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Postpartum Depression
sweetc235
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Depression Third Trimester
sweetc235
member
Hi. So, I will start off by saying that I have been diagnosed with depression and have been taking Zoloft through my second and third trimester. Lately though, things have gotten worse.
I am currently about 7.5 months pregnant (due April 02) and have been what I feel is unfairly terminated from my job 2 weeks ago. For the past week, I’ve been at home with no income - watching my husband wake up and go to work everyday.
Today, I discovered he’s looking to take online courses to obtain his MBA. I feel this is mostly because he thinks he has no choice given the circumstances. He has ambition, is successful and works hard to provide - and I can’t even hold a job for our family.
Of course I take care of the home while he’s working, but I can’t help but to feel like a waste. The biggest thought that goes through my mind every day is “what am I even good for?” I feel bad for my husband and am embarrassed at what he might secretly think of me (he probably wishes he’d married someone more educated or successful, maybe he views me as a burden etc.) I feel I have failed our growing family.
Has as anyone been here before? Does anyone have any advice? Please.
I am currently about 7.5 months pregnant (due April 02) and have been what I feel is unfairly terminated from my job 2 weeks ago. For the past week, I’ve been at home with no income - watching my husband wake up and go to work everyday.
Today, I discovered he’s looking to take online courses to obtain his MBA. I feel this is mostly because he thinks he has no choice given the circumstances. He has ambition, is successful and works hard to provide - and I can’t even hold a job for our family.
Of course I take care of the home while he’s working, but I can’t help but to feel like a waste. The biggest thought that goes through my mind every day is “what am I even good for?” I feel bad for my husband and am embarrassed at what he might secretly think of me (he probably wishes he’d married someone more educated or successful, maybe he views me as a burden etc.) I feel I have failed our growing family.
Has as anyone been here before? Does anyone have any advice? Please.
Re: Depression Third Trimester
There’s a huge debate between whether moms should work or stay home, but I think fulfillment doesn’t just have to come from being a stay at home mom. For a woman who is used to working, suddenly being at home with no job, no stimulation, no co-workers, and no money feels like a huge loss. Something similar happened to me with my first baby. I personally feel that sticking a new mom in a house alone with a newborn 24/7 is a recipe for PPD all by itself.
Give yourself permission to just be a mom for now. You are young and have a whole life ahead of you to go back to work and earn money. Your baby needs you now to just be a mom. You have enough to do with diapers, feeding, and laundry. Sleep when the baby sleeps. If you find the time and energy, do something you like. Read or paint or bake or exercise. And don’t neglect that PPD. Go back to your psychiatrist and tell them what they have you on isn’t doing the trick. You may need a higher dose or an additional medication or maybe some therapy. Don’t be ashamed of it. It happens to millions of women every year and it’s temporary. You will get through it. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and eventually you will get to where you’d like to be. Baby steps.