@nursejenn5@knockupthestock eh, it’s so easy to open a 529 account for your kid and there are so many more things kids can use the money on than just college tuition. Everything is going to just keep getting more expensive so I feel like every little bit helps. And they are probably going to have to work hard to get wherever they want to get anyway, why not help them also not be mired in debt so they are in a worse financial spot when they have their own children. You can put as much or as little in the account as you want. They even have a credit card now where you choose a certain “reward” amount that instead of cash back it gets deposited in the 529. Pretty cool and also a pretty mindless way to save a little at a time.
@meanjellybean I can definitely see the appeal. Especially even as a tax aspect(H is an accountant). And I can’t assume anything about how our kiddo(s) will end up, but I hope they will learn to follow H and I, and know how to save, spend, and pick a not crazy $$ college... if they even decide to go to college. But we will be more than happy to give them a “monthly allowance” type of deal that H and I had which helped us through college. I still worked through school but this way we were able to use that cash for what we needed at the time. Bills. Gas. Tuition. Etc.
-I totally understand the concept of avoiding the word gender but the word sex has such a totally different connotation. Like many have said, it feels weird saying “sex reveal” or asking “what’s the baby’s sex?”. We need a new word that means “the genitalia but not the social construct” that isn’t sex. A new word could really be useful here. - my son is 4 1/2 and we still use sippy cups. It’s purely a mess avoidance strategy. I know I’m long overdue to just move to regular cups. -I complain about fireworks every single Fourth of July. Just to my husband but I still complain.
@meanjellybean I’m with you on saving for baby. The reality is life (housing, medical, college) keeps getting more expensive, and if you don’t have money put aside (preferably in the market, earning interest), you aren’t keeping up with compounding annual interest rates (which 18/20 years from now is a big nut). One of the greatest gifts my parents gave me was access to higher education without saddling me with massive debt. I still worked from 15+ including full-time in college; and earned scholarships to help pay; they could not afford the private school I wanted... but graduating debt free was huge.
RE gender vs sex: If everything we say is to be 100% inclusive (Vs 90-95%+ inclusive), speech is going to be filled with a lot of nondescript generic pronouns in the future. Would be great if there was a balance somewhere in between...
RE sippy cups: damn straight I don’t want milk all over my house! We are pretty old; I already had nice rugs and furniture; and I’m A-OK with my sons making big messes at preschool vs my home. I’m also a little OCD about messes... I just can’t/ won’t.
RE peens: I let my husband decide on circumcision or not. While I have one perspective, I don’t use one daily... so figured it was his area of expertise. We did ultimately do it, and will again. @zande2016 When we looked into it in 2018 I recall seeing that the % who do vs don’t was changing as the racial and social views mix of our country is too. So your sons won’t be alone by a long shot.
My UO is I don’t care if people call them fever blisters, cold sores, or freakingg butterfly kisses... all of the above are herpes - and it is an infectious disease and highly contagious.
Yes, realize nearly half the population gets these, and both my and my DHs fathers had it, but by exercising good hygiene and prevention you can prevent transmitting it to others (neither he nor I have it). I think it is ridiculous for some families to not tell their kids what they have is infectious and that no, not everyone has it and no, not everyone wants it. And to not teach them to wash their hands and not try to touch or hug others while contagious.
This came up over the holidays with 2 of my DHs siblings whose kids have it; they felt it was unfair and unkind to ask them to not kiss my toddler while they had active cold sores.
Is this really a thing?! Part of the snowflake generation?
Re: Unpopular Opinions 1/2/2020
- my son is 4 1/2 and we still use sippy cups. It’s purely a mess avoidance strategy. I know I’m long overdue to just move to regular cups.
-I complain about fireworks every single Fourth of July. Just to my husband but I still complain.
@meanjellybean I’m with you on saving for baby. The reality is life (housing, medical, college) keeps getting more expensive, and if you don’t have money put aside (preferably in the market, earning interest), you aren’t keeping up with compounding annual interest rates (which 18/20 years from now is a big nut). One of the greatest gifts my parents gave me was access to higher education without saddling me with massive debt. I still worked from 15+ including full-time in college; and earned scholarships to help pay; they could not afford the private school I wanted... but graduating debt free was huge.
RE gender vs sex: If everything we say is to be 100% inclusive (Vs 90-95%+ inclusive), speech is going to be filled with a lot of nondescript generic pronouns in the future. Would be great if there was a balance somewhere in between...
RE sippy cups: damn straight I don’t want milk all over my house! We are pretty old; I already had nice rugs and furniture; and I’m A-OK with my sons making big messes at preschool vs my home. I’m also a little OCD about messes... I just can’t/ won’t.
RE peens: I let my husband decide on circumcision or not. While I have one perspective, I don’t use one daily... so figured it was his area of expertise. We did ultimately do it, and will again. @zande2016 When we looked into it in 2018 I recall seeing that the % who do vs don’t was changing as the racial and social views mix of our country is too. So your sons won’t be alone by a long shot.
I think it is ridiculous for some families to not tell their kids what they have is infectious and that no, not everyone has it and no, not everyone wants it. And to not teach them to wash their hands and not try to touch or hug others while contagious.