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Cravings/Crying/Raging - January

MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
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What are you craving?
What made you cry today?
What/who is making you see red? 
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Re: Cravings/Crying/Raging - January

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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    Lol @taylorharris0522 the commercials are what always gets me too lately. 
                                                                                      
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  • annashafannashaf member
    @MrsLaLaBug thanks for sharing! Friendly reminders can make a world of difference for people too. ♥️
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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    @tacosandtums I was literally just about to post “what’s for dinner” bc I surprisingly have no cravings today but now I think I might need spaghetti 😂😂😂
                                                                                      
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  • fireflyz_56fireflyz_56 member
    @tacosandtums we only just finished eating dinner, but that spaghetti looks delicious 😂
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  • brookejay06brookejay06 member
    @tacosandtums I must make spaghetti right now. Thanks for the inspo. 


    I am craving an Italian sandwich with crusty ciabatta bread, salami, and good cheeses. 

    I am also craving FRUIT. like cold, juicy watermelon or cantaloupe or pineapple or mango. I may die without it. 
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  • pajamstagramspajamstagrams member
    Definitely been craving burgers and fries. Idk why, I actually eat a ton of red meat because chicken is so bleggggh. Maybe it's the salt lol. 

    @tacosandtums that spaghetti looks 😋👌
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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    @brookejay06 omgggg cantaloupe and pineapple and strawberries have been my jam this pregnancy. Juicier the better! 
                                                                                      
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  • brookejay06brookejay06 member
    @tacosandtums I just wish that fruit was in season where I live! Fruit is so sparse right now. Ughhhh. My husband said “get a can of pineapple”……. He doesn’t get it. 🙄 Lol

    but DH was very happy when I suggested spaghetti for dinner!! So tasty.  
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  • skc040512skc040512 member
    Lol we had spaghetti too! I finally found some half way decent GF pasta so I’m back to fixing Italian 🎉

    I’m also team fresh fruit cravings. Every single pregnancy I want allllll the fruit lol. I also will tear up a smoothie from Tropical Smoothie Cafe. And now I want one…
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  • annashafannashaf member
    Yyyyeeeessss to the fresh fruit!! All the berries, mango, pineapple, clementines and melons I can get my hands on! Nothing is in season here this time of year, so I burn through way too much money in fruit. But hey - there’s worse I could be doing, right?

    @tacosandtums that spaghetti looks divine! I know what’s on the menu for tomorrow night!
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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    I woke up craving boiled peanuts. I know where I’m sending DH in the morning. 😂😂
                                                                                      
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  • tacosandtumstacosandtums member
    That spaghetti was so damn good. I want it again looking at that pic. Ordered pizza tonight. I got my booster and just not feeling cooking at all. I think I might make a fruit smoothie inspired by all this yummy fruit chatter….I have to stop being too lazy to cut up a pineapple I bought 😂
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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    edited January 2022
    OMGGGGG I was just scrolling through FB and someone posted a pic of a huge pretzel
    with some mustard. AND NOW I NEED A HUGE PRETZEL WITH SOME MUSTARD. 
                                                                                      
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  • tacosandtumstacosandtums member
    Currently craving NACHOS! Like from a stadium with fake cheese.
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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    @tacosandtums let’s go!!! 😂😂😂😂
                                                                                      
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  • tacosandtumstacosandtums member
    I just googled “beef Wellington near me” 😂 pregnancy is absurd 
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  • sph97sph97 member
    Craving: before pregnancy we didn’t eat fast food (not that we don’t enjoy it, we just live like 30 min out of town and my job is the county school like 3 miles down the road) and I CRAVE a bigmac with fries and milkshakes from Jacks lol. I have gotten off work and drove all the way to town just for a Bigmac and I’ve even downloaded the McDonald’s app to get coupon deals 🙈 sometimes I sub for a McDouble with Mac sauce lol. 

    Crying: I’m a FTM and we tried for almost 2 years, so sometimes I just cry about it which is silly I guess but it’s like excited and somewhat overwhelmed tears even though I know we’re gonna be great parents. I cried for 3 days after we found out it was a boy, just because if this is our only baby I was so thankful to be able to give my husband a son to carry on his last name and I was just a mess I didn’t expect my emotions to be all over the place lol. 

