Trying to decide how many days of positive pee strips before I call to make my first prenatal appointment. Want to make sure it's not a chemical...I'll probably call on Friday if the sticks keep getting darker...
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
I'm still the woot, lots of fear section. I finally told my husband today when the big sister shirt came in the mail, so that gets some of the anxiety out of the way. I was nervous he wouldn't be excited because he really wants to move but I told him I want to stay here if we're having a baby during the school year because here I at least have some sick time so I'll get paid.
Now I just have to worry about all the things that can go wrong.
When is everyone planning on telling their immediate family?! My parents are coming over for a belated Christmas gift exchange this weekend and hubs and I are SO tempted to tell them that I’m pregnant even though we are only 5 weeks! What is everyone else’s mentality about when to tell the people closest to you??
When is everyone planning on telling their immediate family?! My parents are coming over for a belated Christmas gift exchange this weekend and hubs and I are SO tempted to tell them that I’m pregnant even though we are only 5 weeks! What is everyone else’s mentality about when to tell the people closest to you??
I'm reluctant to tell people until after the first trimester because of the high chances for early losses.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
I told my mom, but more because she had several miscarriages and I thought she’d be a good support if it happens. I love my hubby, but he’s not great at bad news. He tends to isolate, so it was a little strategic on my part. Hoping for the best though, and counting down til the doctors appt next week.
Have my first appointment today....not with the doctor but just the one where they tell me what I can/can't do. But I'm still so excited.
@blanket_girl We waited until 10 weeks with DD to tell our family, but I had a MC a few months ago and hadn't told anyone and it made me feel so alone. I ended up telling close family and friends once it happened and everyone was super supportive, of course. I haven't decided what I'm going to do this time, but I'm thinking once we have ultrasound and see heartbeat, we will at least tell our parents and then wait until 10-12 weeks to tell everyone else.
I’m not telling family until after first trimester. I had a loss earlier this year and I was so relieved we hadn’t told anyone yet and I could process at my own pace and choose who I told when (if at all). I’m an introvert and my extrovert in-laws really overwhelm me and I feel like they’re always pressuring me to emote more than I want to. I did tell a couple of my closest girl friends. 😬
When is everyone planning on telling their immediate family?! My parents are coming over for a belated Christmas gift exchange this weekend and hubs and I are SO tempted to tell them that I’m pregnant even though we are only 5 weeks! What is everyone else’s mentality about when to tell the people closest to you??
We told immediate family already, because if it is a loss I’ll need their support. So that’s just his mom, my mom, and both our sisters. I also told my employer (I work as a nanny) because I have two uteruses/two cervixes and a history of miscarriages which means lots of doctors appointments right away for me so I wanted my boss to be aware that I’d probably have a lot of appointments coming up. And I told one of my best friends because she’s making my wedding dress for May and I was freaking out a little about whether it could be taken out or not. We’re not telling anyone else until after the first trimester most likely. We may have to tell his cousin cause she’s our travel agent for our honeymoon and I don’t know how much time we have to cancel and Disney World’s no fun if my pregnant ass can’t go on any rides lol
But ultimately the decision’s different for everyone, I have a friend who just found out before Christmas, and they’ve already posted to Facebook. So I think the timing’s just whatever you feel comfortable with.
@blanket_girl like others have said, do what your comfortable with. If you want to share then news then do so! I had a MC in November at 5w4d and I was so glad I told people early. I texted everyone cuz I didn't feel like talking but knowing that the people close to me were thinking about me was super comforting. That being said, not sure when we'll tell people this time. I'm not in as big of a rush to share the news this time but if it's anything like my first pregnancy, I was super sick so I won't be able to hide it long...and now I have a toddler so I'll need my MIL's help during the day.
When is everyone planning on telling their immediate family?! My parents are coming over for a belated Christmas gift exchange this weekend and hubs and I are SO tempted to tell them that I’m pregnant even though we are only 5 weeks! What is everyone else’s mentality about when to tell the people closest to you??
We told my husband's parents and my dad. Our first pregnancy was a miscarriage and having their support was important to us. We're not ones to announce on social media, so we'll just slowly tell people as we're comfortable. Right now the only ones we've told are the ones we'd be comfortable talking about a miscarriage with.
