My potential UO is that I'm almost ready for Facebook. The Bump app is making me nuts this week because every time i have 5 minutes to participate, i takes 5 minutes just to open the damn thread. I used to be against it, but i'm tired of trying to get to know everyone with this forum space that needs a MAJOR technical upgrade.
@mamaqdubu SAME. The app is hell. My April 2017 BMB moved to Facebook in January 2017. I'll add that I do not want to go to a private TB group first. We don't have a huge group and I don't think that's necessary.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
@mamaqdubu It's basically the same as this but invite-only. Some BMBs I guess do that before moving to FB? I dunno, I've seen mention of it but have never been in one.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
I guess I'm in a different camp, I would prefer to stay here and do a private group near or after the babies come. Then eventually add on social media.
With TB loading issue on the app, I found if you click on the thread and then press the refresh button (upper right) then the page comes up faster. Or just using the web browser on your phone vs the app.
I think I’m with @mamaqdubu, simply because I find Facebook wayyyyyy easier to use than stupid TB. But I agree with @m6agua that it’s a lot easier to deal with TB in my mobile browser than in the app.
Since we're discussing FB, my UO is that I really don't feel like I know anyone here. I've been on several BMB's, TTGP, and loss boards, and this is the first time it's been so...superficial? Not in a bad way, but I don't feel like we really share our real thoughts and feelings. Our discussions have mostly been around things baby prep, etc. I'm definitely team PG, because hopefully people will be more candid?
@ruby696 I swear for me it's partly because so many people don't have a signature (for a variety of reasons including the damn app). It's hard for me to connect what one person says in one thread to that same person in another.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
@ruby696 With my last BMB that is what the PG helped with. We did a PG fairly early and large (like 80-100), that sort of blew up and several moved to FB. Then when the babies were born a small amount of us that never went to FB were still on the BMB. We made a PG and became much closer and now they are my best mom friends and several of us have met IRL.
I also think maybe we could use some more GTKY threads, I saw one on TTGP about high school groups and thought that would be an interesting one to do. I haven't gotten around to it yet.
@catem07 For me the signatures don't really help. I know/remember people based on their username/picture and the amount that they actually participate. I would say I have about 5-7 of you remembered pretty decent, but the rest I sometimes need a little remembering. Then I can tell there are a few people that I've only seen post on HDBD and maybe 1 other thread.
I could go either way. I would probably tend to share more in a private setting. My last BMB (May baby) moved to a private group in January and then to FB in February so the private group didn't last long but it kind of helped weed out the non participators.
We had some success moving a group from a message board to a small group on FB messenger for awhile and it was nice to get updates and chat with people that way. Personally I am at peace with shutting down my FB account a few years ago and don't really have any intention of creating a new one. FB changed and evolved over the years in general and I don't like the direction it went. Maybe it can foster relationships with strangers (like this message board can), but I think it tends to be detrimental to relationships with people you know in the real world vs. just on the internet, among other things. I'm not going to get on my soap box about the perils of social media here, I'm just saying that trying to move from one platform to another there are going to be people that are lost just because they don't have an account and actively participate in whichever platform you choose, we all already have Bump accounts.
I'm on team PG first. It's too big of a step for me to go from this public BMB where I'm just a screen name and avatar of a puppy to FB where everyone has my name, visibility to some pics of my kid (profile pic, for example), and some amount of personal details, even though I keep it fairly locked down.
I was in the same BMB and PG as @m6agua and I liked how there were different levels of getting to know each other. We moved to a big PG, which we did a vetting for to make sure people were who they said they were and enough people recognized them as active participants, and there we started to post more personal details and photos with our faces and got to know each other better. Then we did the big split to FB, which is where we lost some ladies who were anti-FB at the time. I still talk to that smaller group of ladies every day to this day. I do think there's an advantage to moving to a smaller, more private, safer space before the babies arrive, personally. I won't post pictures of myself or my children here since anyone can see them.
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
In agreement on the PG, selfishly because I don't have FB and this board has been great info for me as a FTM. I figured most would probably move to FB eventually but I'd love to get to know everyone more in a private setting before that happens
@ruby696 I agree that I don’t feel like I know anyone very well and that a PG could help with that. One thing that helps me is knowing people’s real first names and what they look like, and I think people would be at least somewhat comfortable posting that stuff in a PG as opposed to here. I’d be down for a PG before moving to FB.