    Seeing RED: My family is 4+ hours away and has recently “informed me” that they ARE going to be in the labor and delivery room and stay at my house the first week the baby is here because it’s their right and I just do not even have the energy to argue and honestly I’m probably just gonna let them know after the baby is here because how rude to invite yourself over and then have the audacity to tell me it’s your right when I question it? I love my family, but I don’t need them telling me how to be a new mom. No one was there when we made this baby, no one needs to be there when he gets here especially if I say I’m not comfortable with them hanging around for a whole week up my butt. They don’t even visit, and I hasn’t since my wedding (which is the only time any of them has come down to see us) so it’s just really aggravating me. 
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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    @sydneyannette53 aww cue happy tears!! It’s not silly! I’d be a crying mess too! And ohhh 🤬 no to the invading family. Wtf goes through peoples minds… sometimes I really wonder!!! 
                                                                                      
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  • sph97sph97 member
    @MrsLaLaBug thank you! It really drives me crazy because they just think I'm suppose to let them do whatever like I'm not the one pushing this baby outta me and learning to take care a newborn, breast feed,I mean everything as a FTM and I don't need anyone telling me I'm doing it wrong and how they did this and "you came out just fine" because I will snap lol. 
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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    @sydneyannette53 if nothing else, at least we all have the good old Covid excuse to fall back on! Might work as a last resort. TRUST ME you will want those first few precious hours/days to yourselves to get to know baby and all the new first experiences. 💜
                                                                                      
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  • pajamstagramspajamstagrams member
    @sydneyannette53 oh hell no. Your family does not need to be in l&d room with you if you don't want it. Also, covid rules...No way that's going to fly in a hospital right now, and I don't think May will be much different. and you know they won't actually be helpful if they stay that first week after he's born...it would be one thing if they did all your laundry/cooking/cleaning (bless my mom for doing that when she came over!!), but most people don't offer that. 

    I'll just say, we asked for no visitors at the hospital until we said so with DD, and people didn't listen. It was incredibly stressful and uncomfortable for us since DD was a surprise NICU baby. I'm so incredibly thankful for all the covid regulations now, because it's so limiting on visitors. We will not have any. At all. Just DH staying with me, and I'm very excited at that prospect. 
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  • sph97sph97 member
    @pajamstagrams I tried explaining that it can only be one visitor at a time but right now everyone is just in their own world making their own plans so idk. I am going to address it more head on the closer to May we get, but I'm leaning heavy on just not telling anyone anything until the baby is already here and I know its gonna hurt feelings and the family will probably call me crazy but hey, it is what it is lol. I'm a really private person and ideally, even without COVID, I would only want for me and my husband to be there and for us to have our own time to adjust at home. My MIL is next door but shes actually wonderful and 100% respects our wishes and even asks me before she buys baby stuff so if I feel like I and help I can call on her and she will go home lol.
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  • skc040512skc040512 member
    @sydneyannette53 dude I would be livid. I would definitely pull the covid card and blame hospital policy, then when you get to the hospital, let your nurses know you don’t want any additional visitors. My nurses were great at going “oh sorry, hospital policy, you can’t come in” even when it wasn’t hospital policy lol. I have no advice for once you’re home but definitely tell your partner to step it up and run interference for you.
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  • sph97sph97 member
    @skc040512 I'm trying not to snap so I'm waiting to have a civil, but stern conversation lol. I just know if they make the drive they are going to expect my hospitality and I'd rather just not. My husband is very supportive and was also shocked by this sudden news so I feel like he will stand behind me and help get the point across if needed so I don't have to be "the bad guy."

    Thank you all for your input! I'm glad to know it isn't just FTM crazy requests because I almost started second guessing if I was being extra by being upset about the whole thing lol. 
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  • jandawgjandawg member
    @sydneyannette53 like the others I think covid and the nurses will have your back in terms of keeping people out of the room. With our first we told our parents when I started labour and then didn't talk to them until after. We said no one was allowed to visit that night (blamed hospital policy - a lie) and they came for quick visits in the morning. I really didn't want other folks around much that first week, BUT I was surprised that everyone kind of disappeared by the time I was ready for more visitors a week or so later and then I felt really lonely. I think I'll be better at asking for what I need this time around.

    I really enjoyed the book "The First 40 Days" by Heng Out that has lots of helpful advice about how to set boundaries and lol put people to work who want to visit. It's also got some great recipes. 
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  • brookejay06brookejay06 member
    @sydneyannette53 That sounds like something my parents would do. I feel you on a deep level. With my first I told them not to come until baby was 2 weeks old (at the time, I thought making them wait 2 weeks was a HUGE request. I also thought that by 2 weeks I’d have breastfeeding figured out and not be such a zombie… That was not the case, haha). My mom was here the day after baby was born and although I love her, she wasn’t helpful. She just wanted to hold her grand baby. So I was up with baby in the night, I fed baby, and I calmed baby when she cried. My mom only snuggled when baby was calm and happy and I’m sad I didn’t get that time to myself to enjoy my baby. But I also felt guilty like I owed it to my mom to get to enjoy her grandchild. These were all my FTM thoughts. 

    This time, I told my family “I don’t know when baby will come in May. So you can come in July. I don’t want any visitors thing first month, it’s not personal. I just don’t want any visitors. When you guys visit I want to enjoy it and I don’t think I can do that until July”. I’m not buying the “we’re coming to help you!!”… that’s their heartfelt intention but it’s just not reality. I have to prep myself for a visit that is more stressful than helpful, and I know I can’t do that till July. 

    That may seem like an extreme boundary. But I swear the baby is not “too old” when they are 1 or 2 months old. They are still teeny tiny and family can wait. 

