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TFAS w/o 4/3


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What number are you trying for?

Month/Cycle?

WAYDTGKU:

WTO/TWW?

Ages of other child(ren)?

Any thoughts about this cycle?

Any questions?

Rant/Rave?

GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up? 

Re: TFAS w/o 4/3

  • What number are you trying for? 3 

    Month/Cycle? 3/2 1AL

    WAYDTGKU: PNV OPK BBT CM trying to wean breastfeeding 

    WTO/TWW? TWW

    Ages of other child(ren)? 1 & 3

    Any thoughts about this cycle? Well- I just learned that lube really decreases your chances of getting pregnant so a little less hopeful. 

    Any questions? Nope 

    Rant/Rave? My oldest had his first soccer game over the weekend and it was adorable! He did really well. On top of that he’s crushing it in speech m- he’s been working really hard I’m proud of him. My youngest has learned a few new words lately too. But Sunday after church he came in from outside and gave me a flower he picked and said mama and while I’m not sure he knew what he was doing it still melted my heart. 

    GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up? I have a few that would be good but my favorite one that is “safe for work” is that the Los Angeles Angels pitcher bit me when we were kids 🤣 our moms are friends! I always say that’s why my 3 year old LOVES baseball so much. He’s obsessed. His name is Dylan Bundy. Sorry can’t get the dang spoiler to work...

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  • @daisy0322 Some lubes can, but not all. I usually use Aloe Cadabra, which I’ve read *shouldn’t* have any negative impact. This cycle I tried Babydance lube which is supposed to actually help. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤞🏻
  • rachelredheadrachelredhead member
    edited May 2021
    @daisy0322 there are conception friendly lubes, just FYI. I use Conceive and we were using it when we got pregnant before. 

    What number are you trying for? 2

    Month/Cycle? 2/2 

    WAYDTGKU: pnv, Mira, trying to improve diet, monitor stress

    WTO/TWW? WTO 

    Ages of other child(ren)? Almost 10 months

    Any thoughts about this cycle? Waiting to ovulate so we shall see. One benefit of Covid and working from home is I can take a break during fertile periods and go make use of the time with DH. He’s a SAHD for our son so we still have to plan around nap time but at least we’re not planning around me commuting  and stuff, too. 

    TW: loss mentioned

    I’m also starting to have some loss anxiety. We had two losses before my son and I can’t really feel hopeful without also worrying we will go through a lot of sadness again this time. 

    Any questions? Not really

    Rant/Rave? I’ve only used the Mira for two tests so far and both times I had to reset the analyzer to connect to my phone. That is annoying AF so hopefully I will get the hang of it soon. 

    GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up?  I flipped a coin to determine whether I’d go to law school or move to NY to be an actress. Law school won. 
  • @distractedbyshinyobjects @rachelredhead yeah 😬 it was KY because it’s what was available I didn’t even think about it. Didn’t use much though so hopefully it’ll be alright. I just need my little one to quit nursing lol. 

    @rachelredhead i love your gtky 😂 Im cracking up. 
  • These GTKY are great omg!

    What number are you trying for? 2

    Month/Cycle? 2/2

    WAYDTGKU: PNV, OPK, timing

    WTO/TWW? WTO

    Ages of other child(ren)? 2.5 yo

    Any thoughts about this cycle? I forgot how long a period feels when it's not controlled by birth control pills. 

    Any questions? No.

    Rant/Rave? I'm more productive at work on this half of my cycle, so yay!

    GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up? MH's first name and my middle name are the same, and since he goes by his middle name, I insisted that our wedding invitations use both our full names, and it was when basically everyone learned we share a name, and I still crack up about it to this day. (I have a traditionally male middle name because family tradition dictates middle names are saints and my mother was annoyed, so she picked a male saint over a female saint, and my grandmother has never once acknowledged it.)
  • @daisy0322 I just learned the same thing about lube...  and saliva.  A little less hopeful here too 

    @rachelredhead what a way to decide to go to law school!

