Finally called my doc and made my appointment. No tele appointment necessary, they'll see me May 18th for Ultrasound/blood/and the doc. It's quite awhile to wait but I'll be over 9 weeks at that point so at least if there's something to see it'll be big enough to appreciate. No DH allowed (for now) but he needs to watch our son anyway so it's fine.
I had my confirmation appointment today, which was just a quick ultrasound. Was measuring between 6-7 weeks and she could she the little flicker of a heartbeat 🥰. I’m scheduled to go back in 3 weeks for my “official” first appointment. I’ll be 10 weeks then.
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
First appointment is 6/1 (so far awayyyyy) for ultrasound and visit with my OB. I'll be 12 weeks. I had NIPT/genetic bloodwork as an elective test with my previous pregnancies around 10 weeks so hopefully I can also get that done at this appointment as well.
I did have bloodwork done per my request (insistence). My first pregnancy I had betas done a few times and they found that my progesterone dropped and placed me on a supplement. I requested the supplement with my 2nd pregnancy for peace of mind since they only checked initial progesterone and they agreed. This time around I had to beg the head nurse to talk to my OB - they felt bloodwork wasn't necessary but put in an order any way. They checked my HCG levels and and progesterone, which were both fine but I asked for the progesterone supplement anyway and after some back and forth my OB agreed. I may not need it, but it makes me feel better since I won't have a scan for so long and I've never had any negative side effects from it.
ETA my husband is allowed in the ultrasound room but they said no children so I'll have to figure that out (my kids are 1 and 2)
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: May 2008 DD Born: March 2018 DS Born: April 2019 Due with #3 December 2020!
My first appointment is on Thursday. I will be 6w 6d. I though dh would be able to come, but I got a text message saying no guests yesterday. The originally told me the ultra-stenographer would not be there, but I am hoping the ob can do a quick one while I am there. It seems bad form to have patients come for multiple appointments at this time, but I will roll with whatever needs to happen to see that this is a healthy baby.
Is everyone going with an OB or anyone else going with a midwife? I worked as a labour and delivery nurse for the start of my nursing career so I actually decided to go the midwife route (in my area they are just as respected as our OB’s and a midwife is actually the head of the obstetrical program in our hospital) I’m waiting for confirmation but my first ultrasound they said will be around 9weeks so the week of May 7th!
I’m going with a midwife this time. I went to a traditional OB with my first two, and although I had a great experience, I want to go more natural for this pregnancy/delivery. First appt is May 1, I’ll be just shy of 9 weeks. Can’t wait to see the little bean
I wish it was more of an option for me BUT the only hospital near me that has them is no where near as well rated as the others. I go for the hospital with the highest rated NICU.
Midwives are not well integrated into our city's healthcare systems unfortunately. In NYC where I went to school there were midwives working in parallel to OBs all the time. There is only one group in town that has a mix of OB/midwives and that deliver at a good hospital.
*TW Loss*
I tried to join this midwives' practice when I was pregnant last summer and was pending my first apt. I had MC at 5-6 weeks and tried to get in with an OB in their group. However they told me that none of the OBs would see me since I wasn't their patient and they weren't taking new patients (they said they would have seen me if I had already seen the midwives a few times). The midwives wouldn't see me since I suffered a mc. Every time I called their office trying to see someone they told me to just go to the ER, which made me even more furious and I said "just because you all won't see me for an appointment doesn't mean my condition requires emergent care." I ended up calling my old OBGYN and she had me in that afternoon for labs/US and an apt the following morning and a personal phone call. I wish things had been different with the midwifery group because they were so highly recommended and I would prefer a midwife to an OB. Based on this experience, I am staying with my old OB because she is available for me and I know that if anything goes wrong again I will be in good hands.
@cmj689 that’s part of the reason I opted for a midwife because I’d like to do everything as natural as possible.
@willashbaby yeah I knew it must be different in other countries/states/cities but in my city we only have one hospital with one labour unit with a NICU attached and I trust our midwives just as much as our OB’s! And if anything required an OB there is always one on call for the midwife in hospital just as if a nurse is labouring you, and our midwifes are actually trained to be the first assist for C-Sections, so even if there is an emergency they are still a part of your care!
@gh1219 I’m so sorry for your negative experience! Midwives in my area are a hot commodity and if you don’t try and get one as soon as you find out they may not have enough room for you! I find it fascinating how different midwives and Ib’s are perceived and practice in different countries!