@blanket_girl my husband told some people before 12 weeks in our first pregnancy and I had a mmc at 10 weeks. He felt it was difficult telling people there would be no baby.
Our second we waited until 12 weeks except we had to tell our principals as I was told I would likely miscarry and I wanted him to know why I would be leaving abruptly when I don't look sick. He was upset we didn't tell him when we were out of the woods and we were having a viable pregnancy. I guess I just forgot, but we talked to our super about maternity leave and forgot to update the principal.
Our third we waited until 20 weeks because at 8 weeks I was told it was a molar pregnancy and that I would need an immediate d&c. We had to tell our new principal this as I would need time off for a d&c as well as a lot of time off to drive 3 hours to the mfm. Through second opinions we still weren't sure we were viable. Around the 20 week scan we were told it had all the same chances as a normal pregnancy. So we began telling close family around 24 weeks we told our students and the world.
I'm a private person she would rather grieve with just my husband and don't want others asking if I'm ok. I especially don't like the fact that my MIL is a huge gossip and many people I don't know would know the whole story of my nether regions, and also she would play her sad story card and make it all about herself. I can't deal with that.
@blanket_girl - everyone has different thoughts on this and I think you have to just do whatever YOU and your partner feel comfortable with. Last pregnancy (also during covid), DH and I were going to be seeing our entire extended family for a summer beach trip and I was only like 7 weeks pregnant, but we knew, because of covid, it was the only time we'd see our families in person, so we just told them all super early! This time around, we're waiting a little bit longer... partly because last time, even though we asked MIL to keep it quiet until after the first trimester, she still told some other extended family members and family friends (UGH), so we figured this time, we're not really going to share until we're really ready for ANYONE to know. Though we will probably end up telling at least my mom after our first ultrasound (next week).
Tldr: remember that people you tell choose to tell others even if you tell them not to.
@theblondebump I completely forgot about that point, that even when you tell someone to keep it to themselves they go off and tell everyone. We told my MIL do not put this on facebook because she's one of those people who announces other people's births. The second she found out about either pregnancy she was calling everyone she knew telling them. She also kept asking us if she could put it on Facebook.... For about 2 months until we announced on Facebook, then she took that announcement and posted it on her Facebook. Like our picture to announce. It annoyed me so much. Any time my husband or I posted a picture of our children (which is very rarely) she would post the same picture. I ended up getting rid of Facebook because I couldn't deal with it anymore, she doesn't have a private Facebook so everyone can see everything. My husband uses Facebook even less, so she doesn't really get a chance to post anything now.
We’re not telling anyone until after the 8 week appointment at least! Last time that’s when we told our immediate families. They were good about not spreading it. I did just tell my good friend though. She is 8 months pregnant. I figured that by the time we are telling close friends she’ll be pretty busy! She really wanted us to be pregnant together. Our boys are 5 month apart and best of friends. These babies will be more like 7 months apart, but it’s still perfect! She was so excited. We were friends before having kids and it’s been so fun to go through all the craziness of becoming parents together. She understands it’s early and anything could happen.
I finally cracked open my b6 and Unisom for nausea. Not as bad as my last pregnancy, but still annoying enough (especially with a 2 year old who is a ball of energy). It seems to be ramping up slowly, and while I know it's usually a good sign, it's still not fun.
How's everyone else coping with the "morning" sickness?
@trapperkeeper87 Don't hate, but other than "mildly queasy every so often," I never have nausea during pregnancy. I mostly just have "can I sleep for 14 hours a day, please?"
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@trapperkeeper87 Don't hate, but other than "mildly queasy every so often," I never have nausea during pregnancy. I mostly just have "can I sleep for 14 hours a day, please?"
With my daughter it was from 5w2d to 11w1d and it was all day, every day, but with only two vomit episodes. This time it's coming and going in waves, but each day the waves get just a bit stronger with the lulls being fewer and farther between. Morning sickness is awful, but I'm just trying to hang in there without snapping at her for being, well, a toddler. Mama needs a nap. 😴
@trapperkeeper87 Sorry you’re dealing with morning sickness (but also, yay?). With my DD I only felt queasy from about week 7-9, but it was a motion sickness kind of thing. I hope the B6 and unison help!
