Currently scandalized by the American health care system. I met with the gastro today who was glad I was not experiencing any pain but was not at all happy about my liver enzymes. Because I am in the middle of waiting for insurance coverage I am having to self pay for everything so today I paid a doctor 200$ to talk to me about all the stuff I wrote on my paperwork and read the lab reports that got me the referral. Then I paid just under $700 to the lab to take 4 vials of blood and run a more detailed lab report on me. Wednesday next week I will pay another $180 for an ultrasound of my gallbladder and liver to check for stones and blockages. Then on the 19th I will pay another 120$ to sit down with the doctor and discuss what we will do with the information these labs and the ultrasound give us.
Of course then there will be the costs of potential treatment and monitoring of that treatment. I'm trying not to think about how much that will cost. We're going to be fine. We're not going to fall into financial ruin and we already have family asking if they can chip in to help with some of these costs I'm just completely scandalized and very sad for all of the other people who fall into this insurance gap but can't afford to run these tests and get the help they need.
@wildrainbow He wouldn't give me a number and I haven't got to see a lab report myself. When he saw the numbers he said "oh my" and told me not to google anything. He does think there is a blockage in my gallbladder or maybe there are stones.. he says that's what he thinks it is and that's what he's hoping it is. He did not seem optimistic about my "Well, I'm hoping a healthy diet and some time may fix this!" He also didn't seem to think things were extremely bad, but I'm going back in two weeks so he's not waiting around. I'm trying to to stay calm and remind myself that my 24 hour urine came back beautiful and that not being in any pain means that nothing is failing right now... there is just some sub optimal stuff happening.
@RedBaramid Your positivity is so wonderful! I'm glad you are getting everything taken care of and that you have family support to help if needed! I'm sending you good vibes ♥️
<b>Update</b>: today's appointment went well! It will take a couple days for bloodwork to come back, but I'm not too concerned. Baby is measuring on track, six ounces!!! That is just so wild to me. Strong FHR of 137. Turns out too, baby's head is positioned where I thought it was, as well! Even though I obviously would have had no way of feeling or knowing that otherwise. Pretty wild!
Anatomy scan appointment yesterday went really well! Baby was really cooperative so the scan only took about 30min then we called MH in so him and I could see our growing babe! Growing very well, measuring a few days ahead, very active and so long lol, in the 52 percentile. The heart was unmistakable, just beautiful. Baby kept touching his/hers face and bouncing! One kick I felt as I watched on the screen and the tech felt it too with her wand we were both in awe lol she kept a saying “look at those biceps, strong baby!” FHR of 140.
I found the most amazing prenatal massage therapist and had an appointment with her today, I’m So happy!!
Next appointment is with my doctor for my monthly appt in two weeks where she’ll finally be referring me to an obgyn 💚.
My appt at the new MW office went well. I really like the practice and am feeling so glad I made the switch! We got to finally hear baby girl's HB for a long time... 150 bpm. The MW found it right away! Such a sweet sound and nice to calm my nerves. ❤
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Finally had my AS ultrasound today, which was a pleasant distraction!
However they couldn’t find the left kidney... they saw something like a cyst that could have been the kidney, but they aren’t sure. Sooo now I’m waiting for a call to get an appt for level 2 ultrasound. Hoping it was just a bad picture-baby girl wouldn’t turn over. Every time we tried to get her to move she would just put her hands in her face. Super cute! But darn girl is already giving me grey hair.
@mrs_sheddy Hang in there! How quickly do they want to bring you back in for another scan? We couldn't get clear pictures of DD kidney and they ended up bringing me in a couple of times. Everything was fine but it was wonderful to get to see her every time I went in and see her grow! There is a silver lining.
Has anyone else appointment been cancelled or changed to an over the phone appointment instead of in person? Mine just did! I was scheduled for the 27th and instead will get a phone call. I get it, but also it's so reassuring to hear that little heartbeat!
Had my anatomy scan yesterday and baby is healthy and looking good. Her umbilical cord is attached a little to the side of the placenta, but the doctor isn’t concerned.
I, however, have complete placenta previa and now have to have a c-section mid-July, around 36-37 weeks.
I’m trying to stay calm about the news, but considering I’ve cried a dozen times in less than 24hrs, I’d say I’m a bit stressed. I’ll know more tomorrow at my 20w appointment, but they did call me this morning to say no more sex, no lifting more than 15lbs, and only walking for exercise. They also said to watch out for bleeding.
I’m going to be working on some new questions for my doctor, because before this I was planning to discuss how she feels about me having an unmedicated birth and a doula present, etc... I’m now glad I didn’t end up going with the midwife-run birthing center.
