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***TW*** Spotting/ Bleeding / Threatened Loss Support Thread

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This thread is for support and questions around spotting/bleeding. 

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Conversations surrounding these issues can be discussed here freely. The TW in the title applies for the whole thread. Please beware of reading ahead if you think you might be triggered by conversations about spotting/bleeding. 

Finally, remember that most of us are not medical professionals, and even if we were, it's always best to call/visit your doctor with questions or concerns. Feel free to ask questions and voice concerns, but please do not expect anyone here to be able to offer you anything but support. The most important thing to do is to call your doctor. They can offer answers; we can offer support. 3

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  • grateful_mamagrateful_mama member
    I'm guessing that this would be the appropriate place for this post. A little background- I am 34 ( 35 in Dec), had a MC in January at 5w. Last month I had a weird cycle. I was 3 days late, which is unheard of for me, and I felt pregnant. Lots of BM's, exhausted, sore boobs. It felt different than my usual PMS symptoms. I never got a positive test, and eventually started bleeding heavily with clots. I'm still not entirely sure what happened there. This month I thought I was having PMS symptoms 1 week before my cycle. My breast were large and more sore than usual. I had some very mild spotting, which I thought was my cycle coming 3 days early this time, which never started. I took a HPT and to my surprise it was positive. That was followed by several others that were also positive with dark lines that showed up quickly. Today, I had a delayed package of accumed test strips and you really have to squint and look at an angle to see a line! :'( I don't really know what to think or if my OB will want to see me since I don't have any symptoms that something is wrong. I'm 5w1d today.
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  • b_1029b_1029 member
    @grateful_mama I’m sorry for the rollercoaster. I think it’s definitely worth a call to your OB, maybe they could bring you in to do some betas.
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  • kham130kham130 member
    I've been having spotting since 5w2d (I'm 6w6d today) normally it's very light and brown and then I had some darker (almost black) and one pink instance over the weekend. Yesterday and today it's only brown and really slowed down during the day, but picked up slightly at night. 

    We did do an US last week and saw a heartbeat, which everyone was very happy with! They're not sure what it's from and didn't see any signs of an SCH. I had a miscarriage in July at 5w6d, so I'm definitely on edge. My midwives aren't concerned since we saw cardiac activity and it's all brown. 

    Has anyone else had this long of spotting before or any tips for staying sane and not automatically thinking the worst? 


    @grateful_mama so sorry you're having to deal with such a wild ride 💜 I know some test pick up different HCG levels, so I think your best bet would be getting some betas drawn. I asked my midwife for them when I got pregnant and they were super accommodating! 
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  • grateful_mamagrateful_mama member
    Thank you both. <3 It truly has been a rollercoaster. I went and picked up a FRER and it was positive, but if I was analyzing it, I would say that it was a smidge lighter than the others. I don't know what to think, but being in limbo is like torture for my overthinking self. I suppose I'll test again tomorrow and go from there.  @karisahamdi I have no related experience, but I hope that you find some peace of mind as well. <3 
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  • pajamstagramspajamstagrams member
    @grateful_mama if you think your anxiety is worse because of the testing, maybe just call your OB for betas or, wait it out (difficult, I know!!)? I had to stop testing because I thought I saw a fainter line and I freaked out (unnecessarily, as I had betas drawn before + after). Perhaps your urine was more diluted, etc, plus those tests aren't designed for quantitative measurements, so trying to compare is really difficult, especially between brands. I'm so sorry you're going through this right now. 

