Ok ladies.. I need your opinion on something. I'm faced with a dilema and dont know what to choose and need some help. Here's my dilema: So I originally have my first ultrasound on June 1st at which time I'll be almost 11 weeks because that was the earliest I could get in. However, I wanted to get in earlier so I called another place far away from my house and they were able to get me in for an U/S on May 15th which is great and I would be just over 8 weeks at that time. I thought I would just keep both appts and get to see the baby twice which would be awesome and just get another referral form for my doc but apparently they said no. I'm not allowed to do that and it doesnt work that way and I can only get 1 dating ultrasound. BOOO lol So now I must choose which one and cancel the other one but I'm not sure which one to pick as they both have pros and cons to them. Here in BC Canada we only get 1 U/S at 8 weeks and then our next one is not till 20 weeks. Sucks So do I go to the earlier one on May 15th because Its sooner and I need something to calm my nerves to see anything in there because my very first pregnancy I had ended in an early MC at 7 weeks and would make me feel better but then I would have to wait a longer time till my next appt at 20 weeks and maybe might not get to see too much of an image or do I go to the appt in June which I have to wait more time for but I'll be way farther along by then and will get to see a better image of the baby and hear a stronger heartbeat etc and have less time to wait till the next appt but have to wait with my anxiety not knowing what's going in there. So I'm kinda confused and torn on which appt is better? What do you think I should choose? BE HONEST! Thanks 💕
@mindyb2019. What a hard choice to make. I feel for you! Can you get bloodwork in between the appointments? Is there some other confirmation they can run? I know how anxious it can be with not knowing how things are progressing. I feel either one gives you good pros and also some frustrating cons. Sorry for the lack of clarity, but maybe you can discuss your concerns with your doctor and come up with a good solution. I also know in the US, you can get an ultrasound and pay for it out of pocket. Not sure if that is an option for you, but might be worth looking into. Sending so much love to you sweet Momma!!
@mindyb2019 Oof that is a tough dilemma! I would probably pick the soonest appointment if you’re feeling nervous about how everything is going. 8 weeks you should still be able to see a lot and a heart beat and will hopefully settle your nerves until you can have your next scan. Plus I think around 16 weeks baby kicks start to make their appearance so that’s always reassuring as well.
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Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@dobiemom11 thanks girlie. Right?? It is a hard choice to make. Lol sucks. I was thinking about getting bloodwork in between and I'm trying to get some done deon my doc but not sure if hes willing or not I will have to see. Not sure if there's really any other confirmation they can run for me. It's crazy anxious not knowing what's going on inside. I wish I had a camera and could see haha. I think I could pay for it but both are at a public clinic and not a private one so thats not an option with either of those appts.
@bearmomma1 awesome. Thank you for your opinion on that. Thats true. I never thought of it that way that before my next appt at 20 weeks baby would be kicking or moving so that will help my nerves till then. Good point.
I feel so bad for everyone whose partner can’t be with them ☹️ They didn’t say anything when I made my appointment, and I’m going to ask when they call to confirm. Hopefully DH will be able to come, because I’m overly emotional from coming off my anti depressant, AND the doctor I’m seeing isn’t my preferred one in the practice, AND she spent half the appointment last time I saw her lecturing me about my weight. I just seriously feel like I need him for emotional support, not just to see the tiny human. So hopefully they’ll let me bring him in with me 🤞🏻
I’m in Texas and clinics and hospitals have loosened some restrictions.. however, my OB’s clinic is doing video appts 7-9 weeks and first in clinic appt and labs 11-13 weeks.. so crazy right now! They typically do a prenatal intake appt with a nurse and labs at 4-6 weeks. I made my prenatal intake appt at 4w2d and they forgot to tell me it was just a phone appt and labs wouldn’t be done til 11-13 weeks. I’m still hoping things will change in the next couple weeks and I can see my OB at my 8 week appt. As of now, I have my video OB appt on 5/12 & they’ll schedule my first in clinic OB appt at that time. However, we have a private ultrasound clinic in my town that is operating still and I have an US scheduled for 5/11. I’ll be 8w1d. So, I am at least excited about that!! This clinic does US from 4-40 weeks and you pay out of pocket. My 5/11 US package is only $55 and you get 4 pictures plus a coupon for your gender US. Maybe if some of you aren’t able to get in with your OB/midwife for a while for an US, you can see if you have something similar in your area! The clinic just required proof I have an OB and am/will be receiving care.
