Hello ladies, I am also plus sized between sizes 14 and 16....
about clothes, my challenge is pants, I have a super tiny waist compared to my hips and butt, so I am not concerned about tops as much as pants. From my last pregnancy I still have a pair of pants I found that are super comfy and fitted so well, the brands are Jessica Simpson and Blue indigo, the store were I bought them had a clearance sale so I found them at a decent price (around 20-30).
This time my concern (and my Dr's) is weight and blood pressure, this time I am weight almost 30lbs more than last time, so Dr recommended a healthy diet and exercise, which was almost impossible since I feel tired all the time and not thrilled about meal prep at all, even the smell of some fruits and veggies makes me gag.
So I am waiting to feel bit better anytime soon and have enough energy to at least walk 30 min daily.
@knockupthestock I would do pink blush only if its like clearance items, clothes are not the best quality and its kinda pricey.
@mayisch the small waist, big hips/thighs issue is the same one I have. I have a belly right now, but the waist of the maternity jeans I got from ON are still a bit loose. I can't wait to have a bit of a bigger bump so it's easier to fit in stuff!
@blaf322 yes, right now I am wearing maternity jeans and I can't fill them yet, but my regular jeans are to tight... I am caught in the middle, I have a doubtful bump, you can't tell for sure if its baby bump or just fat
Thank you so much for creating this thread, it's so nice to have a "safe" place!
The minute I got pregnant, I immediately wished I'd done way more exercise for the simple joy of being able to see baby sooner. Right now, I can't tell if it's baby bump, bloat, or just my usual belly.
@elk90 I'm a little late to this thread so I'm sorry if this has been answered, but Thyme has some great maternity stuff, and I've actually found that things from Torrid can accommodate a growing bump for a plus mom! Most of my stuff was from Torrid originally and still fits, with lots of room to grow!
@lizzybean84 i know the feeling!! DH swears i am getting a little bump but i just keep assuring him im just fat haha. but he could be right....i can feel my pants getting tighter than usual but i havent gained any weight since i got KU. even this morning, i put on some pants and they immediately started to hurt my stomach so i had to go with the maxi dress haha. hurry up maternity pants and get here!
married to DH on March 15, 2018 TTC since May 2018 dx: PCOS, hypothroidism tx: timed intercourse with meds (dexa, clomid, letrozole, metformin, trigger shots)
First TTGP: 5/9/19 BFN, 6/21/19 BFN, 7/29/19 BFN, 8/1/19 started a break from tx, 11/16/19 surprised with a BFP! LO born 7/7/20 Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21
Anyone gain much weight already? I’m 15 weeks. I didn’t gain anything in my first trimester, but gained 4lbs in two weeks. I *think* it’s a fluctuation because I was exposed to gluten (I have celiac) but I’m kinda freaking out I’ve already gained 1/2-1/3 of my total goal. I go to the drs today and I’m sure we’ll discuss it. And I’m going back to tracking what I eat. This is so hard, I was a lot lighter with my first two and didn’t think about my weight at all. I only gained ~15lbs with each, and it wasn’t till closer to the third trimester that I started putting it on.
@kittenslove I had a 3lb gain. I realize mostly I didn't eat well during vacation and I'm trying to refocus on better food. I'm at 16 weeks. Dr. was not concerned but like you I'm trying to keep the overall picture healthy for my size. I'm also struggling with getting enough protein particurly in the morning so I don't crash and want to stuff things in my mouth.
@kittenslove I’ve gained 4lbs and I’m almost 15w. My doctor said I was “right on track” and to keep exercising and eating healthy. I feel like my food choices are decent but I could be better about limiting carb snacks. I do think tracking is helping me. I was concerned about the 4 lb at first but since my doc isn’t concerned I’m trying to follow her lead.