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
@trapperkeeper87 Sorry you’re dealing with morning sickness (but also, yay?). With my DD I only felt queasy from about week 7-9, but it was a motion sickness kind of thing. I hope the B6 and unison help!
Thanks, friend! Do you normally get motion sickness? First time around I tried sea bands, but given that I don't ever get motion sickness, they didn't work. I'm curious if someone is the other way around (prone to motion sickness and sea bands worked for them). I've been itching to test that idea out!
I finally cracked open my b6 and Unisom for nausea. Not as bad as my last pregnancy, but still annoying enough (especially with a 2 year old who is a ball of energy). It seems to be ramping up slowly, and while I know it's usually a good sign, it's still not fun.
How's everyone else coping with the "morning" sickness?
Hang in there! Have you tried preggie pops? My morning sickness came on strong in week 6 last time. I couldn’t take it and started losing weight and had to go on Dislegis. Dislegis was a life saver - last time. But it makes you so tired. Now I have a toddler and am already so tired! I ordered some preggie pops just to be ready. First time Moms, I recommend doing this. Gummy bears can also help in a pinch. I’m not feeling much yet, but if I get MS again, I want to be ready.
I finally cracked open my b6 and Unisom for nausea. Not as bad as my last pregnancy, but still annoying enough (especially with a 2 year old who is a ball of energy). It seems to be ramping up slowly, and while I know it's usually a good sign, it's still not fun.
How's everyone else coping with the "morning" sickness?
Hang in there! Have you tried preggie pops? My morning sickness came on strong in week 6 last time. I couldn’t take it and started losing weight and had to go on Dislegis. Dislegis was a life saver - last time. But it makes you so tired. Now I have a toddler and am already so tired! I ordered some preggie pops just to be ready. First time Moms, I recommend doing this. Gummy bears can also help in a pinch. I’m not feeling much yet, but if I get MS again, I want to be ready.
I didn't lose weight last time (I actually gained WAY too much), but it was mostly due to eating so I wouldn't feel it early on (other issues later on). I'll definitely look into those. Thanks for the tip!
@trapperkeeper87 If you are already doing Unison + B6, I think you are covered. That’s Dislegis basically. But I would still feel very nauseous in the car and preggie pops really helped last time. I’m hoping to try them off the bat and plan to avoid unisom as I don’t think I can function any more tired than this!
@trapperkeeper87 If you are already doing Unison + B6, I think you are covered. That’s Dislegis basically. But I would still feel very nauseous in the car and preggie pops really helped last time. I’m hoping to try them off the bat and plan to avoid unisom as I don’t think I can function any more tired than this!
Right?! The exhaustion is so bad at times. I knew that Diclegis was basically the same, but I only ever tried the Preggie Pop Drops last time. Do you feel like the sucker helped you more? Thinking back, I remember my doctor giving me samples of Tummy Drops that worked better for me than the Preggie Pop Drops. I might need to go get myself some of those... 🤔
@trapperkeeper87 Sorry! I only tried the drops and they did help me. But that was on top of Dislegis. I’m hoping they will help on their own this time.
@trapperkeeper87 nausea is ramping up for me too. Last time it was really bad so I hope this time is better🤞🏼 @kboydbowman can I hate just a little bit?😂 not for reals though😜 I haven't thrown up yet this time but I felt close to it this morning so it's only a matter of time. Last time I was so sick by 9 weeks that I wasn't keeping anything down so I was prescribed Zofran. It helped a lot but still threw up every morning until 20ish weeks and then it was every other day or so. The last time I threw up was at 27 weeks. I'm pretty sure that it lasted so long because I kept taking zofran and I was getting withdrawals every time I tried to stop so I'd take more🙄
I had a similar experience in my last pregnancy, although it was about weeks 5-17 for me. I asked the doc to prescribe me zofran in advance this time in case I need it since I now have a toddler to take care of! I haven’t felt much quite yet, but I’m preparing for the worst!