    @beakay8 that's a great story about your names, it was meant to be!

    What number are you trying for? 3

    Month/Cycle? 1/1

    WAYDTGKU: PNV, charting, timing 

    WTO/TWW? TWW

    Ages of other child(ren)? 10 and 5

    Any thoughts about this cycle? I've got my fingers crossed but have realistic view on how long this could take

    Any questions? Nothing right now 

    Rant/Rave? I was not thrilled to discover that saliva is bad for TTC...  we did try PreSeed though, so we'll see if that's helpful at all

    GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up?  I have a tattoo of my alma mater, I spent 7 years of my life and TONS of money on an undergrad and graduate degree there so it made sense to me!
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  • daisy0322daisy0322 member
    edited May 2021
    @jlbaker08 one night we used KY the other pressed. We got our other two kiddos with preseed. My husband kinda talked me down lol *if* I ovulate I have normal fertility and there’s tons of people in the world using lube and getting KU in the grand scheme of things it probably won’t change the odds that much. I just wanted to share that sentiment with you in case it helped you at all too. ♥️
  • What number are you trying for? 2

    Month/Cycle? 2/2

    WAYDTGKU: OPK, tracking CM and timing

    WTO/TWW? TWW

    Ages of other child(ren)? 2

    Any thoughts about this cycle? Period came early, but everything else is lining up. I just got my IUD out 2 months ago, so I'm trying to tell myself that things probably haven't settled into a real pattern yet. TTC-TWW specifically- is showing me just how patient I am NOT! If the first month is any indication, I can handle a BFN so much better than the not knowing for 2 weeks.

    Any questions? Actually an app question-where do you see notifications/inbox on the app (iphone)? Is there a place? Or do you only see that on desktop? I usually only use my phone for this, and had so many issues with the bump app during my first pregnancy, it made me a lot less interactive than I might have been, and I'm hoping that's gotten better in 2 years!

    Rant/Rave? Rant-TWW SUCKS. I try to distract myself, but this is what takes up most of my spare mental capacity lately.

    GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up? I was in a jug band in high school. I was the lead singer and played the washtub bass and the spoons. 
  • kgg2241kgg2241 member
    edited May 2021
    @Daisy22 ugh yes, I keep meaning to order some PreSeed. I put it off because I was convinced we would be one of those lucky few that gets pregnant right away after their first. And how sweet that your baby gave you a flower. Those are the best moments ❤️.

    @rachelredhead My Mira is finicky too. I had to reset it the first time I used it. I'm a little nervous about it. I joined their Facebook group, which is helpful, but it sounds like there are a lot of tech issues. Also some faulty wands. *TW* Also, I completely understand your loss anxiety. The thought of going through that pain again scares me so much. I guess there is nothing we can do, but it really takes away from the excitement of trying. 

    @shinyobjects I only see notifications if I'm actively on the app and they pop up. Otherwise, I think desktop is the only way. They really need to hire a new tech team to make it more user friendly. And your GTYK is so interesting/cool. I love it! 


    What number are you trying for? 2
    Month/Cycle? 3/3
    WAYDTGKU: Letrozole/mira monitor
    WTO/TWW? WTO
    Ages of other child(ren)? 19 months
    Any thoughts about this cycle? Just really hope I can make some sense of it. I feel like I have no idea what is going on with my body. 
    Any questions? Nope
    Rant/Rave? Not TTC related but I am so sick of allergies. I almost don't remember what it's like to wake up in the morning and not be a congested mess. 
    GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up? Okay I'm pulling out the big guns. I can smell when people close to me (family/coworkers) are getting sick. Not like cancer or anything, but I can tell when they are getting the flu or a cold before they even know they're sick. I've read about it and it is probably their immune system ramping up. I know that sounds made up but I swear it 😂. 
  • babyodobabyodo member
    @rachelredhead
    TW loss mentioned in spoiler
    We had a loss before we conceived in January 2020, so my loss anxiety is kicking in, as well. It was something that weighed heavily on my heart when we were deciding to start TTC again. I wasn't sure if I could handle going through all that again. I'm trying to stay optimistic, though.

