So, this has been quite the Monday. Over the weekend, our community suffered a tragic loss with a 15 year old girl getting killed after a one vehicle accident. The driver is 16 and a former student of mine... the victims brother was also in the car and another former student was also invovled. It is devestating to hear everything regarding this accident and to see young adults navigating a huge loss. While I knew two out of the four involved, I couldn't help thinking about my own child in 15-16 years having their life taken away or torn apart. If you're the praying type, our community, this particular family, and everyone else involved could use them - if you're not, send all the good vibes our way please.
@brittanynmorris I'm so so sorry, that's absolutely heartbreaking. A similar thing happened when I was in high school to my classmates. It's impossible to figure out, emotionally, at that age. Those poor kids. I do the same thing, imagine my daughter's going through such trauma and it breaks me inside.
@starkette You're right, it is breaking me apart. I couldn't imagine those families involved... Also, I'm sorry to hear that it happened when you were high school. It seems pretty common sadly that someone has a similar experience... I couldn't imagine what you went through!
@brittanynmorris ugh, I'm so so sorry to hear this... it is absolutely tragic. Something similar happened to an extended relative of mine a few years ago... 3 teenagers in a car and only the driver survived. Sending positive vibes to the family during this difficult time.
@brittanynmorris I’m keeping you all in my prayers! Like you said, it’s hard putting yourself in the shoes of her family. I couldn’t imagine the sadness and loss they have to navigate. It would be impossible. Sending you love during this very difficult time.
@brittanynmorris I am so sorry. My cousin was in a devastating car accident with a drunk driver at like 1 in the afternoon her first semester freshmen year of college and almost died. Her best friend was killed. It was awful and something that doesn’t go away, even 10 years later. Praying for the family, friends and community. ♥️
I officially broke out the maternity clothes today, I kind of forgot what I had from last pregnancy so that was fun, it was like shopping haha.
Today is my daughter’s cake smash and I can’t believe she’s almost 1. I’m like woah, slow down! Between my growing belly and her turning 1, it’s starting to get very real that I’m about to have 2 under 2 😳
@and_peggy thank you, that is reassuring coming from a pro ❤️ 5 in 6 is some serious mom-ing! My brain tells me I will be fine and then my body reminds me of how tired I am 😂
@twizzleraddict1 you just get all the tired out of the way at once. I wish mine were closer (2.5 years and 3 years apart… this one will be 18 months from big bro)) just because when the finale finally sleeps through the night I am throwing myself a freaking party. I won’t have to go back and do the newborn stage again. 🤣
@twizzleraddict1 definitely not a pro. Just an impulsive decision maker 😆 having ONE is hard. And I hate mom Olympics.
Just be reassured that you’ll make it work because you don’t have another choice. You figure out how to juggle and you’ll land in a new routine. 💜 It’s tough but moms are amazing!
Crying because I just found a school paper from my 10 yo where he had to write what he would do if he found a pot of gold...He wrote that he would use it to buy stuff to help people in Ukraine because they are having a hard time and how he wants wars to stop and peace around the world!
Yeah, I don’t think you can have a BFP for a December due date until the middle of the month. Still weird to see all these BMBs after ours, once 2nd tri starts time starts going so much faster.
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
I won the local swap group lottery today. Free Bugaboo Cameleon 3 stroller with all the fixings and a wheeled board for my son. I’m so freaking excited 😆
wow!! That is a really nice stroller to give away for free!! @lmaplejc People in my local group are like, I have half a pack of diapers that my baby grew out of, anyone wanna switch sizes with me? 😆
@lmaplejc Ahh that's awesome! I got a super cheap, hardly used bugaboo for DD1 from my local swap group. It lasted a long time. It was by far my favorite stroller. So good.
@starkette oh that’s good to hear! Wasn’t sure if it’s great or mostly hype. A stroller isn’t something I’d spend a lot on so I’d never have gotten a Bugaboo unless on swap.
I got a bag of books today @lmaplejc that was literally all trash. She was so excited too.. I felt bad and let her keep 4 that are maybe okay but not great... after we tape the shit out of them 😅.
It was brought to my attention that a couple things I have said could have rubbed people the wrong way, and I wanted to make that right. I don’t know who the individuals may be, but this is for anyone who feels they need to hear this.
