@wildrainbow I'm so sorry your pregnancies have been so difficult. I do feel lucky that pregnancy more or less "agrees" with me, apart from weight or other issues etc. But when I think about what we went through to get here, it's hard not to feel some type of way when I read intros of these gals who just "fall pregnant." What I wouldn't give just to be able to become pregnant on our own, but that'll never be my experience. 😔 Everyone has their challenges, and I don't think there's anyone who has it all-around easy, kwim? There's that saying about if we all threw our problems in a pile, we'd each still pick our own. Who knows it it's true tho! Lol (((hugs)))
GTKY: I was a service coordinator for adults with DD in IL until November last year when my husband moved down to GA to pursue a new job in programming. He landed a great gig and my daughter and I joined him in June after she finished her preschool year. He is currently in the process of being signed on full time from being a contracted employee which is fantastic and should lead to better benefits and a higher take home pay.. the downside is I have been without insurance and until his paperwork is processed (should happen in the next couple of weeks) I'm still uninsured so I'll be a bit of a late start into an OB's office. So, that currently leaves me as a stay at home mom in a new city and state thousands of miles away from everyone and everything I've ever known. It's been-- an adventure. We intended on looking at me re-entering the workforce when my daughter started kindergarten in August... that is taking a side bar. I envy the stay at home moms who live for this though, I never grew up with or around anyone who had or was a stay at home parent so every part of this feels wrong to me. I really loved working and it made me feel whole. When we had my first daughter, my husband was lucky enough to get contracts he could do while working from home so he stayed home with our daughter and I continued to work outside the home. I don't want to seem ungrateful that I am able to stay home and raise a family, because I know so many people would do anything to do this but I just feel very out of my element, especially since we have moved. I'm kind of hoping a new baby will lead me into prenatal yoga classes and baby and me groups that will help me finally make friends around here. It's been lonely.
So that leads me to we have one daughter, she was born in September 2014 and she is the center of our universe. We're excited to grow our family and give her a sibling but I'm a little scared I'll never love someone as much as I love this little demon spawn.
@wildrainbow I just wanted to say, I'm so sorry for your struggles. Mine can't compare to yours, but for what it's worth last pregnancy I was induced at 39 weeks with pre-e that was starting to look too dangerous, and 4 hours into that we landed in the OR for an emergency section because things turned south fast and suddenly. A week after delivery I was readmitted to the hospital with a blood pressure of 190/110 because I was part of that small percentage of people who don't get better right after delivery, and I had even started blood pressure meds by that point. I know as soon as I see an OB I'm likely going to be flagged as a high risk with a scheduled section and I am so scared. I am so scared of being pregnant that this is something that originally we said we wouldn't do again. I am afraid to leave my daughter without a mother and my husband without a partner. I just wanted to let you know that I think you are incredibly brave for continuing to follow your heart and expand your family. Someone once told me that being pregnant is having one foot in the grave for 9 months, and I feel the fear every day. I've also been exceptionally jealous of everyone who "labored a long time and it was hard" because when my daughter came into this world I was terrified and scared and spent the first years of her life scared and reliving the trauma of birth. Everyone has a struggle and a story. I wish you the absolute best through your next chapter.
@RedBaramid Welcome! Congratulations, and yeah that is a lot on your plate, relocating like that and not knowing anyone. I felt that way when we moved out here, too. Luckily the hospital had a couple mommy groups, and I was able to get in touch with the local leche league, too. Of course once my mat leave ended I wasn't able to keep up with those weekday things, but it was really nice for a while there to be able to build a little routine for ourselves around those mommy + me activities. Maybe there are things you could start right away, geared for older kids too? Like I think when I looked at our library stuff, it was maybe starting at ages 3-5, so maybe something like that would be a good place to start? I know it would be hard for me to stay cooped up 7 days a week, living in pajamas lol just getting out to a group activity a couple times a week made me feel like more of a real live grown up, not just a stuck at home blob. :D cabin fever is real!
I am so behind on this conversation! My in-laws came in for the weekend, so I've only been on here and there!
