Concerns or worries this week? A lot fewer concerns this week as I'm past the date that I lost my first pregnancy and we had an ultrasound earlier this week and saw the heartbeat.
Any milestones coming up? I should have my first midwife appointment in the next two weeks and then another 4 or so weeks until the 12w scan.
GTKY: How is your partner (if you have one) handling everything? My husband seems to be handling it well, we are both a lot less worried this time round than in my last pregnancy with my son. Mainly though my symptoms have been a lot stronger in my 2nd and 3rd pregnancies than they were in my fist when I MC, and I find it very reassuring.
I don't mean to sound blase. Pregnancy after loss is a very different experience any innocence you had before is gone and you see the pregnancy as the beautiful but frail thing that it is and it takes forever to worry less, if you ever do. I had a very difficult birth with my son so I don't think I'll stop worrying until I take my baby home in August.
It is very different ❤️ @cornichonmam I was just thinking about that too.we worked so hard to get ku, that's all you focus on. Then you get pregnant, and all you think about is the fragility. Then you get to a certain point, and I had that thought cross my mind this morning, bc I also had a difficult time birthing DD... Not looking forward to that part, but hoping that maybe things can go completely differently this time. It's like you just go from one set of worries to the next... How was your delivery with your son?
@BusinessWife For starters I had 10 days of prodromal labour with contractions lasting for between 3-5 hours each day. Then when I finally went into labour I got a utrine infection and my son was in distress. So I had to have an emergency C-section. I had an infection and was quite unwell after my section and had to stay in recovery for quite a while. Then the day after he was born my son was unwell with the infection and they had to give him a lumber puncture to test for suspected meningitis, which thankfully he didn't have. We ended up spending a week on the special care baby ward.
I really have very few positive memories of my sons birth so I'm desperately hoping for an uncomplicated vbac this time. How was your birth with DD?
Oh my, what an ordeal. @cornichonmam Mine was positively uncomplicated compared to all that. I am so sorry you and your baby went through all that, and I sincerely hope and pray you may have a completely different experience this time! ❤️
<div class=" Spoiler">They had me do those growth scans closer to the end and two scans both said the baby was big, and each time they councelled me to a planned section and both times I signed AMAs that I still wanted to do a TOL. And I mean, I was just really kind of taken aback because this was a practice with midwives! So I was pretty disappointed not to get the support I'd expected of an unmedicated, low-intervention, L&D. :/</div> <div class=" Spoiler">Anyway, by ten days past EDD we were doing everything we could to get labor started at home, and finally it did, but contractions were quite painful and not building up enough in frequency. Just when they would start to, they would subside again. After 24 hours laboring at home with my doula for much of that time, the gig was up and I really finally had to go into the hospital. Contractions were just a few minutes apart when I went in, but spaced out again, and it was another 12 or 16 hours I think they let me go (the following morning or early afternoon) when they had me start pitocin, much to my dismay. LSS, the contractions became more painful, but not more productive. I think it was about 42 hours of labor I got the epidural, and 48 hours I got the section. Luckily the surgery itself and recovery all went smoothly, but from the standpoint of not being supported along the way, to the kind of delivery I was hoping for, and then the cascade of interventions leading up to the section, I just felt like such a fool and exactly the cliché I had been hoping to avoid. A statistic. Not to mention going through 48 hours of that kind of pain - I can't say for nothing, bc by the grace of God we did get our baby at the end of it - but you know what I mean.</div> <div class=" Spoiler">I think I got to 8.5 / 0 station, but she never descended more than that, so I never got to pushing. So this time I'm going to try and do things differently. I'll try working with a different team and see if that's a better fit. And I have half-heartedly started back to logging, but I need to get in gear and log all my food this time. I gained more than they would have liked and they blamed me for causing a big baby, if you can believe it! Nevermind maybe I just grow big babies. But if there's anything within my control to achieve a better outcome this time (i.e. vbac) then I have to at least <i>try</i> it. :/ We may still end up with a repeat, but I don't want to look back and say there was something more I could have done.</div>
Hi all- I just spent sometime reading all of your stories and am sending all kinds of light and love to all of you!
It always astounds me how many of us there are.