    If you know you’re going to have to host and you know they’re not going to wait a month, can you limit the length of the visit to 2-3 days? You can do anything for a couple days. But trying to host when you’re feeding a baby every 2 hours and you’re sleep deprived is not realistic (or it wasn’t for me). 

    Another reason you can give is that you don’t know how healed you’ll be. Whether you have a C section or vaginal delivery, medicated or not, it doesn’t matter. You don’t know how much you’ll still be bleeding or how active you’ll be able to be. Maybe they will respect that?
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  • brookejay06brookejay06 member
    @sydneyannette53 Also, I’d do the same thing as you and not tell them when baby comes. The truth is that you don’t know when it will happen and when it does happen it can often be quick, consuming, and a “high pressure” time. You don’t have time to text or call. So you can say “whoops.. baby is here”
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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    Hi. I’m just coming here to say DO NOT watch Queer Eye without a full box of tissues. Full on sob fest, even more so than before I was pregnant. I mean the show ALWAYS made me cry but good Jesus…. Now??? 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
                                                                                      
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  • sph97sph97 member
    @brookejay06 I will definitely have to host and that concerns me bringing a newborn home, I love my family but I don't even stay with them when we visit because they aren't exactly *clean* and my husband and I aren't OCD but I also grew up in it and hated it so I just don't subject myself to it as an adult. Therefore, I don't expect them to be helpful at my house at all lol. My aunt is getting married and the baby will be about 1 month old f he comes on time and we was planning to come to the wedding then for them to meet baby, so I am probably going to put my foot down on traveling to visit because when they get here it'll be hell getting them to leave and ask them to wait until we come up for the wedding (it's just a family back yard ceremony so we feel comfortable bring LO being so young).
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  • tacosandtumstacosandtums member
    Sending you peace and calm as you navigate this situation @sydneyannette53!! Others have chimed in with logical comments so just want to add I hope you are able to distance yourself from what *everyone wants of you* and focus on what you want and need for YOUR family.  Hugs!! 
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  • sph97sph97 member
    @tacosandtums thank you! I didn't expect so many responses lol, but everyone has been so supportive! Y'all are great!! & I love your handle, currently my life right now lmao!
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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    edited January 2022
    pajamstagrams said:
    ETA: expected to host when you just popped out a baby????? That's insane. And completely unrealistic. 


    THISSSSS!!!!!!! 

    I also had a super similar experience to @brookejay06 with my mom. She came 3 days after my first was born. She bought pizza the very first night but other than that, did not cook, help with laundry, wash bottles/dishes, etc.
    THOSE are the things that would have REALLY actually helped out, but she too just thought “holding the baby” or “rocking the baby to sleep” was her way of being the proverbial saint come to rescue me so I could take a 10 minute shower. Hello, if I need a 10 minute shower my husband can hold the baby, but he wasn’t home 24/7 to help with all the other household things bc of work. I too love my mom. But she was NO HELP and trying to make HER comfortable and work out meals and sleeping arrangements and making sure she had fresh bathroom towels, shit like that… while being a zombie and trying to learn breastfeeding and everything else as a FTM… I vowed NEVER to do that again and to absolutely have those first days/weeks/experiences/learning curves all to ourselves. @sydneyannette53 - and to alllll our other FTM’s too!!!!! …it’s not about you being extra AT ALL. It’s YOUR first baby and YOUR first time experiences and YOUR first most precious memories of all of it and it’s so important. I’m glad your hubs is on board with your boundaries!! 💜💜💜💜💜
                                                                                      
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  • pajamstagramspajamstagrams member
    MrsLaLaBug said:
     her way of being the proverbial saint come to rescue me so I could take a 10 minute shower. 
    Ooof, well if that didn't hit the nail on the head, re: visitors. 👏👏

    I've probably said it here before, and I'll say it again, I don't want visitors unless they come with food or plan to help clean. Don't steal my sweet baby cuddles!!! My parents know this and will absolutely abide, just gotta make sure DH tells his parents because I do still feel bad asking for MIL to clean bottle parts 🙈
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  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    @skc040512 omg walk the dogs yessss!!!! I didn’t have my dogs yet when my other two kids were born so I’m kindof hoping they are actually a deterrent for my mom trying to come down and stay with us for some length of time. She is NOT a dog person at all and I have 2 German Shepherds LMAO 😂😂😂😂
                                                                                      
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  • brookejay06brookejay06 member
    @MrsLaLaBug YES YES YES. It is abundantly clear that if you (MIL/FIL/any family or friends) INSIST on coming when YOU want to come, then you are coming for yourself and not “for me”. You’re not there to help me, or else you would be happy to come when I ask and not when you most desire. It’s just not helpful for my dad to be in the labor room. No thanks. 

    My mom is wonderful, I mean truly wonderful. One of her biggest assets is being a “helper” personality but the flip side is that she NEEDS to BE needed. So she needed to be helpful… which means technically I was serving her and not the other way around. 
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