    What number are you trying for? 2

    Month/Cycle? 1/1

    WAYDTGKU: tracking cycle & BBT, taking PNVs, PreSeed, HIO, tracking CM/CP

    WTO/TWW? TWW

    Ages of other child(ren)? almost 7mo

    Any thoughts about this cycle? This feels like my first "regular" cycle postpartum. It's nice knowing that I've got my mojo back, lol, if that makes sense. I was starting to think that my body had just given up.

    Any questions? This is a weird one and not a big deal, but does anyone know why the Clear Blue With Weeks Indicator test isn't available in the States? I had to order mine on eBay from the UK. I'm hoping it gets here before this weekend, but if not, oh well.

    Rant/Rave? Not feeling very ranty today. Rave - we're having a Cinco de Mayo potluck at work today and I am so excited. I brought dessert (pan dulce, conches, cocadas, guayaba cakes, and mango & watermelon chili lollipops).

    GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up? I can dislocate both of my shoulders at will. It's from an old playground injury when I was 8 years old. I tried flipping upside on the monkey bars, got disoriented and forgot to let go, and it dislocated both my arms. My teacher took me to the school nurse who popped them back in sent me back to class. Gotta love the '90s! 
    Me: 37 / DH: 41
    Due with baby #2: Feb 2022


  • bows22bows22 member
    To everyone who temps - I’m getting back into temping and using my trusty Mabis. However, DD usually wakes up at 4 and cries for us to come get her, and then she sleeps a few more hours in our bed. It feels like it takes forever for me to take my temp so that means either DH is going to have to always be the one to go get her (which he doesn’t mind but I feel bad) or we will just have to listen to her cry until I temp (which I’m not opposed to since it’s really only like a minute and she’s 3.5 but I’m sure it’s annoying when DH is trying to sleep). In theory should just be able to come in on her own, but I do sleep better knowing that she’s staying put so I don’t really want to mess with that. All of that to say, do you have a BBT that doesn’t take so long to register the temp?
  • What number are you trying for? 2
     
    Month/Cycle? 6/6

    WAYDTGKU: at this point, ntnp

    WTO/TWW? wto, cusp of tww

    Ages of other child(ren)? 16 mos

    Any thoughts about this cycle? using flo and cm the timing on this seems good, but who knows? i am that annoying human who got pg the first cycle with our daughter, and the fact that we are month 6 now just proves to me it's all a mystery. which i'm not surprised by! 

    Any questions? nada

    Rant/Rave? we left our daughter, c, with my parents for 5 days over the weekend and it was GLORIOUS! i love her, but oh 

    GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up? i made an appearance in a netflix docuseries. 

    @daisy0322 good luck weaning! i wrapped that up exactly on c's first birthday! i was very, very done. 
    @rachelredhead i've had 2 friends who dealt with that anxiety when having #2, i'm sorry! 
    @beakay8 oh that's so fun about the names! any thoughts on passing it down as a first/middle name?
    @shinyobjects yea the app.... sucks. not sure who is on their tech team, but they should hire new ppl. i mainly use a browser window on my phone over the app
    @kgg2241 ok your gtky is wild! i've never heard of that!
    @jlbaker08 is it like a coat of arms? the name? can you share more?
    @babyodo your cindo de mayo plans sounds delish!!!