Agree that I'm not quite ready to be on FB. I'm worried about posting in the google doc because my phone has my personal google accounts and my school one linked. But question: Is the PG on the bump? If my last BMB did that I was oblivious.
@jrouge12 Yes, the PG is through TB. Usually you start a thread in the BMB and people say whether or not they want in, and then they get an invitation from a group moderator. Usually I've seen it so that you want at least a few people saying "yes, I recognize this person as a regular participant" so you don't get too many non-regular participants in the group. For example, there are some people who wanted their info put into the group spreadsheet, but they never intro'd and I don't recognize them as regular participants. Personally, I wouldn't want them to just be able to join the PG without people really knowing anything about them.
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
I agree with @shamrocandroll that regular participation should be required. The intent of a PG is to be able to share more about yourself and your family. People who don't regularly participate are basically strangers.
I knew I picked a good UO to start lol. But in all seriousness, I struggle with getting to know people personally until I know their first name at least. I don't put a picture, a signature, or anything here really that could trace me back to my real self because I don't want my life dug into now or later on by crazys. I would however like a forum to get to know some of you better, and I do appreciate BMB relationships and have met 4 or 5 of my past BMB girls IRL with wonderful success and keep in touch with a lot of them still on FB (really its the only reason i have a FB anymore)
If it wasn't/isn't clear, PG=private group on The Bump.
Which I agree is a great next step to get to know people better.
For those having app issues, I never use it, always the website on my mobile browser.
My UO-I think birds in general are scary and unpleasant. I don't like them as pets, and I really dislike wild geese and stuff. Terrified of bigger birds peacocks and turkeys, and especially emus and ostriches. Have met all up close and it was awful.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
oh @pourmeanothermocktail as soon as we have a little more land I'm getting a pair of geese and some turkeys! I already have chickens and large ducks that I have bred. I can't wait until spring when I can hopefully get two more chickens, but we'll see how that times out with the whole baby on the way. I will agree though that geese can be terrifying and are extremely territorial in breeding season.
@pirateduck No thanks. Those birds are only for eating as far as I'm concerned. You do you, but I'm not visiting without protection. Maybe a riot suit. Maybe just a big dog.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I agree that it's hard to get to know people but also the bump is just really annoying to work with unless you're able to get on multiple times every day. It's hard to reply to keep up with thing that you may have missed - FB is so much easier to have an actual conversation and see what other people have said.
Side note-when I was maybe 6 my grandma had me help her feed the flock of maybe 200 geese and 2 swans that hung out in the pond behind her house. They were mean. I was tiny. Riot gear keeps everyone safe.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@pourmeanothermocktail I remember when I was a kid the Canada Geese would come through on migration and they would take over the soccer field when we were supposed to have practice or a game and it was terrifying.
I'd love to be able to join a private group and get to know everyone better! I agree that being super candid and open in a larger group is weird for me. I would also probably prefer to join a bump PG first but am not entirely against a fb group down the road.
As for the birds, I have a lilac tree in my yard that little birds love, int summer there are hundreds of them and their chirping is soothing. I would never have one as a pet though, they freak me out. My sister had one and i swear it could smell my fear. Id be sitting at the table and it would walk on the table right in front of me back and forth taunting me. and would sometimes jump up my arm onto my shoulder and would cling on for dear life. It was terrifying.
I hate TB but agree about wanting an intermediary step before opening up so much information on FB. But ultimately I'd rather use FB and would have a much easier time responding to other people vs. mostly posting my own updates. I agree with what @chewie5990 said about keeping up throughout the day and all. So yea PG then FB is my vote I guess.
I am good with whatever way we go but I do agree that a smaller more private setting would be nice to have, I think people feel like they can be more open when it is a group who we know is active. My first BMB we did this and are now all on FB together, I honestly don't think anyone has posted on the board in years.
As for birds, they are terrifying and gross. When we lived on the farm I hated hated hated the chickens (mainly because the rooster was an asshole).
My UO: I hate flowers. Like in the house, they all die and fall apart, and are not worth it. (DF was sweet and got me some and I realized in this how much I do not enjoy the dying plants in my house).
I'm also down for a PG. I haven't facebooked in a few years so I wouldn't participate in that, but a PG where it's a smaller group and we can be more candid sounds nice.
