@kgrgreen that makes me feel better that it happened to you, too.
And seriously don’t stress about weight. There’s a wide range of normal and it sounds like your weight gain is perfectly healthy. I look huge, but I eat less than my toddler most days (not dieting, just low appetite) and weigh less than I did before the holidays. But when people see me (virtually) they are like WHOA you popped. We are all gonna get big. That’s a good thing. Babies are growing!
I’ve gained 20 lbs already 😐 at 22 weeks. I gained 40lbs total with with DD1, but I think I’m like 5lbs ahead of where I was last time. I think the biggest contributing factors were all the carbs I had to eat first trimester in order to not throw up and not being as physically active as last pregnancy due to lack of time/energy. I’m annoyed because I was really happy with my health and fitness last spring/summer and now I feel the opposite. However, I’m trying to give myself a break and continue listening to my body and what it wants to eat to feel satisfied. I go back and forth between being kind to myself and giving myself a hard time.
I think we all should give ourselves some grace with gaining weight. We're growing babies during a global pandemic, which is an additional layer of stress on top of the stress we were all expecting to endure. I know I handle stress/anxiety by snacking more, especially on chocolate and sweets. Other people might handle it by not eating as much. Plus our bodies will do weird things when stressed (hello, eczema flare up).
@wednesdaygirl1019 I completely agree and am definitely also a stress eater. I've never had so much ice cream or chocolate chip cookies in my house 🤦♀️🐷 Be kind to yourself girls. Whatever you need to do to get through this ❤
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@ziggymama06 Girl. Let's not even talk about how I ate a box of oreos in 3 days due to stress eating. We aren't doing take out (trying to save $$ and also it weirds us out a little) so every time I get a craving I can't fulfill I head straight for the pantry 🐷
Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction is killing me! I’m only 21 weeks and it’s started earlier with this kid than any of my past kids. it literally feels like a fiery bruise right next to my pubic bone. I’m not even sure how I’ll be able to walk when it gets close to the due date. I’m so sad that all of the pools are obviously closed due to COVID because walking is so painful and I wish I could swim instead so I could at least get some exercise in 😔 Anyone else have this and any solutions to ease the discomfort?
@kimberlyevan I had that with my first, and I could barely walk! I used chiropractic to be able to function again. I have heard that some are still open, based on the medical nature of their services. You want to find one trained / certified in Webster technique.
I had that with my last baby. Super annoying. Unfortunately, chiro didn't really help me at all. And I went to one who was supposed to be really really good.
What helped the most was wearing something around my hips. Some women use a stretchy band, kind of like a Bella band or similar. I used a back brace. I didn't wear it all the time, and sometimes if I wore it too tight, the pressure of that would result in the hip joint than hurting. It's annoying. I was hoping to do more strengthening of my lower body before getting pregnant again to hopefully help stabilize everything, but I was lazy and then got pregnant sooner than planned, so that didn't happen. But I haven't had it much so far this time.
I Did use a chiro for my first experience with it. And it helped quite a bit, but it didn’t really seem to stabilize until the baby dropped. Unfortunately I’m already seeing a chiropractor for a car accident i was in at 5 weeks. I can’t suddenly add the pelvic pain to my list of ailments because it won’t be covered 😔. But I definitely appreciate the advice!
My wrists keep giving out - painfully! Not exactly carpal tunnel yet, but I feel like maybe it's coming? Wrestling with a toddler to get her into a diaper is taking its toll...
@kimberlyevan my pregnant friend has been suffering from this since early 2nd tri and I know she was going to physical therapy, wearing a support belt across the hips like @coldlife2 mentioned, and she uses a heating pack on her groin throughout the day. I wonder if you could get a PT referral and have virtual appointments?