@dreamscapes_ hopefully your husband is allowed to go. Currently at my office they’re only allowing husbands to ultrasound appointments.
@mindyb2019 if you get a referral to go do the earlier US, will you then have to change doctors or hospital? I fully get being anxious about loss, but assuming everything is perfectly fine with baby, would all the other pros of going earlier outweigh any cons? I can’t recall when I’ve had my other first ultrasounds, but this one they can’t get me in until May 26th and I’ll be almost 11 weeks. Which seems like a lifetime away, lol. But also this time I’m going to deliver at a hospital that is within 5 minutes of my house and not very busy versus my old one that’s 45 minutes away and so busy that it takes longer to find parking in the garage than the actual appts.
@shantx where are you at in TX? I’m west of Fort Worth, I’m not sure we have any ultrasound places out this way. Sounds like a Dallas area thing, but I’ll look.
@mindyb2019 I know that it's tempting to do the earlier US BUT you can see SO much more at 12 weeks than at 8. Development wise it's a much more informative and in depth US. There's nothing you can really do about a MC so I would personally wait for the 12 week scan if those were my options.
@mindyb2019 I'm nervous about Mc having had one in January and was advised by my OB to get an early US. While there is nothing you can do, for me it's about knowing and hopefully being able to rest a bit easier. I will be getting mine at right around 7 weeks, a bit on the early side but my doc wants it to be a week before my first appointment to make sure she gets the results ontime for the appointment. I don't know if I will be getting another one before 20 weeks or not. I have in the past as the early one was a dating one and then the check and scan at 12ish weeks. I'm in Ontario if that helps, not same province but same country.
@mindyb2019 ooooo that's a hard one! I would probably go for the earlier one myself. I'm in my first pregnancy now and have my first ultrasound on Tuesday in my 8th week. I think seeing the baby and hearing the heartbeat will put my mind at ease and give me something to continue to pray about and be excited about. If you wait until 11 weeks you will be able to see more but will you feel at peace or anxious? You know you best. Eeek regardless it's very exciting!!! Ps I'm in Canada too, Ontario so different province but I hear you!
I had my final HCG draw today and an appointment with my DR. My levels went from 261 to 752. Which is doubling in about 31 hours instead of 48. So we are doing an earlier US - it's still well within the range of normal, my RE is not worried at all, but wants to check in. I was reading online and sometimes in early pregnancy it doubles faster, or if its a girl, or multiples. Or sometimes it's just one healthy boy. But it did not more than triple which would be more of a concern.
@BmcD2016 I have a referral already so I can use it for the earlier appt or the later appt. I just cant use it twice. If I go to the earlier one I wont have to change doctors or hospitals. Everything stays the same.
@willashbaby ya I hear what your saying. It is temping to go to the earlier U/S but to be honest the o ly reason why I would choose that one is solely Because I had a MC before. If you took that out of the equation and that never happend I wouldn't know any different and would just wait for my appt as normal not even thinking twice about it. I understand that even if I have this earlier U/S that doeant stop me from having another MC. The baby either sticks or doesnt no matter how many ultrasounds I have. So I might just suck it up and have faith and hope in my body and wait for the longer appt so I can see more in it.
Thanks all you ladies for your thoughts and opinions. I really appreciate them.💕
@mindyb2019. That sounds like a good decision. I know it is so difficult, but you totally got this. And the payoff of your patience will hopefully be completely worth it. Keep kicking butt beautiful Momma!
@dobiemom11 awww thanks friend. Your so sweet mama. It will be difficult but I think in my heart it might be the better decision despite how nervous and anxious I am. If I make it to that appt then i know it was meant to be. I'm still going to see if I can get an hcg test before then just to help my anxiety out.
@mindyb2019 hold strong! I've been lucky enough to have seen both an 8 week and a 12 week and the 12 really is worth it, they tell you so much more and the baby really looks like a baby, it's amazing! I do hope you can get some bloodwork. I still test every other day since I have the cheapie strips, just to make sure the line stays as dark.
