Backstory - My husband and I had 2 kids (6 and 8 at the time) when we were SHOCKED by #3. I was totally done having kids (I thought), but my husband wasn't sure, so he hadn't gotten snipped. Now #3 is 1 yo, and I just found out I am pregnant again. My husband and kids have been begging for #4, so I am not upset. My husband is a great dad, and I love being a mom. But I am expecting all of my friends to say "What the hell is wrong with you? Do you not know how sex works?". So I want to be excited, but I am anxious instead. Just looking for some positive vibes to get me through this nervous day. I don't want to talk to any friends about it till I am further along, so I feel a bit alone with this right now.
Re: Need positive vibes
October 2015 - 1st MC. 7-8 weeks along. Suspected molar PG, but luckily just a MMC.
June 2016 - 2nd MC: 4-5 weeks CP
September 2016 - 3rd MC: 4-5 weeks CP
RE 1: ALL the testing - 'unexplained' "Yinz can do IVF or try on your own"
Feb 2017 - 4th MC: 6 weeks
RE 2: More tests. Still 'unexplained.' Called fat for an entire hour-long appointment, cried a lot
Feb 2019 - 5th MC: 6-7 weeks
IUD - March 2019-March 2023
RE 3: Repeat all the tests. Hoping to try IVF.
I echo others who have said, it may be time to make some new friends. I have to wonder what is wrong with society when you realize that otherwise normal people go around operating under the assumptions that 1. Using Birth Control is normal 2. Sex is not meant PRIMARILY as a means of procreation 3. A couple in a loving married relationship ought to be anything but thrilled to have been given the gift of another child!
I know I am speaking from my own personal perspective and (possibly unpopular) religious views, but I'm glad your husband didn't, "get snipped!" Imho, people take their own reproductive capabilities so much for granted, between prescribing hormonal birth control to teenagers (messes with their brain chemistry and impacts the type of prospective partner they are attracted to, nevermind assumes that they just cannot control their passions enough to abstain), to married men/women getting snipped / tied and whatnot. Speaking as an azoo wife and infertility survivor, I seriously can't even fathom. What I wouldn't give to be able to fall spontaneously pregnant with MH. Or to ever know that queasy omg this is happening feeling of having babies super close together. Sorry to rant, but anyone who isn't by default over the moon for you needs to get bent. Congratulations!!!
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