I'm up 8 pounds and not happy about it. It's about half of what I should gain overall, and I'm only 12 weeks. I don't know if maybe I'm super bloated, my stomach legit looks like I'm 20 weeks pregnant, but I'm hoping I can maintain in 2nd trimester. I am tracking with weight watchers again as of last week, and I am trying to get up and exercise before work but it is so hard because I'm still exhausted all the time, my kids haven't been sleeping through the night, and I have constant headaches and body aches.
I'm super worried about this, I have an appointment tomorrow..... I'll let y'all know how it goes. My weight didn't come up in my first appt, but I doubt I'll get by tomorrow without it.
I hear you @zande2016 on the exercise!! It's so hard to make it happen with all the fatigue
@blaf322 nope no nausea, and I didn't even feel like I was eating that badly, but the exhaustion has been completely debilitating so meal planning and prepping has gone out the window. That might be to blame.
Update: thank you all for your stories. It makes me feel better that others seem to be about the same place as me. My doctor isn’t worried at all. She is okay with me tracking again, but doesn’t want me to “over limit” - If I’m still hungry, eat, just don’t eat crap. I haven’t exercised AT ALL since a week before I found out I am expecting, due to life circumstances. But I am going to try to get someone to come out and sit with my mom so I can go back to swimming. I totally feel like I “popped” but I don’t want anyone to know until after our 16 week anatomy scan.
@zande2016 how are you liking weight watchers while pregnant? I left and was using MFP premium for about a year now, but was just talking about joining to track during pregnancy. I think their system is a little easier to use (or was before the changes).
@zande2016 well, given what's going on, it sounds like you're killing it. You're functioning in your day to day life on little sleep and keeping tiny humans alive and well while you're at it. Don't stress over those few lbs. Sometimes you just have to go into survival mode. And when kids aren't sleeping, that's the prime time to be there.
@kittenslove I prefer it to MFP because MFP always felt like too much work to me. I just find it easier to track points. I have it set to maintain my weight and am also going to add in extra points soon as I get into 2nd trimester. It just keeps me accountable, I'm not being super strict with it. If I'm hungry I'll definitely eat more even if it's over my points. The only downside is it's not free like MFP.
@kittenslove I’m really liking WW. I’m doing the Blue plan so I feel like having lots of zero point foods is helpful for me and I don’t feel deprived. I have it set to healthy habits and not exclusively breastfeeding and that seems to be a good number of daily points. It keeps me accountable to have an activity goal, too. You’re doing great balancing Life and Growing a Human!
Confession: I have feelings about HDBD right now. I've always had a tummy and have been mistaken for being pregnant many times in my life. I could post in there but it's mostly just my existing stomach. I'm so excited to have a bump for many reasons, including the fact that I won't have to be ashamed of my stomach region.
I've come a long way with both healthy lifestyle and body positivity/acceptance in the past few years so I was surprised to see such a happy thing as HDBD bring up these feelings! Anyone else out there with me?
@mehugg At the moment, I would say mine is my existing tummy rounded out. I've struggled a lot over the years with body image. I hope there's a moment I get to where I'd be proud to show off how I look pregnant but I'm quite doubtful that will occur. I'm excited to have a healthy pregnancy after a loss but seeing how it's changing how I look is another thing altogether.
@mehugg I'm sorry that post didn't make you feel great. Self image is such a tough thing and I was really struggling with the feeling of just looking like me, but fatter, up until yesterday morning. I'm sure I'll continue to go back and forth for a bit, but that's to be expected, I guess. That said, not having to suck in or feel self conscious about my belly is my favorite part of being pregnant (aside from the take home baby at the end lol). I hope you're feeling good about your bump soon!
@mehugg totally understand that feeling. I don't feel like I have a bump. I can kinda make one if I hold my stomach a certain way but really I just look like a chubbier version of my already chubby self. I get the body image struggle and I share your hope that pregnancy will bring some new love and acceptance into my relationship with my body. For now, I'm not trying to love my body, that seems like asking a lot. But I am trying to be appreciative. Whenever some of the more negative feelings pop up I try to respond with a thought that praises my body. "Thanks for making room for a munchkin, belly." Or something along those lines. It's a daily effort.