If you have any suggestions for questions I should be asking based on experience with this sort of thing or a c-section you had, please let me know. 💗 This is my first pregnancy and the women in my family have all had healthy vaginal births, so they haven’t got any advice. Thanks
@stephdoes I'm sorry things aren't going as expected with the birth. I don't know about questions, but maybe having a birthplan so they still know what you want? For example, skin to skin right after birth, ect.
I had to cancel my appt tomorrow because kids aren't allowed in the hospital and I don't have childcare for my 3 year old. I rescheduled it for next week when my husband will be home, but still unsure of going in the hospital amidst all the virus stuff. I wish they would do over the phone @mommaofsoontobe3 ! I understand about wanting to hear the heartbeat though. That's the best part!
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@stephdoes I am so sorry, I know exactly how you feel! My first was a c section and my second I had a VBAC but when I went for my anatomy scan with my second I also had placenta previa and was told I would need another c section, but I had another ultrasound (I dont remember how much later) and it showed that my placenta had moved! So I went on to have a successful VBAC! So my fingers are crossed for you!
So after I got the phone call that my appointment was being changed to a phone appointment I got another call asking me to go back for a "follow up anatomy scan" and was not given any explanation on why! Has this ever happened to anyone else? I've spent my evening crying and thinking of the worst possible things! In my head I'm thinking something has to be wrong because why would they ask me to come in right after switching my other appointment to a phone call? I have emailed my Doctor and if I dont hear back mid day tomorrow I will just call until I get through to someone, I cant go all weekend not knowing!
@mommaofsoontobe3 I just had my anatomy scan yesterday and after the tech did the scan I had to wait like 20 minutes to see if everything was ok. We then had to do a few more pictures because a couple of the first ones were not great views. After the second set of pictures were taken the doctor said that everything was in good. Did you get confirmation from the doctor that everything was good during your appointment? The tech said that she didn't want me coming back there because of everything going on, so they did their best to make sure everything was done in one appointment.
I had my anatomy scan yesterday and it was such a relief to see him moving around in there. I thought it was my calm baby because I have not felt much yet, but my placenta is just in the way. He is just as active as my daughter was in the womb. So he might have our hands full with two every active children, but I'm so ready for it. He is currently in 72% for growth and they predict he will come July 29, he's measuring four days ahead. I'm still holding out hope he will be an August baby. I love the one shot we got as a picture.
I have an appointment on Monday, but my insurance sent out a text saying that some appointments may be moved to phone to video appointments. I sent my doctor an email asking what does he prefer. I would not mind going into the office, just because I like speaking to my doctors in person, but I'm also ok with doing THIS appointment over the phone since I just saw baby and know he is ok in there.
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@krkgreen I have to go to another hospital (1 hr away) for the next US, and they couldn’t get me in until the end of the month! thank you and @wildrainbow for sharing your experiences though! I didn’t realize how common it was. Will update in a couple weeks!
@blackgirlmagic no I didn't get a confirmation from my doctor during the appointment. For my past ultrasounds its always just the tech and at the end they tell me they cant tell me anything and the doctor will call me if they have any questions or concerns. So this is the first time I got a call saying I need to go back in but it was just a receptionist calling me so she couldn't tell me anything. However my appointment was very rushed and they called me 20 minutes past my appointment time and I was the only one in the waiting room, while I was there I over heard them saying something about an inspection in a couple minutes so its sounds like they were busy with everything else going on?? So my hope is that they just didnt get the images they needed, but I've been crying all night and couldn't sleep just stressing out. So hopefully my doctor contacts me today, my phone appointment isnt until the 27th and my second anatomy scan is on the 30th.
(((hugs))) @mommaofsoontobe3 I'm sure that's all it is, if they were a bit rushed and didn't have time to review the images for quality. It sounds like you're probably right that they had a lot going on! Unfortunately, it's a terrible time to have to bring somebody back in for a second scan, and of course everybody's already on edge. I would try not to think about it too much, and assume the best case scenario which is what you just described. The simplest explanation is usually the best one, right? I would think if there was something more concerning they would have had the doctor actually come on and tell you, but it sounds to me like, between the bit of the wait time for the follow-up as well, and everything you described, it may just be a low priority re-scan do image quality. 🤷🤷🤷 ❤️❤️❤️
For anyone else who may be concerned about their anatomy scans, I went ahead and called my MFM for clarification. She said as of now, all the appointments are still on, and they would reach out to us and let us know if anything changes. I would still be able to have my husband there present, but no kids. Their procedure has been updated to have us call them from our car when we arrive, and then they will let us know when it's time to come up and they have the room ready for us. So that doesn't sound too bad to me, hopefully everyone will still at least be able to get those sweet sneak peeks of their brewing littles!!! 😂
Anatomy scan this morning. As my mom is pulling into my driveway to watch the kids for us, the high risk office called to let me know their policy changed and I had to come alone. It changed this morning! But I was happy to know to leave my husband home so he didn’t just sit in the car.
