Unpopular Opinion 5/15

kboydbowman · May 2020

Sorry guys, I always forget this is supposed to be a Thursday thread!

So....unpopular opinions...share them!

Mine: Cats are FAR superior to dogs.

mamahosch · May 2020

@kboydbowman My golden retriever is crying, but my cat is rejoicing 😉 I’m partial to both animals since I grew up with both (and lots of other farm animals)

MTV drama shows (Teen Mom, Jersey Shore, etc) are dumb and a waste of airtime.

babyodo · May 2020

I find the baby onesies with witty sayings on them to be incredibly tacky.

Example:

For some reason, MH's friends keep tagging him in them, and I cringe so hard and think to myself, "Dear god, please don't buy us one of those."

kboydbowman · May 2020

@mamahosch Remember when MTV actually played *music*?

carrotsandpeas3 · May 2020

@babyodo I can't stand those onesies/clothes either and my parents buy crap like that all the time. I told them I didn't like it, but they don't seem to get it. Currently have some stupid shirt in the bottom of my daughter's drawer that she has never worn that says something like "dad says I can't date until I'm 30!"

I've been donating about 1/3 of the stuff my sister passed down to me for taste reasons, so maybe I'm just picky. Just trying to stop keeping stuff I know I won't ever put my kid in as it just takes up room.

calliah · May 2020

I hate GIANT bows on baby girls (sorry to any lurking S19ers. Lol) I’ll never have a girl so I guess I don’t have to worry about it.

ginevere · May 2020

@babyodo I am of the same opinion. I also don't get why certain girl things have to be so... girly. I think I mentioned this in randoms yesterday, but I found some girl patriots football onesies in my hand-me-downs and omg, we are just going to use the boy ones.

Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/u9/j8alzscsltbc.jpg

I don't know why, but stuff like this makes me want to gag.

I am also not opposed to bows and girly things, but there are absolutely no situations where a hair bow is to even come close to exceeding the size of the baby's head! No thanks.

babyodo · May 2020

Totally agree about the gigantic hair bows on baby girls. I can understand headbands with bows, but they shouldn't look like a satellite dish on your kid's head. Also, I have a friend (sister of the girl with the Lily Pulitzer dorm room) who always puts these on her baby girl, and I'm like...that looks like a sad donut...

anitamargarita_82 · May 2020

Y’all are gonna love me!!!! I love big bows! My daughter has been wearing them since she was born and now they’re a prerequisite for leaving the house. Same with matching barrettes, clips, and little bows for pig tails. She loves to check herself out in the mirror with a new bow on.

I also am a fan of Lilly Pulitzer. I enjoy the bright colors of her designs although they are a bit over priced. Same with Vera Bradley.

I’m just a bright color person. Always have been. My daughters room is pink and purple. I also love a nice heavy embroidered lace. My wedding gown was lace and can best be described as resembling one of my grandmother’s lace tablecloths 😆. I also enjoy a beautiful strand pearls. My husband bought me a gorgeous set that is an ombré pink to white strand a few years ago.

MJDsquared · May 2020

My daughter is almost 2.5 and has never had a haircut. People on internet comment sections really hate on no-haircut kids, so I assume that's unpopular. I think she looks adorable (though too grown up! lol) when she rarely lets us put her hair in a ponytail. We have clips but she rarely will keep those in. Also not a fan of big bows. I'd put a cute headband (with no big bow) on for her montly baby pictures but it usually came off right after.

I'm not a vera Bradley or Lily pullitzer fan either. But I feel like big bows, vera Bradley, and Lily pullitzer aren't big in my area anyway.

kboydbowman · May 2020

@babyodo I actually love those!

ginevere · May 2020

It's definitely regional! I used to date a guy from Louisianna and his sister was crazy about the giant bows for her baby. She even started her own bow making business. I think I have mild PTSD from that whole family. They were absolutely nuts.

I am also 100% a northern New England girl and we just don't really do that around here.

The company I work for sells Vera Bradley, Lily Pulitzer and brands like that so I have been cracking up. I do love me a Lily Pulitzer agenda. I also have an obsession with octopus, so any pattern with an octopus is an automatic buy from me. Some of the patterns are a little nauseating though, especially when it's an entire room full!

anitamargarita_82 · May 2020

@ginevere my husband scuba dives and is quite enamored with octopus as well. I just ordered him this for Father’s Day from a guy I found on Etsy. I think he’s gonna love it!

https://etsy.me/2Lt2Njz

coldbrew · May 2020

I *hate* the huge bows, I think they look ridiculous. I think headbands with bows are cute but not when the bow is as big as the child’s head lol.

I also dislike ANY clothing with lame sayings, no matter the age of the child or adult. The worst ones are the kind that sexualize kids like “lock up your daughters” 🤢🤢

animalandplantrescuer · May 2020

My unpopular opinion is I do not like baby showers. So much so that I’m thankful we can’t have one because of Covid-19.