  • @anniemarie887 Unlikely; my husband likes to joke we'd name a son after him, and I joke I'd tell the kid he was named after us both, but in reality, it's a totally fine name but neither of us are particularly fond of it for our children. It could be funny if we had a girl to give her my middle name (slash my husband's first name) and continue the absurdity in that way, but again, not likely. For our son, we incidentally gave him a middle name that is a saint so my grandparents didn't have anything to say on it, but his middle name comes from my husband's step-father, who raised him. My great uncle (my grandfather's brother) is also named this, so my family is kind of like, "Oh, you used a family name as the saint name," which is not at all what we intended to do, but hey, it keeps them happy and that's fine. I'm sure they'll be disappointed if we have another child and their middle name is random and not saintly at all lol 

    Also, oh man, leaving the kid with the grandparents is the best feeling. I was nervous the first time we did it, but since that time, I try to schedule a grandparent visit every other month for my kid. He loves their house and asks to go all the time. It's so good for everyone. 
  • i giggled at "saintly" @beakay8 and yes, this is the 3rd time... other 2 were just weekends... so this was the longest i've ever been away from her ever... got a photo/video dump every day, and she was having the time of her life. it was great, i was excited to get her back but didn't miss her. 
  • @anniemarie887 that's exactly it! I'm always excited when my kid comes home, but I don't precisely miss him when he's at his grandparents house. I mean, I do, but it's not like "I need him to come home right now" missing him. It's "I love when he's here, and I'll be ready for him when he's back, but wow, I also really love sleeping in and taking showers whenever I want to take a shower." lol My kid's preschool closes for two weeks in summer, so we usually send him for one full week during that time, and then take our own week off with him the other week. Otherwise, he goes for weekends and it's still great. A+ for getting your kid some long, quality other family time and taking time for just y'all at home. 
  • @beakay08 yes, the me/us time is so well needed. and that's so cute! it's like grandparent summer camp! i love it 
  • b_1029b_1029 member
    edited May 2021
    What number are you trying for? 2

    Month/Cycle? 2

    WAYDTGKU: CM, OPKs, PNV

    WTO/TWW? WTO...I think?

    Ages of other child(ren)? 10 months

    Any thoughts about this cycle? Not optimistic, since we've only had sex once so far - DH was sick yesterday so it didn't happen, and my OPK got fainter (it was never deemed positive by the premom app, but I feel like it was pretty close the day before yesterday). I'm going to try to suck it up and seduce him tonight to give us another chance.

    Any questions? How do you TTC with another kid? I feel like we hardly have time to ourselves. 

    Rant/Rave? well as I mentioned, DH was sick. My original Tuesday plan was to drop DD off at my ILs (MIL wanted to do some sort of Mother's Day craft) and DH was going to play volleyball, so I was going to have a glorious couple hours to myself after work. That turned into both DD and DH being home and me having to do everything with her. She has been really crabby/needy and today I finally took her to the doctor - ear infection. I feel bad I let it get to this point because I kind of thought something was going on Saturday, but until this morning she was acting like her typical happy self. Anyway last night DH and I fought because I get so resentful that he can just not have any responsibilities when he's sick, but when tf do I get a break? Not when I'M sick!!!

    GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up? my brother and sister are 55-60 years old ? Idk I'm bad at this haha
  • @b_1029 does your daughter sleep in her own room? and through the night? i'm pro sleep training, which is controversial... so needless to say, she goes down 7/7.30ish and down for 12 hours... so we've got quite the window of opportunity lol
  • b_1029b_1029 member
    @daisy0322 I was surprised when I heard that about lube also. I guess I had never thought about it before. When we were TTC DD we used preseed, not that it ever helped, but I know some people that it did! I think little boys and their moms are so sweet, that's adorable about the flower!

    @rachelredhead sorry for the anxiety, friend. It's understandable after the heartbreak <3 

    @beakay8 that's really cool / funny about the names! It also sounds like you were meant to be.

    @jlbaker08 hopefully you're a unicorn and it happens quickly for you. The waiting game sucks. 

    @shinyobjects there's nothing like the TWW to show you how impatient you truly are. I swear it's like 2 months long sometimes. 