Baby boy looks great. He was cooperative for all the major structures but didn’t want to move his hands off his face for a good 4D picture. He did uncross and kick his legs for us to get a view to confirm he’s still a he.
Feeling a big sense of relief seeing him. Next scan is in 4 weeks for a fetal echo.
So I finally spoke to my doctor today and I got some news I wasn't expecting.... as I write this I am just covered in tears. Apparently they think my precious girl might have a cleft lip. I didn't even have words when the doctor told me this, never in a million years did I think this was going to happen to us. I know there are worse things out there but I am absolutely heartbroken. I'm just thinking of the surgeries she will have to have in the future and I may not be able to breastfeed her like I did with my other 2 daughters (I nursed both for a year each) and the cruel judgment she might receive because she looks a little different, and the list of worries goes on. My follow up anatomy scan is on the 30th and they will have a high risk doctor perform it, my hope is that they just didnt get a good image and all is well, and if not I will just have to go from there.
@mommaofsoontobe3 from my understanding, although they need surgery to repair it, they have mastered it well enough that it's not noticable they even had it. Praying you get good images but if not will make it through this. Plus the sooner you know, the sooner you can plan for what to do when the baby comes.
@mommaofsoontobe3 Sending you so much love during this uncertain time. And your feelings are valid no matter what; this is a deviation from what you expected/dreamed/planned and it’s ok to feel the way you do. I’ll keep you and your precious girl in my prayers while you await your next ultrasound.
@mommaofsoontobe3 I'm sorry to hear your daughter may have a cleft. I know you are hurting today but I want to offer you some hope. I am an SLP and I treat infants and toddlers with feeding disorders/delays. I am also a certified lactation counselor. You may still be able to breastfeed, but it might look a bit different because of your daughter's anatomy and the need to form a seal to get the right amount of intraroral pressure for sucking. Sometimes moms have to use different positions to make that possible, but it can be done. If she ends up having a cleft lip/cleft palate (one or both), please have your doctors refer you to a knowledgeable IBCLC or SLP that works with babies and children with clefts. There is likely someone in your hospital system that can help you before and after baby's arrival.
@mommaofsoontobe3 I am so sorry to hear this news and my heart goes out for you. My brother was born with a cleft lip and nearly 40 years ago there were no scans to detect it prior to birth. I'm hoping your next scan will bring some good news... but if not, knowing beforehand will allow you to prepare and plan for a plastic surgeon of your choosing upon birth. As the other girls mentioned, with surgery it can barely be noticeable and your sweet baby girl will have a normal life and be beautiful. My mother bf my brother even after surgery. I'm sure the technology and care is so much better now than back then. I'll be praying for you and your baby girl. ❤
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@mommaofsoontobe3 I’m so sorry that you received that news. I hope that your next scan will show some more insight as to what is going on. I know this was not in your plan, but this time always for you, your family, and your doctors to come up with a plan for her. Please know that we are always here for you in any capacity.
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So I just had a phone appointment with my doctor today, I was ok with that since I just had an ultrasound Thursday, and then next time I will physically see him is May 5. That seems so far away. But he said to call if anything feels off or if I don’t feel as much movement anymore. He said that my 28 week appointment is my next major appointment and that we need to weight the benefits of me coming into a medical facility. It’s different for sure, but I guess this is the new normal. And starting at 28 weeks the appointments are supposed to be every two weeks, I’m curious how that is going to work. And I just realized I’ll be 27 weeks during that appointment.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
@blackgirlmagic They didn't say anything about glucose testing? At my A/S they gave me the glucola and said they'd see me in 4 weeks. Or are they doing that at your appointment in May?
Just had my anatomy scan. Baby boy looks really good. My dr was looking over everything and said, "wow this is a robust baby". He's 84th percentile, 11oz and he's the biggest of my boys so far. Ds1&2 both staying in 50th percentile. I'm a little worried about how long I will be able to carry him, since I'm so short. I ran of room with both boys at 30 weeks, and started contracting shortly after, so who knows with this babe. I havent gained any weight, which is good since the BMI says I'm "obese" for my height. I will have labs when I go back in 4 weeks to check bile acids and liver for a baseline. All in all it was a good appointment and my dr is happy that so far all is normal.
@wildrainbow I just had my anatomy scan today too and they said baby was 11 oz too. I about freaked out, how is the baby that big already? Lol I also found out I am having another boy and DS1 was on the bigger side too. I also ran out of room for DS1 and they are already planning for another c-section as this was their concern from the beginning.
Just found out my appt that was supposed to be this Friday has been moved back 10 days so they can do it on the same day as my A/S and minimize the number of times patients come in. Makes sense, although I was looking forward to that little heartbeat since I haven’t had an appt since 2/28. Also my husband can’t come, which isn’t surprising but still a bummer. Hoping they’ll let me video a little for him.
