I shared this with my mom group this morning, but I don't think kids should have to share everything. If my kid is playing with something, I don't make him hand it over to someone else just because they want it or to prevent a meltdown from another kid. Sharing doesn't mean you get to take whatever you want, sharing means when he's done, you can have a turn.
@modoodles I agree with you. We've been working on teaching that to the boys. It caused a tiny snafu at daycare because that's not how they were teaching the kids, but after a conversation with me, it hasn't been a problem.
@modoodles Yes, in general the concept of "sharing" is so abstract and basically impossible for toddlers to understand anyways. I definitely have more luck with the concept of taking turns and just because another kid wants to play with somethign doesn't mean it's immediately their turn.
My UO is that I think 99.9% of maternity and newborn photos are weird AF. Maybe because I can't take myself seriously enough to lovingly cradle my stomach without laughing. And the babies molded into weird unnatural poses creep me out.
@makingbacon can I ask how they were doing it at daycare? Because my UO stems from doing in home daycare and a kiddo being upset that my 1 year old "won't share."
A. He's playing with HIS toy, in HIS room- which is off limits to daycare anyway.
@makingbacon I’m trying to think of a time you cook fruit? Ok like pineapple pizza? Sure 100% on board with that. But what about dehydrated fruit? I love dehydrated fruit. What about fruit leathers? Those are technically cooked fruits too. Jams/jellies are cooked fruit too.
@modoodles whenever we had friends come over, we allowed our kids to put away 1 toy that they didn’t want to share at all - like no one could touch. Because kids get weird about people touching their things even when they’re not trying to play with it. But yes. Taking turns is a better way to share.
@modoodles It's mainly been for DS1. He's at a daycare center, and the phrasing used there is "sharing is caring." Shortly after that DS1 said no because he wasn't done playing with something (like we do at home with him and DS2), and they followed up with me about his sharing problem. When another kid wanted to play with something, the expectation was to hand it over so the other kid could have a turn, regardless of if he was done or not. I get that they have to share, but who wants to give up the thing they're using/playing with before they're done? At least give him another minute or 2 before having him share it.
@lexilougolden Once it is warmed up or cooked, I will not eat it lol.
@angelz429 My main complaint is fruit pie, cobblers, etc. I also do not eat dehydrated fruit. I will eat fruit snacks, but those are mainly fruit juices. I should also probably disclaimer this with I have the palate of a 5 year old lol, so most vegetables are also not my thing.
@kaf1788 We did maternity pictures for DS1, but not DS2. We're considering them this time, and DH really wants to take one of those hiding behind a tree belly pictures because he thinks they're awkward and hilarious. Example from internet in the spoiler.
@kaf1788 Agreed, some of the poses for baby have me scratching my head. All smushed up in a bucket? Of course! Haha. Hopefully I can find a photographer that does something more natural!
@makingbacon uuugh. I hate the "sharing is caring" line. I only say it with sarcasm when talking about germs and sickness. When I worked in preschool we had kids ask for a turn and if the child who had the toy wasn't done, we let them say how many more minutes they need (3/4/5) and then set a timer. It saved a lot of arguments and still gave the kiddo with the toy some control over the situation.
@modoodles That would’ve been way better than what they were doing. I couldn’t figure out why he just had to drop whatever he was doing and hand over his toy. I wouldn’t like that, and I’m an adult.
@lexiloigolden you should look for someone that does in home lifestyle newborn sessions. Usually they’re more relaxed and natural than posed sessions at a studio. We did a studio session with ds that I absolutely love, but she did do some more relaxed shots too that we love!
I of course love all of the maternity and newborn photos. I think photos are the best way to capture these milestones. Regardless of how we think our minds just done hold onto the memories like photos can. Even if it feels silly to do. I’m not the most confident be in front of the camera person myself, but I do force my husband and kiddo to do family photos at least once every year and a half or so. I’ve never regretted it!
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Re: UO Thursday 9.30.2021
My UO is that I think 99.9% of maternity and newborn photos are weird AF. Maybe because I can't take myself seriously enough to lovingly cradle my stomach without laughing. And the babies molded into weird unnatural poses creep me out.
A. He's playing with HIS toy, in HIS room- which is off limits to daycare anyway.
B. He's one.
@lexilougolden Once it is warmed up or cooked, I will not eat it lol.
@angelz429 My main complaint is fruit pie, cobblers, etc. I also do not eat dehydrated fruit. I will eat fruit snacks, but those are mainly fruit juices. I should also probably disclaimer this with I have the palate of a 5 year old lol, so most vegetables are also not my thing.