spacious even with both kids in it. I'm sure that will change when we're in it constantly. 
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  • pangolindromepangolindrome member
    I walked in just now after walking doggo for our evening walk, and hubbs asked how I was doing. I just said “Pickle jar. Get.” So he scooped me a bunch of bread and butter pickles into a small bowl. I think we’ve found a way to curb my 6:30pm nausea and they’re so good 💕 
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  • laj0217laj0217 member
    Honestly, the queen is fine except when the kiddo is in it. Then someone’s butt is hanging half off. Hoping the king fixes that. 

    We also decided no tvs in the bedroom at the new house, so I’m sure wanting to hang out in our room will decrease lol. We’re setting up a huge playroom instead with comfy couches, the biggest tv in the house, and all the gaming systems. 

    Fingers crossed the king will work for just the two of us. We both tend to throw a leg to the side, which is the problem. We have to coordinate which way we’re facing now 😂
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  • mk2022xmk2022x member
    @laj0217 We have a TV in our room and I secretly love being able to watch trash tv curled up with my preggo pillow lol. However, I am constantly battling my husband on not putting a TV in the NURSERY. His claim is that I’ll spend so much time in there, having a tv would be nice. I follow his train of thought but UGH, the aesthetic! It’s a hard no from me lol. Our glider has a USB port so i
    can watch things on my phone and dinosaur iPad to my hearts content haha
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  • trapperkeeper87trapperkeeper87 member
    @mk2022x Keep the TV out of the nursery! I would prop my phone or tablet up on the edge of the crib and watch a show on YouTube while my daughter was nursing or napping on me, and that worked perfectly. No good can come of having the TV in there.
    DD 10/2019
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  • laj0217laj0217 member
    @mk2022x we had a tv on the wall at our old house. However, the doctor suggested not watching tv in bed to help with my husbands sleep. He has terrible insomnia sometimes. And, while we’ve been moving, setting up the tvs have been low on the list and we’ve both slept way better. So, we’ll give it a go, but we may cave lol. 
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  • newbabymama27newbabymama27 member
    @mk2022x I’m one of those people with insomnia ever since I was like 20 and like @laj0217 said, have to keep the TV out of the bedroom. We also need to move my home office setup once this baby comes and our room is large and a decent option, but the thought of laying in my bed and having to look at my work stuff is giving me anxiety already lol. I want 100% separation from everything not sleep related. I guess except books, I’ll keep those nearby sometimes :) 
    Huge no to the TV in the nursery from me. Babies get sooo distracted and stimulated by any bright lights so the last thing you want in the middle of the night is having a baby eat and then start partying because they see the fun lights on the TV. Phone is okay because it’s discrete at least, but I know I was so brain dead in the middle of the night that I didn’t even care to open my eyes to check my phone. 
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  • kboydbowmankboydbowman member
    Free advice from your friendly neighborhood mental health professional on sleep hygiene - beds should ONLY be for sleeping and sex.  Anything else and your brain gets confused, starts to dissociate it from sleep, and you're more likely to have problems with insomnia.  If you can't sleep, get up and go do something else until you feel ready to lay down again, but do not read/TV/phone in bed.
    Current pregnancy -
    First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

    Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


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  • trapperkeeper87trapperkeeper87 member
    @newbabymama27 100% agreed to middle of the night and no screens, at all. I would go and nurse and then come back to bed. I didn't need the distraction to stay awake (I'd just tap my foot or have a tiny, super dim globe light to keep focused on), and screens at sleep time are the worst idea. I have very strong opinions on that.
    DD 10/2019
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  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    @mk2022x as someone who grew up sharing a room with her sister and having a TV in our room because she couldn't sleep without it running all night long. I am strongly against having a TV in a room that's not the living room or rec room. 
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  • whitta1015whitta1015 member
    To piggy back on @newbabymama27's advice....you also don't necessarily need to change them every single time they wake in the middle of the night. You will know if they truly need it or not. Often times, it wakes them up even more. 
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  • laj0217laj0217 member
    @kboydbowman as a fellow mh professional, I shared that advice early in our relationship. However, he heard it when the doctor said it 🤪 I do like to read in bed, though, so I’m guilty of not following my own advice!
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  • pangolindromepangolindrome member
    edited May 2022
    We have a TV in the bedroom because most new RVs come with TVs in there, but we only use it if we want to snuggle while laying down - usually because I'm too tired to sit up, maybe once a month - and it is a 100% guarantee that we will both be asleep within an hour. For me, it's usually more like 10-20 minutes.
    It also confuses the bits out of our doggo when we watch TV in bed because she likes her routines, and her routines include curling up on my husband/us while we watch TV in the living room OR having us throw a toy for her until she has worked off any anxious energy not yet spent.