Hi ladies, First of all I want to thank all of you who sent me kinds words and are thinking about my precious girl! My mind has been my worse enemy, I've studied normal ultrasounds and cleft lip ultrasounds and compared then to mine and read everything related to cleft lips I could find. I recieved a phone call today and instead of waiting until the 30th for my appointment they are getting me in tomorrow with an amazing doctor with a better machine! And they said they just didnt see her upper lip and if there is any cleft it is small but I will get an idea of what exactly is going on with our girl tomorrow, so I kindly ask for you to pray for us this one last time or if prayer isnt your thing just a simple kind thought. It would truly mean the world to me, and I will update tomorrow. My stomach is in knots and I doubt I'll be able to sleep tonight, but my appointment is in the morning so I'm glad I wont be in the unknown all day tomorrow. Also I have to go to the hospital instead of my doctors office so they said absolutely no one can come with me and I will be screened before entering, that doesnt really help my anxiety but oh well, I'm just relieved to get some answers!
@mommaofsoontobe3 Sending you all the positive vibes and thoughts. I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow! So sorry you have to go alone, but at least you’re getting a top doctor to have a look and i pray you get the answers you are looking for! Safe journey tomorrow momma!
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Of course then there will be the costs of potential treatment and monitoring of that treatment. I'm trying not to think about how much that will cost. We're going to be fine. We're not going to fall into financial ruin and we already have family asking if they can chip in to help with some of these costs I'm just completely scandalized and very sad for all of the other people who fall into this insurance gap but can't afford to run these tests and get the help they need.
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I'm so tickled too, my results came back so quickly and I didn't have to call and bug anybody. Cos that's the worst. :/
I had to cancel my appt tomorrow because kids aren't allowed in the hospital and I don't have childcare for my 3 year old. I rescheduled it for next week when my husband will be home, but still unsure of going in the hospital amidst all the virus stuff. I wish they would do over the phone @mommaofsoontobe3 ! I understand about wanting to hear the heartbeat though. That's the best part!
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So after I got the phone call that my appointment was being changed to a phone appointment I got another call asking me to go back for a "follow up anatomy scan" and was not given any explanation on why! Has this ever happened to anyone else? I've spent my evening crying and thinking of the worst possible things! In my head I'm thinking something has to be wrong because why would they ask me to come in right after switching my other appointment to a phone call? I have emailed my Doctor and if I dont hear back mid day tomorrow I will just call until I get through to someone, I cant go all weekend not knowing!
I had my anatomy scan yesterday and it was such a relief to see him moving around in there. I thought it was my calm baby because I have not felt much yet, but my placenta is just in the way. He is just as active as my daughter was in the womb. So he might have our hands full with two every active children, but I'm so ready for it. He is currently in 72% for growth and they predict he will come July 29, he's measuring four days ahead. I'm still holding out hope he will be an August baby. I love the one shot we got as a picture.
I have an appointment on Monday, but my insurance sent out a text saying that some appointments may be moved to phone to video appointments. I sent my doctor an email asking what does he prefer. I would not mind going into the office, just because I like speaking to my doctors in person, but I'm also ok with doing THIS appointment over the phone since I just saw baby and know he is ok in there.
thank you and @wildrainbow for sharing your experiences though! I didn’t realize how common it was. Will update in a couple weeks!
For anyone else who may be concerned about their anatomy scans, I went ahead and called my MFM for clarification. She said as of now, all the appointments are still on, and they would reach out to us and let us know if anything changes. I would still be able to have my husband there present, but no kids. Their procedure has been updated to have us call them from our car when we arrive, and then they will let us know when it's time to come up and they have the room ready for us. So that doesn't sound too bad to me, hopefully everyone will still at least be able to get those sweet sneak peeks of their brewing littles!!! 😂
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First of all I want to thank all of you who sent me kinds words and are thinking about my precious girl! My mind has been my worse enemy, I've studied normal ultrasounds and cleft lip ultrasounds and compared then to mine and read everything related to cleft lips I could find. I recieved a phone call today and instead of waiting until the 30th for my appointment they are getting me in tomorrow with an amazing doctor with a better machine! And they said they just didnt see her upper lip and if there is any cleft it is small but I will get an idea of what exactly is going on with our girl tomorrow, so I kindly ask for you to pray for us this one last time or if prayer isnt your thing just a simple kind thought. It would truly mean the world to me, and I will update tomorrow. My stomach is in knots and I doubt I'll be able to sleep tonight, but my appointment is in the morning so I'm glad I wont be in the unknown all day tomorrow. Also I have to go to the hospital instead of my doctors office so they said absolutely no one can come with me and I will be screened before entering, that doesnt really help my anxiety but oh well, I'm just relieved to get some answers!
Safe journey tomorrow momma!