@knottie16e68a63abf012ab good idea! I've heard from lots of people that first pregnancies are way worse than subsequent so I hope that's true for both of us!🤞🏼 my sister took zofran for her first and though she's sick, she hasn't been so sick to need the zofran for her other 3 pregnancies.
@magnolia209 - I haven't started with the morning sickness yet, but I totally agree with you. I was on Diclegis during my last pregnancy and it made me so dang tired. There's no way I could function with a toddler taking that now. Hopefully it's not as bad this go-round!
@babywiik It's totally OK to hate a little bit. I hate on the people that still have energy lol
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@magnolia209 - I haven't started with the morning sickness yet, but I totally agree with you. I was on Diclegis during my last pregnancy and it made me so dang tired. There's no way I could function with a toddler taking that now. Hopefully it's not as bad this go-round!
I took my b6 and Unisom yesterday during the day, just like I did when pregnant with my daughter. Big mistake. I was so dizzy and ready to fall asleep, so I won't be doing that again. Thankfully the dangerous feeling passed after about an hour, but it still scared me to know that I had to take care of her at the same time. Thank goodness she's well behaved most of the time and was okay playing on the floor while I watched.
I just came on here to say how happy and relieved I am that our hospital with 2,000+ beds is canceling elective procedures and surgeries and I could cry because I’m so happy😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Re: Weekly randoms 1/5 - 1/12
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Now I just have to worry about all the things that can go wrong.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
@blanket_girl We waited until 10 weeks with DD to tell our family, but I had a MC a few months ago and hadn't told anyone and it made me feel so alone. I ended up telling close family and friends once it happened and everyone was super supportive, of course. I haven't decided what I'm going to do this time, but I'm thinking once we have ultrasound and see heartbeat, we will at least tell our parents and then wait until 10-12 weeks to tell everyone else.
But ultimately the decision’s different for everyone, I have a friend who just found out before Christmas, and they’ve already posted to Facebook. So I think the timing’s just whatever you feel comfortable with.
Our second we waited until 12 weeks except we had to tell our principals as I was told I would likely miscarry and I wanted him to know why I would be leaving abruptly when I don't look sick. He was upset we didn't tell him when we were out of the woods and we were having a viable pregnancy. I guess I just forgot, but we talked to our super about maternity leave and forgot to update the principal.
Our third we waited until 20 weeks because at 8 weeks I was told it was a molar pregnancy and that I would need an immediate d&c. We had to tell our new principal this as I would need time off for a d&c as well as a lot of time off to drive 3 hours to the mfm. Through second opinions we still weren't sure we were viable. Around the 20 week scan we were told it had all the same chances as a normal pregnancy.
So we began telling close family around 24 weeks we told our students and the world.
I'm a private person she would rather grieve with just my husband and don't want others asking if I'm ok. I especially don't like the fact that my MIL is a huge gossip and many people I don't know would know the whole story of my nether regions, and also she would play her sad story card and make it all about herself. I can't deal with that.
@theblondebump I completely forgot about that point, that even when you tell someone to keep it to themselves they go off and tell everyone. We told my MIL do not put this on facebook because she's one of those people who announces other people's births. The second she found out about either pregnancy she was calling everyone she knew telling them. She also kept asking us if she could put it on Facebook.... For about 2 months until we announced on Facebook, then she took that announcement and posted it on her Facebook. Like our picture to announce. It annoyed me so much. Any time my husband or I posted a picture of our children (which is very rarely) she would post the same picture. I ended up getting rid of Facebook because I couldn't deal with it anymore, she doesn't have a private Facebook so everyone can see everything. My husband uses Facebook even less, so she doesn't really get a chance to post anything now.
How's everyone else coping with the "morning" sickness?
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
@kboydbowman can I hate just a little bit?😂 not for reals though😜 I haven't thrown up yet this time but I felt close to it this morning so it's only a matter of time. Last time I was so sick by 9 weeks that I wasn't keeping anything down so I was prescribed Zofran. It helped a lot but still threw up every morning until 20ish weeks and then it was every other day or so. The last time I threw up was at 27 weeks. I'm pretty sure that it lasted so long because I kept taking zofran and I was getting withdrawals every time I tried to stop so I'd take more🙄
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.