I am a SAHM, and husband is in the military. We just celebrated our ninth wedding anniversary, and we've been through a whole lot of deployments together. I tallied it up once, and I think he was deployed for roughly nine months of my son's first year of life. It was broken up, but still a lot of time away from home. He left for four months when DS was exactly one-month-old, so I learned how to be a FTM by myself, 13 hours away from my family. This is my third pregnancy. My little girl was born in November 2018. She's very sweet and sensitive, and she was my successful (albeit still pretty traumatizing) VBAC. My son is in this fun phase where everything is a fight. He also has big emotions like his mom, so the tantrums are next level. Hoping that age 4 mellows him out a little, but so far, he just gets more extreme with each passing year. Lol.
@RedBaramid I totally understand feeling out of your element not working. My work feels like part of my identity and I even struggled with feeling “like myself” while I was on maternity leave, knowing I would be going back was a huge relief. I’m sorry you’re feeling so lonely in your new home. Making friends as an adult sucks ❤️. @businesswife had a lot of great suggestions for finding others to connect with. When I was on mat leave I joined a mommy and me group of working moms so I knew we all shared that connection. It also gave me a support system when I returned to work and had questions about childcare, pumping, balance, etc.
@lachnessmomster congratulations on your 9 year anniversary 💕 being home while your husband is deployed sounds really challenging - I have so much respect for you!
@tara4910 Thank you so much for the sweet words! We've actually been on break from deployments for the past year. I don't know what I'm going to do when they start back up again....this time with three kids! Yikes!
I’m starting to feel nauseous again (I was the week after I found out and then it went away). Had my viability US today so things are starting to get real!
I admire the Military wives here. That’s a hard job!
I feel overall okay and lucky to remain pretty functional. Primarily just nauseous but definitely tolerable. I am not going to lie, I welcome my symptoms as we struggled to get pregnant this time around/had to use a little science to get here!
Hi everyone! I’m due 8/17/20. Feeling so sick the last few weeks, so very excited for the next few weeks to hopefully pass quickly. My husband and I have a 6 year old daughter, 4 year old son, and 2.5 year old daughter. This is our 4th and last baby
@Linds1083 This is only our second child, but we have been solidly of the mindset that we wanted 1, 2 tops, so this is our last baby too. I hated being pregnant last time, and I am trying to hard to embrace this because I'm trying to "enjoy my last experience" with this. I'm excited for the baby, but it does feel bittersweet. We'd put this off so long, and now it's kind of sad that it's here. I hope you're able to love and enjoy this experience.
My symptoms have been pretty mild so far - occasional nausea but I haven't thrown up. Mostly I am SO tired and SO hungry all the dang time! My pants are already getting tight. I had an ultrasound today and got to hear the baby's heartbeat and see the tiny arms and legs it is forming - so fun!
I am trying to enjoy this experience but I have a lot on my plate at the moment as I am moving from a big city to a tiny rural community and switching jobs as well. It's going to be a big adjustment in terms of lifestyle and hopefully I can find a way to meet other new moms there!
Looking forward to chatting with you all over the next 7 months!
Hi all! 8/19 here... At 9 weeks today I am feeling lucky to be getting over the hump with the nausea! I think the worst is probably behind me. I vaguely remember thinking the same thing this early with my 7-yr old. I feel heavy but am not showing at all. However the girls are sore and I have already sized up twice!
@andreaaaaaaaaaa at some point, check out the new local library for story time. Excellent place to meet your local moms with similar aged kiddos. Also your local elementary school's kindergarten playground during non-school times will be open and in use by other little ones. I also kid you not, I met one of my best friends on meetup.com as a new mom...so don't be afraid to put yourself out there!
Hello all, my .due date is 8/18! This will be my first child and its certainly had me a little anxious for the last few weeks. I got some much needed relief today when I went for my ultrasound and got to see my little wiggly bean. ❤ I have pretty much been nauseous since a week before I found out that we're expecting but it has certainly been much worse in the last few weeks. Other than that, I'm just exhausted all the time. But hubby has been great and he is so excited to be a daddy!
Re: Due Week 3: Role Call, Chatter, GTKY, etc.
