@channas20 I would call back and ask when it is standard for them. My OB’s office initially offered me my first ultrasound appt. Closer to 10.5 weeks. But that was just because they are so busy. Since I’m a second time pregnancy with the same OB they offered to reach out to the doctor and then called me back to offer me an 8 week appointment. I know from my last experience that 8 weeks is their standard, but they are just busy. Since it’s your first time, go ahead and call back to just see what is up. 8 -10 weeks seems fairly standard for a transvaginal ultrasound - at least the US.
I didn’t get stretch marks with my first pregnancy- so I can’t help you there. But I’m more worried about it now because I heard you can get much bigger with your 2nd pregnancy. So I’d also like to know if anyone has a stretch mark cream or regimen.
I’m not sure if it actually helped with stretch marks as a definitely did still get some, but I do remember my skin getting itchy at times (probably bc of stretching) and it helped with that, so that was enough for me. 😂
I read somewhere that stretch marks are genetic and nothing can really prevent them (where's the dermatologist, I'd like to know if that's true) my second was 10lbs and I have more than enough stretch marks from her. I'm hoping this one is smaller she just uses her sisters stretch marks 😂
@jhysmath I'm desperately hoping my next kid uses my daughter's stretch marks too! 🤣 She settled in, head down, on my left side right around 7.5 months, so most of them are worst on that side. I actually have a weird spot on my right (about 1.5"x1.5") that was spared. Everywhere else (including my single tattoo) was not so lucky.
I second what @jhysmath said. I've also always heard they are genetic, and you're just gonna get them if you're gonna get them. I used the Burt's Bee's Belly Butter with my first pregnancy, and I don't have stretch marks, but my sister and mom also didn't have them, so I'm not sure that it had anything to do with the cream.
Ok, so did anyone who has already had multiple kids/pregnancies find that they didn’t get stretch marks the first time and did them the 2nd? Or did you get them from the first time you were pregnant?
I used multiple products religiously my first pregnancy and still got stretch marks. And honestly I hardly gained any weight at all, so I agree that it’s probably just genetic and if you’re going to get them, you’re going to get them. They were confined to my lower abdomen and have faded some.
I got like maybe 2 with my first but they were minimal and went away quickly. Then my second baby was 2 lbs bigger at birth and the stretch marks are prevalent!
My mom got them and my sister got them with her second, too. So definitely in my genes!
Either way, I just used lubriderm lotion on my belly the whole time because the stretching was always itchy with the ever-changing skin.
@magnolia209 I second what @mokay19 said. My first was almost 3lbs lighter so yeah didn't get as many with her, but with my second they were really prevalent.
@laj0217 I just told my 4 year old daughter and our family a couple of days ago and I'm 9+1. I realize that's a little early for some people, but our family is super close (My MIL babysits my daughter daily, we all eat lunch together every Sunday, see each other multiple times a week, etc.), so I knew it would get talked about in front of her anyways. She was a lot less interested than I thought. She keeps telling me what she wants to name the baby but other than that, she doesn't really care. I understand the hesitancy of having to tell her about a MC, but I am prepared for that talk if it has to happen. She's very smart and knows all about Jesus and Heaven (just our beliefs), so she will understand.
@laj0217 We’re waiting a bit because our 3 year old doesn’t really get the concept of things being so far away (everything is tomorrow or yesterday). So we’re careful about talking about things that are too far out. But, our good friend is 9 months pregnant and my son is very excited about Vicky having a baby in her belly and that her son, will soon have a brother. My son was even running around trying to stick his belly out and saying he had a baby in there and thought it was hilarious. So, I actually think he’ll get it. Vicky is due at the end of February which times up nicely with the end of my 1st trimester. I think that after he sees her baby (he likes babies a lot) we’ll tell him. I’ll probably have a decent bump by then so we can show him and have him “watch the baby grow”.
@laj0217 We told our boys last weekend and I was 7-8ish weeks, unconfirmed. I wanted to wait, but my husband spilled the beans to his parents and they lack a filter and are not shy about talking about things that ought not to be. They also have a habit of dropping in unannounced randomly. We didn't want to risk the boys finding out by accident from someone else, so we told them. I'm prepared to have the conversation with them if anything adverse were to happen - we have had that talk before with my SIL's late term loss. We're comfortable in our faith and feel that what happens to our family can be handled as a family.
@mnmomma84 I think part of my concern is that my step daughter isn’t with us all of the time. So, it would probably be a conversation we have on our weekend, but then her mom has deal with the fallout. Which seems unfair to mom, but also makes it hard for us to steer the narrative. Also, my husband is an atheist, I’m Catholic, and her mom is Protestant. So, the religion angle doesn’t work for us so much lol.
We told our two year old but he doesn’t really understand yet. We haven’t officially told family but MIL lives locally and helps watch our son sometimes. My husband let it slip that I’ve been really nauseous lately so she’s figured it out. My mom (who isn’t local to us) always throws a fit when MIL finds things out first, so I just know she’s going to be petty about it. When we told her I was pregnant with my son she cried for hours over the phone about how we clearly don’t want her to be part of his life because we told MIL over the phone minutes before we called her. We originally didn’t want to say anything until after we got the NIPT results back but now I’m afraid we are going to have to do it after our ultrasound next week in hopes of minimizing the damage.
@beccaneu that’s stinks that the reaction will be about her! I wish that wasn’t the case for you. Since your MIL is around a lot maybe you can say she suspected or guessed? Don’t know if your mom would me more okay with that.
