we aren’t telling anyone our sneakpeek results until we confirm at the AS. But EVERYONE talks about baby being a girl because we have two boys and it has me up in arms. Why would three boys be so awful?! I’m actually really sad not to have three boys and it is making me angry that everyone else will be so busy ecstatic baby is a girl meanwhile I’ve been daydreaming about three boys for years. It makes me feel like our oldest two aren’t good enough because a)they aren’t girls or b) yeah they’re great but also…not a girl. Will a girl be fun? Absolutely. But I also want space to grieve what I thought would happen without everyone shoving it in my face about how exciting a girl would be. A boy would have been beautiful too.
Sorry, yikes, that was a rant. The whole girl v boy thing is just making me angry lately.
@bww_0331 my SIL is pregnant with her 3rd boy now and is happy. She said she can't picture a girl because she doesn't have experience with one. However, during her gender reveal all the parents could talk about (her dad mainly) how girls this and girl that, how boys are great BUT they were mostly hoping for a girl and they just NEED a girl. It was mainly her dad too who wouldn't stop with the comments. We all kept redirecting the conversation to how it's great regardless, boys are awesome, all that matters is a healthy baby. Then they did the reveal and it's a 3rd boy and the first thing her dad says "well, I guess we know you'll be trying for #4 now". Like what? I get people mean well, but just stop. Keep the comments to yourself and just congratulate the parents and share in their excitement.
***bfp & child warning*** TTC - since 2014 7 rounds of Clomid - BFN IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN IVF #1 - March 2016 Retrieval #1 - April 2016 FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017 Trying for baby #2... FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN No more embryos left; switched to a new RE IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019 IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019 FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019 Trying for baby #3... FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022
@chelsmankowski Boys are the best ever. My first was a boy too. I wanted a girl at first, but I wouldn't trade him for the world. They're funny, rambunctious, and they love their mamas so fiercely!
Ah, we just got our prenatal screening report back and we're having a boy!!! I had a gut feeling it's a boy, but had a few dreams recently that it's a girl so I was torn. Guess gut feeling was right.
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***bfp & child warning*** TTC - since 2014 7 rounds of Clomid - BFN IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN IVF #1 - March 2016 Retrieval #1 - April 2016 FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017 Trying for baby #2... FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN No more embryos left; switched to a new RE IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019 IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019 FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019 Trying for baby #3... FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022
@KFrob I’ve been waiting for your post! Yay for another girl! We’ll only have three here but literally one of the first things my husband said was “what am I going to do.” hahaha
@bww_0331 ugh. I had this same experience but opposite gender. I dread telling people that we’re having our third girl because they always respond with an “Aw man” type comment and can’t believe that we’re truly happy with having an all girl family. Like you, I could only picture having another girl. We also had the added pressure of being the only ones that could pass down the family name.. so we got a ton of comments about that too. Like we can control it. 🙄🙄 I’m sorry and I definitely wouldn’t tell them till you’re ready. ❤️
NIPT says boy! I had a feeling that would be the case. I'm pretty neutral about the sex but I do think it'll be somewhat easier on our daughter to have a baby brother rather than a sister.
Got my blood work back and we’re team Pink! 💗 we were secretly hoping for another girl (I have a 6yo daughter) because we’re familiar with baby girls. I also have about 20 boy cousins and 2 brothers. DH also has a brother who has a son so really wanted to rep the All Girl family. DH got a “girl dad” shirt for Xmas that he’s been wearing all the time lol.
I’m so glad you all mentioned peoples ignorance when you tell them the sex of the baby. My dentist said “let me guess, you’re having a boy. Since you already have a girl.” Do I know you? She literally only cleans my teeth. Then she said “oh darn well you can keep trying for your boy” literally has no idea the infertility and miscarriage turmoil we’ve been through. Who even said I needed a boy since I already have a girl. It really makes me upset when older people make comments like this. I can hear my aunts now saying this when we announce the baby is born. My girls are the greatest gift I can ever ask for!
Re: The big sex mega thread
We did our gender reveal to the land of Facebook with a quick photo snapped in our yard.
we aren’t telling anyone our sneakpeek results until we confirm at the AS. But EVERYONE talks about baby being a girl because we have two boys and it has me up in arms. Why would three boys be so awful?! I’m actually really sad not to have three boys and it is making me angry that everyone else will be so busy ecstatic baby is a girl meanwhile I’ve been daydreaming about three boys for years. It makes me feel like our oldest two aren’t good enough because a)they aren’t girls or b) yeah they’re great but also…not a girl. Will a girl be fun? Absolutely. But I also want space to grieve what I thought would happen without everyone shoving it in my face about how exciting a girl would be. A boy would have been beautiful too.
@KFrob ha, that's awesome! Congratulations!
TTC - since 2014
7 rounds of Clomid - BFN
IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN
IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN
IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN
IVF #1 - March 2016
Retrieval #1 - April 2016
FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017
Trying for baby #2...
FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN
No more embryos left; switched to a new RE
IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019
IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019
FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019
Trying for baby #3...
FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022
TTC - since 2014
7 rounds of Clomid - BFN
IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN
IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN
IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN
IVF #1 - March 2016
Retrieval #1 - April 2016
FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017
Trying for baby #2...
FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN
No more embryos left; switched to a new RE
IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019
IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019
FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019
Trying for baby #3...
FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022
@bww_0331 ugh. I had this same experience but opposite gender. I dread telling people that we’re having our third girl because they always respond with an “Aw man” type comment and can’t believe that we’re truly happy with having an all girl family. Like you, I could only picture having another girl. We also had the added pressure of being the only ones that could pass down the family name.. so we got a ton of comments about that too. Like we can control it. 🙄🙄 I’m sorry and I definitely wouldn’t tell them till you’re ready. ❤️
I’m so glad you all mentioned peoples ignorance when you tell them the sex of the baby. My dentist said “let me guess, you’re having a boy. Since you already have a girl.” Do I know you? She literally only cleans my teeth. Then she said “oh darn well you can keep trying for your boy” literally has no idea the infertility and miscarriage turmoil we’ve been through. Who even said I needed a boy since I already have a girl. It really makes me upset when older people make comments like this. I can hear my aunts now saying this when we announce the baby is born. My girls are the greatest gift I can ever ask for!