The first thing mentioned was how I said I didn’t know how active I would be after my friends and family knew (and the first trimester was over) and that everyone could proceed into a private chat however majority preferred. This did not mean that I no longer wanted to be involved or check in. I didn’t want anyone to feel as though I had abandoned them, because I no longer am checking threads and reading comments multiple times a day, like I did early on. (With that said there has been times I felt very overwhelmed by the bump and the amount I felt like participating varied as I got used to it.) It’s now more realistic for me to check in every few days. That lets me balance in life and feel less overwhelmed. I don’t feel important enough to base any of the private group decisions around. This doesn’t mean I don’t care to stay in the circle if support. It can be hard for me to get too close to people when there’s an end in sight (our babies’ arrival,) because of separation anxiety as well. I don’t want anyone to feel like I’m just here while it’s good for me. I want to participate even when it can’t be as often. The support you all provide means a lot.
Another thing I am reminded I need to work on is humility. I truly only try to offer advice/perspective (mostly that I’ve heard from other moms or apply to other areas in life,) that I think could possibly be helpful. In no way am I trying to be controlling, bossy, or condescending. I try to only offer my perspective when someone asks for advice, but it’s only one perspective. I mean for it to be a take it or leave it sort of thing. I didn’t intend for that to come off as me being a know it all or condescending. I have a great deal to learn, and would like to add I don’t see myself as better or more qualified than any other mom to be. As I am a first time mom and in my young 20’s, I feel as though I’m in a minority here and almost have felt moments I had to prove myself before in order to not get unsolicited advice. (I’m sure that was more in my head.) I love helping people so much, but realize it may not yet be an area I can offer much help, because years of research, listening to moms’ recommendations, and excitement about specific baby/mom products doesn’t replace experience. I may often have a lot of words to say, but that doesn’t mean I’m always good with words. I love to hear your perspectives too.
I apologize if anything I have said bothered anyone. I have lots of room to grow. Please know that you can approach me if I say anything you feel could be seen negatively. I’m an HSP and empath, so I care what you think and that I don’t hurt feelings. Sometimes I put walls around that sensitivity as a protective mechanism. I hope this clarifies things that may have bothered anyone. I don’t want to say anything that rubs people the wrong way. I’ll try to do better at my type of participation. Thank you for listening to my 2am vent/clarification/apology if you got this far.💕
@meagan822 I think I must have missed something. Was this brought up in another thread?
About there being an end in sight after the babies are born: I still communicate with the moms on my first BMB daily. It’s so valuable to have a community that is going through the same steps at the same time. Each stage of baby’s development and then toddlerhood is so different and so many questions and concerns come up. I found my first group way more valuable (and friendships tightened) once DS arrived since postpartum is when you need the most support. I hope you find continued value in the group once these babies arrive.
@meagan822 try not to think of it as "an end in sight", I also still talk to my previous bmb multiple times a week and even more when our babies were younger. We even send gifts to each other from the group when people are struggling. Sometimes it's because of a loss, sometimes a sick kid, sometimes just a particularly hard day. When my daughter was in the hospital my group send a 75$ gift card so I could get food delivered to the hospital.
@meagan822 not sure what was said, but people come and go in these groups, it’s just how it goes. I highly doubt anyone is taking it personally if you participate less.
Also, I’m still in a FB group with people from my son’s BMB in 2013 and we are still a very tight knit group. We’ve had several in person get togethers, we’ve been there for each other through divorces, loss, cancer, you name it. After my losses I met so many wonderful ladies in the TTCAL group, several of whom I still talk to every day. They have been a life saver for me many times over. So don’t discount the relationships that you can form in these groups.
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@Meagan0528 I will just echo what others have said, I still talk daily with my last BMB (our babies are about to turn 1) and while we definitely talk about our children, we also talk about SO much more than that and have become best friends and a great support system for each other. If you don’t want there to be an “end”, there doesn’t have to be! 😊
Re: 2/28 Weekly Randoms
My first 2 are 15 months apart. Then 18 months, 18 months and will have a 2 year gap.
So I’ve had 2 under 2, 3 under 3, 4 in 4, and 5 in 6. The initial adjustment can be tough but you’ll still b on baby mode which is helpful.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
Just be reassured that you’ll make it work because you don’t have another choice. You figure out how to juggle and you’ll land in a new routine. 💜 It’s tough but moms are amazing!
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022