Soooo, I haven't been on here this week and I've been a bundle of nerves. I THOUGHT my ultrasound last Friday was good news. It was with radiology, not the OB so she couldn't really interpret anything for me, other than to point out the sac and the heartbeat. I had looked up the heartbeat on Google and thought it was in the average range. Well, the nurse from my OB practice called me on Monday and told me the heartbeat was actually kind of low. It was 105 and she would have liked to see it in the 120s. She said I was a week earlier than she had thought (well I knew this, I told her I ovulated almost a week late). Obviously Google gave me wrong information about average fetal heart rates, which gave me false hope. It's hard when you have to wait 3 days to find out the meaning of your US.
So I'm going back tomorrow (Friday), which will be one week later. It will be with Radiology again so that means I won't get an interpretation until Monday. Best case scenario they get a better reading on the heart rate and it will have gone up. DH is kind of pissed that I'm seeing radiology again and not the OB. But they simply can't fit me in until May 12, so it's either radiology or wait a couple of weeks. DH is worried I'm exposing myself unnecessarily to the Virus by going into a hospital a second time, especially after I told him I saw hospital staff not wearing masks. When I told him I was going anyway, his feelings got hurt and we got into an argument that lead into his role as a father and being partners and all this big stuff. We patched things up and it's all better. I'm still going tomorrow and I'm both looking forward to it and dreading it. I'm normally a very positive and optimistic person, so I'm kind of learning how to deal with these pessimistic feelings.
@dreamscapes_ I'm so sorry you got lectured about your weight! That makes me mad. There are soo many complicated reasons why we might be carrying around extra "fluff" and having basically a stranger try to shame you about it isn't helpful.
@dancingtreepose - How many weeks along were you at your ultrasound last week? At my last ultrasound I was measuring exactly 6 weeks with a heart rate of 100 - which my doctor said is perfectly healthy and normal.
@feather_heather I was measuring at 5 weeks 5 days with a heart rate of 105. To be honest, the nurse who told me the heartbeat was low was kind of stuck on the fact she thought I was a week later. I had to explain to her (again) that I ovulated almost a week late so the measurement made perfect sense. Your doctor's interpretation is making me feel better! Thank you!
Edit- No, I was measuring 6 weeks 5 days. Now I'm getting mixed up!
@dancingtreepose I’m sorry this happened to you! Baby heart rates vary so much. It could be 105 then 122 in 3 min. As long as there is a heart beat don’t sweat the numbers too much! (Unless they Are super low like 60-80’s).
@tryingktogku Thank you!! I need to hear that. I don't think the nurse has any idea how much she set my emotions off course by that one little comment.
@dancingtreepose often people don’t think about how anxious mamas are this early on. But trust me I did lots and lots of early ultrasound and fetal heart rate monitoring in my career and that is not something worth stressing about!
@dancingtreepose - I'm sorry that your first ultrasound was such a stressful experience, and I hope your second one gives you a lot of peace of mind. Can you contact the Radiology department ahead of time about your concerns re: masks? I know that in some hospitals, (non-medical) administration is trying to prevent the staff from utilizing PPE. Sometimes the only thing that will shift protocol is feedback from paying customers. You deserve to feel safe and comfortable during your appointment
@luckypenny11 Good point! The people I saw without masks were a receptionist and a couple of upper- management types judging by their business suits. Maybe they were saving the PPE for the staff working directly with patients. It was just uncomfortable having to walk between 2 unmasked people in the hallway. Next time, I will say something.
I had my tele health appointment yesterday. I don’t get to come in for an ultrasound until May 21st! That feels like so long to wait! They said they’re tailoring care to each pregnancy so I might have my appointment at 10 weeks and not come in again until 20 weeks! That’s just craziness to me.
I have to test my fasting blood sugars and my hour after eating every so often. I had GD last time and will probably have it again so if I start taking my numbers I may be able to skip drinking that awful syrup.
I had my appointment yesterday- everything is measuring on track. I go back in 4 weeks, he said that it’s hard to find baby’s heartbeat on Doppler until around 12 weeks (I was able to get one from the hospital for the tele health appointments) so I’m hoping he can show me what I’ll need to do to find the heartbeat between 10-20 weeks. I’d also love to get another ultrasound then too but I’m sure that won’t happen. It would be nice to have a better picture that the pea sized baby image I have now to show our families once we finally tell.
I had my first appointment with my OB 4/28. I had labs done and a quick ultrasound. She said everything looked good and we saw the heartbeat flicker! I'm high risk so I will see her again on 5/12 (9 weeks). I have an MFM consult on 5/26 due to preexisting hypertension and Type 2 diabetes. I saw MfM during my second pregnancy as well.