GTKY: I was a service coordinator for adults with DD in IL until November last year when my husband moved down to GA to pursue a new job in programming. He landed a great gig and my daughter and I joined him in June after she finished her preschool year. He is currently in the process of being signed on full time from being a contracted employee which is fantastic and should lead to better benefits and a higher take home pay.. the downside is I have been without insurance and until his paperwork is processed (should happen in the next couple of weeks) I'm still uninsured so I'll be a bit of a late start into an OB's office. So, that currently leaves me as a stay at home mom in a new city and state thousands of miles away from everyone and everything I've ever known. It's been-- an adventure. We intended on looking at me re-entering the workforce when my daughter started kindergarten in August... that is taking a side bar. I envy the stay at home moms who live for this though, I never grew up with or around anyone who had or was a stay at home parent so every part of this feels wrong to me. I really loved working and it made me feel whole. When we had my first daughter, my husband was lucky enough to get contracts he could do while working from home so he stayed home with our daughter and I continued to work outside the home. I don't want to seem ungrateful that I am able to stay home and raise a family, because I know so many people would do anything to do this but I just feel very out of my element, especially since we have moved. I'm kind of hoping a new baby will lead me into prenatal yoga classes and baby and me groups that will help me finally make friends around here. It's been lonely.
So that leads me to we have one daughter, she was born in September 2014 and she is the center of our universe. We're excited to grow our family and give her a sibling but I'm a little scared I'll never love someone as much as I love this little demon spawn.
@wildrainbow I just wanted to say, I'm so sorry for your struggles. Mine can't compare to yours, but for what it's worth last pregnancy I was induced at 39 weeks with pre-e that was starting to look too dangerous, and 4 hours into that we landed in the OR for an emergency section because things turned south fast and suddenly. A week after delivery I was readmitted to the hospital with a blood pressure of 190/110 because I was part of that small percentage of people who don't get better right after delivery, and I had even started blood pressure meds by that point. I know as soon as I see an OB I'm likely going to be flagged as a high risk with a scheduled section and I am so scared. I am so scared of being pregnant that this is something that originally we said we wouldn't do again. I am afraid to leave my daughter without a mother and my husband without a partner. I just wanted to let you know that I think you are incredibly brave for continuing to follow your heart and expand your family. Someone once told me that being pregnant is having one foot in the grave for 9 months, and I feel the fear every day. I've also been exceptionally jealous of everyone who "labored a long time and it was hard" because when my daughter came into this world I was terrified and scared and spent the first years of her life scared and reliving the trauma of birth. Everyone has a struggle and a story. I wish you the absolute best through your next chapter.
I am a SAHM, and husband is in the military. We just celebrated our ninth wedding anniversary, and we've been through a whole lot of deployments together. I tallied it up once, and I think he was deployed for roughly nine months of my son's first year of life. It was broken up, but still a lot of time away from home. He left for four months when DS was exactly one-month-old, so I learned how to be a FTM by myself, 13 hours away from my family. This is my third pregnancy. My little girl was born in November 2018. She's very sweet and sensitive, and she was my successful (albeit still pretty traumatizing) VBAC. My son is in this fun phase where everything is a fight. He also has big emotions like his mom, so the tantrums are next level. Hoping that age 4 mellows him out a little, but so far, he just gets more extreme with each passing year. Lol.
@lachnessmomster congratulations on your 9 year anniversary 💕 being home while your husband is deployed sounds really challenging - I have so much respect for you!
I admire the Military wives here. That’s a hard job!
EDD 8/22. I am 7w6d today.
I feel overall okay and lucky to remain pretty functional. Primarily just nauseous but definitely tolerable. I am not going to lie, I welcome my symptoms as we struggled to get pregnant this time around/had to use a little science to get here!
@moguippy we are due date buddies :-)
At 9 weeks today I am feeling lucky to be getting over the hump with the nausea! I think the worst is probably behind me. I vaguely remember thinking the same thing this early with my 7-yr old.
I feel heavy but am not showing at all. However the girls are sore and I have already sized up twice!
@andreaaaaaaaaaa at some point, check out the new local library for story time. Excellent place to meet your local moms with similar aged kiddos. Also your local elementary school's kindergarten playground during non-school times will be open and in use by other little ones. I also kid you not, I met one of my best friends on meetup.com as a new mom...so don't be afraid to put yourself out there!