    @kgg2241 is your monitor working better? Hopefully you're able to figure out what's going on with your body soon. I can't remember, are you being monitored at all while on letrozole? That's insane that you can smell when people are getting sick...I knew dogs could do it, but had no idea humans could! 

    @babyodo it's so nice feeling like your body is getting back to what it's "supposed" to do! I got my first period at 4m PP and was surprised that it immediately went back to it's typical 26-28 day cycles. Our bodies are so cool. I've never heard of that CB test but that's weird it's not available here. Hope you enjoy the Cinco de Mayo potluck!

    @bows22 sorry, I'm no help with your Q about temping. I remember mine taking a long time before too but I know there are quick read ones. TBH I wonder if the quick read infant one would work since that one's so speedy (we have the frida mom one) but not sure it would go in far enough hahaha

    @anniemarie887 it's crazy how it can be so easy for one kid and not for another! Bodies are a true mystery. Glad you all enjoyed some kid free time this weekend. sounds lovely! I love when my ILs watch DD for a day or overnight every once in a while. They adore her, and I get some time to not be 100% on mom mode.
  • b_1029b_1029 member
    @anniemarie887 yes and yes! Very grateful she mostly SSTN, and now that we've moved, she's on a different floor of the house. We keep the monitor on at night but before her room was like 4 feet from ours and we could hear everything. I think we need to get her to bed earlier so we have more time to ourselves. Usually it's like we put her to bed and then are up for maybe 30 more minutes together. Plus DH has been really busy with work so he's been working late most nights. 
  • @b_1029 def shoot for that 7pm bedtime, it's magical IMO. we are lucky to have short commutes and be home at 5.30pm so i enjoy getting her little butt to bed! at 10 mos we were still doing 2 naps per day, but no more than 90 mins each and that 7.30pm bed time has stuck with us thru the 2:1 transition 
  • kgg2241kgg2241 member
    @b_1029 Ehhh no one attack me, but I'm not being monitored. I did 12 cycles last time I was TTC using Clomid/Letrozole, so I feel pretty safe in knowing how my body is going to respond. Also, how are your siblings so much older (assuming you are my age LOL)? 

    @anniemarie887 Uhhh that is amazing that your parents took your daughter for so long. I would have a hard time with it I'm sure, but I'd also love not needing to make breakfast and do the whole morning routine for even one morning. 
  • b_1029b_1029 member
    @kgg2241 lol, no attacking! I was just wondering so you'd get a better idea of what your body was doing. My dad is 85 and they are his kids from his 1st marriage. He's 12 years older than my mom. I'm adopted but I'm 32 :) 
  • @anniemarie887 it's the letters for the school NCSU and at 22 I thought getting NCSU in curlz font was cute... haha :lol: I do still love it though.  A weekend to yourselves is always glorious!
    @b_1029 the first 2 were surprises so this is all very new and I'm trying to be cautiously optimistic without setting myself up to be disappointed.  RE: TTC with others at home, we go for it right after the kids go to bed... we're also lucky to still be working from home together, so we have opportunities while they're at school too
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  • kgg2241kgg2241 member
    @b_1029 haha I just remember last time I was TTC people would get very upset if you weren't being monitored. I meant that I feel safe that it won't cause me to rupture an ovary or any of those horror stories. I do wish I was being monitored to know when I'm ovulating. And that makes sense with your siblings. That would be so interesting. My mom has a big gap in her family too. My cousins are my parents age and their kids are my age. 
  • Eep, this thread is long! I’ll try to come back later for more tags.

     @babyodo I can do that too! Really freaks my DH out.

    @b_1029 The “suck it up to seduce” makes me giggle a little. So much is unglamorous about TTC!

     

    What number are you trying for? 2

    Month/Cycle? 2/2

    WAYDTGKU: OPKs, vitamins

    WTO/TWW? WTO

    Ages of other child(ren)? 3.75

    Any thoughts about this cycle? Feeling the pressure of getting older. I hate the feeling of a biological clock, but it does make me anxious.

