New here. Need some support

My dh and I have ttc for over 10 years. He had a vasectomy long ago and reversal didn’t work. He’s fine with no babies but I’m sad. Im now ama but my reserves are good. I’m struggling with my dh inability to see how sad I am. He doesn’t understand. We’ve been starting a ED adoption but I think my dh is just checked out. Not sure how to resolve this. It’s a big fat elephant in our marriage