@beccaneu ummm....I dont think you can win this one. Sounds like no matter what you do, your mom is gonna throw a fit one way or another. But also, it's not your job to make her happy and your not purposefully trying to hurt her so you've done what you can do and how she responds is all on her.
@beccaneu I’m so sorry you have that added stress in your life! Some people can’t help but make it all about them- but it really hurts when that person is your mother. Rip that bandaid off whenever you see fit and then go back to enjoying this time with the rest of your family. Your mother’s emotions aren’t your responsibility
Thank you all. I know my mom’s feelings about things aren’t my responsibility and really there’s nothing to be done about it now. I just hate that it’s turned something that should be a happy announcement into a stressful one where there is just no way to win.
Not necessarily perks but I recently discovered Babylist as a registry. It’s great because you can link any website to the list so you can have department store items, Etsy, direct brand websites, etc. all on one registry!
@costaricamom I love BabyList! I’m only keeping it this time to keep track of new things I want but definitely used it last time and it made things so easy.
Word of advice to still start registries at other places that have perks and completion coupons. You can link those to your BabyList and see things in one place but still get the perks of the other places 😉
Hi I’m not sure if this should go here or the Great Big Question thread. I had my first appt last week and everything looked good. I gave a urine sample and this weekend my doc said it showed GBS (Group B Strep). She ordered me oral antibiotics and also said I would need an IV of antibiotics while in labor.
I’ve been doing some reading and it seems like 25%(ish) of pregnant people are GBS positive and need an IV in labor. Any STM’s have to do this? Would you care to share your experience? All I’m reading is the terrible things that can happen if you pass along GBS during labor 😐
@lilbean18 it’s totally normal!! I wasn’t positive my first pregnancy, but there were plenty of moms in my last bump group (and friends in real life) that tested positive and it’s just a simple iv of antibiotics. If you have any interest in an epidural you’re usually hooked up to an iv early on in the hospital anyway. I’m sure there will be other moms here who’ve tested positive before and can share their experiences with you, but don’t stress!
@theblondebump thank you! That’s really good to know you know other women that have had it. Logically I know this to be true, it’s just my first go around, and like of course I went down the Google rabbit hole…I def plan to get an epidural so good to know it can maybe all happen at once!
@lilbean18 I didn't realize they tested this early and could do so with a urine sample. Around 36 weeks they usually test with a swab and I would much prefer just having to pee in a cup.
That said, I have read some articles on healing your gut to get rid of the strep b before delivery.
Here's a link to evidenced based birth with lots of information. There is a tiny bit about probiotics to help, but I can't find the article I read about healing the gut in another way.
It won't let me paste the link, so if you Google evidenced based birth and gbs you'll get it.
@lilbean18 It's definitely normal and not a big deal! Doctors usually test with a swab towards the end of your pregnancy anyways. I was positive with my first and just had to get an IV with antibiotics during labor. They just hooked it up at the same time as my Pitocin.
@lilbean20 I was positive with my first delivery and negative with my second. It’s something that can come and go. I had an epidural and was induced so I was already on IV and it wasn’t a big deal. But the antibiotics do burn a bit so you can ask them to give you saline with it. I also gave little one probiotics and took them myself to restore good gut bacteria. Hope this helps!
My boobs have started to grow. I'm normally a barely b-cup and already my bras are tight and sports bras especially are uncomfortable. I workout daily, so that's a pretty major issue for me. It seems too soon to buy maternity bras (7 weeks). Anyone have any advice on how to get through the transition? I really don't want to spend a ton of money on bras as things continue to grow. Are there any adjustable bras that would grow with me (sports and regular)?
Hello, does anyone know if cassava flour and/or tapioca flour is safe while pregnant? Has anyone eaten it while pregnant before and been fine? When I google it, I get mixed reviews. Some say the flour is fine but the root is dangerous. I ate some cassava chips and kinda freaking out now.
Hi @pyra007 and welcome. Please make sure to stop by the introduction therad and introduce yourself.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@pyra007 I have no idea what those things are so maybe I’m not the best to help, but I would say you are probably okay with the chips you’ve eaten. If something was poisonous to your baby you would know already (like don’t binge drink while pregnant, etc.) If it will cause you anxiety, maybe avoid it for now and bring it up to your doctor when you meet next.
Tapioca flour is often used in gluten free foods so I'd assume it's ok. 3 of my sisters eat gluten free and 2 of them have had babies and I've never heard anything about it. I think its mostly if you're eating the root and it's not proper cooked that you'd have a problem.
Re: Ask a STM+ thread
Not everyone gets them, but if you're one who is going to, you can't really prevent them.
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My mom got them and my sister got them with her second, too. So definitely in my genes!
We told our boys last weekend and I was 7-8ish weeks, unconfirmed. I wanted to wait, but my husband spilled the beans to his parents and they lack a filter and are not shy about talking about things that ought not to be. They also have a habit of dropping in unannounced randomly. We didn't want to risk the boys finding out by accident from someone else, so we told them. I'm prepared to have the conversation with them if anything adverse were to happen - we have had that talk before with my SIL's late term loss. We're comfortable in our faith and feel that what happens to our family can be handled as a family.
Word of advice to still start registries at other places that have perks and completion coupons. You can link those to your BabyList and see things in one place but still get the perks of the other places 😉
That said, I have read some articles on healing your gut to get rid of the strep b before delivery.
Here's a link to evidenced based birth with lots of information. There is a tiny bit about probiotics to help, but I can't find the article I read about healing the gut in another way.
It won't let me paste the link, so if you Google evidenced based birth and gbs you'll get it.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.