Hey everyone,
This is a space to discuss and share ideas If anyone is still thinking of doing a baby shower!
If you are doing a baby shower:
1. how are you doing it? (Outside, Zoom, drive by, normal)
2. When are you doing it? (How many weeks will you be)
3. what is your theme going to be?
4. How many people will you invite?
5. How are you going to make it fun despite the current pandemic situation!?
And if you are choosing not to have one you can also explain your reasoning here!
Re: Baby Shower
1. Outside-ish, we will likely do it at my parents pool house which is open on one side.
2. As soon as weather and first or second round of vaccines permits, so sometime after Valentine's day, but more likely may-ish.
3. Sip and see is fun, because there are relatively few gifts (though not none), and I'll come up with a festive owl themed drink as baby's initials are o.w.l.
4. Likely invite 50, but expect 25 or so. My bil has 5 kids, so the headcount gets high fast.
5. Hopefully there's a vaccine on the horizon by then, so it can be nearly normal fun, but no matter what, at least we'll have more data in 9 more months.
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
3. What is your theme going to be? No idea - my sister and mom are planning it
We’re doing a few things: a Zoom shower for our family and friends back East and in Australia, a small park meetup for friends that live here, and then we’ll plan to travel back to MA for a sip and see if/once there’s a vaccine (next year?)
Zoom: 9/26, about 30 weeks
Park: probably around the same time but not sure yet
3. what is your theme going to be?
3. what is your theme going to be? Fall decor/little pumpkin? Haha
This is our first baby so my best friend wants to still throw something for us and to be honest it will help financially to have people buy some gifts. I think it’s been a hard year in everyone, DH was laid off for half the year so it’s not like we can’t afford baby but it’s definitely nice that people will help out with gifts!
3. what is your theme going to be? Fall decor/little pumpkin? Haha
This is our first baby so my best friend wants to still throw something for us and to be honest it will help financially to have people buy some gifts. I think it’s been a hard year for everyone, DH was laid off for half the year and it’s not like we can’t afford baby but it’s definitely nice that people will help out with gifts!
At this point no idea if we'll do anything! We're planning on buying everything we need, haven't heard any offer from anyone to host anything (my mom was dead set on hosting for our first...and she did a wonderful job!) I guess we'll see how it goes as we get closer.
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I have a sister who is also expecting #3 and we are planning a shower for her because it is her first girl and her boys are a little older so they need to restock a few baby things (and she really wants one). This made things kind of awkward because I had to explicitly release the planners in my family from a sense of obligation to hold a shower for me if they have one for her.
I've never heard of a sip and see but that seems like a fun idea!
We will actually be doing 2, one for my family at my mom's and one for my husband's family at his mom's to keep the numbers as low as possible. They will be in person, outside, with a drive by option. I'm also thinking of having a few friends over to my house mostly just because I haven't been able to really see anyone in so long!
We actually don't have dates yet which is not great because I'm very adamant on it being outside so September is really our last chance for nice weather. I really don't want to plan anything, my mom and MIL love planning the fun things like themes and games (I hate games) but somehow planning always stops at important things like renting tents for if it rains and stuff. I've been super busy with work (and it's only going to get worse in the next month) so I'm going to try to get them both to commit to a date and let them know that this is all up to them.
3. what is your theme going to be?
Not sure, they both like cheesey babyish things whereas I would like something geared a little more toward my taste but my bridal shower was a hot mess with fighting with my mom because she had a specific vision of what she wanted which is not my taste in the slightest, so this time I've just given up. They can do what they want because I don't have the energy to stress about it. That's why I figure when theirs are over I can have my friends at my house with fancy desserts and cocktails (mocktails for me!) and that will satisfy me.
There will probably be 20-30 people invited to each one.
ETA: Sorry if I sound ungrateful, I'm really happy they're so excited for the baby and want to do so many things for us, but they're both very over-the-top which is the complete opposite of my husband and I.
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7