OMG it's so hard. @cornichonmam the other day we just hung out in the TV room with the potty and no pants / ( undies if she wanted them,) and tried to have a potty learning day... Which she's mostly not really ready anyway, but she is super interested. Like fine, you won't let me put the diaper on? Then you're going to use the potty! Lol. Spoiler alert: didn't totally work out, and I just do. Not. Have the energy to do that again today, since I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow and she will be in the car seat. Maybe I'll be better prepared next time, but DH threw something else at me yesterday, so I'm not going to try again till I have all week alone and don't have to leave the house. 🤷 But I digress. Half the time I just don't even put her pants back in, bc after fighting her for the nappy, I really couldn't care less if she wears the damn pants. Lol
@BusinessWife DS is not ready for potty training. He likes the potty but
still gives no indication if he needs to go or even if he has gone unless you
ask him immediately after a No. 2.
I'm just doing distraction, distraction, distraction during
nappy changes. He's obsessed with stones at the moment, so I have a stone I
give him to hold. We've been trying to have a bit more discipline with changes
this week and putting him in his cot for 30min if he won't lie down or singing
songs (that he loves) when he’s being good and letting me change him. I will
let you know if I find anything that helps.
I'm really struggling with taking him out for some exercise,
he won't hold my hand and won't come to me if I ask. I took him to the park
today and he was adamant that he wanted to go in the duck pond! I have to take
the push chair with me too, which makes it more difficult to chase after him.
But I just can't carry him now if he gets tired as he's tall and about 25lbs, especially with hurting
my back this week.
As the barely sleeping saga continues... I turned over in bed last night and got hit with the worst RLP!!! It was like someone punched me in the gut, but it went away quickly. Until now I've only experienced minor rlp, so this was new. Hoping to not experience it again, ugh.
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Allergies are real, the sharp pain in my low belly after sneezing is also real... me screaming expletives after I sneeze is also real evidently.... I learned this after my loving little daughter just said "F*(& you!" and smiled after I sneezed instead of bless you and then told me "It's okay mommy, I said it for you." I cannot be mad when she swears.. it's too friggen cute.
Yes, the insomnia is real. I am elated if I am able to manage to fall asleep before 3 am. Until then I am flipping like a pancake - laying on the left side hurts my hip, laying on my right side hurts my shoulder. And then I wake up in the morning realizing that I am on my back, which I am trying to avoid of course.
I’m struggling with the insomnia. I keep looking at magnesium lotions because my legs ache so bad, but I think I’m going to send a message about a mag supplement after reading everyone’s comments here. I have bad nausea and constipation, tmi, I also have a digestive disorder so if I’m constipated it makes me extra sick. My pregnancy induced carpal tunnel is horrible. I saw my ob today, had to wear a mask and my shortness of breath is crazy. I struggled just talking to her, but she said it seems baby is pretty high and then the added mask just made it worse. Everything seems ok with baby and me so far. I’m just miserable. My first trimester was a nightmare and I was so excited when I wasn’t sick anymore. It was short lived. *sigh*
Just a note for those struggling with insomnia, (((hugs))) try not to worry too much about waking up in the "wrong" position. I have always understood it to be the kind of thing where if it is harmful to the baby, your body would naturally, unconsciously, wake you up or change your position. So if something doesn't feel comfortable then fine, trust that and do your best to get comfortable, in whatever position that may be. But please please don't let that be another thing to stress out over right now, omg I fell asleep / woke up / read a book / watched a show in XYZ position. ❤️
Surprisingly, I am actually still more or less comfortable on my stomach, if just slightly shifted to one side or the other. I never would have thought this far along that would be a thing, but hey! I figure enjoy it while it lasts bc it probably won't be comfortable too much longer anyway.
@BusinessWife I find myself more comfortable on my stomach as well! I realized last night while on my left side I was mostly on my stomach. I know my body will definitely let me know when I’m not in a good position so until then, I’ll do what I have to do to catch a bit of sleep!
Another restless night. Baby is confused with the times of day as he/she likes to party from 11pm- sunrise basically lol. The movements, kicks, punches are So distinct and strong. To me, It is such an odd but the most beautiful feeling ever.
Baby hasn’t been as active during the day so I’ll take the sleepless nights if that means feeling my babe is alright in there!
@charhar0820@BusinessWife thanks for chiming in on sleeping positions. It helps to know that I don't need to panic if I end up sleeping on my back for a while during the night.