    @karisahamdi I haven't a similar experience with spotting, but brown blood is old, so it's a better sign than being red blood, right? Hopefully it slows down this evening and goes away soon! 
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  • grateful_mamagrateful_mama member
    @pajamstagrams Thank you. You're right, I probably just need to stop testing and wait it out. I was just shocked to see almost no line at all, when my first test almost a week ago was so dark and showed up so quickly. It was actually at night, so my urine was definitely diluted, and then my second test was not even an hour later with the same results. So, who knows. I'm going to *try* to just chill out and see what happens.
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  • And846And846 member
    @grateful_mama I’m sorry you have this anxiety on your shoulders. I thought my test was lighter one day and did some research. What i found: After your hcg is high it no longer registers with HPTs, like you are overwhelming the strip. A few ushered i read diluted their urine and then did the dip test and got blazing positives. After i read that i just stopped testing and am going with the betas and symptoms. 
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  • BababattyBababatty member
    @grateful_mama I don't have any advice beyond what the others have said so just chiming in to say I hope that it ends up just being a fluke of the tests, and that you're able to get some betas to ease the worry.

    @karisahamdi I've only ever had occasional spotting so not your situation, but I know it's stressful to see it! It's heartening that your midwives aren't too worried about it. I hope it stops soon, though!
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  • sydney0like0australiasydney0like0australia member
    I officially lost my pregnancy while my doctors were blowing off my calls and telling me everything was normal when I knew something was wrong. I’m upset and even more upset that I was ignored for over a week by the people that were supposed to take care of me. I’ll be trying again probably in the next couple months and hope to be back on this app with a better medical team
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  • b_1029b_1029 member
    Oh no @sydney0like0australia. I’m so sorry for your loss and the way that you were treated. That’s bs. 
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  • pajamstagramspajamstagrams member
    @sydney0like0australia I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ 
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  • itsagalsworls1024itsagalsworls1024 member
    @sydney0like0australia so sorry for your loss

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  • kham130kham130 member
    @sydney0like0australia I'm so sorry for your loss and for the lack of support you've felt this entire time. I hope you're able to find a much better care team and take care of yourself during this tough time ❤️
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  • BababattyBababatty member
    @sydney0like0australia Oh no! I'm so, so sorry for your loss and that your doctors were so unsupportive! Sending you lots of love while you recover. 
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  • And846And846 member
    @sydney0like0australia I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Please take care of yourself during these next few weeks.
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  • austinjlaustinjl member
    @sydney0like0australia so sorry for your loss.  Hope you find a better medical team for next time around!
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  • acleverusernameacleverusername member
    @sydney0like0australia I am so sorry you are going through this. Stay strong! 

    TTC History
    TTC#2
    Me: 41; MH: 40 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
    Mar 2024 | consult to get established with a new reproductive immunologist (Alan Beer Center)
    Apr/May 2024 | required testing & waiting for a protocol
    May 2024 | protocol given / decided to go back to my old reproductive immunologist, Dr. Jubiz
    Jun / Jul 2024 | more testing, incl. SIS, ultrasound, and endometrial biopsy
    Jul 2024 | Dx chronic endometritis; 14 days of 100mg of doxy given
    Sep 2024 | Repeat endometrial biopsy; still + for chronic endometritis. 2 more antibiotics + an antiviral
    Oct 2024 | Hysteroscopy turned polypectomy; endometriosis consult w/ specialist who confirmed high likelihood of endo based on symptoms and ultrasound; lots of blood tests ordered
    Mar 2025 | Endo excision surgery. Stage 3 endo found! Recoveing
    Apr 2025 | Planning transfer w/ RE & green light protocol w/ RI; target transfer July or August 2025
    May 2025 | Surprise BFP! EDD 1/11/2026


