Weekly Randoms 1/20 - 1/26

macheno · January 2020

Hope everyone had a grat weekend!

I'm exhausted. My OB prescribed unisom and B6 for nausea. It seemed to help yesterday except the unisom made me so dehydrated and groggy this morning. I felt so bad I was soo tired trying to look after DS. I don't know if I want to keep taking it. I feel like a zombie.

beaandthebabes · January 2020

Last night I had the worst migraine of my life and my poor 2yo remembered suddenly that he wanted to be nursed to sleep (we have been milk free for a week) and instead of his usual falling asleep while dad reads a book he scream/cry/fight sleep for 2 hours and would only lay down on my chest. I 100% thought that I would die. Weaning is the worst.
I’ve had migraines all my life but pregnancy migraines are the devil. I’m hoping that it will be like last pregnancy where for some reason after the 1st trimester I didn’t have a single migraine until about a month after I brought V home.

angbaby83 · January 2020

@macheno I took unisom and b6 for awhile with my last pregnancy. I don't remember how long it took but eventually it stopped knocking me out. I am not sure it ever really helped but I was afraid to stop taking it in case the nausea got worse. It's tough. For me being a zombie was better than the nausea but I also didn't have a child to take care of. Hope either your body adjusts or you do ok without taking it.

As for me grad school starts up again as does my internship. I've been going to bed around 830 every night so not sure how this is going to go because now I have to find time for school work and internship. Hoping though it makes time go quicker because my 1st appointment still feels forever away.

mflowers929 · January 2020

I have NO ENERGY. I'm off today but work the next 3 days. I dunno how I'm going to do it 😭

chasingroygbiv · January 2020

@macheno With my last pregnancy I had to take half the recommended dose of Unisom because it made me way too groggy the following day if I didn’t. It still worked and I felt much less tired. I have other kids so I had to be able to function!

@beaandthebabes I’m on my second doozy of a migraine in a week. It’s awful and is making me sooo much more nauseated than usual. Ugh.

almiller86 · January 2020

The nausea.. ugh. I hate complaining because I'm so thankful for this little nugget. But EVERYTHING seems hard. DS who is 4 and DD who is 3 are super busy and I've been the horrible mom that has been allowing some additional screen time this last week just to make it through. Dinner has been pasta and cereal because it's the only thing I can stomach. THANKFULLY I work remotely from home so I'm able to work from the couch in my sweatpants, but I honestly just want to lay down and close my eyes. I see the doctor tomorrow and I'm going to see what they can do for me. I'm also struggling with finding food that seems appetizing. I'm also having a hard time making or even touching food. sheesh!!

@angbaby83 and @macheno what is unisom and b6?

beaandthebabes · January 2020

@almiller86 Ditto in the extra screen time.... Sometimes it is all I can do to just curl up on the couch. God bless Disney+.

mflowers929 · January 2020

@almiller86 it's an anti nausea medicine specifically for pregnancy. If you're Canadian, it's diclectin

macheno · January 2020

@almiller86 Unisom is technically an antihistamine, but it's generally used as a sleep aid. It's over the counter and anyone can take it- not just during pregnancy. B6 is just a common vitamin, but when they're taken together they can help with nausea. It's helped a bit, but left me pretty groggy.

angbaby83 · January 2020

@almiller86 the combination is supposed to help with nausea. Supposedly they make a pill that is a combo of that but Kaiser told me they don’t cover it because you can just buy the B6 and unisom which is a pill used for sleep. If you look it up dosages vary so it’s best to talk to your doctor about it. Like I said I’m not sure it helped. I’m with you that everything is hard. It’s hard being at work and pretending everything is fine when I just want to curl up. I have been chewing peppermint gum which helps for a short time.

almiller86 · January 2020

@angbaby83 @macheno Thank you! I'm hoping they'll give me something. I'm struggling for sure!

Louise_Belcher · January 2020

@almiller86 Riding the nausea struggle bus over here too. I don’t have an appointment until 9.5 weeks so I ended up calling a week ago after having 3 days where I couldn’t leave the house because of strong and frequent retching if I moved almost at all. They put me on zofran. It has helped calm the retching but I still feel queasy. Hope they are able to give you something to help. +1 for more screen time than usual. I don’t limit it a ton (ffmc), but I have definitely been using it as a big time crutch the last two weeks. The boys (2.5 and 4) just got really into ghostbusters (the OG with Bill Murray) so we have watched that numerous times the last few days with umizoomi peppered in there for education. 😆

Those with older kiddos who are old enough to understand, when do you plan to tell them about the new baby? Do you have a plan of how you are going to tell them?