    Any questions?

    Rant/Rave? My DD is getting to be such a great kid. I hated the baby stage (she was difficult, and I had PPA), but each stage since then has been better than the last.

    GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up? I can’t think of anything too awesome, but I did have 6 wisdom teeth. So wise over here! Or I was until I had them removed.


  • What number are you trying for? 2

    Month/Cycle? 1/1

    WAYDTGKU: PNV + full regimen, eating clean, going on  30-45 min walks when Mother Nature cooperates, I gave up coffee and very much limited vino. OPK's (CBAD + cheapie as a follow up), Glow app for tracking. Lord help me lol. I'll do anything!

    WTO/TWW? TWW

    Ages of other child(ren)? 2.5 boy

    Any thoughts about this cycle? We Bd'd quite a bit and more than usual. Not sure if that will help or hurt us. 

    Any questions? nooo

    Rant/Rave? I love that my son is at the age where we can have inside jokes and have real life fun together! He is so dang cute. At the same time I am dying inside at how big he is and wish I can get the baby years back! so many emotions. If I ever get to see him holding a sibling baby I might actually turn into a puddle of tears. He is obsessed with babies. We have a bunny rabbit in the yard who hops around every morning and he named it "baby". My heart. 

    GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up? Hm I am quite boring. But, I went to elementary, middle and high school with my husband! We got together after college once we started working. We have since moved back to our home town (my neighborhood I grew up in, around the block from my parents and my childhood house) and our son will go to the same school we went to. Sounds like Everyone Loves Raymond LOL.
  • edited May 2021
    <div>What number are you trying for? 3</div><div>
    </div><div>Month/Cycle? Treatment 1/2</div><div>
    </div><div>WAYDTGKU: Natural FET</div><div>
    </div><div>WTO/TWW? TWW</div><div>
    </div><div>Ages of other child(ren)? 8m, 2.5y</div><div>
    </div><div>Any thoughts about this cycle?  Yes.</div><div>
    </div><div>Any questions?  No.</div><div>
    </div><div>Rant/Rave?  Nothing worth mentioning here.</div><div>
    </div><div>GTKY: What is something that’s true about you but sounds made up?  IDK, I guess I'm just not in the mood right now, sorry.  But I am enjoying reading everyone else's interesting fun-facts! :)

    @daisy0322 That is so sweet about your son.  DD just gave me a "cupcake" (made of a circular shape sorter toy and a chalk egg), and wished me a Happy Birthday!  too cute!</div>
  • b_1029b_1029 member
    @BusinessWife girl, are you ok? That was like the biggest non-update update ever, lol. Hope everything is alright. 
  • @b_1029 It is what it is. <shrug>
  • @babyodo that dessert spread sounds amazing!! And I've never heard of the weeks indicator. If it can say 1-2 weeks...does it tell you sooner than the "6 days" sooner early ones?

    @anniemarie887 omg that sounds amazing! I totally get it. Everyone needs a break, it doesn't diminish any love for the little one. We did a 3 day weekend away when dd was 9 mo and it was so glorious. Feels like a million years ago.

    @b_1029 omg suck it up and seduce, lol. I hear you!! And the man flu struggle is reaaaaaal. 

    @BusinessWife :::hugs:::
  • I’ve been really busy this week and for some reason my app isn’t working great- maybe it needs updated. I just wanted to say I love all your GTKMYs! 
  • @BusinessWife hope you're doing better today
  • @BusinessWife I’m sorry, I hope your able to take some time to take care of you today ❤️
  • @BusinessWife :::hugs::: Take care of yourself. 
  • @BusinessWife I’m sorry. ❤️
  • bows22bows22 member
    @BusinessWife❤️ Take care of yourself. I’m so sorry. 
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