I'm team FB group over PG, I'm so tired of the app. I can't get on here until nighttime when I can use my laptop. The app isn't working at all for me this week.
I don’t have kids yet so I feel like my memory is pretty good. I remember a good bit about most of the regular users, but still don’t recall all the details. I would enjoy getting to know people better and being better known. I also would love to be able to keep up all day, but if I start Bumping in the middle of the day, I get distracted and would rather Bump than work...so I try not to check it too much during the day.
@mamaj1220 totally agree about the flowers! MH got me flowers one time and I told him never again! Such a waste of money! I do enjoy indoor potted plants though - I can at least keep those alive long enough to enjoy them.
I was moving out of my college apartment and carrying an insanely heavy large tv (the huge backed ones before flat screens) when I got chased by a goose. I literally had to run away from a hissing, terrifying goose chasing me while carrying this tv. How I did it, I will never know! But I am terrified of geese now!
Okay, so it sort of seems that most reasonably active people are interested in taking a step elsewhere. Anyone against me putting up a poll on the board PG vs FB and letting majority rule for now? I feel as though since i started the question I need to follow through now with all the discussion that has continued. How about if i get 5 likes on this comment i'll set-up a poll and we can go from there. I think timing is "reasonably" good too. if we start something Feb 1, we can have a good 3 months of closer GTKY time before the majority of our big days start.
Re: UO Thursday 1/23
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
With TB loading issue on the app, I found if you click on the thread and then press the refresh button (upper right) then the page comes up faster. Or just using the web browser on your phone vs the app.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
I also think maybe we could use some more GTKY threads, I saw one on TTGP about high school groups and thought that would be an interesting one to do. I haven't gotten around to it yet.
@catem07 For me the signatures don't really help. I know/remember people based on their username/picture and the amount that they actually participate. I would say I have about 5-7 of you remembered pretty decent, but the rest I sometimes need a little remembering. Then I can tell there are a few people that I've only seen post on HDBD and maybe 1 other thread.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019I was in the same BMB and PG as @m6agua and I liked how there were different levels of getting to know each other. We moved to a big PG, which we did a vetting for to make sure people were who they said they were and enough people recognized them as active participants, and there we started to post more personal details and photos with our faces and got to know each other better. Then we did the big split to FB, which is where we lost some ladies who were anti-FB at the time. I still talk to that smaller group of ladies every day to this day. I do think there's an advantage to moving to a smaller, more private, safer space before the babies arrive, personally. I won't post pictures of myself or my children here since anyone can see them.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
FTM
BFP: 9/5/19 ~ EDD 5/15/20
But question: Is the PG on the bump? If my last BMB did that I was oblivious.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
But in all seriousness, I struggle with getting to know people personally until I know their first name at least. I don't put a picture, a signature, or anything here really that could trace me back to my real self because I don't want my life dug into now or later on by crazys. I would however like a forum to get to know some of you better, and I do appreciate BMB relationships and have met 4 or 5 of my past BMB girls IRL with wonderful success and keep in touch with a lot of them still on FB (really its the only reason i have a FB anymore)
Which I agree is a great next step to get to know people better.
For those having app issues, I never use it, always the website on my mobile browser.
My UO-I think birds in general are scary and unpleasant. I don't like them as pets, and I really dislike wild geese and stuff. Terrified of bigger birds peacocks and turkeys, and especially emus and ostriches. Have met all up close and it was awful.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Side note-when I was maybe 6 my grandma had me help her feed the flock of maybe 200 geese and 2 swans that hung out in the pond behind her house. They were mean. I was tiny. Riot gear keeps everyone safe.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
As for the birds, I have a lilac tree in my yard that little birds love, int summer there are hundreds of them and their chirping is soothing. I would never have one as a pet though, they freak me out. My sister had one and i swear it could smell my fear. Id be sitting at the table and it would walk on the table right in front of me back and forth taunting me. and would sometimes jump up my arm onto my shoulder and would cling on for dear life. It was terrifying.
As for birds, they are terrifying and gross. When we lived on the farm I hated hated hated the chickens (mainly because the rooster was an asshole).
My UO: I hate flowers. Like in the house, they all die and fall apart, and are not worth it. (DF was sweet and got me some and I realized in this how much I do not enjoy the dying plants in my house).