    TTC #1
    Me: 36, MH: 34 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
    TTC #1 02/2020 - 07/2022
    2009 | Dx PCOS; likely a misdiagnosis
    07/14/20 | Dx Hashimoto's Thyroditis
    07/21/20 | 1st RE appointment
    07/2120 - 08/20/20 | so much testing; no signs of PCOS
    08/20/20 | Dx Unexplained; AMA
    09/08/20 | IUI #1 Clomid + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
    09/30/20 | Urology consult; more testing required
    10/2020 | Clomid + OPK + TI + Prometrium | BFN
    10/26/2020 | Starting 2nd IUI cycle, with Letrazole and with a new RE / different clinic
    11/03/2020 | New Dx "poor egg quality"; IUI cancelled in favor of Trigger + TI + Prometrium | BFN
    11/26/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Menopur) + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
    12/20/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Gonal-F) + Trigger | IUI Cancelled due to thin lining; TI only | BFN
    01/14/2021 | Combo IUI (Letrazole + Menopur) + Trigger | BFN
    02/06/2021 | Switched to a new RE (TEW) ; trying naturally until we complete additional testing 
    03/14/2021 | Hybrid Double IUI, with Zymot (Letrazole, Gonal-F) + Trigger + Endometrin | Ovulated 4 mature eggs but still a BFN ☹️
    04/07/2021 | Natural cycle while we regroup | BFN
    04/09/2021 | Employer announces fertility benefits starting 05/01/2021! | Search for a new doctor who accepts insurance
    05/10/2021 | New RE consult & plan for IVF
    05/13/2021 | Mid-luteal IVF cycle #1 interrupted; had to get cancer genetic screening done to make sure I didn't have the same SDHA gene mutation as MH. 
    06/10/2021 | Aygestin priming IVF cycle #1; opted to Cx after 9 days of stims since only 5-6/12 follicles responded
    07/26/2021 | Attempt #2 at IVF cycle #1 (mid-luteal start): 8 retrieved, 8 MII, 6 fert (1 PN3), 3 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 3AA, 3AA, 6AB; 3 euploid
    08/09/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC | Shockingly, a BFP! EDD: 5/25/202 | CP at 4w4d
    09/23/2021 | IVF cycle #2 (mid-luteal start): 14 retrieved, 13 MII, 11 fert, 5 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 2 x 3AA, 2 x 3AB, 3BB; 2 euploid
    11/12/2021 | IVF cycle #3 (mid-luteal start): cancelled due to ovaries being on vacation
    12/20/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + Pregmune Immunology Testing; BFN
    01/22/2022 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + understanding uncovered immunological issues; BFN
    02/18/2022 | Mock transfer cycle! ERA, ReceptivaDx, EMMA/ALICE; start Prednisone to address NK activity
    03/16/2022 | Final, "Hail Mary" super-ovulation + TI cycle before FET; BFP! EDD: 12/21/2022 | MMC 05/08/2022
    05/20/2022 | D&C; recovering... 
    06/21/2022 | Trying naturally until October 2022
    07/21/2022 | BFP! EDD 04/02/2023; 👦🏼 born on 4/5/2023


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  • grateful_mamagrateful_mama member
    Well, I woke up yesterday morning to painful cramps and bleeding that continued with a lot of clots. :'( I've had a lot of other stressors with school and safety concerns with a class mate. I'm just exhausted and ready to get off the rollercoaster. I have an appointment on Thursday to get some bloodwork done and get checked out. Hope to be back here in a little less than a year, after I graduate, as this wasn't planned and isn't ideal timing anyway. I wish you all the best. <3 
    Also, weird "coincidences".. My birthday is Dec. 19, my sons is Jan 19. I had a loss at 5w in January, and I swear the hours that it all started damn near matched up perfectly with the hours of his labor. And guess what yesterday was?? the 19th. Which would have also been in the time frame for the due date with my loss in January. 
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  • pajamstagramspajamstagrams member
    @grateful_mama I'm so sorry. I know how you feel about the "rollercoaster", I went through something similar with my loss, and it was nice to get closure in the end, and just "get off the ride", so to speak. I hope your appointment Thursday brings you what you need. ❤️❤️
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  • kham130kham130 member
    @grateful_mama

    I'm so sorry about everything you've been going through. I remember the waiting with mine was the worst and I hope that once you get answers you're able to get the space you need. Sending you healing thoughts  <3
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  • b_1029b_1029 member
    @grateful_mama I’m so sorry ❤️
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  • itsagalsworls1024itsagalsworls1024 member
    @grateful_mama I’m so sorry for everything you’re going through. I hope you get comfort and answers Thursday 