After two losses last year, there are anniversaries everywhere it seems. During my last loss the doctor told me that it appeared that baby stopped growing after 7.5 weeks, (this milestone is coming up next weekend). Of course, I didn't know the baby had passed away until I was 3 days short of 12 weeks. I have an u/s on Thursday and DH is coming with me. We are in this thing together.
@BusinessWifeSorry, I haven't been on the app for a few days, it's just so slow!
My son was 9lb2oz and I actually lost 10lb from my pre pregnancy to post pregnancy weight. I don't think tracking is a bad idea, It's always good to know exactly what your putting in your body but I wouldn't beat yourself about it, you might just make big babies.
At least we'll be going into labor knowing so much more this time, I'm defiantly going to be a better advocate for myself. Defiantly no sweeps or internal exams until very near the end this time (between the 2 sweeps and 3 exams that is 100% how I got the infection as my waters did int break early). I desperately want a vbac but if I need another c-section at least I'll know what I'm in for and I'll ask for a family centered/gentle one (I had to actually ask to be shown my son! WTF!).
Re: PGAL check in week of 12/22
I really have very few positive memories of my sons birth so I'm desperately hoping for an uncomplicated vbac this time. How was your birth with DD?
<div class=" Spoiler">They had me do those growth scans closer to the end and two scans both said the baby was big, and each time they councelled me to a planned section and both times I signed AMAs that I still wanted to do a TOL. And I mean, I was just really kind of taken aback because this was a practice with midwives! So I was pretty disappointed not to get the support I'd expected of an unmedicated, low-intervention, L&D. :/</div>
<div class=" Spoiler">Anyway, by ten days past EDD we were doing everything we could to get labor started at home, and finally it did, but contractions were quite painful and not building up enough in frequency. Just when they would start to, they would subside again. After 24 hours laboring at home with my doula for much of that time, the gig was up and I really finally had to go into the hospital. Contractions were just a few minutes apart when I went in, but spaced out again, and it was another 12 or 16 hours I think they let me go (the following morning or early afternoon) when they had me start pitocin, much to my dismay. LSS, the contractions became more painful, but not more productive. I think it was about 42 hours of labor I got the epidural, and 48 hours I got the section. Luckily the surgery itself and recovery all went smoothly, but from the standpoint of not being supported along the way, to the kind of delivery I was hoping for, and then the cascade of interventions leading up to the section, I just felt like such a fool and exactly the cliché I had been hoping to avoid. A statistic. Not to mention going through 48 hours of that kind of pain - I can't say for nothing, bc by the grace of God we did get our baby at the end of it - but you know what I mean.</div>
<div class=" Spoiler">I think I got to 8.5 / 0 station, but she never descended more than that, so I never got to pushing. So this time I'm going to try and do things differently. I'll try working with a different team and see if that's a better fit. And I have half-heartedly started back to logging, but I need to get in gear and log all my food this time. I gained more than they would have liked and they blamed me for causing a big baby, if you can believe it! Nevermind maybe I just grow big babies. But if there's anything within my control to achieve a better outcome this time (i.e. vbac) then I have to at least <i>try</i> it. :/ We may still end up with a repeat, but I don't want to look back and say there was something more I could have done.</div>
It always astounds me how many of us there are.
After two losses last year, there are anniversaries everywhere it seems. During my last loss the doctor told me that it appeared that baby stopped growing after 7.5 weeks, (this milestone is coming up next weekend). Of course, I didn't know the baby had passed away until I was 3 days short of 12 weeks.
I have an u/s on Thursday and DH is coming with me. We are in this thing together.
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1 LC, girl 5 years old
TTC #2 Summer 2017
BFP 1/5/2018, MC (D & E) 2/23/2018
TTCAL May 2018
BFP 9/20/2018, MC (D & E) 11/16/2018
At least we'll be going into labor knowing so much more this time, I'm defiantly going to be a better advocate for myself. Defiantly no sweeps or internal exams until very near the end this time (between the 2 sweeps and 3 exams that is 100% how I got the infection as my waters did int break early). I desperately want a vbac but if I need another c-section at least I'll know what I'm in for and I'll ask for a family centered/gentle one (I had to actually ask to be shown my son! WTF!).