Yes to what everyone else said above! My family is super helpful; my husband's family is not. In Judaism, if you have a boy, tradition is you have a bris (the circumcision ceremony) 8 days after the baby is born. So with DS, that meant everyone was in town at least by day 5 or 6. It was so stressful. I'm just glad I really limited who could stay with us. Even that though, I remember being up in the middle of the night cleaning up after my sister in law and father in law who had left their take out containers all over my tiny kitchen while also trying to make room for DS's bottles. And I was having such a hard time feeding him so I was pumping and feeding, and it was just rough. My mom actually had a conversation with my sister in law about what she would be responsible for doing if she wanted to stay at my house (dishes, cleaning bottles, etc.) Now that I'm having another boy, I know we're going to have a similar situation. The difference is I think I'm a little better at setting boundaries and worst case scenario, I'll ask my husband's family to take DS out for awhile so we can have some space with baby.
Omg @brookejay06 we must have the same mom 😂😂 My mom ABSOLUTELY needs to be needed too but the flip side is that she also turns that into her wonderful world of mom the control freak. And she honestly wants to help, but it’s gonna be on her terms. 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ She’s currently doing it to my 36yo sister, bc I’ve been grown and gone with my own job, husband, house, and family for YEARS and due to some unfortunate circumstances, my sister hasn’t.
Chiming in right along with everyone else. There is 0 reason for you to feel like you need to “host” anyone when you’re recently postpartum. That’s a ridiculous expectation. If you know they’re not going to be helpful (and I mean like wildly helpful, not just the occasional “I put my own coffee mug in the dishwasher” or “I took your garbage out one day”), and just create more stress and uncertainty for you, then you (or your husband) need to put your foot down. It’s not about them. It’s about you. You’ll be navigating a whole new world that needs your undivided attention. You’ll be sore and tired. And extremely vulnerable. It’s hard (and wonderful!!) but you need to be in the best place you can be mentally.
More of a whine, and less of a raging/crying, but the MFMs office just called and I can't bring DH to my anatomy scan anymore 😭 I had a suspicion that would happen, but I still think it's dumb because it's not like he's bringing any more germs in, I still live with him and am exposed to everything he is 🤷♀️ oh well.
@sydneyannette53 I mean, cases are exploding where I live right now😬 so I get why they changed, I just don't necessarily agree since we're in the same household lol. I'm hoping we're just about to hit the peak and they'll start dropping off soon.
@pajamstagrams I just don't understand how these protocols actually help, and I feel like it makes everything stressful lol. I have a feeling this surge isn't going to last long and everything will settle back down again soon!
Does anyone experience cravings for things they just don’t ever eat/drink or never liked before??
Like I stopped drinking all types of coke/carbonated drinks a year ago. But I have never wanted a fountain cherry coke SO BAD in my life. Why is this baby determined to derail me?!😂😂😂
Meat. I’m a vegetarian, but this pregnancy I have salivated every time someone has mentioned any kind of meat. Last night, at my brother’s for dinner, they served us drumsticks. I went back for thirds and was so pouty for the rest of the evening because there were none left.
@MrsLaLaBug, not this pregnancy but with DS, I craved bacon. I've never liked bacon and the smell even bothered me pre- pregnancy. After I had DS, I stopped liking bacon again and I haven't picked up that craving with this pregnancy, to my husband's disappointment. 😂🤷
@annashaf I have heard that that's super common for vegetarians! They crave meat all the time while pregnant, even if they haven't had it or wanted it in years.
We got the wedding photobook I made back from Shutterfly and I cried because I didn't like the way the font looked on the cover.
DH is a graphic designer and deals with font issues all day, so he found this random cry sesh extra humorous today. He did redeem himself by creating a new cover for us to print as add as a sleeve over the book, which of course made me cry again.
Today is the morning I cried over spilled milk. Generally, I can go along with the mantra, "no use crying over spilt milk," as long as it's not breast milk but this was too much. DS, G-d bless his soul, has been trying so hard to be more independent and helpful. This morning, instead of waking me up to tell me he needed milk and breakfast, he took matters into his own hands. He has poured his milk before, and he usually spills some but not too much. This morning he felt the need to pour both the whole milk and 2% and overfill his cup. There was milk all over the counter, on the floor, on his stool and he left the water running because he was trying to clean it up himself. That was great to wake up to. Not!
Guys why didn't any tell me the end of Encanto was so emotional?? DD was watching it yesterday but left with DH to go pick up dinner, and damn it, I was gonna finish that movie for once. So I sat, by myself, tears streaming down my face, watching the end 😭🙈 I do tend to cry in movies (pretty sure in HS/college I cried through at least half of legends of the fall) but normally kids movies don't hit me this hard. Darm hormones!
Cat napped after all those football games today and woke up NEEDING French fries. 🤣🍟 I air fried myself some waffle fries and made some country(white) gravy to dip them in. Now I can go back to bed a very happy pregnant chick. 😂
26 weeks today and got ready for work with my head in a toilet. I want to believe once I enter the thirds trimester soon the nausea will subside but I really believe I’ll be throwing up while I’m pushing this baby out 😅
Re: Cravings/Crying/Raging - January
DH is a graphic designer and deals with font issues all day, so he found this random cry sesh extra humorous today. He did redeem himself by creating a new cover for us to print as add as a sleeve over the book, which of course made me cry again.
I air fried myself some waffle fries and made some country(white) gravy to dip them in. Now I can go back to bed a very happy pregnant chick. 😂