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  • b_1029b_1029 member
    @acleverusername no 💔 I am so, so sorry to see this update. Hoping to see you pop up in a bmb soon. Take care of yourself. 
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  • pajamstagramspajamstagrams member
    @acleverusername oh no, I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ sending you hugs 
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  • austinjlaustinjl member
    Today I had an ultrasound and no heartbeat was detected.  I’m heartbroken.  
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  • b_1029b_1029 member
    This has been a sad day for our bmb. @austinjl   am so sorry for your loss. 
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  • happynapperhappynapper member
    So sorry to hear, @acleverusername, @grateful_mama and @austinjl . Thinking of you  <3
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  • acleverusernameacleverusername member
    @grateful_mama & @austinjl I am sorry you guys. God bless. 🙏

    TTC History
    TTC#2
    Me: 41; MH: 40 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
    Mar 2024 | consult to get established with a new reproductive immunologist (Alan Beer Center)
    Apr/May 2024 | required testing & waiting for a protocol
    May 2024 | protocol given / decided to go back to my old reproductive immunologist, Dr. Jubiz
    Jun / Jul 2024 | more testing, incl. SIS, ultrasound, and endometrial biopsy
    Jul 2024 | Dx chronic endometritis; 14 days of 100mg of doxy given
    Sep 2024 | Repeat endometrial biopsy; still + for chronic endometritis. 2 more antibiotics + an antiviral
    Oct 2024 | Hysteroscopy turned polypectomy; endometriosis consult w/ specialist who confirmed high likelihood of endo based on symptoms and ultrasound; lots of blood tests ordered
    Mar 2025 | Endo excision surgery. Stage 3 endo found! Recoveing
    Apr 2025 | Planning transfer w/ RE & green light protocol w/ RI; target transfer July or August 2025
    May 2025 | Surprise BFP! EDD 1/11/2026


    TTC #1
    Me: 36, MH: 34 | Met 02/2009 | Started Dating 08/2017 | Married 02/02/2020
    TTC #1 02/2020 - 07/2022
    2009 | Dx PCOS; likely a misdiagnosis
    07/14/20 | Dx Hashimoto's Thyroditis
    07/21/20 | 1st RE appointment
    07/2120 - 08/20/20 | so much testing; no signs of PCOS
    08/20/20 | Dx Unexplained; AMA
    09/08/20 | IUI #1 Clomid + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
    09/30/20 | Urology consult; more testing required
    10/2020 | Clomid + OPK + TI + Prometrium | BFN
    10/26/2020 | Starting 2nd IUI cycle, with Letrazole and with a new RE / different clinic
    11/03/2020 | New Dx "poor egg quality"; IUI cancelled in favor of Trigger + TI + Prometrium | BFN
    11/26/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Menopur) + Trigger + Prometrium | BFN
    12/20/2020 | Combo IUI (Clomid + Gonal-F) + Trigger | IUI Cancelled due to thin lining; TI only | BFN
    01/14/2021 | Combo IUI (Letrazole + Menopur) + Trigger | BFN
    02/06/2021 | Switched to a new RE (TEW) ; trying naturally until we complete additional testing 
    03/14/2021 | Hybrid Double IUI, with Zymot (Letrazole, Gonal-F) + Trigger + Endometrin | Ovulated 4 mature eggs but still a BFN ☹️
    04/07/2021 | Natural cycle while we regroup | BFN
    04/09/2021 | Employer announces fertility benefits starting 05/01/2021! | Search for a new doctor who accepts insurance
    05/10/2021 | New RE consult & plan for IVF
    05/13/2021 | Mid-luteal IVF cycle #1 interrupted; had to get cancer genetic screening done to make sure I didn't have the same SDHA gene mutation as MH. 
    06/10/2021 | Aygestin priming IVF cycle #1; opted to Cx after 9 days of stims since only 5-6/12 follicles responded
    07/26/2021 | Attempt #2 at IVF cycle #1 (mid-luteal start): 8 retrieved, 8 MII, 6 fert (1 PN3), 3 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 3AA, 3AA, 6AB; 3 euploid
    08/09/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC | Shockingly, a BFP! EDD: 5/25/202 | CP at 4w4d
    09/23/2021 | IVF cycle #2 (mid-luteal start): 14 retrieved, 13 MII, 11 fert, 5 Day 5 & 6 blasts: 2 x 3AA, 2 x 3AB, 3BB; 2 euploid
    11/12/2021 | IVF cycle #3 (mid-luteal start): cancelled due to ovaries being on vacation
    12/20/2021 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + Pregmune Immunology Testing; BFN
    01/22/2022 | Rest cycle / unmedicated TTC + understanding uncovered immunological issues; BFN
    02/18/2022 | Mock transfer cycle! ERA, ReceptivaDx, EMMA/ALICE; start Prednisone to address NK activity
    03/16/2022 | Final, "Hail Mary" super-ovulation + TI cycle before FET; BFP! EDD: 12/21/2022 | MMC 05/08/2022
    05/20/2022 | D&C; recovering... 
    06/21/2022 | Trying naturally until October 2022
    07/21/2022 | BFP! EDD 04/02/2023; 👦🏼 born on 4/5/2023