Speaking for myself, it can be hard to view other folks' pretty and cute little bumps because I'm envious of both the bump and the comfort level with sharing. So I don't check the HDBD thread often and I think it's perfectly fine to maybe sequester the thread mentally (same as with any thread that has a triggering/negative impact sometimes) and treat it like a piece of self-care. I don't have to feel thrilled to view others' bumps right now. I can focus on appreciating the amazing stuff my body is doing and maybe later I'll feel more comfortable posting pictures or commenting on HDBD stuff.
@mehugg I feel you on that. I've shared this on here before but I had H take my photo at 13 weeks and I wore tight leggings and a tight-ish shirt because I figured that would lead to the best bump shot and I cried after seeing the photo (I straddled the straight size/plus size world). Right now my biggest sign is that I'm bursting out of my bras (and not in a cute way, more in an all over + extra on the back fat way) with some tummy growth, a minimal amount of which is starting to round out into a bump. You/we'll get there, or we won't because frankly some folks never really have noticable bumps but at the end of the day no one walks into a kindergarten class and sees the moms and goes "oh I bet she had a cute bump and she didn't". Food for thought that I hope is if not helpful then at least not harmful!
Thanks friends! @rachelredhead you know it's funny, I don't like saying "I don't like my body right now" because that's not true. I'm totally enamored by what it's doing! It's amazing and I'm so proud of it. I'm just less enamored by the way it looks or the way I feel about it. Idk.
@blaf322 I'm TOTALLY looking forward to that part!
@pocketrose good perspective on kindergarten! Made me laugh haha.
I'm actually really looking forward to having a bump, and excited for everyone else's! Just being stuck in this in-between moment is less fun. Grow bb grow!
@mehugg i totally understand! i wish i had a cute bump, but mine is buried behind lots of fat. im like 300 lbs so its probably gonna be a while until i can tell the baby bump from my normal belly. it is hard cause im still so anxious about baby, and not having a bump or being able to feel her move yet is not helping, haha. i know i have a little bump in there somewhere because parts of my tummy feel more firm/tight than normal and because it hurts to wear my normal leggings (and i have actually lost weight since being pregnant, so its not strictly weight gain causing the tightness). im just trying to give it a few more weeks and then itll probably be more noticeable for us all!!
married to DH on March 15, 2018 TTC since May 2018 dx: PCOS, hypothroidism tx: timed intercourse with meds (dexa, clomid, letrozole, metformin, trigger shots)
First TTGP: 5/9/19 BFN, 6/21/19 BFN, 7/29/19 BFN, 8/1/19 started a break from tx, 11/16/19 surprised with a BFP! LO born 7/7/20 Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21
P.S. to all plus size mommas - Torrid's maternity leggings are back in stock for all sizes and they're having a sale right now! they're only $27.23!! they haven't been in stock for at least a month, so i definitely snagged some while i could.
married to DH on March 15, 2018 TTC since May 2018 dx: PCOS, hypothroidism tx: timed intercourse with meds (dexa, clomid, letrozole, metformin, trigger shots)
First TTGP: 5/9/19 BFN, 6/21/19 BFN, 7/29/19 BFN, 8/1/19 started a break from tx, 11/16/19 surprised with a BFP! LO born 7/7/20 Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21
LOVE Torrid! I've been wearing their non-maternity clothes for ages and some of them look like they'll work the whole way through. They have such great shapes and cuts allowing room to grow.
UGH... I've gained weight this week. Only 2lbs and, seriously, nothing to actually be concerned about. But it's such a mind f*ck. Especially since I didn't gain until late in 3rd tri with DD. I had to get my weight at the OB today and I felt like I needed to explain. I didn't... I held in the crazy. But I hate this! I'm going to try to have another protein shake over the weekend to see if I can stomach them any better (they were making me really nauseous before). If I can, I'll be able to swap my breakfast sandwich for that and help some.