@tryingktogku I wish there was more of that here. Where I live it's very populated (most populated town in the USA) and you'd THINK we'd have more but nope. Not the case. As is I actually had a very rough delivery with DS and required the assistance of the attending OB to be "safely" delivered. It was 2 more minutes until emergency c-section when he was delivered. The whole experience was partly why there is such a large gap between DS and now. I do not look forward to any of that part again, lol.
Just set my first ultrasound/appt for April 29th. Seems so soon! They told me I could FaceTime my husband during the ultrasound so that makes me feel better!
midwives just called and they’ve accepted me as a patient yay! First ultrasound is May 8th and dirt prenatal Appt is May 26th! And best part DH can come to the ultrasound!
I have to go in for bloodwork sometime between now and 4/28 when I have a phone appointment. I have no idea when I’ll first see my midwife. My last pregnancy at the same place they had scheduled me for an u/s at 6 weeks. A little disappointed but also not since I don’t really want to have to go to the hospital right now anyway.
@lindsey61811 me either! I hadn’t even thought that far into yet. I didn’t even ask, they just told me over the phone. I’m sure my kids would love to see it too so it makes me so happy they’re allowing it!
I had a telehealth appointment this past Tuesday as a follow up to the surgery I had to have last week and my next appointment is next Wednesday April 22nd for an ultrasound to check viability/gestation. I'd be lying if I said I'm not nervous. With the start of all this, it's very nerve-wracking BUT we have chosen to just think good things and enjoy this baby no matter the outcome 💕
Good luck to all of you in the upcoming weeks! I'm wishing baby dust and sticky sticky gumdrops for everyone 🎀✨
My first appointment is the 21st at the office...and an ultrasound the 28th. I'm new to this doctor but I thought they would try to do 1 visit or at least 1 over phone.
I had a pregnancy confirmation appt at 3w 4d (super early, but I ovulate very early and was testing early), and my first OB appt is May 11, so I'll be what I think is 9w 1d based on my ovulation timing (8w 4d based on LMP). My husband can't be there - so feeling sad about that, but I'm sure we're all going though that same emotional roller coaster.
For those of you that have had tele-appointments or in-person appointments, did you nurse/doctor discuss COVID-19? I'd be interested to hear whether they recommended any special precautions. I'm working from home and I can tell my company wants everyone back in the office as soon as the county allows it...but I'm nervous about returning to work prior to receiving an antibody test that will tell me whether or not I've already been exposed. And who knows how long it will take for that testing to be widely available...
@chapenroe I had an in office visit for confirmation, and the Dr did not mention Covid at all. I think she just wanted me in and out as fast as possible. Maybe at my next appt there will be more info given?
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@tryingktogku There is only 1 OBGYN in my county and he is the head of the Women's Center at my local hospital. He has 4 nurse/midwives who work with him and, to be honest, they do most of the work. So I guess I'm lucky to be working directly with a midwife but will also have an OB on hand in case there is a complication. I normally prefer female doctors but he seems like a nice guy and I will mainly be working with the female midwives anyway.
I could drive an hour each way to see someone else but that is where the majority of the COVID cases are in my state so I'd rather stick to my little rural hospital.
My first appointment is May 13. As far as I know, it’s in person. They also didn’t say anything about DH not coming 🤷♀️
As far as the midwife/OB thing, I’m absolutely going with an OB and a hospital birth. I’m high risk due to my age, weight, and degenerative disc disease, so if I’m physically unable to push, I need to have that backup.
I ended up at the doctor today with some spotting. They drew some betas and will recheck later this week. Gave my husband quite a fright, but hoping everything is okay. We will see on Friday and then have our regularly scheduled meeting on Monday. They decided to add a viability u/s for Monday as well.
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
So I switched health insurance companies a few months back and they automatically assigned me a local doctor to be my PCP. With my new policy, I’m required to get a referral to see a specialist. But since I haven’t ever been to this PCP doctor for a checkup, they are requiring that I do a telegram that appointment with them before they give me a referral to an OBGYN. Thankfully they can get me in on Thursday (when I’ll be exactly 4w) so I won’t be too far behind trying to get in with the OBGYN.
Now last pregnancy, I saw a midwife and attempted to deliver in a birth center, but ultimately transferred to the hospital for a c/section. With Florida law, I can’t deliver in a birth center this time around, but I have researched and found one of the most VBAC supportive providers in my area that is in-network for me. With my previous insurance plan I never had to get a referral - can I request which provider they “refer” me to or do doctors pretty much provide you to whoever they want? Anyone with referral experience who can shed some light on what I can expect on Thursday?
