@kboydbowman I think Facebook would be easier and seems a little more secure. I’ve been apart of the Bump private groups and they are super glitchy and I feel as though cumbersome to access.
I’ve stayed out of these convos because I don’t have much to add. I’m not sure what I would do regarding the move 🤔 I do appreciate reading others thoughts on the pros/cons of different situations as it will help me make my final decision …
I’m just going to throw this out there, feel free to shut the idea down… but have we considered another platform, like Slack? The channels are perfect for this type of stuff, it’s not connected to more personal Facebook, people can do variations of names for privacy concerns, and it would all still be private. The benefit over the Bump would be it has a WAY more sophisticated interface and a super easy app. For people who haven’t used it, it’s a quick study. Pictures, gifs, and memes and all that fun stuff is on there too!
In my previous BMB a few people were selected as admin of the private group & everyone asked to join, then there was a discussion inside the private group as to whether the person was known or not. I like the methodology as long as we follow what @jhysmath & @kboydbowman say and that it’s about making sure you’re a real person. It means it’s not about a love it count, but an actual conversation about that person.
I was not accepted into my previous BMB private group because I “didn’t offer enough support to the other ladies” even though I felt I’d been as present and supportive as I could at the time and that really hurt. I was in a really not great space at the time with my relationship & mental health, and I had been doing my best.
For me personally I would prefer Facebook because the app isn’t available outside the US and I have to use this through a browser on my phone, with an ad between every comment. It’s really hard to use. I’m also back working in the office so I can’t use it on my computer, and we don’t have a laptop or computer at home (I will be leaving it at work now that I’m not working from home anymore)
@runsonanxiety As the "senior" (age-wise) of the group, I really, really don't want to have to pick up and learn an additional platform. FB is literally the only social media stuff I do and I really don't want to do anymore. No twitter, no snapchat, no tiktok. And yes, I walked uphill both ways barefoot in the snow to get to school.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@runsonanxiety I actually really like the Slack idea! Slack is so easy and not at all glitchy, plus it eliminates the privacy concerns. Great suggestion, even if that’s not what the group ends up choosing
again, I personally have no opinion (sorry, I know that doesn’t help). I’m not a big FB user but I have one, so whatever the group decides as best is fine with me.
I still have a fb, but I removed the fb app on my phone because I have poor self control. I put my phone away in the evenings, so I can't get sucked in. I hated how much time was disappearing. It's too easy for me to get pulled into rabbitholes on that platform. Now I have to make the intention to log into fb if I'm going to check it out. I like how I can come onto the bump and it's focused. I'd still join a fb group, because I really do value the community being built here and the support y'all ladies have been. The bump would be my first choice though. I'm not opposed to Slack if it's focused like this board is. I'm sure I could figure it out.
@wiseh what a load of crap! I'm so sorry you had that experience, it sounds like there were some really unkind folks in your previous group. I think this group is unlikely to behave that way, just based on what I've seen so far.
I think Slack could be a great option, thanks for bringing up the suggestion @runsonanxiety! But I'm okay with any outcome, as I've already said.
First time mom-to-be, due 9/25/22
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
I find myself reading most of the threads daily, but I don't have much to contribute as a FTM. So I worry about the "likes" thing but of course if that's what's best for the rest of the group I would be on board. Slack or MS Teams also works for me.
@babez_mom if you're recognizable as participating occasionally, you're good. I definitely recognize you.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
Facebook would be my preference since I’m on there anyway, but I’m flexible. I’ve learned so much and felt so supported here that it would be good to keep it going however it ends up.
I’m open to Facebook or Slack as a first option- I hadn’t even thought of Slack so very happy it’s been brought up!
I don’t mind Bump if that’s best for the majority, but it’s definitely not as great as other options we have in terms of the app itself. I never get any notifications or a heads up when people reply to me so I’ve found it tough to make sure I acknowledge the responses and don’t want to leave anyone hanging on a reply. Occasionally the little yellow reminders will pop up about new comments, but that happens maybe 1x week which is annoying. I try to not have personal sites on my laptop for work which is the only computer I do have right now so being able to use the Facebook or slack app would be awesome since I can use that from my phone. The slack gifs and little emoji are also just so fun to toss into the threads.
Re: Group Status - part 2
I was not accepted into my previous BMB private group because I “didn’t offer enough support to the other ladies” even though I felt I’d been as present and supportive as I could at the time and that really hurt. I was in a really not great space at the time with my relationship & mental health, and I had been doing my best.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
again, I personally have no opinion (sorry, I know that doesn’t help). I’m not a big FB user but I have one, so whatever the group decides as best is fine with me.
I think Slack could be a great option, thanks for bringing up the suggestion @runsonanxiety! But I'm okay with any outcome, as I've already said.
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.