If we are able to have something, it will hopefully be super small hang outs with friends or family, which is much more my style. And there will be no stupid games.

morethanamama · May 2020

NO TO THE BOWS!!! I might get a headband or 2, maybe, but everything looks so uncomfortable for the baby!
Also agreed on the onesies with the lame sayings.

Rena21 · May 2020

I hate baby showers too! Just don’t love the attention. We didn’t have 1 for our first and not planning 1 for this baby. I second bows and “witty” sayings on onesies. I also really don’t like the whole pink for girls and blue for boys thing that we’ve been conditioned to buy into. I try to buy my daughter as many neutral colored clothing items as possible. Our nursery is also neutral...so we’ll be using it for our boy when he comes in October.

animalandplantrescuer · May 2020

@Rena21 That is exactly what I was dreading. I went to my sister in laws, and she had to open all the gifts in front of about 30+ people. Just the thought was giving me anxiety. I also dislike the games that are generally played when I’ve attended them. I say baby as soon as I get there so I don’t have to worry about it the rest of the party.

Several small gatherings that aren’t all about me and the baby is so much more my speed.

MJDsquared · May 2020

My UO is I love shower games 😂 I haven't been to many showers, but I do think I prefer the games at a party that isn't for me, mostly because I know how much (most) people hate the games and I don't want to be the reason they must suffer through, lol.

profmcgonagall · May 2020

I like going to baby showers. I never had a baby shower myself but I imagine it would be awkward to have all the attention.

No to big bows on babies.

No to trashy onesies. Luckily we were never gifted any.

mamahosch · May 2020

I love baby showers! They’re fun! I’m just traditional in the way that I want the full pregnancy experience. I guess it doesn’t bother me because I had a bridal shower so there was already attention on me for a few hours one day already... those of you who don’t like baby showers, did you have a bridal shower (if you’re married)?

Kurtni · May 2020

Also a baby shower hater. It just feels tacky to invite a bunch of people over for the purpose of giving me gifts? I’ve never had one much to my mom/grandmas displeasure. Buy stuff for baby after it’s born if you want, but we don’t need a whole party with the extended family to do that. 😬

I did not have a bridal shower. I dislike those even more because it’s asking for double gifts, one there and one for the wedding. The purpose seems obsolete too, with so many couples getting married at older ages and living together before marriage- you already have a home full of all the stuff you “need”. Gifts clearly aren’t my love language. 😅

baseballismyfavoriteseason · May 2020

Gifts are very much my love language and I still hated my baby shower. 😂 There were extenuating circumstances though that I won’t get into. 🤪

mckjacks · May 2020

I didn’t have a bridal shower and won’t have a baby shower. I hate having attention on me.

animalandplantrescuer · May 2020

So glad I’m not the only one! What everyone has said as their reasons for disliking them is my exact reasoning.

For those that say they love them, I’m glad that you do. It is a time to celebrate an exciting experience, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

AB518 · May 2020

I didn't have a baby shower, but I did have a bridal shower. The bridal shower wasn't a traditional bridal shower. It was held across the country from where I live, so there were no physical gifts at the actual bridal shower. It ended up basically being me just hanging out with family and friends while we ate good food and had some good drinks. I don't like being the center of attention, so it was perfect for me.

My unpopular opinion is that I don't like receiving gifts. DH and I don't like giving gifts to each other. I have given him a total of one gift over about 10 years, and he has given me two gifts. We also don't like making a big deal about our birthdays.

aefsparrow · May 2020

I don't know if I'll have a baby shower... if I do it will be because someone else decides they want to do one for me. Most of my friends and family are spread across the country, so it isnt really a doable thing.

I didnt have a bridal shower, but then again no one was invited to our wedding either lol. Everyone knew we were getting married but it was kinda a planned elopement, just the two of us in Lake Tahoe with an officiant and photographer.

coldbrew · May 2020

I love going to showers! But I felt very uncomfortable for my own with DD1.

westslopemama · May 2020

I’m not into baby showers or bridal showers because I hate being the center of attention. I also hate clothing with silly phrases. When I was pregnant with my son, I received a gift basket with a bunch of onesies that said stupid things. I hardly used those with my son, what a waste of money! Huge bows look ridiculous and uncomfortable for the baby.

My UO is I dislike those expectant mother parking spots. Having special parking for pregnant women makes pregnancy seem like some dangerous medical condition where women can’t get around without help. Just because I am pregnant doesn’t mean that I can’t walk as far as I normally would when shopping. I understand for people who have a high risk pregnancy or complications where they shouldn’t be walking, but unless that is the case I would never use one of them.

Rena21 · May 2020

No bridal shower for me either. I really have nothing against other people having bridal/baby showers, I just despise the attention myself. Even the attention on my wedding day made me feel awkward.

babyodo · May 2020

I didn't have a bridal shower either, and I also hate receiving gifts (but I love giving them). I like going to baby showers for that reason, but wouldn't be disappointed if the expectant mom didn't open my gift at the shower. I know that the older women in my mom's generation would absolutely be upset if their gift didn't get opened in front of everyone, though.