I also have a genetic counseling appointment on 5/11 because I was taking propranalol for my BP which I was told was safe for pregnancy but apparently is not. My cardiologist has since switched me at my OB's request. I'm really nervous about that appointment. Both MFM and Gentic Counseling are telehealth appointments thankfully.
@nmadjeski hopefully all goes well for you! The one thing good about being high risk is all the extra monitoring to keep you sane getting constant updates everything is okay!
Anyone else anxious to have their first ultrasound? Mines this coming Friday and I’ve been pretty good up until this point but you hear so many stories about people finding out the baby stopped growing or there wasn’t a heartbeat or it was ectopic during the first ultrasound and I’m a little stuck on those thoughts right now.
Re: Appointment Thread
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@bearmomma1 awesome. Thank you for your opinion on that. Thats true. I never thought of it that way that before my next appt at 20 weeks baby would be kicking or moving so that will help my nerves till then. Good point.
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However, we have a private ultrasound clinic in my town that is operating still and I have an US scheduled for 5/11. I’ll be 8w1d. So, I am at least excited about that!! This clinic does US from 4-40 weeks and you pay out of pocket. My 5/11 US package is only $55 and you get 4 pictures plus a coupon for your gender US. Maybe if some of you aren’t able to get in with your OB/midwife for a while for an US, you can see if you have something similar in your area! The clinic just required proof I have an OB and am/will be receiving care.
I'm in Ontario if that helps, not same province but same country.
Also, my first U/S isn't until June 1st either! I'll be around 12 weeks. I'm waiting right there with you, it's hard!
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DD Born: March 2018
DS Born: April 2019
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I would probably go for the earlier one myself. I'm in my first pregnancy now and have my first ultrasound on Tuesday in my 8th week. I think seeing the baby and hearing the heartbeat will put my mind at ease and give me something to continue to pray about and be excited about. If you wait until 11 weeks you will be able to see more but will you feel at peace or anxious? You know you best. Eeek regardless it's very exciting!!!
Ps I'm in Canada too, Ontario so different province but I hear you!
My levels went from 261 to 752. Which is doubling in about 31 hours instead of 48. So we are doing an earlier US - it's still well within the range of normal, my RE is not worried at all, but wants to check in. I was reading online and sometimes in early pregnancy it doubles faster, or if its a girl, or multiples. Or sometimes it's just one healthy boy. But it did not more than triple which would be more of a concern.
@willashbaby ya I hear what your saying. It is temping to go to the earlier U/S but to be honest the o ly reason why I would choose that one is solely Because I had a MC before. If you took that out of the equation and that never happend I wouldn't know any different and would just wait for my appt as normal not even thinking twice about it. I understand that even if I have this earlier U/S that doeant stop me from having another MC. The baby either sticks or doesnt no matter how many ultrasounds I have. So I might just suck it up and have faith and hope in my body and wait for the longer appt so I can see more in it.
Thanks all you ladies for your thoughts and opinions. I really appreciate them.💕
So I'm going back tomorrow (Friday), which will be one week later. It will be with Radiology again so that means I won't get an interpretation until Monday. Best case scenario they get a better reading on the heart rate and it will have gone up. DH is kind of pissed that I'm seeing radiology again and not the OB. But they simply can't fit me in until May 12, so it's either radiology or wait a couple of weeks. DH is worried I'm exposing myself unnecessarily to the Virus by going into a hospital a second time, especially after I told him I saw hospital staff not wearing masks. When I told him I was going anyway, his feelings got hurt and we got into an argument that lead into his role as a father and being partners and all this big stuff. We patched things up and it's all better. I'm still going tomorrow and I'm both looking forward to it and dreading it. I'm normally a very positive and optimistic person, so I'm kind of learning how to deal with these pessimistic feelings.
Edit- No, I was measuring 6 weeks 5 days. Now I'm getting mixed up!
heart rate monitoring in my career and that is not something worth stressing about!
I also have a genetic counseling appointment on 5/11 because I was taking propranalol for my BP which I was told was safe for pregnancy but apparently is not. My cardiologist has since switched me at my OB's request. I'm really nervous about that appointment. Both MFM and Gentic Counseling are telehealth appointments thankfully.
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