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  • grateful_mamagrateful_mama member
    So sorry @austinjl and @acleverusername. <3<3<3 And thank you all. It's nice to have a safe place to vent about these issues.
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  • pajamstagramspajamstagrams member
    @austinjl I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️
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  • BababattyBababatty member
    Oh no! I'm so sorry @acleverusername, @grateful_mama, and @austinjl! Send you all the love right now. <3 
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  • jandawgjandawg member
    Definitely a sad day, I'm so sorry for your losses. sending love to you all @acleverusername @grateful_mama @austinjl
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  • austinjlaustinjl member
    thanks all thanks all.  Wishing you all healthy pregnancies.  
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  • And846And846 member
    @acleverusername @austinjl
    @grateful_mama I’m so sorry for your losses. Sending love and peace to you all during this time. 
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  • kham130kham130 member
    @acleverusername @austinjl I'm so sorry for both your losses  <3 Sending you lots of love and healing thoughts.
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  • brookejay06brookejay06 member
    Hey everyone.. I had an early dating ultrasound today, I think I’m 5+5 because I got a positive OPK on Aug 26/27. I guess I could have ovulated a day or two after that, so maybe I’m 5+3? I’m not sure. That was what the dating ultrasound was supposed to clarify. They warned me that it might be too early to see a heartbeat, but they actually didn’t see an embryo at all, just a yolk sac (which she thought measured 6weeks.. to make things worse). They drew my blood and will tell me my HCG level hopefully later today. 
    They said it really just might be too early. I guess this is not abnormal if I’m actually only 5 weeks. But of course I’m nervous about a blighted ovum. 

    I feel weird. I don’t know if I’m “overreacting” because I actually have a healthy, just young, baby… or if I’m “overreacting” about being pregnant because I never actually had a baby at all. I just feel confused. 

    My husband is being sweet and wants to comfort me, but I don’t want comfort. I’m either so lucky to have a baby or I never had one at all… doesn’t feel like I deserve comfort. Just my raw thoughts! 

    I’m also bummed because I told a few people that I would have an appointment today and now they’re asking about it. I don’t feel ready to discuss in all the uncertainty. 

    Does anyone think it might be too early to see an embryo? 
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  • b_1029b_1029 member
    @brookejay06 I’m sorry for the uncertainty. I don’t really have any input but it certainly could be too early to see anything. Did they schedule a follow up US?
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  • pajamstagramspajamstagrams member
    @brookejay06 if you're really only 5 weeks and change, yeah it can definitely be too early. I had an ultrasound at 5+2 with my first and all they saw was a gestational sac. Typically many doctors don't like to do them that early because there's not a lot to see (mine was an emergency case, that's why it was done). Hopefully that's the case for you, and it's just too early ❤️ 
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  • brookejay06brookejay06 member
    @b_1029 I believe we will do another US in a week. 
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