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kboydbowman · January 2022

Do you hate Encanto?
Do you think Nickelback is amazing?

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kboydbowman · January 2022

Am I the only one who *hasn't* seen Encanto yet?

whitta1015 · January 2022

@kboydbowman I haven't seen Encanto either! My 4 year old isn't big into movies, she'd rather watch the same shows a million times over. I tried getting her to watch it the other day after all the hype I've read, but she wasn't having it.

laj0217 · January 2022

I liked Encanto. I found it more relatable for a Disney movie. Also from a social work perspective it was interesting that the “villain” was generational trauma. That being said I like most disney movies, so best to form your own opinion lol.

magnolia209 · January 2022

@whitta1015 We just recently watched Encanto in bit and pieces. In my opinion, it is not a little kids movie. My 3 year old was scared and not into it. Like your kid, he much prefers dumb shows on repeat! We’re trying to get him into movies but they all have dark scary parts that I don’t feel like he’s quite ready for. That being said, he did get into Frozen once Olaf was introduced. He’s super scared of Ratatouille (they try to kill the rat a lot) and he was pretty hesitant with Encanto (which is very dark). He’s liking Luca but we haven’t finished and there are still scary parts.

jhysmath · January 2022

@whitta1015 I took my 1 and 3 year old to a pretty much empty theater (yay small town and pandemic) to watch it. They were engaged for about half of it then started running around so I gave them a phone to watch dumb shows. Since December we've seen it in its entirety maybe 4 times. We listen to the music often and my 3 year old says she's going to be strong like Louisa when she gets bigger. They pretty much watch movies like my husband used to when drunk, fast forward to your favorite parts and sing along.

theblondebump · January 2022

I loved Encanto! I care more about the music than anything else in Disney movies though. I could listen to the sound track on repeat.

jamiesc58 · January 2022

@kboydbowman I haven’t seen it yet either. I am going to have to eventually because facebook is filled with memes about it that I don’t even get lol.

kboydbowman · January 2022

@jamiesc58 same! I want to "get it!"

whitta1015 · January 2022

@magnolia209 & @jhysmath We took her to the movie theater when Paw Patrol was out and she loved that. I wanted to take her to see the Clifford movie but we missed it. She liked the experience because she loves popcorn, candy, and icees. haha But at home, she'd much rather watch Ben & Holly, Bluey, Paw Patrol, etc.
The other day she said, "I think its about time I get a tv for my room"

And while I'm opposed to the idea, I do dream about the day where I'll have my TV back to myself!

jhysmath · January 2022

@whitta1015 my oldest loves Ben & Holly it drives me crazy because Mrs. Rabbits voice is in it and I never know if it's peppa or that show lol. Also I'll watch bluey any day, I wish my kids liked it as much as I do.

Eta we got mini bags of microwave popcorn and when we watch a movie we pull out the couch bed she have popcorn, it makes it special and the 3 year old has started asking if we can watch a movie so this can happen.

whitta1015 · January 2022

@jhysmath Yeah, Bluey is about the only one I like watching. But it makes me feel like I'm a crappy mom hahaha. Ben & Holly makes me lose my freaking mind. There are 2 seasons on Netflix and she has watched those 2 seasons 300 times.

bumptink · January 2022

Ohhhh I love some Encanto!!! I make my toddler watch it more often than she wants to

Also hubs is OBSESSED with some Nickleback, and I also must admit that I am a fan too. They have some "bops" as my high schoolers would say!

whitta1015 · January 2022

@bumptink Hahaha that just cracked me up. Is "bops" the new word?

theblondebump · January 2022

We currently don’t let DD watch screens of any kind (tv, iPad, phones, etc) except for on an airplane, but I know this will DEF end when we have a newborn lol. It will just be survival mode.

trapperkeeper87 · January 2022

theblondebump said:

We currently don’t let DD watch screens of any kind (tv, iPad, phones, etc) except for on an airplane, but I know this will DEF end when we have a newborn lol. It will just be survival mode.