@strawberryfields82@BusinessWife The things to remember with the sleeping on your back is that
firstly it does not affect all women and secondly you will feel ill before it
will affect your baby.
Lying on my back does affect me and within a minute my
pulse and heartrate start to change, I also had it with DS too. I think the
worry is worse if you don't feel uncomfortable on your back because you can
worry if it is affecting the baby or not, where as I will know very quickly if
I need to move and I can experiment to find positions that work.
If you are
still worried, I sleep with a pillow behind my back so if I do roll on my back
one side is propped up a bit and that's enough to stop me crushing anything.
I have zero problems falling asleep. I have problems staying asleep. The same thing happened with my daughter. Last night I was awake from 2-6 am just unable to sleep. Usually a sleeping pill will help but I don’t want to take one every night. It’s so frustrating though.
TTC1: May 2015
Primary IF May 2016; Failed HSG; Scheduled Lap Sept. 2016
Echoing the back thing, for me I can be flat on my back, if my legs are elevated. I discovered my own limits during regular yoga that laying flat on my back with my legs out straight started to really bother me, but I can still lay flat on my back and put my knees up over the edge of the couch, or I can lay flat on my back and extend my legs up the wall, and sometimes I find that provides a really great stretch for me that really helps. I know at some point in my pregnancy these positions won't be doable... and I already have to be very slow and mindful when I sit up from these positions, but for now I use them when I can.
Sooo I've been incredibly exhausted for at least a few hours every day for the past week. Like can barely keep my eyes open. Wondering if I might be anemic? I haven't had my blood drawn in a while so I sent my provider a note to see if they want to test or if I can just try adding an iron supplement on my own. My prenatal vitamin has iron but my doula suggested also adding on something calling Floradix. Does anyone have experience using that?
@rivercitynik oh man, I was feeling that way too. My mw didn't seem too concerned? I'm pretty sure 3rd tri is where they start to get more concerned about it, and most likely will check it again at 28w. But still bring it up with your provider and see what they say! ❤️
I'm so short of breath guys... like, the current plague has me terrified that I'm sick but nobody in my home is sick and I don't have any other not allergy signs of illness... but my abdomen is just full feeling and I feel like I sometimes have to pause and take a deep breath or two to catch up. It feels AWFULLY early for this. Anyone else got this happening?
@RedBaramid I've been short of breath too lately. I am constantly taking giant breaths of air while talking, even if I'm just sitting on the couch not exerting any energy. I thought for a while that it was just baby sitting really high up and pushing on my lungs, but he's seemed to move lower down in the last few days and I'm still trying to catch my breath at times. Hugs, it's not the most pleasant feeling.
@RedBaramid I’ve been short of breath too, and I can’t tell if it’s lingering effects from the virus or if it’s from the pregnancy. I’m going to get a pulse oximeter to ease my anxiety if I can find one in stock.
@redbaramid I have asthma but I am pretty sure it’s that I’m running out of space. I’m on the shorter side and I think it’s just putting pressure on my lungs and diaphragm.
TTC1: May 2015
Primary IF May 2016; Failed HSG; Scheduled Lap Sept. 2016
Same! I had to talk a lot on some work calls today and I got so winded 😂 but @RedBaramid totally get it can be nerve wracking to experience symptoms that are common for both pregnancy and Covid
I'm really struggling with sleep, I think it's because the little one is so active at night and it's hard to get comfy. I've been sleeping hot and need to have the window open and just a cotton sheet on to stay cool enough.
Even my loose pants feel tight. I'm 21+2 and I've gained about 15 lbs. I really want to stay in the reccomended weight range. I felt the need to buy more maternity clothes, I thought I could get away with a lot less but nothing fits right anymore.
Suddenly I lost my appetite the last few days and I feel like I can barely eat. I've been trying to graze here and there just to keep nutrients coming in.
I also feel short of breath like many of you, and having to wear a mask for 12 hour shifts at work really feels suffocating. On one hand I'm grateful to not be financially affected by the current situation, but on the other hand I wish I had the option to work from home...
