Totally random bc we have been in this group for like ... 5 minutes, but it's always so hard for me to follow threads in the bump format! I forget to log on then lose my place when I go to comment. Also I just can't seem to concentrate on work bc the amount of effs I have to give when I'm this tired is about zero.
I am so curious if the nesting bug will hit me with this one or not. We keep our babies in our room for a very very long time, so a nursery isn’t necessary. However, dd3’s nursery is set up and still in use since she is just 20 months. I’m trying to decide if we will move her upstairs with the big kids some time in the next 7 months or just keep her here until this babe moves into a crib. I may even have the two crib sleepers share a room.
@pelorunningmama I look at all the nesters in awe lol! We are so boring. *inserts a crib* Look! A nursery 🤪. We had almost nothing set up until 36 weeks for DS. I have felt it a bit more this time, and I’ll hopefully use the energy to keep decluttering our house & scrubbing it down.
Our room can fit a crib and bassinet, so there’s no rush in my mind to move this baby out into a nursery anyhow. We only moved our sob because we moved homes & he still spent lots of night in our bed (and still will I’m sure aha).
Hubby & Me: Born 1993 Married: August 2013 Son: December 2018 Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept
@bblair24 DD just saw my bagel and asked if she could have it and I said no and ruined her life, haha. It's the only thing I can stomach right now and I'm almost out!! FTM: get ready to never have your own food again. That's been one of the most annoying parts of motherhood for me.
@riff323 that’s hilarious! I bought Craisins yesterday (dried cranberries) and both girls are obsessed with those. So they split a box at lunch and then wanted more for their snack. DH was like “wait, didn’t you buy them for yourself? Don’t give them your snacks!” 😂 So at least we’re on the same page! It’s so true, I always take more food than I want because one of them sees my food and then they start circling me!
@theblondebump I really don’t love sharing either. DH helps himself to my plate sometimes (I eat slow and he’s always done first) and I’m like, um I’m going to eat that. 😂 But when your choices are 1) give up a cracker or 2) deal with a hangry tantruming child, I always give them the cracker!
Can anyone suggest something simple and easy that I can say to my BFF (planning via text) to let her know I’m pregnant? They’ve been trying and struggling for so long and ours is completely unplanned (and she will definitely know that). I know I need to tell her but every time I try to start a message, I quit because I over analyze every possible word, punctuation, etc. Anyone else have to do this recently and have something you can copy/paste that I can steal?! 😬
@pelorunningmama I'm with you on the nursery! This baby will probably be in our room for a long time, and the "soon to be nursery" is our guest room and where the peloton is- Not looking forward to having to move that beast so unless the nesting bug strikes, I'll prob cross that bridge after the baby is here!
@juliebird6 I had a lot of friends get pregnant while we were trying and going through fertility treatment, I always appreciated most when they were honest with me.. My cousin was the best, she texted and said it was a hard text to write because she knew how much we were struggling but she also wanted to be sure I heard it from her and I heard it first. Then she mentioned how she knows the universe unfolds as it is meant to and was so confident I would be a mom someday and she was so excited to be a part of it when it happened. It was really nice..
@riff323 yaaaas- my son is the same way! These days it's so tough when I make something that is all I can stomach and his eyes light up when he sees it! back off buddy...
@juliebird6 I don’t have anything that you can copy BUT I just wanted to offer encouragement that you’re going to text her! The advice someone gave me a long time ago was to tell the person in that scenario in a way where they have time to process it (ie not in person or over the phone where you’re waiting to see their reaction).
When my BFF told me (with #1) at dinner together, we’d been trying for a year and I held it together in front of her but then literally sobbed on the way home.
@juliebird6 I just want to commend you for telling her right away, because it's the right thing to do. I read some articles before telling my BFF, who was about to start IVF, and one of them said something along the lines of: "You have no right to assume how someone else will feel at your news, so you have to tell them the truth." That really stuck with me! You know your BFF probably a lot better than a lot of people, so think about her and the right words will come to you. And please keep us updated!
ETA: In my case, all of my reading meant nothing... my BFF is pregnant too, and we're due within four days of each other! So you truly never know what could happen!
@juliebird6 MH and I were trying for a year, with a loss about a year ago. One of my good friends told me she was pregnant, and delivered on my original due date. I think it is great that you're telling her; if I had found out through facebook or something I would have been upset. Additionally, we have two friends who have been trying, and I am planning on telling them at the second trimester. I will probably do it via text, saying something like "I don't want to hurt you, but I wanted you to hear it directly from me..." and then give them space to process.
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I am so curious if the nesting bug will hit me with this one or not. We keep our babies in our room for a very very long time, so a nursery isn’t necessary. However, dd3’s nursery is set up and still in use since she is just 20 months. I’m trying to decide if we will move her upstairs with the big kids some time in the next 7 months or just keep her here until this babe moves into a crib. I may even have the two crib sleepers share a room.
Married: August 2013
Son: December 2018
Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept
ETA: In my case, all of my reading meant nothing... my BFF is pregnant too, and we're due within four days of each other! So you truly never know what could happen!