I hate the gross baby shower games, i.e. the poopy diaper/candy bar game, who can drink a bottle the fastest game, speed-eating baby food, etc. I can barely tolerate the clothespin game where you have a collection of clothespins on you and you lose one every time you say the word 'baby'. I don't mind the ones that actually require skill, like being blindfolded and fishing safety pins out of a bowl of rice, or identifying the brands cut out of magazine ads, or pinching a coin between your knees and walking across the floor to drop it into a vase. Those are fun to me, and involve no embarrassment.

And living in the South where I'll be in the third trimester during the hottest time of year, I am so thankful for the expectant mother parking spots, and will use them with reckless abandon as much as I can. That being said, I've only seen one or two establishments that have them, so it's pretty much a non-issue here.

coldbrew · May 2020

@westslopemama I have to disagree. I’ll admit with DD1 I felt similarly, but after having a high risk and dangerous pregnancy with DD2 I was appreciative of things like that.

Pregnancy *is* a big deal medically for many women. I had excessive amniotic fluid due to her issues and would have contractions easily. If I could park closer which meant not having to carry DD1 far til we got a cart it made a big difference.

Especially now with things like Covid I feel we need to recognize how fragile pregnancy can be at times. We’ve kind of gone the other way as a society thinking it’s just NBD.

westslopemama · May 2020

@coldbrew I completely understand that some women need to have closer parking available due to high risk pregnancies or complications and maybe that’s why those spots are available.

I just can’t see myself using them while I have a healthy pregnancy. Since most women have typical, low risk pregnancies they just make me feel like society thinks pregnant women are helpless and unable to manage daily tasks without special accommodations.

anitamargarita_82 · May 2020

I love pregnant lady parking! I’ll use it every time and veterans/active duty parking as well. I will also accept help putting groceries or whatever in my car, I always tip person who helps me though. I have back issues and when pregnant they’re amplified and 10 times worse.

MJDsquared · May 2020

I've only ever seen pregnant lady parking at babies r us here, which obviously is gone now. I would definitely use it when I'm further along if I saw it.

aefsparrow · May 2020

I feel like it's just a vastly different perspective when it comes to pregnancy and needs for every mama. Hell my friend gave birth 19 days ago from home and is so active already it's insane. I'm just going to be happy to be able to walk from my car to my office once I reach week 30... some women do hot yoga the day they go into labor, some woman are know bedrest for 3 months. We all have different needs, some women do need accommodation in pregnancy, that doesn't make them weak.

My UO this week is that I think people are assholes for questioning people who have c-sections. I never realized until I was looking for suggestions and support how much of the information is geared towards guilting or terrifying women who have c-sections, and god forbid it be elective or planned you might as well just tell the world you're a terrible mother. It was so disappointing. I have no choice, but even if I did there is nothing wrong with having a c-section.

carrotsandpeas3 · May 2020

@aefsparrow I agree to an extent but I think it can go too far the other way too. When I was nearing my due date with my daughter and showed no signs of going into labor, a coworker asked me why I didn't "just schedule a c section?" in a very condescending way. She also went on to indicate that I was destroying my body by wanting to deliver vaginally and was somehow letting this baby destroy my life by not having it be a scheduled event. 🙄🙄🙄 A c-section is major abdominal surgery with a different level of recovery and risk versus vaginally delivery. It is very necessary for many women and I'm glad it is such a good option, but I highly disagree with pushing it on people (and personally disagree with elective c-sections without a medical indication so maybe that's my UO here).

themoonandme · May 2020

@aefsparrow YES. I've had 3 and will be having a 4th when this due date rolls around. It's amazing how many times I've heard negative comments, whether intentional or not. I don't agree at all with elective c-sections but can society not make this the birth olympics?! Let's just have babies the best way our bodies can.

profmcgonagall · May 2020

@themoonandme, you don’t agree with elective csections without a medical reason or elective csections at all?

My csections weren’t really elective as I didn’t have a choice when it came to the health or safety of my babies but honestly I would never choose a VBAC and I do support elective csections. There is a woman local to me that wants a elective csections due to her past vaginal birth which she describes as traumatic. I think she would be able to have one but that’s between her and her OB.

MJDsquared · May 2020

@aefsparrow I agree. My DD was breach so a C-section was scheduled (I had zero interest in doing a procedure to turn her). I had come to terms with it and then she turned on her own and I sobbed. My vaginal delivery ended up being super quick (the prodromal labor for days beforehand was shitty though) so I ended up glad it turned out that way, but still.

I don't like any shaming or gloating/holier-than-thou-ness because of how someone gave birth. So dumb.

babyodo · May 2020

My only concern with having a c-section is the higher risk for autoimmune disorders versus vaginal delivery births, but I am 100% on board for it if it saves the life of child & mother. I don't get the sanctimommies who throw attitudes about their delivery method, and I am of the opinion that regardless of delivery method, a mother has given birth (aforementioned sanctimommies tend to say a c-section is not a 'real' birth, which pisses me right off). I agree, it is not the birth olympics over who struggles to bring their child into this world the most. You don't get a medal after giving birth, you get a baby.

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