Okay ladies, I know our SO's probably all know but what about other family or friends?
Since we got pregnant so close to Christmas (still amazed) are you doing anything special?
I told my best friend immediately. Texted her I peed on a stick and together we waited. Then I sent her a pic of my positive test.
MH knows too but that's it.
I ordered some cute custom Christmas scratchers off Etsy for my parents, sister, and in-laws. We have a tradition of giving each other meaningful Christmas cards every year. So I thought I'd slip the scratchers in with them and see everyone's faces. Sadly, my in-laws will be in a different state. But I'm gonna send them cards and strict instructions not to open until Christmas day. Since this will be baby #3 I didn't want to do anything too elaborate and think this is perfect for us.
So! What are you gonna do? Have you thought about it yet?
Re: Who have you told?
A few of our closest friends know, and my immediate family (dad, sister, brother). We’ve also told my husband’s grandma. We’ve both lost our mom’s and we’re very close to her. Then I told my co-teacher because I’ve been feeling like crap and may need her to take over a bit more lol. I feel like that’s a lot of people 😬. It was a dead giveaway when I turned down champagne at thanksgiving, though!
To tell people at work, I want to do it through our morning announcements. Each week, there’s a mystery teacher and every day there’s clues until the reveal Friday. I was going to ask the broadcast teacher to save me for whenever my twelfth week would be (once I’ve had my 8-week and everything looks in order) and have the last clue be “is having a baby in august)!
Only mh knows so far. I want to see a heartbeat before I tell anyone.
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Having more kids does require more planning and routine. I’m a very go with the flow mom but I don’t compromise on bedtimes, and their general routine. But honestly, don’t stress, you will be fine.
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My oldest will be 6 in February and it blows my mind how quickly it’s gone by!
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So I know it is super early to be telling people, but my parents, siblings, two close friends and my previous BMB group knows. I won't be telling anyone else probably until the 2nd trimester but I chose to tell the above people for emotional support if things don't end well. I'm also going on vacation with my family at the end of December, so they would have found out then anyway. I'm going to let DH decide when we tell his side of the family.
**TW Loss** After my loss in October, no one but my BFF and husband knew I was pregnant and I felt like I should tell my parents and sister that I had a miscarriage. So I called them and it was a good chat. My mom was like "I didn't even know you were pregnant" and I was like "well I was only a few weeks" and she made me promise to tell her as soon as I know next time. Oops. I really wanted to do a Christmasy thing though. I think it's a personal choice whether we tell people early or are cautious and wait...some find comfort in the support while others are overwhelmed. I felt supported by my family but I chose not to tell my in-laws because it felt overwhelming.***
I think going from 0 to 1 was more of an adjustment than going from 1-2 even though my second baby was....um....very different from my first.
She was born at 23 weeks and spent 6 months in the NICU and then when she came home needed a lot from us. She's 3 years old now and doing great, but still have PT and OT weekly as well as developmental delays. MH and I figure any baby after her will be a breeze.
I worked really hard this past year to get healthy (I have crohn's disease and have been anemic my whole life) and I got iron infusions, got all my bloodwork levels in healthy ranges, exercise more, eat healthier....so I feel better about this pregnancy than my other ones.
No one knows except me and DH, and it will stay that way until at least we hear a heartbeat. DH is very close with his father and probably won't want to wait too long to tell, but I know as soon as we tell his parents we'll have told the whole world... from past experience 🙁 If it didn't feel hypocritical, I'd tell my big sister right away, but it wouldn't feel fair while not telling his parents, so I'll wait.
@msspoon12 congratulations! My birthday is in February too
My boyfriend is so nervous in an adorable, endearing way. He is presently fixated on the new car we will need to fit us, two car seats, and our 60 lbs dog!
I'm not a salesperson, I swear. Just super in love with the vehicle. If we didn't just pay off my durango, I'd convince my husband we need one.
@darkrose88 tell me about it, super aggravating especially since we really like our new car and can't afford two large monthly car payments. I won't worry about it until later, though. For now, we can survive with the small SUV and sedan, at least for a while after baby is born, I think.
@grayceeemae021321 Here are the two ways I told my family before: I gave my dad a present the day before his major surgery (triple bypass) with a onesie inside that said "worth the wait". My dad was clueless but my mom and sister gasped so loudly and then cried. Finally, my mom was like "Ed! She's pregnant! That's a baby onesie." And he was VERY happy about having his first grandchild.
The second time, I got a photo of the first ultrasound and copied it like 5 times (my parents, my in-laws, and my sister) then got small frames from the dollar store and metallic paint pens and wrote "Baby Stark #2 Coming January 2019" around the frame. Then I wrapped them individually and gave it to them during a special family dinner we had. The pretense was "Nova (my daughter) wanted to give you all a special present" they don't question things when my daughter is involved.
This time I'm doing Christmas themed scratchers and the last one at the bottom says "Jingle Bells Baby #3 Due August '22"