    I'll third the "beds are for sex and sleep" although I've been struggling not to go to Cheezburger and look at cute cat memes before bed. I /know/ I'll sleep better if all I do is go to sleep, and I get an extra 10-40 minutes of sleep if I don't... so I really need to get back to it.
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  • trapperkeeper87trapperkeeper87 member
    @jhysmath Ugh. Same! And there was one summer I woke up to get either watching Shrek or BioDome every single morning. No exaggeration.

    @whitta1015 That one took me too long to figure out. Poop diapers and excessively soggy diapers are the only ones needing to be changed. Also, if you use Aquaphor on their bum overnight, you decrease the incidence of diaper rash if they poop. And sizing up a size in diapers for overnight helps immensely!
    DD 10/2019
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  • kboydbowmankboydbowman member
    @laj0217
    I don't always practice what I preach either, but I try to limit myself to 15 minutes of FB scrolling or 1-2 chapters of a book while laying in bed (and no overhead lights, nightstand lamp only).
    Current pregnancy -
    First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

    Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


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  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    So I did a zoom call with a doula that would be close to the hospital I will likely deliver at in NY. She seemed pretty awesome she did a bunch of research for me about vba2c and I'm feeling good about her. She works with a company so they'll easily take our fsa once it comes to hiring. I'm feeling a little bit better about delivering in a different state as well as a city I've never been too. I'm really anxious for it to be next Thursday so I can talk to my midwife that used to work in that city and find out more info, hopefully she supports giving birth there so I don't have to research buffalo more. 
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  • kboydbowmankboydbowman member
    @jhysmath
    as a former Buffalonian, I'm nosy - which hospital is it going to likely be?  Sisters?
    Current pregnancy -
    First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

    Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


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  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    @kboydbowman I'm hoping to actually go to Rochester instead of Buffalo. We'll see what the midwife says about her old stomping grounds. 
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  • newbabymama27newbabymama27 member
    @kboydbowman that’s so sweet! And what a beautiful painting ❤️
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  • maple1422maple1422 member
    @kboydbowman what an amazing surprise! It’s lovely!
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  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    @kboydbowman what a beautiful keepsake
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  • pangolindromepangolindrome member
    @kboydbowman That is so sweet and beautiful! Also, that might be one of the most French mental images I can conjure up.
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  • lucyg00cylucyg00cy member
    @kboydbowman that’s beautiful, she’s so talented  
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  • kboydbowmankboydbowman member
    @pangolindrome
    isn't it just?  She worked on a cruise ship as a glassblower for awhile and met her husband, who was doing something else artsy, they fell in love, and she moved with him to France where his family runs a small vineyard/winery.  Super cute story.
    Current pregnancy -
    First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

    Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


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  • pangolindromepangolindrome member
    @kboydbowman So cute and SO FRENCH <3 makes me want to watch some French slice-of-life movies again <3
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  • foreveronyoursideforeveronyourside member
    @kboydbowman love that painting. Wow. What a treasure to hang onto. 

    Also want to echo the sentiments about overnight feeds and diapers. My son leaked through enough outfits and diapers that he usually had a fresh diaper and outfit and swaddle a night. Wasn’t going to change him if he wasn’t excessively soggy (Huggies overnights are my favorite thing ever) if I could get away with it, I wouldn’t even unswaddle him to nurse and stuck him immediately back in bassinet after a feed. Man, I’m kinda dreading the exhaustion again. 
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  • laj0217laj0217 member
    @newbabymama27 of course you should stay!!
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  • pangolindromepangolindrome member
    edited May 2022
    @newbabymama27 I went the other way, I thought I'd give birth in October and then was dated for September (because I'm confused about how it's all counted) and you should definitely stay with us. Feel free to double dip if you feel so inclined. I do. I would miss you <3
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