Hope it’s ok to start a new thread on this topic. I’ve been thinking a lot about how many kids I want v H and how to know when you are done. Would love to hear from you all what you are thinking based on age, husband POV, etc. How many kids do you have now? Are you done, on the fence, definitely planning more?
Re: GTKY: How Many Kids Do You Want?
When I was younger I wanted a ridiculously big family; something crazy like 6 kids. 😜 I’ve always loved the idea of a large, messy, loving family! So for years now I’ve wanted 4 kids, but more recently hubby has been pretty insistent that he wants to be done after 2. He thinks that the world is built for families of 4, he wants us to all be able to fit into one car, he reasons that fewer kids is cheaper (can you tell he’s a practical, logical decision maker??), and he also likes the idea of having a smaller, more intimate immediate family. We’ve settled on, let’s wait and see how we feel when the time comes. I have no idea how that’ll actually work out for us. 😂 We may compromise on 3 kids as an in between, or maybe one of us will change our minds once we are actually thrust into the world of parenting with actual real life little humans! This is our first baby and we are 25 and 26 years old so we have some time to decide!
TTC#1 10/2016
TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each.
BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021
planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks,
some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
In high school I got to know a few families with 5 kids who I really loved. Their homes were always open and even though they weren’t perfect, they were real and they supported each other. That’s when I decided I wanted a big family, but figured realistically I’d go for at least 3.
When my husband and I were dating he didn’t really have a preference so long as he felt we could afford them. After we had a couple he thought they were pretty cool little people and was fine with making it to that 5 number.
Married May 2019
Baby #1 due April 19, 2022
All of that to say, we're done after 2. We have infertility issues and my pregnancies are too complicated to do this again. I think we will be very happy with 2. I'm going to have my Dr tie my tubes during my c-section. If hormones or anything else changes our mind then we can look into IVF or something later on.
I still don’t have a magic number. Although I originally wanted to be done by 35, and now I’m only a year away from that.
That being said, I can't quite get on board with a tubal bc it's too permanent, I guess. I also wonder if four would be a better number bc my older two are buddies and I don't want this new guy to feel left out.
Anyway, 98% sure we're done at 3. But four wouldn't make me sad, lol.
He was an only child and his childhood seems so weird to me lol not in a mean way but I just can't fathom not having a sibling.
I want 3 kids, this baby will be our second. I think I'm done being pregnant, I'm not a fan of that part. We always talked about adoption so I'm thinking we will explore that in a year or two and see if we can swing it.
BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016
My husband and I aren't really set on a number, we've talked about 2 and seeing how we feel about having a third. I'm going to need some time after this pregnancy to forget how terrible I feel to be able to try again. I think if we had started younger, we might have been the kind of people who ended up having a huge family because we love being parents, but I guess we'll see once this baby is born. As it is, we have talked about becoming foster parents once our kids are older. We have both worked with kids in the system over the years and I think we both are aware of the challenges and rewards of being foster parents and it's something we would like to try. There are so many children who need structured, supportive homes and I think we have the skills to provide that kind of home.
Meanwhile, my mom is already scolding me about how a child NEEDS a sibling to play with and to learn from... as if the only point to having a second child is to entertain the first one... (I happen to be her second child and maybe this clarifies a lot of my childhood).
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
college we’d need to pay for lol. Oh and camp… oy, camp! It stresses me out. Three is plenty
Married: October 2011
DS: January 2016
DS: May 2019
#3: April 2022
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we have two boys and are having a girl too— it definitely feels like we are finally complete
Married: October 2011
DS: January 2016
DS: May 2019
#3: April 2022