So many calls today about getting appointments scheduled. I've reached out to three out of four doctors that wanted to know "immediately" about any pregnancy, and the fourth is kinda more like "in your first tri" and the MFM said they'd reach out to him to coordinate care. My regular OB wants a dating US at 10 weeks, the MFM wants one at 6 to 7 and 12. I am hoping the regular OB can just use one of those. My cardiologist also wants an EKG and ECHO of my heart each trimester. I hate being so complicated, but at least I feel like I'm in good hands and they are working to keep (both of us) safe. I will probably be delivering with my MFM given we know it will be a complicated delivery, so the nurse from their practice is looking into if I even need to see an OB or if it might be smoothest to have them follow me throughout. Blood work early next week!
@RookieAlert that system sounds so crazy... I've never heard of an OBGYN requiring a referral or being considered a specialist... did you call their office to confirm this is required?
If you do require a referral after all, you can just ask for a blank one without a specific provider listed. You should be able to choose the OBGYN you are most comfortable with. The PCP may have a recommendation, but the choice should be left up to you.
@RookieAlert My MFM is very pro vbac - I'm not sure if I will go that route. I figure I have months to figure it out, but am glad to have the option for sure.
@gh1219 I called my insurance (Florida Blue) to confirm and they do consider an OB/GYN to be a specialist and require a referral or they won’t cover it. So annoying! Didn’t have to deal with that last time around with my old insurance company, so hopefully I can just tell them exactly who I want a referral to and it will be fine!
@the_road_to_oz That is great That your MFM is so supportive! I am not positive if that is what I will end up doing either, depending on how all factors play out, but it would be my first choice if there are no complications leading up to it, and I’d like a supportive provider. Thankfully I’ve found one who is supposed to be amazing and is in-network! Hopefully I won’t have any trouble getting in with his practice for an appointment!
Re: Appointment Thread
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I did have bloodwork done per my request (insistence). My first pregnancy I had betas done a few times and they found that my progesterone dropped and placed me on a supplement. I requested the supplement with my 2nd pregnancy for peace of mind since they only checked initial progesterone and they agreed. This time around I had to beg the head nurse to talk to my OB - they felt bloodwork wasn't necessary but put in an order any way. They checked my HCG levels and and progesterone, which were both fine but I asked for the progesterone supplement anyway and after some back and forth my OB agreed. I may not need it, but it makes me feel better since I won't have a scan for so long and I've never had any negative side effects from it.
ETA my husband is allowed in the ultrasound room but they said no children so I'll have to figure that out (my kids are 1 and 2)
Married: May 2008
DD Born: March 2018
DS Born: April 2019
Due with #3 December 2020!
*TW Loss*
@gh1219 I’m so sorry for your negative experience! Midwives in my area are a hot commodity and if you don’t try and get one as soon as you find out they may not have enough room for you! I find it fascinating how different midwives and Ib’s are perceived and practice in different countries!
Good luck to all of you in the upcoming weeks! I'm wishing baby dust and sticky sticky gumdrops for everyone 🎀✨
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I could drive an hour each way to see someone else but that is where the majority of the COVID cases are in my state so I'd rather stick to my little rural hospital.
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
Now last pregnancy, I saw a midwife and attempted to deliver in a birth center, but ultimately transferred to the hospital for a c/section. With Florida law, I can’t deliver in a birth center this time around, but I have researched and found one of the most VBAC supportive providers in my area that is in-network for me. With my previous insurance plan I never had to get a referral - can I request which provider they “refer” me to or do doctors pretty much provide you to whoever they want? Anyone with referral experience who can shed some light on what I can expect on Thursday?
I've reached out to three out of four doctors that wanted to know "immediately" about any pregnancy, and the fourth is kinda more like "in your first tri" and the MFM said they'd reach out to him to coordinate care.
My regular OB wants a dating US at 10 weeks, the MFM wants one at 6 to 7 and 12. I am hoping the regular OB can just use one of those. My cardiologist also wants an EKG and ECHO of my heart each trimester.
I hate being so complicated, but at least I feel like I'm in good hands and they are working to keep (both of us) safe.
I will probably be delivering with my MFM given we know it will be a complicated delivery, so the nurse from their practice is looking into if I even need to see an OB or if it might be smoothest to have them follow me throughout.
Blood work early next week!
If you do require a referral after all, you can just ask for a blank one without a specific provider listed. You should be able to choose the OBGYN you are most comfortable with. The PCP may have a recommendation, but the choice should be left up to you.