Most doctors don't recommend screens before two years, so that's a really good practice! We started around 14 months or so, and only things like Daniel Tiger.

theblondebump · January 2022

@trapperkeeper87 that was our goal! Not until 2. But she’ll be 17 months when this baby comes so we may have to cave earlier than planned lol.

trapperkeeper87 · January 2022

@theblondebump Honestly, as long as you make smart decisions on the shows they watch the majority of the time, there is nothing wrong with screens (in my opinion).

magnolia209 · January 2022

@theblondebump @trapperkeeper87 We started a bit earlier than 1 years old out of desperation as our kid woke up at 5am every freaking day. But in the beginning we were super selective and only put on gentle musical things. And, only early in the morning. All that happened was my son started singing really early (before he could talk). Then he talked really early. He knew his ABCs early. He’s still super advanced verbally. I’m not advocating for screen time that young. Just know, when you have to you have to and if you control carefully what your kid watches it can have a good influence.

trapperkeeper87 · January 2022

@magnolia209 Yes! I honestly think that programming has gotten a million times better than even 20 years ago (in educational value) and that screens aren't really all that bad when used in moderation and with supervision. It's when you place your kids in front of a chaotic mess all day every day that I begin to silently judge. 🤫

theblondebump · January 2022

I have read that babies/toddlers aren't capable of absorbing any educational value from screens until after 18 months, before then they are just entertained by the bright lights and colors but I dno 🤷🏼‍♀️ I also try to avoid because I’ve read it can affect sleep which I believe because I know that I have trouble sleeping if I am hanging on my phone before bed haha so I can see it doing the same for a baby and napping or sleeping. I find it easy to avoid screens now when I only have one baby to entertain and I think she gets far more out of interacting with me instead of a screen, but when there’s another baby to take care of, that’ll be a whole other ballgame! The real question is will I be able to let DD watch a screen without exposing the new baby to the screens too? Who knows.

trapperkeeper87 · January 2022

@theblondebump I 100% disagree that they can't absorb anything before 18 months because I saw my daughter putting Daniel Tiger things into practice before then; every child is different.

But yes, if you have the TV going right up to a sleep time, you're probably going to have issues. Once a kid is firmly in the toddler years, so many bets are off on what the best parenting guides say. As a SAHM, I feel very strongly about this. The experts are great and I read constantly to figure out what's best for my family, but no study/expert/method is perfect and you learn very quickly to do what works for your own family. Loving and caring for your child is the most important part of parenting.

theblondebump · January 2022

@trapperkeeper87 🤷🏼‍♀️ just sharing what I’ve read! Every parent has to make their own judgment calls. Just sharing the reasoning behind my personal decision to not allow screens. No judgment to those who make different choices!

magnolia209 · January 2022

@theblondebump I definitely agree that screens do not go well with bedtime! We’ve experimented a lot. We do screen time first thing in the morning when we are all cranky. My son gets to chill and wake up slowly while I get his milk and make coffee. And no one is talking to anyone else. That’s very important! 3 year olds talk soooooooo much. When it’s time for breakfast we have a hard and fast off. And we have a nice breakfast together. It just works better for us.

Yes, I imagine these babies will be exposed to more screens than our firsts were in the beginning! I don’t think it hurts them unless you put them in front of it and disengage. And I think the more music the better. So if you have your toddler watching something with music, the baby will most likely just listen. None of this is from research - just my own experience of incorporating screens and not having it ruin my child. I was really afraid in the beginning of what screen time would do, but with limits and lots of other non-screen time activities, it’s been ok and keeps me sane!