I feel like I am already having a hard time eating a normal portion because I feel full so fast! I can't figure out how this little guy can be simultaneously tap dancing on top of my bladder AND squishing my stomach and lungs. I mean, I JUST had my AS so I know there isn't a giant baby in there! I'm pretty tall too, how can I be running out of room this early? I didn't feel this uncomfortable until well into the third trimester with DD (in fact, I installed vinyl plank flooring in my family room at 7 months pregnant... meanwhile putting on shoes is already hard for me this time around ).
I lost 3 lbs in the last 2 weeks, I'm having trouble eating as much as I was before week 20. I feel full fast and I'm not even getting hungry. I do feel really weak and tired all the time lately.
I'm still at an "ok weight" range for my starting height and weight, but I just feel like I need to be getting in more nutrients for the baby. I'm feel like I'm eating half of what I was eating before.
I've been super nauseous the past few days which caught me off guard. Definitely not pleasant while trying to work and parent from home. I'm wondering if that means I'm having another girl as I know that's the only semi-research supported indicator. We shall see in August!
Married July 2014 DD born June 2016 Second due August 2020 (team green!)
Add me to the shortness of breathe club. I'm even out of breathe reading a book to my daughter at night. I didn't even think about hoe hard it will be breathe to wear a mask during our future appointments. I am consistently think if this is because of pregnancy or because of the virus, but I know I have no other symptoms so it's just pregnancy. And I'm certain that I am going to have a huge belly compared to daughters. But I'm pretty fine with that because I'm growing a beautiful human in there.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
Re: April Symptoms
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Anyone else have this and any solutions to ease the discomfort?
What helped the most was wearing something around my hips. Some women use a stretchy band, kind of like a Bella band or similar. I used a back brace. I didn't wear it all the time, and sometimes if I wore it too tight, the pressure of that would result in the hip joint than hurting. It's annoying. I was hoping to do more strengthening of my lower body before getting pregnant again to hopefully help stabilize everything, but I was lazy and then got pregnant sooner than planned, so that didn't happen. But I haven't had it much so far this time.
I'm just doing distraction, distraction, distraction during nappy changes. He's obsessed with stones at the moment, so I have a stone I give him to hold. We've been trying to have a bit more discipline with changes this week and putting him in his cot for 30min if he won't lie down or singing songs (that he loves) when he’s being good and letting me change him. I will let you know if I find anything that helps.
I'm really struggling with taking him out for some exercise, he won't hold my hand and won't come to me if I ask. I took him to the park today and he was adamant that he wanted to go in the duck pond! I have to take the push chair with me too, which makes it more difficult to chase after him. But I just can't carry him now if he gets tired as he's tall and about 25lbs, especially with hurting my back this week.
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Surprisingly, I am actually still more or less comfortable on my stomach, if just slightly shifted to one side or the other. I never would have thought this far along that would be a thing, but hey! I figure enjoy it while it lasts bc it probably won't be comfortable too much longer anyway.
Lying on my back does affect me and within a minute my pulse and heartrate start to change, I also had it with DS too. I think the worry is worse if you don't feel uncomfortable on your back because you can worry if it is affecting the baby or not, where as I will know very quickly if I need to move and I can experiment to find positions that work.
If you are still worried, I sleep with a pillow behind my back so if I do roll on my back one side is propped up a bit and that's enough to stop me crushing anything.
Even my loose pants feel tight. I'm 21+2 and I've gained about 15 lbs. I really want to stay in the reccomended weight range. I felt the need to buy more maternity clothes, I thought I could get away with a lot less but nothing fits right anymore.
Suddenly I lost my appetite the last few days and I feel like I can barely eat. I've been trying to graze here and there just to keep nutrients coming in.
I also feel short of breath like many of you, and having to wear a mask for 12 hour shifts at work really feels suffocating. On one hand I'm grateful to not be financially affected by the current situation, but on the other hand I wish I had the option to work from home...
I'm still at an "ok weight" range for my starting height and weight, but I just feel like I need to be getting in more nutrients for the baby. I'm feel like I'm eating half of what I was eating before.
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)