@blaf322 Mine had gone up a week or half ago. Turns out some was water weight made me anxious and then it settled back down. I asked my spouse this morning if I looked like I had a bump or just fat. Her reply you just look fat. Thanks hon. I needed that.
I know if feels unnerving at times though to see the ups and downs.
@bluguitarhannah uggggh... not the best reply, wife! I guess, at least you'll know she's being honest once you really do have a bump lol.... sorry you had to start your day that way.
I had something similar happen at work yesterday. I have a noticeable baby bump now but a woman (who is notoriously a bit of a slimeball) came by and said, "I was looking at you yesterday and thought you don't even look pregnant still!" Uhh, thanks? So whether they call us fat or notice we're getting bigger but just assume it's fatness and not the baby, ouch.
@lizzybean84 I would've just give her the "mid your own business" look. I haven't told many people at work and my bump still looks like fat instead of baby, and I've caught people staring at my belly... I just don't care... People who I really care of already know I am expecting, the rest can think whatever they want
Re: Plus Size Mommas
about clothes, my challenge is pants, I have a super tiny waist compared to my hips and butt, so I am not concerned about tops as much as pants.
From my last pregnancy I still have a pair of pants I found that are super comfy and fitted so well, the brands are Jessica Simpson and Blue indigo, the store were I bought them had a clearance sale so I found them at a decent price (around 20-30).
This time my concern (and my Dr's) is weight and blood pressure, this time I am weight almost 30lbs more than last time, so Dr recommended a healthy diet and exercise, which was almost impossible since I feel tired all the time and not thrilled about meal prep at all, even the smell of some fruits and veggies makes me gag.
So I am waiting to feel bit better anytime soon and have enough energy to at least walk 30 min daily.
@knockupthestock I would do pink blush only if its like clearance items, clothes are not the best quality and its kinda pricey.
The minute I got pregnant, I immediately wished I'd done way more exercise for the simple joy of being able to see baby sooner. Right now, I can't tell if it's baby bump, bloat, or just my usual belly.
dx: PCOS, hypothroidism
Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21
I hear you @zande2016 on the exercise!! It's so hard to make it happen with all the fatigue
@kittenslove I prefer it to MFP because MFP always felt like too much work to me. I just find it easier to track points. I have it set to maintain my weight and am also going to add in extra points soon as I get into 2nd trimester. It just keeps me accountable, I'm not being super strict with it. If I'm hungry I'll definitely eat more even if it's over my points. The only downside is it's not free like MFP.
I've come a long way with both healthy lifestyle and body positivity/acceptance in the past few years so I was surprised to see such a happy thing as HDBD bring up these feelings! Anyone else out there with me?
That said, not having to suck in or feel self conscious about my belly is my favorite part of being pregnant (aside from the take home baby at the end lol). I hope you're feeling good about your bump soon!
Speaking for myself, it can be hard to view other folks' pretty and cute little bumps because I'm envious of both the bump and the comfort level with sharing. So I don't check the HDBD thread often and I think it's perfectly fine to maybe sequester the thread mentally (same as with any thread that has a triggering/negative impact sometimes) and treat it like a piece of self-care. I don't have to feel thrilled to view others' bumps right now. I can focus on appreciating the amazing stuff my body is doing and maybe later I'll feel more comfortable posting pictures or commenting on HDBD stuff.
Edited to refer to HDBD thread.
@blaf322 I'm TOTALLY looking forward to that part!
@pocketrose good perspective on kindergarten! Made me laugh haha.
I'm actually really looking forward to having a bump, and excited for everyone else's! Just being stuck in this in-between moment is less fun. Grow bb grow!
dx: PCOS, hypothroidism
Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21
dx: PCOS, hypothroidism
Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21