scimomma · January 2022

When my son was a baby (probably before a year old), he just wasn't even interested in screens. We didn't purposely put him in front of screens, but I would have the tv on in the background sometimes and he just didn't pay attention to it. I'd only use my phone as a distraction if he was having a meltdown in a car or in a doctor's office. The pandemic started a little after he turned one and screentime (mostly sesame street) increased with my husband and I trying to work from home with him. I didn't love it, but 🤷‍♀️. He's almost three now and still watches too much TV because our situation hasn't changed much but I'm trying to get him into daycare soon. I agree that loving your kid, keeping them safe, and providing as much stability and routine as possible are the most important things. You can plan to do everything else right, but unless you have the right combination of knowledge, determination, luck, and privilege then best intentions can go out the window. Planning is great, learning from experts is great, but having the ability to be flexible without beating yourself up if things don't go perfectly is also pretty important!

trapperkeeper87 · January 2022

scimomma said:

... You can plan to do everything else right, but unless you have the right combination of knowledge, determination, luck, and privilege then best intentions can go out the window. Planning is great, learning from experts is great, but having the ability to be flexible without beating yourself up if things don't go perfectly is also pretty important!

This! 🙌🏻👏🏻

magnolia209 · January 2022

@scimomma oh totally!!! We’ve had the great privilege of having full time daycare and then preschool through the whole pandemic (yes, even March - June 2020). On days when he’s home and we both need to work, all rules go out the window! And also we have the privilege of both of us working from home.

jhysmath · January 2022

Yes! @scimomma the pandemic and having to teach from home meant my then almost 2 year old was now at the whim of a TV for most of the day. Then I had the baby and all screen rules were out the window. With pandemic and a newborn it was just survival mode. Thankfully we now have daycare and preschool but it was rough for awhile.

theblondebump · January 2022

Lol pandemic parenting is a roller coaster. Sometimes I’m like wait, why did I choose to do this again right now?! Lol.

elle-0409 · January 2022

@theblondebump I just started reading the book SPOILED RIGHT by Meghan Owen, PhD. It’s all about how to delay screen time. I found her on a Janet Lansbury podcast. I agree that this second kid will probably end up with more screen time than my first, but when they’re really little you can just point them away from the screen. 😂

theblondebump · January 2022

@elle-0409 love it! I’ll have to check that out.

jamiesc58 · January 2022

My UO…I hate reading about screen time, or my kid isn’t ever going to do this/have this. It makes me feel like a crappy mom sometimes lol. Once I had more than 2 kids, so many things went out the window. What didn’t, definitely did having 4 kids during a pandemic.

scimomma · January 2022

@jamiesc58 I just saw this and it made me feel better 😂

trapperkeeper87 · January 2022

@scimomma That's perfect! 😄

theblondebump · January 2022

@jamiesc58 haha you will hate a lot of my comments then! 😆 I am the least judgmental person ever, I think every mom knows exactly what is right for their own children so I’m not judging anyone else’s choices, but I have a big long list of things I don’t do.

I’m used to it annoying people but I’ll never apologize for my parenting choices. I never intend to make anyone else feel bad about their own choices though!

jhysmath · January 2022

@jamiesc58 I especially love those I will nevers from people without children. I was much the same, imaginary children are some of the best behaved easiest to raise one's I've seen. 😂

mokay19 · January 2022

@theblondebump I totally agree that every parenting method is every parents choice! Everyone’s opportunities and abilities are based on their personal situations.

@scimomma that meme is fantastic!

I don’t judge other mom’s for their choices, so I ignore judgement from others when I hand over endless pop tarts and nutri grain bars and the occasional candy while watching Disney+ 😄

theblondebump · January 2022

@mokay19 yes! I def agree with that! So much varies from one family to another - how many kids, how many parents, childcare, finances, health, like literally so many circumstances that greatly vary and affect how one parents.

chelsraec · January 2022

just here to say me cousins weren’t allowed to watch tv and they turned out weird

kboydbowman · January 2022

@chelsraec but did that coincide with membership in a CCC (Crazy Christian Cult) and religious-based homeschooling?

chelsraec · January 2022

@kboydbowman nope. Just parents who didn’t like the idea of tv and avoided it at all costs. They both are highly talented in the arts. But socially a little peculiar.

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