mflowers929 · January 2020

My kiddo is only 19 months so I'm prettttty sure he won't care until baby is here lol

mflowers929 · January 2020

Bahaha, my hubby and I just had a chat and agreed that we'll probably try for a third as soon as we can 😂 I'm going to take 18 months maternity so if we time it well I'll still have some left when 3rd kid is born and then I can just stay home with all of them.

ssbl · January 2020

@almiller86 I hear you. When anyone who knows I’m PG asks how I’m feeling, and I explain the exhaustion, nausea, and bloating, I always follow it with “But I’m not complaining! Just explaining!” Lol I feel guilty even saying it out loud. This is the best, happiest sickness I’ve ever had in my life.

beaandthebabes · January 2020

It is perfectly ok not to love every part of pregnancy. You certainly aren’t going to love every minute of being a mother. You can be super excited and grateful but still acknowledge the fact that being pregnant can suck.

That was such a hard thing for me with my first pregnancy because I thought that I would love it and I was so sick and had so many complications that I felt robbed of all of that glowing and also I felt horrible about not ‘cherishing every minute’ Especially after my loss.

dontcallmeshirley1 · January 2020

beaandthebabes said:

I felt horrible about not ‘cherishing every minute’

@beaandthebabes When DS1 was tiny, he was a horrible sleeper and an incredibly difficult baby, and I had post partum.

When people said, "Enjoy every minute, the time flies by so fast! Blink and this stage will be over!" I always wanted to respond, "Thank goodness."

mflowers929 · January 2020

I honestly hate the newborn stage (ffmc?). I get through it because of the little person they will become, but newborns are so boring and needy to me. I love the age my DS is at now, where he's got some independence but still wants to come for cuddles and loves regularly

macheno · January 2020

@almiller86 the nausea can definitely make to tough getting through the day. It usually hits its peak around 10w and then slowly starts to taper off, but everyone is different. For me last time I didn't have so much nausea, mostly food aversions and was super tired. If you're still feeling really bad, I would call you OB office. When I told my OB she asked if right away if I needed anything to help with the MS.

@Louise_Belcher DS is 14.5 mo so he really has no clue right now, but as I get bigger we're definitely going to talk with him and include him.

CarbAddict · January 2020

@mflowers929 Same. Newborn is not for me. Give me all the toddlers. It helps to replace the 'but' in those statements with 'and'. ie I don't like the newborn stage AND I love my baby. You don't have to discount your true feelings to live up to some 'ideal' perfect picture of motherhood IMO.

angbaby83 · January 2020

@Louise_Belcher apparently my husband asked our two year old if she wanted a baby sister or baby brother. I came home From work and she said “I want baby sister right now!” Ummm no dear she doesn’t know w what you are talking about and now she’s going to randomly say that to someone and I will have to explain 🤦🏻 I think we will get her a book when we actually tell her. She still probably won’t understand.

mflowers929 · January 2020

@CarbAddict oh 100%! I've loved him from our first night together. I love this candid shot that my BFF got of us together at the hospital.
But man, the cuddles I get from him now are THE BEST, even if I have to correct his behavior 2 seconds later lol

Louise_Belcher · January 2020

I too am not a huge fan of newborn stage. My second cried almost constantly for 6mo and now is the sweetest 2.5yo. Prefer the relationship after 1.5yo.

We are gonna wait to tell the boys because they definitely would out us to anyone that would listen. I think our 4yo will be excited so I’m excited to tell him. Our 2.5yo knows there is a baby in pregnant women’s bellies so he might get it. Ds1 is only 20mo older than Ds2 and had a significant speech delay at the time of my pregnancy and while DS2 was an infant. We read books and talked to him about it, but he barely paid attention to my belly and mostly ignored the newborn for the first few months.

dontcallmeshirley1 · January 2020

My oldest is 10 and WOW it's the BEST. He's like a cool person I love hanging out with, rather than someone I constantly have to take care of. Each year gets better and better!

I loved the newborn stage with DS2 though - he was such a wonderful baby! Every baby and mother is different

beaandthebabes · January 2020

My guy was such a great newborn. He was so chill but I was a new mom with basically no other moms in my life and I was worried and stressed out all the time. Part of me is looking forward to the newborn bit now that I know not to be constantly overthinking but I am straight up terrified of the idea of my very spirited toddler plus a newborn plus recovering from a c section.

angbaby83 · January 2020

@beaandthebabes I am also hoping to enjoy the newborn stage a little bit more. I was definitely stressed out so I missed some of the little joys. With my DD being 5 weeks early I had to triple feed and they were initially worried about her weight. I am a little nervous about How I’m going to balance two kids but trying just to focus on keeping myself and this little nugget healthy for now.

robyn2201 · January 2020

I love the newborn stage and all the cuddles. All the ages are bittersweet I think though. You enjoy them for different reasons and there are downsides to all. You want time to speed up so you get to know their personalities but then when they get bigger you miss aspects of them being little.

