Omg.. I was out for a walk just now and on my walk I found 2 four leaf clovers!! 2!! I have never even found one in my entire life and I found 2 today. 😀 That better mean good things and it better bring me some luck cause I really really need it lately. Here's one of them and the baby tiny one in the background.
Question.. because I'm very frustrated lol. Sorry it's long.
I have two sons, 2 years old and 1 years old. My mother in law and I are not super close, she's very nice but she's very "whatever" and vapid about any rules or things I tell her about the kids. She is pretty scatter brained and I feel like she never hears me and goes with what she wants to do. Because of this, my parents always watch our kids and she watches them here and there just for a couple of hours at a time so she can still see them. Otherwise we are there with the kids and visit together.
Her and her new husband go camping every summer a few hours away and always take the older cousins who are 8 and 9 for five days. She's been bugging me since my oldest was 1 to take him too without us... And I'm like, no way! Today she cornered me and guilted me that next year when my son is 3, she WILL be taking him camping. Ugh. She tells me "oh he'd have the time of his life, there's a blob in the middle of the lake, horseback riding, and swimming pools!" He's going to be 3 and doesn't know how to swim!! Or do any of those things! But she looks at me like I'm crazy if I say he can't. They also can't keep up with him, let alone when they are also watching other cousins.
My husband is completely on my side and is like, no way. But I can't help feeling frustrated that she so blatantly asks me like "it's time finally to let him go". Am I crazy? What age would you let your child go camping alone with your in laws? I was thinking not until 8 or 9 but shes already laying it on thick and he's 2. I don't get why she's rushing it. I would never say yes or give into her, we always stick out ground, but just needed some input I guess if this is normal or if I'm overreacting.
@elmich3 I think it totally depends on the person who’s taking them. If it were someone responsible and used to being outdoors with kids that young, then sure. But it sounds like she is not that responsible at all. Also, 5 days is a looong time to be camping with kids (trust me, it’s part of my job haha). And no way would the campground let a 3yo get on a horse.
What about if you and your husband went with them as an intermediate step? You could even just go for a couple of the nights?
In any case, at least it’s not for a year. You can always give a “we’ll have to think about it” type of answer and just punt it off until next year to come up with an excuse?
Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Just that fact that she thinks my son at 3 can ride a horse or jump in the middle of the lake with no knowledge of swimming makes me not trust her judgement. She just kind of has her head in the clouds and thinks what she thinks would be fun. I don't trust that..lol
I said that to my husband as well, that if he ever did go, until he's old enough, that we would all go or my husband. And just stay a night.. because we will have three under three so camping isn't really fun for us right now lol and that's the frustrating part, she's just thinking what would be fun for her, but we are just not at a good stage right now for that stuff. I've had a newborn every year, so even though she's impatient, we need time.
I appreciate you listening to my rant lol I will just push it off until next year, it just really bothers me that her judgement is so off and she makes me feel bad
@elmich3 I agree that your son is way too young to even consider that kind of trip! Even though I completely trust my in-laws, I wouldn’t let them do that with my older kids who are 5 & 6. It’s too long, and there are too many dangers for kids so young who don’t always have the best judgement, especially if you don’t already camp as a family. If you feel comfortable with it, you could tell her that when he’s 3 he would be big enough to spend 1 night at her house for a sleepover, but no camping trip until he’s old enough to be a proficient swimmer on his own (with no assistance or puddle jumper). And of course, by the time he’s 3, she may forget about it!
@readermom1 Very good ideas, thank you! That is a good idea to offer a sleepover at her house next year. My son does a 1 or 2 sleepovers a year with my parents but never with his mom. I wanted him to be able to communicate better before he stayed at her home alone.
Also, a great way to put it. No camping alone until he's a good swimmer, I will use that! I feel like that is understandable
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I have two sons, 2 years old and 1 years old. My mother in law and I are not super close, she's very nice but she's very "whatever" and vapid about any rules or things I tell her about the kids. She is pretty scatter brained and I feel like she never hears me and goes with what she wants to do. Because of this, my parents always watch our kids and she watches them here and there just for a couple of hours at a time so she can still see them. Otherwise we are there with the kids and visit together.
Her and her new husband go camping every summer a few hours away and always take the older cousins who are 8 and 9 for five days. She's been bugging me since my oldest was 1 to take him too without us... And I'm like, no way! Today she cornered me and guilted me that next year when my son is 3, she WILL be taking him camping. Ugh. She tells me "oh he'd have the time of his life, there's a blob in the middle of the lake, horseback riding, and swimming pools!" He's going to be 3 and doesn't know how to swim!! Or do any of those things! But she looks at me like I'm crazy if I say he can't. They also can't keep up with him, let alone when they are also watching other cousins.
My husband is completely on my side and is like, no way. But I can't help feeling frustrated that she so blatantly asks me like "it's time finally to let him go". Am I crazy? What age would you let your child go camping alone with your in laws? I was thinking not until 8 or 9 but shes already laying it on thick and he's 2. I don't get why she's rushing it. I would never say yes or give into her, we always stick out ground, but just needed some input I guess if this is normal or if I'm overreacting.
Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Just that fact that she thinks my son at 3 can ride a horse or jump in the middle of the lake with no knowledge of swimming makes me not trust her judgement. She just kind of has her head in the clouds and thinks what she thinks would be fun. I don't trust that..lol
I said that to my husband as well, that if he ever did go, until he's old enough, that we would all go or my husband. And just stay a night.. because we will have three under three so camping isn't really fun for us right now lol and that's the frustrating part, she's just thinking what would be fun for her, but we are just not at a good stage right now for that stuff. I've had a newborn every year, so even though she's impatient, we need time.
I appreciate you listening to my rant lol I will just push it off until next year, it just really bothers me that her judgement is so off and she makes me feel bad
Also, a great way to put it. No camping alone until he's a good swimmer, I will use that! I feel like that is understandable