@theblondebump Super UGHH to weight comments! They can back off. Some women gain almost nothing, some the 20-30, some 60+, (I was one of the chart toppers with DS lol).
I seriously get so grumpy about weight / body / food comments in general. Pregnant me is going to flip if anyone starts with me. This baby has made me so sassy 😳.
Hubby & Me: Born 1993 Married: August 2013 Son: December 2018 Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept
@theblondebump 😳😳 on that comment. No, just no. ANY comments on weight are not okay. I’m on the smaller end and got a lot of “Why aren’t you gaining weight” (I did) and “ugh I hate you for looking like that pregnant” —— uhm those are just NOT nice (or appropriate) things to say to anyone!! It’s shocking me to how people loose their filters around pregnant people.
@cagncoo12 congrats on your recent weight loss! 30 lbs is a big deal!! sorry your mom made that comment - I can totally see my mom saying something insensitive like that.
@bblair24 yesss - I cringe at all those comments too! DH's entire immediate family have historically been pretty terrible to me, they are very much of the mindset "blood is thicker than water" (and actually have said that in the past!) and haven't exactly welcomed me into the family with open arms, but now that we're pregnant, it's been a totally different story :eye roll:
@kvh22 I totallyyyyy identify with what you're saying, my MIL is an alcoholic and that's where a lot of the issues have stemmed from. During wedding planning there were so many issues with DH's family and we all really never recovered from it, until now that I'm pregnant, everyone is basically pretending like all of that never happened. But yes, thankfully my husband immediately shut down the weight thing. It's funny, if any other person had commented on my weight, I'd be like UM WOULD YOU LIKE TO CARRY THIS BABY? (not that I've even gained an ounce of weight!!) but in-laws, I just ignore.
@juliebird6 omg at the quadruplets comment!!! what is wrong with people?? also, milkshake sounds delicious!
@runsoncoffee that's awesome, neighbor! I'm in northeast PA near jersey.
@pelorunningmama same!! I have never ever drank a glass of regular milk in my entire life and haven't had chocolate milk probably since I was like 12. But lately it's been calling me!
Ugh can’t believe how many people make the weight comments! I did not gain much weight with my first but in hindsight realize baby was growing slow due to problems with the pregnancy so NOT a good thing!! I also lost a lot of weight after the baby was born because I was so ill and spent so much time in ICU unable to eat so it really annoyed me when people would say they were “jealous” of how skinny I was. I always reply, yea nearly dying is a great weight loss program. Give it a try 🙄 how hard is it for people to just not comment on weight?! Ok end rant lol
We should start a whole thread on in-laws. With my first baby my MIL posted on Facebook that I was pregnant no less than 10 minutes after I told her not to tell anyone. She’s gonna be last to know this time around!!
Yes to everyone's views on the weight comments! In my opinion, it usually comes from a place of insecurity. When I got in great shape for our wedding, MIL kept saying "don't lose anymore weight! You're too skinny!!", now his whole family likes to remind me not to gain too much weight during pregnancy - no winning!! Luckily, I'm not worried about pleasing them and am already amazed at my body for growing a baby!!
@jenn622-2 totally agree on an in-law thread!! My MIL told DH the other day she was dying to post on FB - I overhead him saying WE'LL TELL YOU WHEN ITS OKAY TO POST, NOT YET. haha. I can't believe yours did that!!
@jenn622-2 OMG that's the fastest way to ensure you're the last to know for any future news. Wrong on so many levels but also just shooting herself in the foot. Ugh! And hearing other ppl's in-law stories helps ground me with how MIL is good in so many other ways. She's amazing about all of the things that her mother and MIL were bad about b/c she's trying to be sensitive to those things. Like, has never once made a comment about me BFing so long or toys or TV or anything with the girls. BUT she went on and on about how hard it was for her when they each started daycare, especially my first. Like, you don't think it's hard for me, lady??? Shut up about it! She never had to send a kid to daycare so she just couldn't get it. And DD1 was almost 6 months old by the time she started. DD2 was 7.5 months and only went for 2.5 months before the pandemic happened and daycare shut down and she hasn't been back.
RE: the weight comments, I’ve been under weight my whole life (due to metabolism and also some stomach issues like IBS) and people love to tell me I’m too skinny. It started in middle school - a boy I didn’t know at a school event straight up approached me and said “do you have an eating disorder?” And has continued ever since! Earlier this year I stopped by DH’s office and they happened to have doughnuts. The secretary said to help myself to one. His boss saw me eating a doughnut and said “you eat like that, and look like that? Not fair!” I always want to say “if you’d like to lose weight, try having diarrhea several times a week. Really keeps the pounds off!” 😤 People just don’t know and should keep their mouths shut!
The best was when I was pregnant with DD1 and teaching. I stepped out of my classroom after school and another teacher passed me and told me I wasn’t big enough, I needed to gain weight. I walked down to the office and a teacher there said “you sure it ain’t twins?!” I was like wow, something must have happened on my 20 second walk to the office 😂
I can't believe all these insensitive weight comments! Well, actually, I CAN believe them, but it's just so wrong. I don't get shy about putting people in their place when they comment on my body. Not weight-related, but a couple of years ago I was taking body fat measurements for people at a health fair. This one woman just WOULD NOT shut up about my tattoos. Literally, she was going ON AND ON about how awful they were and blah blah blah. Even though I was working, I finally couldn't take it anymore and dead-panned, "I'm sorry my ugly body is so offensive to you." She was flabbergasted and didn't know what to say. Well lady, shut the f up about my tattoos! Clearly I like them! No one held me down and forced me to get them!!!
I've been laid up on the couch for the past two days with a migraine and I am so grateful to not be throwing up this morning!! It was so miserable and gave me a ton of anxiety about morning sickness. I kept telling myself, "It's just the migraine, you won't feel like this forever," but I was stressed out. Thank God I feel better today.
And one last random: my BFF who has had three losses in the past year just found out she is having identical twins!!! I'm so happy for her!
@kvh22 My mom is convinced its a girl solely because of the morning sickness too. With how bad i've been feeling this past week (I'm 8+4 today) with not just nausea but vomiting and so many aversions to smells, DH is just like "yup, theres 2" lol I'll literally be walking down the hall at work and dry heave about 4 times for no apparent reason. Its real fun.
@jenn622-2 My MIL all but ran down the halls of the school shouting it out about my first pregnancy even though I told her not to tell. She didn't think I'd know since I wasn't working there that year.
Re: Weekly Randoms Week of 8/31
Married: August 2013
Son: December 2018
Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept
The best was when I was pregnant with DD1 and teaching. I stepped out of my classroom after school and another teacher passed me and told me I wasn’t big enough, I needed to gain weight. I walked down to the office and a teacher there said “you sure it ain’t twins?!” I was like wow, something must have happened on my 20 second walk to the office 😂
I've been laid up on the couch for the past two days with a migraine and I am so grateful to not be throwing up this morning!! It was so miserable and gave me a ton of anxiety about morning sickness. I kept telling myself, "It's just the migraine, you won't feel like this forever," but I was stressed out. Thank God I feel better today.
And one last random: my BFF who has had three losses in the past year just found out she is having identical twins!!! I'm so happy for her!