Telling older kiddos - I think it depends on the age but in general I say wait awhile. I had a loss at almost 12 weeks. We had told our girls we were expecting. They were 7 and 5 at the time and it was heartbreaking to tell them about the loss. The five year old would mention it to random strangers like the cashier at the grocery store and would bring it up 6 months later. It really affected her deeply. So with my last pregnancy we waited till we had two scans and was out of the 1st trimester. We will probably do the same this time around.

swizzlemalarkey · January 2020

My H just microwaved hotdogs. Rip to me.

chasingroygbiv · January 2020

@Louise_Belcher Our big 2 are 10 and 5— and are extremely in tune to anything and everything going on with me. It’s almost kind of creepy. Ha!

**TW**

Because of RPL we decided to wait until the anatomy scan with our last pregnancy to tell the big 2. It was really tough to hide because I was pretty sick and our oldest was starting to get worried. We did it though! We currently are planning to hold off until around the same time if possible. It stinks, but because they are both worriers and they both want one more sibling so bad, I’m just most comfortable waiting awhile.

We’ve told no one. Same as last time. In a way we feel guilty telling others before the kids. We are probably much different than others when it comes to this.

runnermom04 · January 2020

I’ll I’ll be ‘turning’ 8 weeks this week, I’m still exhausted All.The.Time. I’m so over it, it’s making me feel like a really terrible mom to my two boys 😢

My 1st appointment is on Thursday 🤗🤗🤗 I’m excited and nervous about it, hoping every thing looks good. We’re going to England next week to see DH’s family and it would be nice to be able to tell them about it in person since they never get to hear any news first or in person.

NYTino24 · January 2020

@chasingroygbiv I feel you. I’ve been going to the RE for IF treatments and anytime my 2yo son doesn’t see me he asks if I’m at the doctor. It’s sad. We are going to have a lot of appointments now, and I hope he does okay with that. He’s so protective!

jennifer_louise · January 2020

I notice we don't have a Questions thread yet like many of the BMBs. Yall okay if I start one?

angbaby83 · January 2020

Nausea is at its worst today. I was awake at 130 struggling. Don’t know how I’m making it through work. We have a tiny bathroom that is right by the waiting room and if I throw up in there someone is definitely asking questions... Thankfully I have an admin day so I don’t see clients in the morning.

mflowers929 · January 2020

I'm struggling with keeping this secret from my coworkers. We're more like a family at work and everyone cares very much about each other. But I also don't want to get their hopes up so I want to wait until after my 2nd ultrasound. So tough

jennifer_louise · January 2020

I got three love-tits so I'm going for it!

@angbaby83 @mflowers929 hang in there!! ❤️ ❤️

scaron86 · January 2020

@beaandthebabes I’m with you. I feel more prepared for what the newborn stage entails now but was just telling my husband that I’m nervous about a newborn and a toddler. Newborns take up so much of your time, I can’t imagine having to care for a toddler on top of all that! I just keep telling myself that people have “two under two” all the time!

dontcallmeshirley1 · January 2020

@scaron86 I had two under two, and I remember feeling like the newborn was SO easy! They don't move, they don't do anything! I did have to rely on a high chair and Sesame Street while nursing, so DS1 got a lot more TV than he did before the baby (he did not mind lol)

scaron86 · January 2020

@dontcallmeshirley1 would you say it was easier than you thought it would be (not saying easy, just easIER)?

Louise_Belcher · January 2020

@dontcallmeshirley1 I am really hoping for that easy newborn this time. A happy little walrus, like my first. 2 under 2 was not easy for us, but that is because #2 was a very unhappy newborn and cried for the majority of awake time for the first 6 months. The bright spot was he was a good nighttime sleeper.

dontcallmeshirley1 · January 2020

@scaron86 @Louise_Belcher I think it was easier than I expected partly because DS2 was an easy newborn. But, I will say that while 2 under 2 is tough, having a 10yo and a 9yo is CAKE! They are best buds. Wouldn't change a thing.

robyn2201 · January 2020

@dontcallmeshirley1 I feel like my bigs were more “work” when they were younger but now they just drive me crazy. They are 9 and 7. They love each other but fight all day long. Constant bickering, calling each other names, lying. Leaving their junk everywhere, cabinets open, lights on. Thank goodness they go to school!

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